| Am I gay?
Posted: 6/2/2008 6:56:26 PM | | I think it just depends on the person. I am straight and confident enough in my womanhood to say certain females are attractive. Now I am not going to go looking at their boobs and other body parts. That doenst turn me on. I have my own boobies. | |
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| Am I gay?
Posted: 6/6/2008 7:36:52 AM | I can look at another guy and think to myself "he's a nice looking guy". I don't think "he's a nice looking guy, I wonder what his member looks like, or if he's got a six pack?" It's never has happened, doubt it ever will. Two soft, smooth, women together seems like a natural thing, two utilitarian men loving on each other is stomach turning to a truely straight guy. I can't figure out what women like about men so much anyway...I'd go Lesbo if I were a chick.
He's gay or at the very least BI | |
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| Am I gay?
Posted: 6/12/2008 10:01:49 AM | Funny thing about this thread I started. I never once said I wanted to date the guy. I never once said that I didn't know what he was. My whole reason for starting the thread was to open dialog.
I don't think you need to put labels on anything. HE wanted me to put a label on his behavior. "Do you think I'm gay? I'm not gay, am I?" I was asked this numerous times. I kept saying that it didn't matter and he was what he was. HE wanted assurance that having oral sex with guys but having a relatsionship with a woman did not make him gay. I could not assure him of anything....who am I? LOL.
Please do not assume you know me or know my reasons for posting. This is a forum and for discussion, or so I thought.
Susan | |
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| Am I gay?
Posted: 6/13/2008 12:59:56 PM | Hmmm a guy puts another guys nob in his mouth and wonders if he's a fag.
I'm no rocket scientist but HELLOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO | |
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| Am I gay?
Posted: 6/13/2008 1:05:45 PM | It would only count as gay if after the guy sucked off the other, they held hands...... lol Who needs a Friday  ? | |
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| Am I gay?
Posted: 6/14/2008 6:07:17 AM | | If he finds both sexes attractive, I would assume he's bisexual (my 2 cents here), but then again, society has this stigma against guys who are bi/gay. The problem here, is that it's more socially acceptable if a woman is bisexual or gay, than is for a man to be so. I think he's just having sexual identity issues. The only way he's going to figure out who he truly is, is to figure out what he wants. | |
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Joined: 6/9/2008
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| Am I gay?
Posted: 6/14/2008 7:06:14 AM | In my opinion...
Most of us get labeled in one way or another; it's human nature to analyze and categorize.. it's how we make sense of things. A place for everything and everything in it's place, as they say.
In pursuit of that same ideal of compartmentalization, we label ourselves. We define ourselves to give order to the madness, to mark out our little territory in the world. To say "these are my parameters, this is what makes me 'me'".. our socio-genetic print, if you will.
So why was this guy interested in hearing your opinion on the topic? Because when others around us assign the same labels to us that we have applied to ourselves, we are bolstered by the thought that the world sees us the same way we see ourselves. We feel some exhilaration in the realization that we're not suffering delusion, that in fact we are in harmony with the world around us, as regards our self-image.
Conversely, when others label us in ways we don't accept about ourselves (for whatever reason) we are chafed. Uneasiness sets in because in effect those extraneous labels call our self-identity into question, whether or not the labeler actually intended it to have that impact.
Just my €,02 ;) | |
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| Am I gay?
Posted: 6/14/2008 7:22:06 AM | | I agree I love to lick and kiss a woman but I couldnt ever date one I love men and****to i just like woman for sexual purposes on occasion. | |
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| Am I gay?
Posted: 6/14/2008 7:22:57 AM | | I agree 2 woman is the hottest most natural thing ever but 2 men makes me wanna vomit. | |
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| Am I gay?
Posted: 6/14/2008 12:40:14 PM | | There are other threads on this line of thinking. Where I notice the line of demarcation, so to speak, is when people openly talk about how attractive others of the same sex are. I have a male co-worker who is married, claims to be completely heterosexual, but is on a daily basis bringing up how attractive and sexy certain other men are. Now, all I can think of when he say this, is, I really can't tell if another guy is attractive or not (other than the truly ugly or grotesque). Sure, there are the extremes where almost every woman on the planet will agree that someone like George Clooney is attractive, but everyday guys walking around? Yes, the women will express that they see a certain guy who comes in as attractive, but I can't see it. This other guy does. I keep hearing things like,'Man, he's good looking' as he looks at the guy for what seems like just a little too long of a time. And, he doesn't seem to make the same remarks about the hot women that pass by. Makes me wonder...... | |
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