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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 10:10:29 PM | One guy not only asked me to wear mini dress and high-heeled shoes, but also requested that I paint my nails red and wear vivid red lipstick. I told him I'm not into that style and I hate the colour red and I would come to the date as me.
Sure enough, I never heard from him again and even deleted his profile. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 10:34:17 PM | A gentleman would not ask a lady to dress sexy at all. He would leave it to her and perhaps just let her know the name of the restaurant so you know whether to dress up or casual.
If a man asks me to dress sexy I wouldn't like it all, considering I don't know him. It implies there is sexual pressure here, and unless you want to have sex or get raped on first date, then go ahead.
If you want him to respect you, this is the moment to tell him now. You must tell him you don't appreciate his request, and you expect him to be a gentleman. You tell him you'll wear something elegant.
If you don't tell him, I guarantee that down the road ie perhaps second date, you'll end up sleeping with him, and regret it, because it's obvious he's only interested in sex. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 10:40:09 PM | I usually ask "How are we dressing? Casual or formal or inbetween?". And say no futher. This way I can see just how much effort she puts into meeting me. This is a good sign of what kind of person she is and how she likes to dress. If my date shows up with no make up at all and wearing some old worn out jeans and a t shirt Ive got to wonder why she even bothered to drive. Dose she use toilet paper too? Or drip dry? haha  | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 10:53:58 PM | if i was asked flat out to wear something "sexy"....to me, it would be a red flag telling me hes just another horndog...
if it was a question asked further on in the relationship....no worries.
but dude, first meeting? *shudders* creepy. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 11:06:54 PM | Instinctually, I probably wouldn't take well to such a request, but now that I think about it, I've had a lot of men show up for a first date (first meeting from online dating, when you would think they'd want to give a good first impression too!) dressed unattractively. I don't mind jeans as everyone here dresses fairly casually, and some jeans look great. But at least a plain t-shirt or button down shirt, not a big logo t-shirt, please. So maybe I should be requesting men to dress a certain way for the first date...hmmm...something to think about  | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 11:25:34 PM | | I'd dress first for my own comfort and also in a way that goes with the date. No heels/dress for a bbq at the beach! Other then that, heck yeah I'd dress sexy probably more to feel confident for myself but also for my date, (no not the dominatrix thing) but he needs to put some effort into his dress as well. It's more a matter of complimenting each other. Although that doesn't mean I am agreeing to anything behind bedrooms doors. Is the request for more then just special attire for a date? That's the question you need to understand. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/4/2008 11:07:23 AM | | I find it kind of creepy. But also, as a guy, I wouldn't ask her to wear this or that because I would like to see what type of taste she has. Now it has been the case where the lady has ask why type of place are we going and what would be good for it. Now that is different. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/4/2008 11:07:49 AM | personally, i think its a compliment to ask nicely to dress sexy....but most women dont look at it that way...
A first date is a bit bold i agree..but alot depends on the previous conversations, time, and so forth.
Listen, i'm gonna try to look my best as well. i covered something like this in a previous post as to women coming out to dinner (expensive) in sweats and tennis shoes, which is a total turnoff.
i say if you got it..flaunt it..we men are visual creatures anyways and i dont see the big harm. i like arm candy..altho i know i'll get hammered for that statement. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/4/2008 11:11:23 AM | Hey - hi everyone
Asked the girls at work this one today, and guess what - not one of them would wear anything they were told to wear, most came up with 'what is his idea of sexy'?
And the chat turned to men dont marry Sl*ts, they marry the nice ladies, so the date would be just that Tarts & Vicars,  | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/4/2008 11:15:02 AM | See, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date that means he thinks hes getting
sex, there fore no I would not dress sexy for him. I think its rude for a guy to ask a girl
to dress sexy on the 1st date.. Just goes to show you some men are pigs.
its ashame the truth hurts,but that is how it is... | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/4/2008 11:15:10 AM | | Hmm thinking these guys are on the wrong site.......................If it was somewhere that would require a specific type of clothing, say skiing????!!!!!! ok, but personal requests for lowcut/high rising.............Oh I really dont think so. Something just screams SHALLOW!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/4/2008 2:52:36 PM | I gotta agree with almost all the ladies here -- it's inappropriate as an unsolicited demand.
For me, other than attire suggestions that relate to the venue where the date is taking place, a guy making demands about who I should be and look like on the FIRST date would result in said first date being immediately canceled.
That said -- this is a time when tone of voice may not be coming through over email or IM. I can certainly imagine a man joking "wear something sexy!" if he is excited about a first date. In that case it wouldn't be a demand -- it would just be a wish. He's hoping when you show up he will find you to be as sexy in person as he is imagining. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/4/2008 3:07:23 PM | | No, I don't like to date guys that are overly focused on sexuality right away or controlling of what I wear. I have a huge wardrobe and love clothes. It is a creative outlet for me to be able to wear what I want, and the guy is never disappointed. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/4/2008 3:22:25 PM | I have discussed with men what we would be doing so that I could dress appropriately. Perhaps the comment on the profile about what your body can still do and the flexibility due to yoga has them imagining more than you want in that area?
I had a first date recently and he asked me what I was wearing so that he could dress accordingly. Perhaps you should buy a couple of cheap Barbies, show up at the dates with the dolls and the outfits and tell them to have at it.
If you have spoken with someone for God knows how long or you otherwise feel that you know them very well, a request of that sort would not be as strange as it would be in the situations I think you are describing. I would show up however I wanted or tell them that controlling you don't need and take a pass.
Sexual fantasies are the stuff of mature relationships with time already invested or hookers. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/4/2008 7:31:13 PM | I dress classy no matter where I go.
I dress with flare, sensuality, and high heels without anything exposed for a night out at the restaurant with tablecloths. I love to be the one to bring attention to the gifts God has given me, but those gifts are hidden for the man I am chosen for for the rest of my life...call me a prude but my man will call me his and his alone...sexy is for the man I am in love with and none other. ~PJ | |
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