| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/11/2008 7:38:40 PM | I have been on one date from this site. He and I talked for a few weeks before meeting on IM and a few times on the phone. It didn't work between us but only because of the TOTAL opposites we were. We dated about 4 times and he was very attractive and fun but we just wanted different things in life. We do still talk though.
He was a complete smart a** in his first email and made me laugh! Which is what prompted me to write him back. I think if you can make a girl laugh and give her something to reply with other than the basic "hi" or "whats up sexy" you are doing good. I prefer when someone shows they have read my profile and makes a comment... most give plenty of conversation starters in their profile, find something you can relate to or comment on...
To me showing a fair amount of interest is good. Not sure what you mean by a bunch of "gifts" If you are talking about the ones on POF well they are cheesy at best anyway and to be honest if I see a guys profile and it shows "no roses to be sent" I wonder how many women he is talking to at the same time. (though to be honest I just find those lame anyway)
If you ask to meet me after the first email, yes that does freak me out a bit. But I see nothing wrong with wanting to meet after a few well informed emails and maybe phone calls.
Keep in mind, this is just the way I think. Doesn't mean that every woman feels the same. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/11/2008 9:11:11 PM | women on this site should start being honest in the profile. here are some examples.
I went out with one girl who said she was "outgoing" and doesnt like "lame boring people" in her profile, she was reserved and shy, and was like pulling teeth to find something interesting to talk about.
One girl stated she was "an independent woman i dont need a man but i wouldnt mind one" yada yada, later i found out she feels a man should pay on the first date! Go women's lib! (I personally feel whoever asks who out should pay)
Then you have the classic girl who will go on a dating website and then say "shes not looking for any type of relationship im just here for friends" and then wonder why no one takes her profile seriously. Hehe.
oh wait what was this thread about again, oops | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/11/2008 10:13:18 PM | Nope, no dates, first meetings, stand-ups, or even emails to report here in nearly a year and a half. 
I did have someone from 1000+ miles contact me out of the blue. She said she was a stewardess and sometimes flew into my town, where she'd lived for a year or two back in high school (I think she said her dad was in the Air Force). She had 150+ favorites, so I figured she'd been around here awhile. Before I could get back to her her profile just up and totally vanished.
That's as close as I've come to anything resembling going out on a date.
I used to occasionally look at my "Who's Viewed You" page, and it was never anyone local. I don't think women do searches and look at profiles, but instead just wait for men to contact them, which I don't do, though perhaps I would if there was anyone who seemed remotely worth contacting, but there isn't. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/11/2008 10:36:57 PM | Yeah i'm pretty much with you on that one. I've gone out with 3 girls so far from this site in less than a month but with each date, i chose to go out thinking "They're fun, let's see if they are in person too" and each time i was a bit disappointed. Actually there's one girl on here, beautiful girl, a model, she was really cool but didn't seem to have much connection with me. I wanted to go out a second time and she made plans with me to go to a show. The day of the show I was getting ready to call her to let her know when I was coming to pick her up, and she text messaged me saying that she was going to south beach instead because I did not call her. Umm Hello??? The show was going to be at 11:59 PM and i was calling you at 6:00 Pm to let you know when im coming. So i didnt even reply to her when she canceled on me. A week later she texts me saying she wants to go out again. Umm you stood me up and i blew 60 bucks on tickets and plus dinner and drinks and activities. Sure i'll go out again but you owe me 60 bucks and i'm not buying you dinner. Oh i forgot i live in South Florida, the "orange county" of the south. I should not have expected more right? I'm rolling dutch if anything on my next date. I might even solicit for gas money after the dates i've had.  | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/11/2008 11:30:01 PM | I've met a couple of guys...
There was one where I thought we would hit it off when we met but I didn't feel any fireworks or chemistry between us...
Another...Well there was plenty of chemistry but he turned out to be a complete a$$. He would say one thing then act a totally different way another. He said he wanted to move slow but the way he acted was going full speed ahead...Things didn't turn out well and that's putting it lightly...
I met a guy recently...He seems great so far...He's good looking, we have a few of the same interests and some differences (which I like because I don't want someone exactly like me)...We're taking our time and hopefully things will be decent between us...If its not meant to be then I hope our ending finishes as humanely as possible | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/11/2008 11:49:44 PM | I talked to two guys for ages and ages, both were saying they liked me and wanted to meet me.
One says, phone number please, so I passed it over, he text once, but continued to send messages on here about missing me and wanting to meet me, not sure what was going on there.
Number two, well he was missing me, liking me, wanting to meet me, I arranged a date and then he says I got to work, he was local so I presume he is a 24/7 worker, sad but true.
I continue swinging between looking for new friends to chat to and hoping to meet someone real nice that might just might turn into a date.
Blimey that was a bit from the heart this morning tee hee. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/11/2008 11:52:06 PM | i really identify with this situation.
i went out on one coffee with a super lady . we had talked for 6 hrs. by phone and conected well.
she initially did all the right things and we had a great coffe time together.
it turns out she had a boyfriend in the background and she made him jealous enough to reform his ways.
the only thing she was wrong in was not being up front and not being finished with other relationships.
people should'nt be fishing if they have already got fish!!
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/12/2008 1:43:15 AM |  Me Me Me! Ive actually been on dates!! Yes its true..I even went on three with one bloke!!  Hahah... seriously though I think one should meet within the month, IMHO if either of you are too busy or whatever to do it before then, you probably havent got the time or energy to get into a relationship anyway... | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/13/2008 12:17:12 PM | dear young and handsome
you want to know have people ever dated anyone useing pof well to be honest dating sites are not the safest place to meet plus that mightent be the person in the photo other words its a fake photo plus the profile is made up otherwords it full of made up storys and you will be a right fool to beleave in what you read on any profile but you have a good point here mind you i have hiden my profile so that nobody can find me on pof becouse i dont want to be contacted becouse dating sites can not be trusted any more my profile is still up but i have it hid in sted i never give out my phone number or give out my email address to nobody even if i met some one on this site or i wouldnt even send gifts ect i wont be i dont want members to contact me becouse you only here from them once and that did happen to me last year dating sites dont work full of scammers even if a nice girl contacted me to go on a date i would turn her down becouse she mightnt turn up and that did happen two weeks a go a girl wanted me to meet her in town but i knew she wasnt going to be there but she wasnt from this site no girl can find me on this site the best thing to do is stay single i have been single since 1988 i am use to it | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/13/2008 1:46:15 PM | My Friend just went on her second date from this site, the first one was with me Well she talked to this guy for some time ,finally decided to meet, everything went very well. She gets home and there's a message waiting for her from her date, this is what he said, "what is your chest size", she was shocked , he was serious, she would not tell him, he said,"have a nice life bye". | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/19/2008 9:16:58 PM | I met two people and I guess you can call them dates.
One guy seemed cool. Everything he wrote on his profile seemed too damn perfect, but I figured what the hell... and he sturned out to be something else. I guess you could say he was on the wealthy side...but I didn't care about all that. I didn't like him. He had a phony way of acting. I def. went home. The pizza was good though  Oh and he still text me to this day.
The other one, I'll call him Snaggles. He likes to play this nice guy act, but Snaggles is a freak. I def. wasn't feeling all that. That night was awful but funny. I guess people don't understand rejection. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/19/2008 9:33:47 PM | LOL...well, five years of being here, mostly on, but sometimes off...
I have had two serious relationships...met several at POF functions who I ended up dating...met a few others who ended up joining, that I dated...and most importantly, met some really phenomenal women who have become my bestest friends! ;O) Plus the platonic guys...priceless! (No wonder POF is free! They could not attach a fair price tag to it! ;O)) Oh...and one marriage proposal! 
I prefer to converse with someone for a while before actually dating...really depends on how in-depth our emails get...if we progress to the phone, etc.
As far as sending gifts...umm...it would scare me if you should NOT have my address, and you otherwise do! ;O) But no...sending a lot of emails is not something I would be turned off, by!
The only thing that really scares me here...are the ones who send an intial email asking you out for coffee or dinner or whatever...and you glance at a profile to actually see...NOTHING THERE. I mean, how can one base a decision on little or no information? I think some people just don't "get it" that a site such as this is so that you can get to know someone well enough, prior to asking them out on a date! | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/19/2008 9:46:26 PM | Not sure about your advice Badboy, maybe it depends on the age group. But if someone emailed me and then started IM , he would reach a dead end. Email and then a phone call IM is so lazy and impersonal.
POF has been the best dating website I have been on. I have met many wonderful men and some women friends too. Maybe I have been lucky, but I haven't had any bad experiences on this website. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/20/2008 12:27:42 AM | Obviously different for anyone. But, when I was dating, I wish I had learned what many pof'ers have since informed me of: Do not email/im/phone-chat with someone for an extended period of time. In my experience, it always ended badly for me.
Make the initial connection, trade phone numbers, have a conversation (just like you might at a bar or other real-life meeting) and make a date.
Personally, a lot of those pof' gift things would also be a turn off, just fyi. One is a sweet, cheerful gesture, but sending them over and over just makes me wonder why you're overcompensating. Besides--they're pixels on a screen. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 6:02:55 AM | The last "man" to ask me out from this site was a hoot. He called and asked if I wanted to go listen to a band. This was at a country western bar connected to a truckstop.He then proceded to tell me WE could go if I Helped him out with gas..... Maybe $15.00.LOL
I said then if thats what I wanted to do,then why wouldn't I put gas in my car,and go by myself.....WOW | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/20/2008 6:24:37 AM | | This site is quite entertaining and I have dated a few guys, made a couple of friends, met a two of Quasimodo's brothers, an octopus (arms and hands everywhere), stalked by one guy at an event, stood up by a sweet talker, solicited for sex a couple of occasions, and lastly met a fellow who was 10 years older than his picture and stated age and saw his children as collateral damage. It does take all kinds. I have made a couple of friends from this site. Met some great women at events... where the men just don't show up. Small town mentality, big fears. The forums are fun. Here I am. Don't have tv... great entertainment. I have learned from my early twenty year old kids... that dating sites are to be taken with a grain of salt, a bit of lime and definitely a shot of tequila! | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/22/2008 1:27:03 PM | Well, I'm very selective about who I date. If there is no interest, I won't waste my time or OUR money....I'd rather be alone. I have been on a couple of meets, and only dated one who ended up being an LTR that I moved from CA to PA to be with. We lived together for 8 months. It was good while it lasted, but I guess it just wasn't meant to be.
I've seen enough successes in my friends, so I definitely believe that it works!!!
~DC~ | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/22/2008 1:44:44 PM | I've met two men from this site.
I prefer an introductory email and perhaps IM, phone then meet.
But the guy I've started 'dating/seeing' first contacted me by IM, then we talked on the phone.. for hours, several times... then met. Still meeting and still phoning... lol... have no idea what is going on/developing, but I like him and happy to see what happens next. Which is why I've hidden my profile for the moment. (though I don't think he has)... I don't want to meet other guys, who are clearly interested, when I can only offer them friendship. Don't want to give anyone the wrong idea. When I am interested in one guy, then I don't want to 'date' others... that's too much like 'seeing if someone better comes along'... but if a guy is only interested in being a friend, then I would probably meet them.
Dating is so dam complicated... not in a relationship, but MIGHT be developing one... | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/22/2008 1:51:20 PM | Yup, I dated a wonderful lady I met on this site, established a LDR then LTR, and she and her family actually moved across this country. But as a previous poster mentioned, it did not work out. The failure of the relationship to "work out" had nothing to do with having first met on POF, it was purely because of personal problems that most likely would have come up no matter where or how we met. The fact that it lasted for eighth months, after only having spent about ten days together before her relocation, says that it was not a "brief fling". It was a relationship, that unfortunately failed, but I will say that it was a wonderful experience...and I am glad that I got to know this person through POF. I hope that through continuing to date through POF, or however, she will find the guy who is right for her.
So, yes, there are some of us here who actually do make the dating site work for us. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/22/2008 2:03:29 PM | | ive been on one date from this site so far. It was lovely but ended up he was lying to me through his teeth. when u speak to someone, try to get to know them a lot before u meet them, this is the modern way of dating but it can be painful if u think he/she is the right one and it ends up u didnt really know them afterall. dont be downhearted tho i met a lovey man a few years back and we lasted for over two years, the distance was the factor that brought the relationship to a halt. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/22/2008 3:59:34 PM |
It was lovely but ended up he was lying to me through his teeth.
That has nothing to do with meeting on this site, though. My ex-wife was the biggest liar I've ever known, and I met her through two friends who were dating each other.
I met a woman on a different site. We e-mailed three times over the course of about a week, talked on the phone once, texted each other several times through the second week, and then went out that weekend. It lasted almost two years. So online dating does work. I think it just seems like there's more failures because people are connecting with more people than they would in real life. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 4:09:54 PM | Ive met a few guys from here. I don't care to send or recieve endless emails back and forth. If a man makes me laugh via email....i'll exchange phone numbers....and if he can entertain me via phone..i'll meet him in person.
no bad experiences....made some new friends...shared a few great kisses | |
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