| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/8/2008 1:44:20 PM | I have actually been on quite a few dates resulting from contacts generated by this site. I say quite a few, for a gal my age, that is. And yeah, some were not stellar, some down right weird and not at all pleasant, but then I have had some great dates, some LOL dates and have developed a few nice friendships (lucky me), however, I yet to have find what I am looking for in terms of a sustainable relationship (thank gawd I don't rely on POF solely for my dating pool).
All in all, I think if you are just yourself, open to possiblities , stay calm and realistic I think all parties, at least the mature parties will have a pleasant time and who knows?! | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/8/2008 6:17:19 PM | I'm in the same boat as Heart Bandit..which I guess isn' t a great boat to be in lol...I have met noone in person from this site, let alone a date..AND get very little response.(am always changing up the wording on my profile and posting NEW pix too)....who knows for whatever reason???..anyways...guess the worst thing would be IF I paid for this site  | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/8/2008 6:34:21 PM | | I have been on about 4 or 5. Some of them were terrible and some were quite nice. I think mentioning sex in an e mail or on the actual first meeting is a big no-no. Women at least this Woman doesnt want to think that a guy just wants a hot meaningless fling with me especially when I post on the long term relationship section. Anyone can have a one night stand. Not everyone can have a relationship. Big difference. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/8/2008 7:10:07 PM | | Not only have I gone on a date with someone from here, we had a relationship that lasted a bit more than a year. We aren't together anymore but I still think she is an awesome woman and a friend for life. Now lets see if i can pull that off again lol. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/10/2008 5:22:45 AM | I'm having a PoF get together on Friday 9/12 over 150 attending. You can certainly meet alot of people that way and maybe a date will come out of it. Perhaps start one in your area and see what happens. I can tell you since I've posted tons of fellows have looked at my profile. Kinda nice, too bad I'm not dating right now. LOL
I used this site when I was moving from DC to NC, good way to meet people. I have friends and family down here but didn't know any men. Had dates immediately and have made some friends who just happen to be guys. Last one I met on here did not turn out good, but that could happen anywhere.
Remigirl, I can't contact you so I guess I'd just say make your profile alot shorter. In advertising they say you have to capture attention immediately. I know there are those on here who do profile reviews, give it a try.
Keep casting out those nets, keep fishing,
Cat | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/10/2008 5:59:37 AM | I joined PoF a week ago and have already been on TWO dates with different men  both very nice and interesting.
First one was just several coffees 
The second one was for a meal after only one IM 
Preferred the coffee date as the meal date wanted afters and hadn't read my profile properly 
I didn't join PoF to find Penpals - that's soooo childish  | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/10/2008 6:14:37 AM | I think I joined 6 months ago. A lot of woman looked at me, and I sent out maybe 10 letters. Had no luck. Then I went to a POF party in May. I met a fabulous woman there, and we have been going out now for about 4 months, I'm happy to say. (She was on POF before I met her) I'm looking toward's the future, with her.
Keep making those parties, wherever you may be . I might go with my lady, if you have one in New Jersey.
Regards...........Marv | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/11/2008 6:55:57 AM | | No dates from this site ,,,100's of emails and lots of phone calls but they do not measure up to what I seek,,,It is not them it is just me as we have gone down different roads in Life and I expect so much more than they have even been exposed to. smiles | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/11/2008 7:08:42 AM | (quote)
Personally I have just come back after a 8 month hiatus but I can tell you that previously I had so many dates I couldn't keep track. I think it is all in your attitude. Are you looking for Mr wonderful or are you being realistic and giving different types of men an opportunity to date you? Not to say you should date every man who contacts you because I believe you would be hard pressed to keep up.
You are an attractive woman so not sure why you are not dating much.
Good luck | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/11/2008 7:47:50 AM | | To my recollection my 'date' from the Fishes and I exchanged a half dozen emails and then atwo phone calls or three before we set a date to meet. I'm new at this. I just didn't know most people move more quickly. We established a level of trust and had a good time with the emails and spent a good deal of time writing to each other as the relationship developed, but not through the site. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/11/2008 5:39:37 PM |
I have actually been on quite a few dates resulting from contacts generated by this site. I say quite a few, for a gal my age, that is. And yeah, some were not stellar, some down right weird and not at all pleasant, but then I have had some great dates.
I think "for my age" is something to keep in my mind. From just POF, I have had a total of 4 months, spanned over 2 times of being a member, when I was "available". In those 4 months, I made 4 dates, spending half the time talking to one person at a time, while the intrigue developed. 1 turned into a full blown relationship, with us living together for 8 months. It ended, but we remain good friends.
I was here again for a month, and made a date, and then someone came back into my life from the past, with whom I'd had a 2 year relationship, and she's living with me now, so I've stayed for the fora.
So, basically, when I've been "active" on POF, it's usually only taken a week, maybe two, to find someone who was interesting enough for me to focus on her, and then go on to meet. None have been "horrible" in person. A couple were interesting women, but when practical considerations came into play, lived too far away to keep seeing.
In any case, where else is a man in his 50s likely to find attractive, interesting women so quickly, and in a no-pressure setting, and then have interesting fora to read and post in on top? | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/14/2008 4:31:35 AM | | I've been on a date with someone from this site, but he wanted all my free time and that's just too much for me. I like to take things pretty slowly. I like e-mails that I feel show general interest and good manners. However, an e-mail relationship is virtual. You might have good compatibility through the anonymity of e-mail, but you might not feel that compatibility during a personal phone conversation. Or you might enjoy the e-mails and phone conversations, but may feel differently when you meet in person. There's no way to get around making the effort to see how you feel about each other when the interaction becomes more personalized. It's just something we all have to do if we're going to explore the possibility of getting to know someone. While I like to take things slowly, I do consider it a waste of my time to engage in protracted one or two-line e-mail exchanges about generic things. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/19/2008 11:55:36 AM | I have had a fair number of dates from here. Some were good, let's see while I lived in Virginia I went to S. Carolina, N. Carolina, W. Virginia, some dates were better than others, some actually did show and some didn't, some I liked the drive better than the date!
One I moved to another state for because things got really good, and then this person decided after I moved and after a LOT of arrangements were made (yeah the date, church, even got rings) that they weren't ready for someone there 24/7... Yeah great stuff....
And as findingthemagic pointed out:
It's just something we all have to do if we're going to explore the possibility of getting to know someone.
Some explorations take more than others... Would I move again? Read the quoted passage again.. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/21/2008 7:53:46 AM | I've met three people... and had interesting conversations with another 6-7 other women (where there's some good messaging going on).
All three were good to great.
I think that's pretty good given that I've only been here for a few months and I wrote my profile in a way that I think filters out most who wouldn't be a good fit. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/21/2008 8:02:49 AM | I have been on here for about a month or two..Keep getting emails saying, 'what on earth is a lady like you on here for' and the like, as if I should definitely have been snapped up years ago! What people don't see is that sometimes people don't meet the right people in their work/socially, and that's why I've had to join these types of sites.
I haven't met anyone yet. Mostly as I have been scared off by the amount of IM requests I've had for cam sex and dirty talk on IM or msn. No respect from the guys that I don't want to do that, or if they back off a bit, they still try to pressure me to do it by saying' oh, come on, live a little, what are you afraid of' and 'you're so uptight' At that point I stop the IM session as I know I just have a camsex-obsessed disrespectful jerk.
The nice, normal men that I message/message me, well, I still haven't met them! a lot of emails seem to go back and forth, and then the guy loses interest and doesn't reply to my last email...it makes me feel insecure. We were having a nice email correspondence, so why did he back off/ignore me in the end? Baffling!
I'd love to go on an actual date but I can't see it happening as I'm getting cynical and down about this! any ideas? xx | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/21/2008 1:29:39 PM | I've gone on about 7 dates in a year. I could have gone on more, but I've learned to "weed them out".
I'm not looking for a penpal, so if they're not interested in talking on the phone after exchanging a few emails???NEXT!
You can tell a lot just talking for a few minutes on the phone.
Because so much of communication is in body language and inflection in voice... I think it's a complete waste of time to NOT meet in person somewhat soon... but again, it depends what you're looking for. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/21/2008 1:42:31 PM | | I find tons of guys to date on this site. As does a gal pal. First get yourself a really good happy friendly profile. Put out a flattering pic. Then be open to possibilities. I know it's hard, but be as open minded as possible. So what if the guy doesn't have a great pic? Maybe he's not photogenic? I know I'm not. My granny always said to look for a redeeming quality in everyone and I try to do so as best as I can. Sometimes it's REALLY had, like with a guy I had a coffee date with who had bigger boobs than me. LOL! I just couldn't get past that. But I've met lots of great people. Most end up being friends or just networking contacts, a few have just had to be left on the side of the road, but overall everyone has been very nice and friendly. You'll know when you make your connection when you meet the right guy. And be open to giving others a bit out of your "like" parameters a shot. There are definitely some hidden gems out there. Good luck! Keep your bait fresh and your pole firm. LOL! :) | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/21/2008 2:02:56 PM | Hi,
proud Canadian woman here not moving South. I love Canada.
Yes, I have dated one guy from this site for about three months. It didn't work out be we are still great friends, and that's going back two years.
I've dated from other sites but I don't think I can mention them here.
Any guys here from Ontario?
Cheryl. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 9/21/2008 2:09:34 PM | I have been on two dates from this site...first one we emailed for a week then went out..second one emailed, spoke on the phone and went out the same day and went out the next day as well. Third one we emailed, spoke and didn't end up meeting as planned because I realized he lived too far away. The fourth one we are still working on things and I have met him.  | |
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