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| i must be missing somthing here ?
Posted: 6/3/2008 9:58:24 PM | | No likes to be dumped, and perhaps your anger should be directed at yourself first for being too blind to realize you were with someone incompatible. The signs were there for a long time that things were not going to work out. Perhaps you loved her to a point of blindness but don't b...tch at her. You are responsible for your own happiness, and now that you've realized what it is that you want, be thankful you learned something from the experience. We don't get along with everyone we meet, and it's the ones we don't get along with that teaches us the most about ourselves. Be thankful she dumped you because you were too clingy to let go. She has her reasons and had the guts to move on even when you weren't. Learn to love and let go when you have to. Her family may snobs, but I am not surprised. In reading your profile, you state you have a graduate's degree yet you have at least 5 spelling errors in your profile. Perhaps you are not as educated as you describe. Emotional intelligence is not something everyone acquires. | |
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| i must be missing somthing here ?
Posted: 6/3/2008 10:08:21 PM | Man pretty
Uhm, am I missing something? You were dumped and now you're here saying you walked away?
I think what he meant was he walked away from pining for her and being miserable without her. And now, hallelujah, he is happier. Good for him! He finally got her out of his skin. Well, not exactly as he said he misses her at times but he won't be human if he doesn't. But the great thing is he realizes that it was her loss and not his.
Congratulations! Now tell us how you came back from the darkened cave with such an inspiring and positive outlook. How you turned this into a success story... | |
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| i must be missing somthing here ?
Posted: 6/3/2008 11:16:47 PM | | I have never seen such an aptly titled post. This guy comes on to say that someone broke up with him and then he bad mouths her and her family (so brave once she's left him) and somehow he's an inspiration? That's just sad really, for him and the rest of you (Lacirque excluded of course). | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 11:21:57 PM | | Almost a double post. Anyway, this would all be so much more palatable if he had his epiphany before she dumped his sorry butt and not after. Now it's just the sad, bitter tale of a jilted lover. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 3:02:22 AM | If there is one thing that irks me, it is someone who has nothing but negative attitude about anything under the sun. We are trying to lift the OP's spirit, or share in his happiness for having slain his demons not because he is an "inspiration," because we have all been there before. But noooo!
Why, he has no right to feel that way? Let's be judgmental. Let's attack him for the spelling errors in his profile, never mind that ours are riddled with typos and arrogance. Let's attack his education and show that we are better than him. Let the ex get the benefit of the doubt. The OP does not deserve that. Let the negative karma prevail. People are turning this tale of broken heart into a success story. That is simply not how it is done at POF. Oh no!
Note: Read one of the modertors' comments: Discuss the issues not the poster.
Oh, he is in a jovial spirit and gotten over his heartache? That's simply not right!!! Let's not only remind him that he is a jilted lover and has no right to feel this way. (Why, I have not even recovered from mine yet, why has he?) Let's put him back where he belongs ...right on the ground and let's kick him while he is down to let him know that he has no right to feel good. Misery loves company...Let's also attack the other posters. Let's have group misery!
That's just sad really, for him and the rest of you (Lacirque excluded of course).
Because " it's just the sad, bitter tale of a jilted lover...,” my foot! Feel better now? Do you want some cheese?
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Posted: 6/4/2008 6:51:48 AM | | No, "we" all haven't been there before. Some of us have moved on without slagging the ex and their family in a public forum. If the OP is really in a better place then why resort to name calling? Sorry if not all of us condone that sort of behaviour. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 7:09:04 AM | Exactly, Mr. Sturgon. Live, learn & grow. Isn't that what we're here for? Good luck, Opie on finding a po lo maintanance wo-man. But remember, lo mantanance usually means not very glamorous. Dirt under the fingernails instead of a buff manicure. Callouses from working, not a big education, Wal-Mart clothes...Wait! That's ME!!! | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 1:28:16 PM |
Sorry if not all of us condone that sort of behaviour.
Holy Moses! Who said any one is condoning it? I thought the aim was to share in his joy. But if in anyway you have some connection with his ex's family, hey my apologies...They must be cowering under their designer blankets 'cause each of the posters here knows who they are now! POF is better than the tabloids.
It is bad enough that he did not identify them, he did NOT even post their pictures in this Public Forum. Tsssk... He is not a very effective town crier. He was just letting off steam. The Op is simply incompetent in "slagging the ex and their family” to perfection. We missed that the first time around. Another reason to kick him some more. While we are doing this "holier than thou" act (My pastor will surely give us points for this.), we are passing more cheese! Here, have some more. Let's go back to celebrating our group misery.
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Posted: 6/4/2008 2:13:29 PM | "then finacee announced she wasnt happy and told me to get out ."
"Uhm, am I missing something? You were dumped and now you're here saying you walked away? Dude, come on now. Bitter much?"
I was wondering the same thing. It's amazing how people twist being dumped into something that was the other person's fault.
Can anyone say, "Bitter"? | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 2:09:04 PM | well yeah im bitter about it , i invested lot of time and energy into the relationship ...who wouldnt have some bitterness ? yes ive moved on and would be a liar if i said i didnt still miss her but know in my heart the relationship would be totaly on her terms and thats when i walked away .
also failed to mention she was seeing other guys through this process to ....think what you want but im glad its over ! | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 4:51:12 PM | | Everything is relative I guess. I remember being out on our usual tent camping trip with my long time love-r and he turned to me and said, "gheesh, you are a high maintenance woman!" LOL. I was there chopping the wood and making the fire and I asked him if he was making the tea.....OMG!! He was dead serious too. That made me laugh then and it still makes me laugh thinking about it. It's all relative....yup, it is. Good for you OP, with an attitude like yours, you will always be on the right side of the tracks. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 5:03:24 PM | Watch what you say people, don't be tooooo mean or vicious about the ex. This was only posted last week, he'll probably be back with her by next week.  | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 5:21:32 PM | | I like your response. There is good and bad on both sides. Being rich or good looking doesnt necessarily make you a good person or a bad one either. If you look at a person from where their heart is you will have a much better relationship. It works that way for friendships as well. Linda "Claywoman" | |
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| i must be missing somthing here ?
Posted: 6/9/2008 5:32:27 PM |
also failed to mention she was seeing other guys through this process to
And what process exactly are you talking about? The one in which she left you? Correct me if I'm wrong but once a person breaks up with you aren't they free to date whomever they wish? The whole point that I'm trying to make is that you haven't "moved" on. Moving on is leaving behind the bitterness and the name calling and the blaming. It's about taking personal responsibility for your role in the demise of the relationship. It's also not calling your new group of friends "losers". Being poor certainly doesn't make you a better class of person, you are what you are regardless of your social situation. You might want to hold off on all those other dates until you've worked through this little issue first.
But what do I know, I'm the pretty one, not the smart one! | |
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| i must be missing somthing here ?
Posted: 6/16/2008 6:11:49 PM | OP-- so glad to hear that you realized the bratty diva wasn't worth your love, however, you have just openly admitted you are still bitter. Are you sure you are ready to start dating again? I've had dates with bitter dudes who were definately not ready to date yet and spent the entire evening a) saying how proud they were of themselves for 'moving on' and b) dissin' the ex.
Gotta tell ya dude, us girls find that sooooo attractive (not)...perhaps some down time and some inner reflection is needed way more than dating multiple unwary women who probably need that kinda crap like a hole in the head...JMO | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 6:31:10 PM | I have to agree with everyone here...except this one...
basically she was a selfish individual.. realises the "buck stop here"..(sorta)
and like what every woman does, went looking for the next best thing..
Gross generalizations like that just show ignorance. EVERY woman is NOT like that! And....there are lots of men who do the same thing.
Uhm, am I missing something? You were dumped and now you're here saying you walked away? Dude, come on now. Bitter much?
I think he meant that she dumped him but soon after he realized it was best to let her go and walk away from his grief....feel free to correct me if I am wrong!
JJ
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| i must be missing somthing here ?
Posted: 6/20/2008 9:20:21 AM | | ManPretty sounds to me like you know this person, but i know you don't. Just so happens I do know this person actually both involved. Please people you should remember that there are two sides to all stories. | |
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