| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 3:28:44 PM | | I've been here for quite some time. I've gotten stood up a couple times- do those count as dates lol Mostly every person that I meet here never wants to take time to make something work out. Everybody always has this notion that if there's anything wrong at all- run. You know- instead of working on things. I'm talking to a great woman right now- hopefully I can reel this one in cuz I personally think she's a good catch. In any case, this place is a mele- it's hard to find people that are decent cuz it's free and all the crazies come here. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 3:32:56 PM | I have not dated anyone from this site, but I have gone on dates from other sites. I am here mostly for the forums.
On the other sites, the dates happen fairly quickly. One or two e-mails, a couple of telephone calls, and a date within a week. I like to make the phyiscal contact quickly so no one becomes to emotionally invested. That has happened in the past with me. We get excited about each other then meet and NOTHING. It is a big let down. I have learned to be more cautious and I do not IM.
I like it when a guy mentions something from my profile. Maybe he is into art or literature and will ask me who my favorites are. Someone who is interested in getting to know me. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 3:40:08 PM | I have been on several dates since I joined last summer.
As far as the emailing, or phone calls, it depends on the two people. Some people I have talked to for weeks, others for just a few days.
No horrible experiences. One guy wasn't up front about his weight (I assumed about 200, turned out to be about 350). Never assume.
Too much interest is a huge turn off. Keep it relaxed, simple. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 3:53:17 PM | I agree with toomuch13, but I have been on several dates from people I met here.
One or two e-mails, a couple of telephone calls, and a date within a week. I like to make the phyiscal contact quickly so no one becomes to emotionally invested ...except it is usually a couple of weeks for me before I go on a date, just because I am busy.
As far as the freaks, they are everywhere. At least here you usually can figure it out as soon as you switch to msn. The naked photos or request for naked photos are usually the tip off. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 3:56:52 PM | I have been on dates. I can't say if there have been a lot because I have no basis for comparison. I can count . . . let's see . . . six since about February but many more than that in the last year. I turn down more men based on their emails/profiles than I meet.
I like to meet SOON after initial contact because there is a lot to be understood in person that can't be seen/heard/felt in emails or on the phone.
I have largely been disappointed. I met a fat guy who said he is athletic and a 60+ year old man who said he is 50. One guy had no teeth (his mouth was closed in his profile pic). Is it so much to ask that people tell the truth???
Gifts really mean nothing. I like a witty or thoughtful first approach, commenting about my profile or something I said in the forums. Creativity is great. Telling me how sexy I look isn't a good approach, but compliments are nice. If you look young for your age, I will figure it out, no need to tell me. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 4:04:33 PM | I've been on several dates, plus I have greatly enjoyed the POF functions in my area. I met one special man: he IM'ed with me for a short time on a Friday night and I gave him my phone number so he called me (neither of us like the IM on this site), and I met him the next afternoon. I have never seen the point in emailing and talking forever. The longer that emailing and IMing went on, the less likely I was to meet that person.
I did like getting well written emails with good grammer and form. To me, that showed the person was serious enough about communicating with me that they put some thought into the email. Especially if they included something they read in my profile, like interests in common and so forth. I still get emails from men who obviously never read my profile. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 4:17:52 PM | Jots note to self,,,,,,,,,,,,,do not contact Bettie # 8 or Magnificent #17,,,,,
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 4:25:39 PM | -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
I had a strange experience on here yesterday..I talked to a gentleman Friday nite, we then talked on the phone for 3 hours and made plans to meet on Saturday, and then e-mailed me stating that "he changed his mind and wasn't ready to date and was removing his profile from POF...." Very Weird and disappointing to say the least.. ARE PEOPLE REALLY SERIOUS ON THIS WEB SITE BECAUSE I AM HAVING ONE WIERD EXPERIEINCE AFTER ANOTHER ON HERE..Maybe I just just rely on a chance meeting..less
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maybe his last girlfriend got back together with him
or his wife just found out that he was on the phone with a woman for 3 hours.
who knows.
Jim P. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 4:26:44 PM | So far, nothing. Four Months back, I got on POF, Match.Com and Singles.net
After a few months of nothing, Singles.net started winking like crazy at me out of the blue at the rate of two or three an hour. Clearly a ploy on their to get me to sign up (pay money) so I could contact all these winkers....who probably weren't.
After a few days of this obvious flooding tactic, I bailed.
Singles.net / Dates: Zero 
Match.com was the absolute worst. Here's what I got for my 60 bucks: A few dozen con artists from other countries with fake personals and photos who clearly didn't actually read my profile contacted me. The pictures were a little too good to be true and they responded to my cautious responce with advertisements.
ALL of the 40-50 members I contacted completely ignored my letters. I would have gladly accepted a "thanks but no thanks". These are women I was matched with by Match.com. Women who for the most part described me to a 'T' in their personals. I even suspect that Match.com may have fake profiles to bait suckers like me into signing up and pay a fees to be matched with women who don't really exist. I mean, SOMEONE would have gotten back to me, in a three month period, right?
I did not renew my membership.
Match.Com (A Paid Site) / Dates: Zero
That brings us to POF.
I was contacted a little at first, but (how do I put this?) by women old enough to be my mom's friends (and I'm 47).
I don't chase youngsters myself. I don't contact anyone under 40 unless they have a REALLY compatible profile (and never under 35, no matter what).
Here I've been MOSTLY ignored like at Match.com, I'm on no one's favorites list and the few contacts I've had either petered-out or WERE "Thanks, but no thanks".
What I have learned from all this is that I WILL answer every contact I get from now on, no matter what. It sucks to be ignored and I did a little of that myself and feel bad about it.
I'll stay here because it's free, but I don't hold much hope. May I be wrong. I Hope to God I'm wrong.
POF Dates: Zero | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 4:29:30 PM | I have had quite a few dates from this site. Most turned out to be ok, but, I am "picky" so I am still waiting for that "One in a Million". lol
As far as emails and chatting goes, I like to start with that and go from there. That kinda" breaks the ice" and helps me to know if I want to pursue the person or not and can then lead to a phone call. But, I must say, I have noticed alot of "game playing"on here.
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Posted: 6/1/2008 4:34:22 PM | I have been on many dates from this and other sites in the past.....
Like anything else its the law of averages....
You're bound to meet someone eventually... so just use the site as a means to an end, and not the end all of dating.... You will have some very nice experiences and you will have some not so pleasant ones as too...
Just hang in there.... because based on the number of people out there on ALL these sites.... NOONE wants to be alone forever. In the mean time just enjoy where ever you are, with whom ever you're with at the time.
jmo
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 4:38:08 PM |
How many emails, ...
I use my Yahoo messenger and webcam to communicate.
I've dated 2 guys from POF. First one 3 dates.
...phone calls, im's, or whatever before you went on the date?
We chatted a lot on messenger, like for a couple months. 2nd guy talked on the phone, about 4 conversations before we met for dinner. That guy was a psycho nudist. The first guy was okay, but I was not that attracted to him. He was very intelligent, nice, but not my type.
...how do you like to be approached on a first email from a user? Just something light, not sexual. Most men make that mistake. They begin asking very personal questions immediately, pertaining to sex; "how many men have you 'been with?", and "when was the last time you had sex?", and "how long have you gone without sex"? Seriously stupid. Those guys get blocked forever.
Is showing too much interest scare you? Yes at first, coming on strong (for me) makes me run.
i.e. sending a bunch of gifts...
That has never happened to me. But buying something after you have been on a date is okay.
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or saying you'd like to meet in an email. Not in the first few emails. A man who insists on meeting, while chatting in im's, is a red flag for me. I usually tell them no, and block them. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 4:56:04 PM | I've went on several dates with men I've met on this site. All except one were great experiences. I have remained friends with most and am still dating a great guy I met here! I think I would not meet anybody that asked me to do so through e-mail. The IM on this site does leave something to be desired to say the least. I have sent IM on yahoo to many people I've met here. Personally I feel the more correspondence through messages and then telephone contact prior to meeting in person the better. If somebody isn't being honest & upfront the conversations, the more likely you are to realize that before you waste time meeting. Good luck to everybody! Peace... | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 5:03:37 PM | I've been on about a dozen dates in the year that I've been here. Met some beautiful people, some interesting people, some strange people, and a couple crazy people!!! I don't regret meeting any of them, and have remained friends with some of them. You never know how things will work out, or who you will meet, or how you will click. Have never been stood up, and they have all been an enjoyable time.
These dates have been with people in another city, I've usually travelled 2.5 hours to go on the dates. They are usually set up for when I'm in that city for whatever reason. So it's all been good. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 5:07:51 PM | I have.. I've been on dates with 2 girls since I've joined. One we corresponded for a couple of days over POF, then it went onto MSN for a few more days before we met up.
The 2nd one we corresponded over POF for at least a week before we met up.
Experience was good, it was too bad either of them didn't work out though. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 5:14:25 PM | I've been on dates from this site... met some great people. None turned out to be "the one" at this point, but it's okay. I am happy just to meet others and get used to dating again after a long marriage. No site comes w/ guarantees!!!
I will say that there are more than the usual amount of "booty calls" attempted. Not what I'm looking for, but I can't blame them for trying... | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 5:17:06 PM | | I have been on several dates with someone that I met on here and most have been nice people but didn't really click. One man that I met did sort of send me "running for the hills", as his profile and picture looked much better than him and he sounded better on the phone. I really questioned if it was the same guy. That is why I always want to meet in a public area. I am now seeing someone occasionally that I didn't meet here but am on for the forums. I have confidence that if a person is careful and use good judgement, they can meet a quality person on a dating site. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 5:17:15 PM | I agree with the five posts by the five women on page 2.
I've only been here a short time and have met one person who is very nice and if he asks I will go on a second date, and he did indicate he would ask so I trust that.
I think there is this perception by many males that women get tons of dates and men don't from these sites. But it isn't necessarily true. I mean some women like myself purposefully create profiles that create interest in only some kinds of men. You get a great deal of practice at the art of writing a profile so that only the types of men you are interested in will contact you.
It's a bit fast for a man to just send me his contact information and expect me to call him right away at the first contact. This is the equivalent of going up to a woman at a party and handing her your business card and walking away. A profile is not the same as a five minute conversation--even if you did take hours to compose it. It's not going to do the work for you. It's a banner that says look at me and you have to treat it as such, keeping in mind that there are hundreds or even thousands of banners by other singles in your area that are competing with yours.
A man has to take the time when he emails a woman he feels interested in to say something that will resonate with her. I appreciate it if a man responds to something in my profile that indicates he read it, because I read the profiles of the men who contact me and who I contact very thoroughly. I take it that this is not a common practice for the men who practice the buckshot approach, broadcasting to as many women as possible hoping to get a few hits. If it feels like a broadcast then I am not likely to respond back to him.
I prefer at least several email exchanges followed by at least one phone call and then meeting. Unlike some women who have this desire to feel really really safe before they meet someone, I don't like to spend a long time before meeting someone. But then again I have a very strong intuition and it generally weeds out weird men right away. At least I never have met a weird man yet. I have met some men that I could tell would be very controlling partners if I got involved--that's about it.
The reason not to spend a lot of time back and forth: I did that once with a man--a musician on tour all over the world--emailing back and forth and calling--for over a year and then when I finally met him it was mutual disinterest. After what felt like an intense chemistry, it just wasn't there when we met and we wasted a year finding that out. So a week or so of exchanges is long enough before meeting.
I do think it is appalling what some women do and I would never do that. They make a man email them over a long period of time and then agree to meet. They show up, see the man there in the meeting place, are not attracted and then split. I would never do that unless I had a very good reason to do that--like he had stalker energy to him when I saw him. I at least sit down and talk with him because he did make the effort and I feel I owe at least a conversation to him for showing up. I have also met some very nice men this way who have become friends. I think it is just plain mean to walk away based on appearances.
I don't think gifts are a good idea when you are first meeting. I suppose there might be some exceptions, but this can feel tremendously awkward for a woman who is meeting a man for the first time and he hands her a huge bouquet of flowers and she already knows that she is not interested. I had this happen once and he insisted on taking me to dinner and it was so difficult to say no. Maybe it doesn't matter to the man--it was no big expense--but for the woman it can feel really strange. Some women consider it just plain weird, though I'm not of that opinion. Now I insist on just tea or coffee at the first meeting.
Men who lie to me about their weight or height--this is stupid. I don't understand how it is going to improve a man's chances when we meet. It's easy to verify upon meeting and it only makes the woman wonder how many other things he has lied about and will lie about in the future. It is a huge red flag--even if he might have done this out of fear I would reject him. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 5:17:34 PM | | I have been on 4 dates from this site. I had an email and call and an email or two, and call and then one time i had two months of e-mial and hours and hours of phone calls. My experience was that the one that e-mailed for two months and hours of phone calls was the only one that was not a nightmare.I like to the first e-mail to be interesting. I don't think showing alot of interest scares me if I like the person. | |
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