| Broken heart (again)
Posted: 6/4/2008 9:47:18 PM | | I guess like myself you have met with the wrong men as I have had the same problem with women I have met. So it is not just the guys. I was seeing someone for six months. Treated her very well and had taken her on vacation, all expenses paid by myself. Six days after returning instead of at least a thank you card I get an email ending the relationship. Talk about a cowardly act. | |
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| Broken heart (again)
Posted: 6/4/2008 10:11:27 PM | | Dont feel so bad , I have been dating a man for 2 years told me last weekend he wants to break up and is already out on plentyoffish looking for someone else right now. I thought everything was great we even had plans to go to a concert and some where for for 4th of july. 2 weeks ago everything was fine and now I cry myself to sleep every night. I dont know what I did. I know I didnt cheat, Only thing I did was Love Him I guess I shouldnt have done that. MY HEART is Broke. | |
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| Broken heart (again)
Posted: 6/4/2008 10:30:34 PM | It seems that if all guys go through that period of indecision at the 3-month stage, women would have better success by letting the physical intimacy build more slowly. Don't give up everything all at once. This not only protects our hearts but keep us challenging to the guy. Again, when the guy starts pulling away at this stage, it doesn't necessarily mean he's gone for good. It means he's not sure and pulling back to check out his other options. It is of utmost importance not to chase him. K
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I think that general advice is given to men and woman everyday here on POF.
You have a pursuer and pursued. She is pursued, then goes for it. He is happy, but then IT COULD BE A FEW DAYS OR a few months, he backs off....Hopefully, after this juncture, they REALLY MAKE A COMITTMENT.
Personally, I'd hope a lady and I "get connected", get emotional, before 3 months (with or without sex, preferably with). Then, the "commitment" phase can ensue. | |
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| Broken heart (again)
Posted: 6/5/2008 12:03:53 AM | | It's partly to do with the age that you are at. If he is 22 as well...then alot of guys are just wanting to have fun and not ready to settle down. If you are mature for your age and want a serious relationship, then try dating an older guy. | |
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| Broken heart (again)
Posted: 6/5/2008 4:55:09 AM | If you never go away ,how could he miss you????
Stop getting involved after a breakup and take time out for yourself !
My sister is like this,she can not be without a man in her life so she takes one idiot after another and then cries over them.
I was seeing someone for six months. Treated her very well and had taken her on vacation, all expenses paid by myself. maybe she really got to know you during that vacation and decided that she wasn`t for you.Life happens and people have a right to change their mind. | |
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| Broken heart (again)
Posted: 6/5/2008 7:00:53 AM | I reread your profile and saw that you were always the one going to see him ( at his request????? Did you ever make a request that he pay you a visit? It's a two way street when it comes to having a relationship. I made that mistake once and paid a very painful price for it. Your life, family, friends, where you live and who you are is just as important as his. You can't expect a man to enjoying being in your life if you don't have one. Your relationship is not all about him.... It's about the two of you..... I just want you to think about this... When your in a relationship are you still happy with your own life? Do you still see and enjoy your family and friends? Do you bring fun and adventure into the relationship or do you depend on him for it.... if so your putting a lot of pressure on the men your with and after awhile they can't help but feel smothered .
So my advice is love yourself and your life first, Their's nothing wrong with having a brick wall up and protecting your heart.... A man needs to earn your your trust and respect.... after all he's a stranger when you meet . So take things slow and remove your wall brick by brick as the trust , respect, and relationship builds....... | |
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| Broken heart (again)
Posted: 6/5/2008 7:10:24 AM | spoilt??????????????????
where are you from with that language
very curious | |
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| Broken heart (again)
Posted: 6/11/2008 7:53:00 PM | Hi rscba.
That was a very cowardly act. You are better off without her even though it may not feel that way at first. Just curious to know: have you heard from her since the email? Did you call her to get some closure? I'm just seeking some closure myself.
I hate the fact that I think about the break up email I received every day. I know it word for word. I don't usually have a hard time letting go so what do you suggest? Some friends have told me to call him up and let him have it but I would like to put this behind me.
What did you do after the email? | |
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| Broken heart (again)
Posted: 6/12/2008 10:04:53 AM | The reason why many have their heart broken over and over is they are poor at picking a man.
You see what you want to see. Take your time and look at someones acting and not their words. You may have also smothered him; and why are YOU visiting him; so he said it so you do it? A classy guy would see you as well.
Make better decisions and you wont be fooled again. | |
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| Broken heart (again)
Posted: 6/12/2008 11:58:25 AM | i dont think he meant to break your heart, he just realised that it wasnt going to work, espechially with this person causing trouble.
long distance relationships are differcult at the best of times, you dont need some troublemaker on top of that.
if he introduced you to his familie, his intentions must have been good, as you dont do that if it is a fling.
if you are still in touch id try to keep talking to him, and see if you can sort things out, without any outside interferance! why cant he come to see you? | |
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| Broken heart (again)
Posted: 6/12/2008 12:37:44 PM | | "Men" didn't do this to you....your man did....just another boo hoo poor me sob story....stop feeling sorry for yourself and get over it. | |
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| Broken heart (again)
Posted: 6/12/2008 12:46:28 PM | | I think he was just thinking of his weekend at that time...and forgot at that minute how you felt. Just an opinion though. He's probably changed his mind by now. | |
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| Broken heart (again)
Posted: 6/12/2008 1:46:52 PM | | well ian c 69 don't judge me i don't feel sorry for myself ive been through worse and still have the physical scars so please feeling sorry for myself is the last thing i would do | |
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| Broken heart (again)
Posted: 6/12/2008 6:23:22 PM | | Not all men are like that, do you ever think it is that some women just do things to spoil it for ourselfs. Do not lump all men together becasuse most are good kind people but you have to kiss alot of frogs before you find your prince. I found mine but thought he was another frog but i through him back and it is to late to do anything about it. So be patient he is out there. | |
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| Broken heart (again)
Posted: 6/13/2008 11:13:17 AM | Glad to hear it...this guy and you weren't meant for each other so forget him and move on....you've shown you have backbone and determination so use both those admirable qualities and find someone who's actually right for you.
Good luck | |
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