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| confused,, how do i get my man back?
Posted: 6/3/2008 7:35:39 PM |  IT MADE ME FEEL SAD BUT YOU HAVE SOMETHNG GOING FOR YOU PERSISTENCE...HANG IN THERE...HE WILL MISS YOU AND HE DOES WANT YOU DON'T GIVE UP JUST GO A LITTLE EASIER...BEST OF LUCK TO YOU!_k | |
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| confused,, how do i get my man back?
Posted: 6/3/2008 8:43:52 PM | well he ran off and he knows how u feel, just let him know ur back 2 looking or ur on back the market so 2 speak and give another fella a go................... like me  with kindest regards steve | |
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| confused,, how do i get my man back?
Posted: 6/5/2008 5:24:43 AM | He didn't abuse you, he didn't mistreat you, he didn't put you down in any way.
It showed how much he cared for you. In those final words, he still cares for you.
Being alone, on his own, for so long, he may just be scared to get into a serious relationship. He realized this and doesn't want to hurt you. You may love him but he may feel unable to love you in return. Dispite what others say, when you are truely in love, age means nothing.
In short, the two of you were so happy as just friends. You wanted more and he couldn't handle that. If you can't be satified with that, then there is no use in perusing him any longer. Move on.
You are still young. Find someone who will love you in return. Learn from this experience. Cherish the memories of what the two of you had. Don't continue living in the past. | |
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| confused,, how do i get my man back?
Posted: 6/5/2008 5:52:06 AM | I also think he is running scared, I personally think he is 'letting you go' for your own good. He thinks he is too old for you... he has taken a lot of things into consideration.. blah blah blah... some men just don't know what is good for them LOL show him you are the best thing that can happen to him LOL
So if you feel you don't want to give up trying, well don't, TusconGent gave, what I consider, great advice and also tmotts!!. Yeah I seriously think on they gave you some good advice.
I say go for 'it'.  | |
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| confused,, how do i get my man back?
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:22:21 AM | | Yep I would say it is the age gap. He can't give you what you want. He sees the future. You have not even begin to live at 27. I dated a older man when I was in my twenties, I look back now and think I'm glad we didn't stay together. I am now 40 he is now 57. He has nothing to offer me. I look at him when he picks up our daughter and I am not interested in anyway. I think to myself, what the hell was I thinking back then. He's a good person and a great father but he probably wont be around to much longer, drinking and health issues, might I say. Try and get over him and move forward. Find someone closer to your age. Learn from my experience. | |
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| confused,, how do i get my man back?
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:51:27 AM | 30th june o8
my oldest freind was at a party on saturday nite, he was there alone,
she knows how im feeling so she talked to him....
he said i was the most wonderfull girl he had been with, that i had done nothing wrong it was just him, that his head is fuc*ed up!
ive text him a handfull of times in the past couple of months, no reply!
i just cant beleive he can treat me like this, we have known each other for years....
ive been on a personal journey ive changed alot both physical and mentally since we split, and i want him to know what hes missing out on.
honest thoughts now? | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 5:12:37 AM | | If a woman said she loved me . I would not run rather , I would stay UNLESS there was no sex and the relationship was going down the tubes . | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 5:17:44 AM | OP I think it's time you accept the break up and move on. Stop texting him, he isn't going to answer. You started out as FWB according to your posts and he wanted more. More didn't work out for him either; so you've broken up.
Look for someone who is on the same page as you. You deserve to find happiness, it just isn't going to be with this guy. He has made that clear, even though he sweetly ended it, he still ended it.
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| confused,, how do i get my man back?
Posted: 6/30/2008 5:21:55 AM |
let him know somehow how i feel
Lady C:
You already have let him know. Let the natural ebb and flow develop. Exercise your right to happiness, begin to heal YOUR heart, worry not about him. If he reconsiders what seemed a good fit...he will contact you.
If not, you are better to be moving on now as well. Sometimes, when a dearly held thing is released, clarity follows... | |
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| confused,, how do i get my man back?
Posted: 6/30/2008 5:44:32 AM | my honest thoughts are ones that will be hard for you to accept.
remember this advice?
If you want to get him back, you have to start by not calling him or texting him at all.
not only would i NEVER call or next him again, i would not send a friend to talk to him either. he KNOWS she'll inform you of every single word he said
i just cant believe he can treat me like this, we have known each other for years i still believe the guy has done the right thing. when he discovered you had feelings that he could not return and it was more than FWB for you, he stepped away.
ive been on a personal journey ive changed alot both physical and mentally since we split, and i want him to know what hes missing out on do you remember what you were like when he was enjoying your company? he was attracted to you when you were a FUN no-strings friend. i doubt he cares about a personal journey, changes, reflections, what he's missing out on, or much serious conversation at all. the party was over for him when a serious cloud fell over it
when questioned by your friend, he tried to take all the blame to make it easier on you. i can just imagine he was probably feeling VERY uncomfy and wishing she'd GO AWAY
lady, i'm sorry but he's done. give your hair a fluff, put on the happiest face you own, and move forward armed with the lesson you've learned. FWB is NOT for you under any circumstances. apparently some women can handle a FWB relationship without getting hurt but sometimes the results aren't good at all. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 12:46:12 PM | He's no longer interested in you. He's made that abundently clear and all the sit ups and hair extensions in the world will not change that. He's 50. He obviously likes being alone, but he also really enjoyed having sex with a 27 year old. He left because he now knows you want more than a fling and he cannot give you more. Did you really want to spend the rest of your life with a man old enough to be your father?
What exactly did he say to make you believe he wanted more out of the relationship? did he talk about buying a home together? Marriage? Children?
did he lie to you? Or did you lie to yourself? | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 5:00:35 PM | submit to him, be his servant, maybe he'll consider keeping you around. i don't understand, why bother with someone who doesn't want you?
you put all that effort in, and what do you get in return, great sex? cuz there's "chemistry"? i don't understand. you say there are others who offers to date you, why don't you give those other guys a chance? atleast they're into you.
is there anything you wouldn't do for this man? get a life! realize how much more valuable you are as a person, and that you deserve better than being his puppy ...who'll run after him despite everything else.
trust me, i've been there. looking back, i've never felt so pathetic about myself. the only difference between your situation and mine is the fact that "he" responded back instantly when i said i wanted to talk (after him "running away" on me), or even a simple "hi".
well, to be honest, we did get back together...but...i've reached a point in not caring. it was a point when i stopped contacting him. i took him off my messenger, my phone, stopped any form of communication.
he eventually got back to talking with me because of his cousins. he used his cousins to reach me. i admitted to him that if his cousin never talked to me, i would have forgotten him. he also admitted to use the cousin to try to figure me out and get me back. also, he dropped by my work because he was "in the area" and "needed hangers" (when i used to work at linen's n things). he doesn't live in that area and when we finished our quick 'chat', he walked out of the store w.out purchasing anything.
trust me, if they want you back, they will find a way to talk to you and make sure that you guys get back together...somehow. he's 50...i'm sure he knows what he wants in life by now...and sadly, it seems like you're not what/who he wants. he's not your man to get back. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 8:05:35 AM | thank you to everyone who has added to my posts...
nearly two months has come by i have decided to use him as a learning curb, and indeed its better to love and lost than never love at all....
im not saying that im over him im saying i respect his wishes
anyway my girlfreinds have said enough is enough no more hiding away and they are taking me out on saturday.
i can put my bottom dollar on bumping into him as we always did, how should i handle this situation? we always had banter on who would take each other home first and he would give me his jacket as he said i was always scantily clad! think thats another one his welsh yarns!
should i ignore him like he has done to me? {no reply to texts}
i really dont want him to see what i really feel! i think it is true slu@? heal quicker...
and once again thank you to everyone i really did apprciate it
rose x
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| confused,, how do i get my man back?
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:05:38 AM |
i can put my bottom dollar on bumping into him as we always did, how should i handle this situation?
Hi Rose
My advice is to not go to the place you used to always bump into him at. I know the temptation to do so is strong, but it's best not to. Also, really try not to go out expecting to bump into him as it could ruin an other wise fun night out with friends.
If he hasn't contacted you at all in 2 months, then it's definitely time to move on, as hard as that is.
Keep smiling hun and have some fun with your friends
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| confused,, how do i get my man back?
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:27:33 AM | | oh good i finally figured out how to use these forums yee haw! As to the 27 vs 50 relationship being discussed here i have this to say: 1. ultimately tru has the best response and those who respond similarly that it is better to walk away from those who cause you excruciating pain and wait patiently however, for that true love of your life. Good things come to those who wait. 2. sorry to be the bearer of bad news but this lady knows that your relationship with this man just won't work, i have been there - the age difference alone is enough for me to say 'hey put on the brakes and consider keeping him your buddy'. Just me 2 cents. | |
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| confused,, how do i get my man back?
Posted: 7/28/2008 5:20:56 PM | | Ask yourself, "do I really want him back?" There is a reason he has been alone for 18 years. I don't know the reason but you were used. He played house until he got tired of you then gave the excuse it's me not you. How many other women has he done the same thing to? Find yourself a man not afraid to commit, and enjoy the life he will offer. If you get this guy back he will only do it again. Most people are creatures of habit and repeat the same patterns. Save yourself the second heartache. | |
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| confused,, how do i get my man back?
Posted: 7/28/2008 6:26:52 PM | hi tmotts
i read ur advice to miss 'how do i get my man back'
i am totaly devastated 2nite as my ex b.f. totaly confirm 2me 2nite that it is the end &
we will never get back again.
i have done everything for him in 6months relationship & gave too, love & loyalty
only to be drop like this
i agree w/ all u said, only for the fact that i know my ex will never go back w/ me!
despite of sayin this, i am stil hoping bec i luv him so much & he mean a world to me.
he is a very hard man. he can just switch his feelings off.
i did all the beggings u can think, i did it.
please help me, i feel comitting suicide, i am in pieces.
please.
emily9 | |
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| confused,, how do i get my man back?
Posted: 7/28/2008 7:00:20 PM |
he didnt think he could give me what i wanted. that he was very fond of me and that was the trouble, that i had started a feeling deep inside him that he had not felt in years. and he knew in time he would duck up and hurt me and he really didnt want that!!!!!
Those are the words you need to remember from him. He is telling down the road, he will hurt you. Maybe not intentionally, but there will come a time where you will want to live a life that he has already lived and it will not work out. I am sorry if this hurts your feelings, but the truth is this, for the most part, I don't mind age differences, I only mind when one of the people can be the other's parent and he could be your dad.
Even if you do get him back, where do you see this going? Marriage, children? He is probably not returning your texts or calles because he knows down the road he will hurt you and he does care for you, which is what he told you. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 7:14:05 PM | | Sweetie, we've all been there, call it what it is...a booty call. Yeah, it hurts but the only advice to follow here is, get yourself in shape, look great, date others and who knows, next time you run into him...you may think "Wow, what did I ever see in him?" You may realize that you were really too good for him afterall. Good luck! In the meantime, don't text, email, call, etc. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2008 3:54:21 AM | hopefully you read my previous posts~!
really confused now... i text him last nite and fell asleep, when i woke this morning a had five replys, one of which was letting me know the door was not locked....
ive text him before and had no reply,,, is he playing with me? because he knows how i feel? i text him when i woke in reply to his question. and had nothing aloso left a voice mail...
i sooo want this guy back...
what should i do?????? love to you all rose x | |
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