| So sick of hearing this
Posted: 6/4/2008 10:57:14 AM | OP, is it possible you're just overreacting? I'm wondering this because the thread started out giving the impression that this is a big issue, but later you downgraded it to: "It's not every guy saying it, just a few I've known thru my life."
Which makes me also wonder about the nature of these remarks that you're so "sick of hearing." Maybe not so much bragging and offensive and selfish, as hopeful? Another reason I'm thinking that is because it sounds like you've out and out DECIDED you can't climax that way (and are convinced most other women can't either, and are just big fat fakers).
In short, if someone's saying things on purpose to make you feel bad, that's pretty horrible. But if, in fact, he's saying it along the lines of: "Let's try again, because it's an awesome experience for both partners," I'd say cut him a break.
By the way, there really isn't a huge trick to achieving orgasm during intercourse as far as I can tell, even for those of us who require clitoral stimulation to climax. It's just a matter of positioning, in my opinion. Even a slight pelvic tilt should do it, most of the time. | |
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| So sick of hearing this
Posted: 6/4/2008 12:13:27 PM | You can post all the numbers you want to back up your beliefs, and one lady friend of mine went so far as to buy me a copy of the Hite report that "proved" women can't climax from vaginal intercourse. This was because she couldn't (got off like a champ from her vibrator though) and she wanted to show me that all the women I knew that did (some about like shooting a string of firecrackers) were just fooling me. Well no use messing up a good thing so I played along and humored her the way the guys who are fukking you ladies who can't probably do. Yeah, sweetie it's all just fake and they ain't got a thing you ain't got... | |
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| So sick of hearing this
Posted: 6/4/2008 9:32:54 PM | | some men feel the need for a male ego boost, if they can't get one they give themselves one, sad huh? many men have never practiced since puberty the art of giving and not just taking....if they are takers and not givers they for-go foreplay and just gain pleasure for themselves.......those that hink with their penis i guess need their ego inflated | |
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| So sick of hearing this
Posted: 6/4/2008 9:40:09 PM | OP you need to start dating men who are more sensitive and don't feel compelled to make sex into a competition. You are who you are and you climax the way you climax. You aren't broken and the women they had before weren't necessarily lying or faking.
Just don't date clods. | |
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| So sick of hearing this
Posted: 6/5/2008 8:26:07 PM | So by the stats from Sperm Wars, "some 30% in all can climax during intercourse often or always." Of course, that doesn't say if intercourse is including clitoral stimulation or not, but still, relatively high numbers considering it isn't including those who climax less than "often."
Still, I didn't say it before, but it is pretty sad to be bragging about that. *chuckle* I have had a pretty good success rate, but I don't ever "brag" about it except in a context like this. In real life, I have always tried to let people judge for themselves. | |
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| So sick of hearing this
Posted: 6/5/2008 8:38:25 PM |
I suspect either these guys are lying, or their women faked it like there was no tomorrow.
LOL If they have to tell you about it then they are lying or their women faked it.
Next time some guy starts feeding you that line ask him to describe what he did in detail. You will get a wet crotch either way, from passion or laughter.
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| So sick of hearing this
Posted: 6/5/2008 9:20:14 PM | and talking about ex's and sex and their orgasms is supposed to get you all hot and bothered ?
yeah riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight
we all have previous experiences and partners , they teach us various things (good and bad) but that doesn't need to be discussed with a new partner!
I have no interest in how many times his ex girl came , I'm too busy caring about my own pleasure... and his..... period.
next time he talks about it I would ask him not to talk about it anymore as it takes away from the mood , drastically, plus every woman has different likes/dislikes in the bedroom , just as every man does ,so comparing people this way is like comparing apples and oranges! | |
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| So sick of hearing this
Posted: 6/6/2008 6:06:02 PM | | I agree with you 100 percent tiger.whatever these guys did in the past is the past. My saying is"you can't win todays game withyesterdays score". You have to go into this thing with the attitude that this is the finals not the playoffs lol | |
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| So sick of hearing this
Posted: 6/6/2008 6:35:07 PM |
we all have previous experiences and partners , they teach us various things (good and bad) but that doesn't need to be discussed with a new partner!
I'd disagree with that. But how you bring u the past would be crucial. No sense in missing out of something you know you like just because the other person is unaware.
Still shaking my head over this being an "opening line" though, and the WAY it gets tossed in there.... man just clueless is all I can think. | |
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| So sick of hearing this
Posted: 6/6/2008 6:49:58 PM | | Interesting thread. My last girlfriend COULD NOT get off on intercourse, and I never had a problem with that. But then some previous girlfriends had no problem whatsoever , seems the "on top" position was best for them, so they could control exactly what and when they wanted. Now fast forward, the last g/f steadfastly refused to believe the others did orgasm this way, in fact she accused me, or them, of lying. All a bit silly really, because I adored giving her pleasure in other ways, to see her happy made me happy.. | |
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| So sick of hearing this
Posted: 6/7/2008 7:48:14 AM | | I have this problem with saying too much sometimes. I love to tell stories and often there is some serious, revealing information about myself in the story. Women can learn a lot about a man if they are patient and don't go into a complete brain lock the moment a guy mentions a past relationship. I listen very intently when women talk about their exes, because I beleive they are trying to reveal themselves to me within the context of the story. I really appreciate the rare woman who understands this concept and can laugh and listen to what I learned from an experience. I've told many women some stories about my marriage or dates or sexual escapades that I think are very self revealing and often very funny. Only a handful of women can actually hear anything I say after I mention another woman, because they are so hung up on the fact that I'm not talking about "them "every minute. They can't seem to understand that the strory teller is usually the central figure of a story and is interacting with people within the story. The story is about who they are and what they've experienced and learned in their life. It's not like they are telling you a story about a time when their ex husband went on a camping trip, with some random girl and they got severe mosquito bites on their butts, because they were so into having sex that they forgot to close the tent. They Are that "random girl". The story is funny, because it's about Them and something They experienced. It's not about how good their ex-husband was in bed. | |
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| So sick of hearing this
Posted: 6/7/2008 7:55:33 AM | ^^Totally agree with you Skyman...but I think the OP's experience was most definitely beyond what you describe here! LOL
Unfortunately there ARE the sorts, who, the very first bit of communication out of their mouths, is TMI...about their sexual prowess, how they love to eat kitty, how they swallow, they give a mean massage, etc. FINE if you are looking for little more than an intimate encounter..but when you are contacting someone that is not looking for that, then back off! ;O) | |
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