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| So, hes rich, funny and handsome....why is he on here??
Posted: 6/2/2008 10:44:42 AM | The same reason(s) most of us are here. Just because he has all those qualities does not mean he has women at his disposal (the right woman/en) or that he is any different then the rest of us (in this capacity that is).
Don't question this and just wait to meet him.
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| So, hes rich, funny and handsome....why is he on here??
Posted: 6/2/2008 11:03:09 AM | People seem to assume that if you're on a dating site you must be a loser and unable to meet men/women in real life.
There are guys on here who can meet women in real life and use this as an addition to what they do already.
Sure, there's a lot of people on here who are really desperate and are here as a last resort - but not everybody is like that.
Maybe he is the guy he says he is, maybe he isn't - go and find out for yourself! You don't need the approval of a bunch of people on here who don't know the specifics of the situation. People will tend to project their own insecurities onto their opinions anyway - especially where money is concerned.
A lot of people have some really unhealthy beliefs about money - like 'all rich people are evil and walk all over anyone to get there', 'if you're rich, you must have no morals', 'rich people spend all their time getting rich and no time connecting with people, that's why they must be on a dating site, because they don't know how to socialise'.
There is nothing 'evil' about being rich - sure, there are some bad rich people, but there are plenty of bad poor people too. There is nothing noble about being poor. Being a good or bad person is not related to the amount of money you have in the bank.
Rant over... | |
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| So, hes rich, funny and handsome....why is he on here??
Posted: 6/2/2008 11:36:59 AM | | i agree with pretty much everyone, but you should also consider that maybe he spends most of his time working to stay rich, and uses the internet for dating, because he doen't have the time to go out and meet someone. | |
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| So, hes rich, funny and handsome....why is he on here??
Posted: 6/2/2008 9:23:01 PM | I've met and known both men and women (but mostly men)
who make up fantastic stories! These people have some major
mal function, so to speak.
But if someone really was that wealthy, they'd have to just as
nuts to mention it on a dating site! | |
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| So, hes rich, funny and handsome....why is he on here??
Posted: 6/2/2008 10:03:43 PM | Maybe he is surrounded by people who are richer, funnier and really, really, really, really good looking. So he feels modest, boring and plain by comparison?
Or maybe he is here for the forums. | |
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| So, hes rich, funny and handsome....why is he on here??
Posted: 6/3/2008 7:38:57 AM | As far as dating, there's not much difference between someone being rich and dating and middle class and dating.
Having money isn't a free pass to meaningful relationships. It gives certain advantages but it also gives certain disadvantages.
There are many potential reasons why someone who is affluent may be looking for love online...
-They may live in a smaller community and have exhausted their local dating pool
-They may not be willing to date work or business associates
-They may not enjoy the bar/disco scene
-They may be hoping that online dating will allow them to screen prospective mates more efficiently
-They may be hoping that online dating will give them access to a larger number of women, thus improving their chances
-They may be shy in person, making online dating more comfortable
-They may have gotten good feedback from friends regarding online dating so decided to try it
-They may be frustrated with the dating scene in general and wanted to try something new
Of course, who knows. Maybe your guy is legit, maybe they're a scam artist. Only one way to find out.
In the end, we're all looking for a special someone. Is it so hard to believe that someone who has money wouldn't exercise all their options?
As for using a free website, why wouldn't someone try it? If someone hasn't done online dating before, wouldn't it make sense to try a free site out first and see how you like it before spending money on a paid website? Not to mention, it never hurts to be a member of a free website, even if you decided to join paid sites.
Finally, there has been alot of debate among men of means as to whether the best strategy is to hide your wealth, or to flaunt it when online dating. On the one hand, hiding your wealth limits the number of gold-diggers. On the other hand, being financially and occupationally successful is part of who one is... and that success can be very attractive to members of the opposite sex.
Attraction to men of means isn't always about the money... it is just as much about the perceived character traits of ambition, responsibility, reliability, work ethic, and ability to live up to commitments.
While men who hide their success and wealth have an advantage in discouraging those women with $$$ in their eyes, if they don't portray any success or are particularly evasive about their successes, then women can also perceive a man as lacking in ambition, work ethic, etc.
It's quite the catch 22. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
Each man has to reach their own individual decision whether they wish to conceal their wealth, and how much of it they wish to conceal. It's not up to us to judge them for whichever road they take.
Just some thoughts.
Wanderer | |
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| So, hes rich, funny and handsome....why is he on here??
Posted: 6/3/2008 7:54:34 AM | I understand being a little skeptical as I am sure alot of the people on dating sites try to make themselves something they are not. Please note my use of the word "some"
Whether someone is rich or poor, they may have trouble finding someone to build a relationship. Maybe they have a hectic work schedule, just moved to a new city and wants to make new friends or just don't have large social circles where they may meet someone. So due to this they may feel if they join a dating site it may open another opportunity to meet new people.
As far as the "wealthy" issue... In my experience I have found that people who feel the need to go on and on about their wealth and their toys are either lying or insecure. What I mean by insecure, if you are fortunate enough to have wealth, you should not feel the need to use it as bait to make someone like you. | |
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| So, hes rich, funny and handsome....why is he on here??
Posted: 6/3/2008 8:02:04 AM | How can somone who owns a helicopter be down to earth?
Seriously.
Maybe he owns an air transport company. If not, that's a major piece of posturing few rich corporations indulge in, much less individuals. | |
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| So, hes rich, funny and handsome....why is he on here??
Posted: 6/3/2008 11:15:03 AM | Wanderer, that was a very insightful reply you gave.
Ok, we went for lunch, obviously I don't have the whole picture but he seems genuine.
But.......I'm afraid he's not for me after all that.
Without going into too much detail I think his pictures did him a lot of justice, and I prefer my men to be a bit (a lot) more masculine. And we didn't seem to click at any point.
He's a good catch, just not for me I'm afraid. :0( | |
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| So, hes rich, funny and handsome....why is he on here??
Posted: 6/3/2008 6:37:53 PM | | Its really a shame that people think that the only reason that you try online dating is because you must have a flaw or something....i have met several really neat guys online....just because that you are online does not mean you are desperate.... | |
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| So, hes rich, funny and handsome....why is he on here??
Posted: 6/3/2008 10:31:12 PM | In general men with money don't flaunt it if they are looking for a LTR, but there can be exceptions--such as with men who are newly rich and haven't learned a few lessons, or men who feel that somehow they won't be able to attract women without showing off assets (maybe he grew up learning these values and doesn't know any other way). I wouldn't build too much of a story around this. Just meet him and see how it goes.
When you meet with him make sure that you pay attention to any red flags that come up. Put less emphasis on the looks, the charm and the money and pay attention to what is real!
Trust your intuition. If it feels like it is too good to be true it probably is too good to be true. | |
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| So, hes rich, funny and handsome....why is he on here??
Posted: 6/5/2008 4:37:36 AM | Ok, so here is how it is:
I'm a regular kind of guy and I was raised in a middle class family...I started working at 10 years old as we had a family business ...my dad started into business at 18. My fathers business was on the main road thru my home town...right in the middle of town. Thus we knew everybody after being in business for many many years...our building was a local land mark. My father was also involved in banking.
SO OK, I came from a wealthy family as my dad was a self made man and no college degree. I wasn't raised in private schools or did what you might think a rich person would do or want to do...based on what you might see on TV or in movies...or contrived in your fantasy mind. I was raised middle class and I worked...I cut grass...got sweaty & dirty...had calouses on my fingers & hands...aching muscles and scars.
Because of my family name being up on a building and thus a business......I was a target. People tried to scam me or exploit me or girls chased me because they saw an easy meal ticket. I could have cherry picked if I wanted to and exploited the situation in my own right....but I never did....I'm a genuine person. It was very hard to differentiate who was a true friend or a false friend in growing up. But because my father was a first generation american and had simple parents who were by all accounts working class blue collar people who came from the old country as peasants....I was raised with that as my blood.....my roots...middle class. My father was never in the country club set, yet mixed with those people. You must understand that with the business & banking situation we had many relationships and connections & political ties......so I have done things normal people would neved have done or experienced. I often say I know the good, the bad, & the ugly. I mixed with all type & walks of life in going to public school. I am by & large a blue jeans & T shirt type personality. I do have assets & things......but if you see me with a few days old beard and messed up hair in blue jeans & a T shirt.....you wouldn't take me seriously, but then I don't flaunt what I have and I only let what needs to be known out when it needs to be.....I am a very private person. People often mistake that for being nefarious or shady and then again people can be too nosey & try to invade your privacy. But in the base leveel its this...you have to like me for ME...its about me & my personality...not about my assets...or my job or my status.......thats how I determine superficial people. Money doesn't buy you love...as the song goes. So if I wanted to find a normal girl thats simple and practical and low maintenance and satisfied easily and can understand the value of things.....then you shop in the right place...if you want a spoiled rich **** thats never happy or satisfied...you go to the country club....if you want a slut/whore...you go to a bar & toss out a few bucks.
I've been around the block and with business experience...I know how to read people well.....I can tell when a female is more concerned about having a JOB and looking at a bank account...as opposed to loving a personality. Never judge a book by its cover...for a BUM might be a millionaire...and a BUM that might say some fantastic things...might just be stating the truth.
I can remember going to meet the dean of the college I was attending...during summer session. I walked into his office as the door was open and was having a conversation with a guy in old clothes that were really ratty and dirty...like the oldest work clothes, the guy happened to be painting in the office while I was waiting....little did I know I was conversing with the dean of the college.
I can remember moving to florida with my parents, my father built 3 houses all next to each other...one for us and the others for my 2 sisters. We had moved in when the houses were not quite complete...about 98% done. The fine finishing was still being done...and the painters were runnign around doing touch ups and tail end things. I was woken up on emorning to the painter wanting in my room to do some touch ups. I Play guitar and thus had my guitar out sitting in the corner of my room. While still all groggy from waking up suddenly, I found myself into a conversation with this guy doing the painting about my guitar & playing. So he is telling me he plays too and had a guitar like mine, and was telling me all about it. The conversation was was quite interesting when he told me about playing music......he was a former rock star that washed out and spent all his loot and went on to paint houses for a living...a has been.
So moral to the story...never judge the book by its cover and never be skeptical.....people are people and you have to accept them for who they are....people. People aren't perfect and have flaws.....and sometimes there are those frogs that are really princes from the story books.
I can't really remember the name of the movie...but its an eddie murphy movie about him being a prince from africa...coming to america to find a wife...so he goes undercover and gets a job at a fast food joint to seek his quest.
I'm a middle aged man. I never got married or had kids. I lived with a couple past GF's, and it never really worked out and we went our separate ways as friends. I never met that special person that would be 100% or was able to sustain being 100%. Then again thats a 2 way street and perhaps something to be openly discussed between parties involved.. I can say I met somebody last year..relatively love at first site...till her friends made me out to be married with 2 kids...but she couldn't come to the realization...that her friends never knew me and thus were quite wrong. So something that was potentially really great imploded basied on her friends and their influence that had nothing to do with rationality or reality.
For me, since I started to work at 10 years old...sometime in working at that young age...I got exposed to asbestos & thus I have lung issues...and distinctly I am a walking miracle as I had the irregular shaped mass in my one lung with my lymph nodes all up and all the classic signs of cancer. I waited to get my nerve up to do a biopsy...so they had to remap me to do the procedure...upon the second imaging...the mass disappeared & the head of department treating me.... couldn't explain it. SO I faced my mortaility, and all I want to do is live out my days in peace & happiness. I have no wife & no kids to leave my stuff to....and the girl I mention that I fell in love with practically at first site...I wanted to marry her as she accepted me the way I was...... a guy that looked like a BUM with cut off blue jeans and a T shirt on. Her friends trashed me....and its been a tremendous loss. But I'm not going to be goaded into presenting my papers & financial statements to back up what I say because of outside interference. you have to believe in ME & have faith....and that bridge would be crossed in due time when trust is fully developed. Would it be insulting if the word PRENUPTUAL came up? | |
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| So, hes rich, funny and handsome....why is he on here??
Posted: 6/5/2008 4:51:06 AM | I met a very wealthy man on another dating site. Mansion, cars, plane etc.... He was on the dating site because he didn't have time to go out and meet women the usual way. He was constantly jetting around the world for business.
Why didn't it work out? Same reason his marriage didn't work out. Because he was constantly jetting around the world for business. lol
He was/is a delightful man and we still remain friends even though I refused to pick up and go on his every whim.
So you see be careful what you wish for, you just may get it. I divorced a millionaire and broke up with a millionaire because even millionaires have their problems! Money doesn't buy happiness and I think they are all finding that out. That is why they are fishing on here! Give the guy a chance but, give me my blue collar guy any day!! | |
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