| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/5/2008 7:49:47 PM |
Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
I know true love exists, I've felt it before. I doubt I'll ever feel it again. And I know for SURE its not here on this site to be found. In fact, I'm pretty sure its not on the net, period.
You know, dating sites are like consultants. If they REALLY SOLVED THE PROBLEM, THEY WOULD BE OUT OF A JOB. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/5/2008 10:12:28 PM |
Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
I have met many that have been compatible, and could have been good enough, but I am holding out for the messy, unable to put into words why you love the person but know you would jump in front of a speeding train to save them before yourself, type of love..and I know what it feels like when I have it. | |
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DazzyB
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Joined: 10/9/2006
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 6:42:52 AM | I thinks both. Compatibility is important to be able to understand one another. In terms of love, I think that there are two kinds...
1) Passion - the butterflies type (being in love). This wears off over a few years but can be rekindled through compatibility and hard work,
2) Commitment - This grows through the years (sharing life with each other). It's when you are willing to give your lives up for one another and in my eyes is the most important element out of all.
In terms of the OP's question, I have met someone who I am deffinately compatible with. From what I've seen so far, we click. I wouldn't say I am in love with her but I believe that is just around the corner with time. So yes, I believe in both.
Just my opinion anyways! | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 6:52:20 AM | | True love does exist. you can find thousands that are compatible but that does nto mean u are in love with them. two totally different things. when its true love your heart will beat heavy jsut to hear from them. they will be the air u breath and the food you eat and will consume your daily and nightly thoughts. its unfortuanly a rare thing but it does exist. finding it is not easy. | |
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DazzyB
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Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 32 | |
| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 7:07:55 AM | Hi Kittenshere,
So, if you had a dream about someone that you are chatting to on the site (meeting her tomorrow - what am I doing lol!!!!!!!) and when you wake up you can smell her hair (from the dream) what would you class that as, just out of curiosity?
Dazzy. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 7:18:13 AM | | smell her hair through a dream hum lol i dont know. but from my own experience I do know that if the person takes ur breath away, consumes all your thoughts, and u feel like all u want to do is make them happy in any way it takes then ur in love. when i was in love once in all my 41 yrs i remember sitting up all night long on the couch thinking of him. i didnt sleep days or nights worth a crap. trust me u will know when its the right one. your heart will ache for them non stop. anyway best of luck with ur meeting tomorrow | |
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DazzyB
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Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 34 | |
| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 7:32:39 AM | | Lol, yeah I know it's embarrassing ain't it! (and wierd lol I did hesitate to post but though what the hell ha ha) but could it be that she is on my subconsious mind all the time, and if so, would that be classes as either in love, or a potential soul-mate? Nothing's ever happened to me like that before. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 7:54:22 AM | | its not uncommon to dream of somene you are interested in. I know I had a dream once that seem so real of the man I loved It completley woke me up and i flew up out of bed to find I was only dreaming. The man I speak of was my everyting in waking hrs and sleeping hrs. if she consumes ur every thoughts she could be the one. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 8:32:46 AM | | I used to believe in Love ...In my relationships I gave all ..now I have "grown up"..I feel that what people determine as love is just different levels of dependancy and when that dependency is no longer required relationships break down... just my opinion (no wonder I'm single) | |
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DazzyB
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Joined: 10/9/2006
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 1:30:45 PM | | well when I was in love with that guy i spoke of, i can tell you how I felt. every minute i waited for an email felt like hrs, when he emiled which was everyday, he never missed a single day , it would take my breath away to the piont i had to prepare myself to open it. once open his emails were so so beautiuful they brought tears to my eyes. I couldnt sleep due to him on my mind. I use to sit in livingroom half the night or more thinking of him. he completley consumed my both my daily and nightly thoughts. my heart ached to be with him. he became like the food i ate, the air i breathed and the light that lit my way. he was everyting to me. the thought of antoher man was a turn off to me becuae he was all I wanted or could have ever dreamed of having in my life. This is true love. if u feel this way about someone ur in love so hang on tight and take things slowly becuae u dont wnat to miss a single thing about loves beauty. there is nothing more beautiful than true love. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 2:51:23 PM | | I beleive in love but I also beleive it's hard to find and sometimes you may think you are in love but really you are just liking that person alot. For me , I will know when I'm in love when theres this girl thats on my mind litterly all the time , when I feel like I can't live without her , when nothing in this world matters as much as her , and when I feel like I would die for that person.... thats when you know your in love. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 5:59:32 PM |
well when I was in love with that guy i spoke of, i can tell you how I felt. every minute i waited for an email felt like hrs, when he emiled which was everyday, he never missed a single day , it would take my breath away to the piont i had to prepare myself to open it. once open his emails were so so beautiuful they brought tears to my eyes. I couldnt sleep due to him on my mind. I use to sit in livingroom half the night or more thinking of him. he completley consumed my both my daily and nightly thoughts. my heart ached to be with him. he became like the food i ate, the air i breathed and the light that lit my way. he was everyting to me. the thought of antoher man was a turn off to me becuae he was all I wanted or could have ever dreamed of having in my life. This is true love.
kittenshere, no it's not! That is obsession. Going not only by your posts in this thread but in others - Sorry to say it but I think you are delusional.
blakebear:
I will know when I'm in love when theres this girl thats on my mind litterly all the time , when I feel like I can't live without her , when nothing in this world matters as much as her , and when I feel like I would die for that person.... thats when you know your in love.
I agree that all those feelings mean love except for "when I feel like I would die for that person". You're young and if you're going to wait to feel that for someone, I'm sure you will be alone forever. I believe that is only something you would feel after many, many years of loving someone. It's also something we feel instinctualy for our children. That is when it is normal. If someone said that he would die for me, and it wasn't after many years together, I would suggest he get therapy. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 6:07:39 PM | lol little daisy, what is delusional about loving someone? you sound like someone who is jealous becaues u havent experienced it. maybe u think feelings are delusional but they are real. im sorry that you seem to be filled with anger for some reason. but thats ur problem not mine. i'm not trying to convince you of anyting. i was speaking to someone who asked me a question.
who are u to tell me how I felt about someone. who are you to tell me it wasnt love but obsession? you are a nobody to my situation. so please do not respond on what u dont know about. it really makes you sound delusional not me. you would have to be out of ur mind to tell me ...someone you dont even know.... how I felt about someone else. YOU DONT KNOW. you cannot possibly tell me how I felt about someone else. if i say i felt that way abouat him then i felt that way and u have no business telling me I didnt. you dont know him, u dont know me, and u certainly wasnt here to witness the beautiful long distance love we had for each other. so dont bother responding until u have something logical to say. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 6:10:17 PM | Yes, I do believe in love... But love can also disguise itself as lust ALOT of the time. I wish there was a way we could tell the difference! Unfortunately, unless you have a crystal ball that can see years into the future, its not possible.
Yes love exist, but lust is evil. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 6:25:11 PM | kittenshere41 and ~daisy~,
It is beautiful that we are different and it is perfectly fine to disagree in your experiences and views and to state your opposing views as long as they are expressed in a nice way...
Kittenshare41, I think that the experiences you shared are beautiful!!! Thanks for sharing them!!! | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 6:27:42 PM | Love is real. When it comes right down to it, it's the ONLY thing that's real. Certainly, it is the only thing that matters.
That said, my advice to anyone relatively new to this world of "pairing off" would be this: Do NOT fall in love with someone until you know whether you truly LIKE him/her. Yes, I know--tall order! I guess what I'm saying is, after 2 or 5 or 8 times "doing what comes naturally", most of us finally gain the wisdom that helps us impose a discipline on our naive hearts. | |
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Cazimi
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Joined: 3/15/2008
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 6:34:41 PM | I Believed in love with a compatible person.
I have always been a strong believer of love.
I am a very intense and passionate woman, I can't settle for less than the real thing.
But I have given up on love, I don't think real love exist anymore .
The world has changed, nothing is simple anymore .
People are much more complicated, life is more complicated.
Men don't understand women, women don't understand men.
Reading stories on the forum from both sexes is not helpful at all ,
it just adds to the confusion .
I've given up on love, the kind of love I want. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 6:56:26 PM | OPie, why didn't you ask the question you meant the usual way: Who is willing to settle? And who is holding out for the fireworks?
I ask that because of all this goober about, "Oh no! I want love, but I want to be compatible, TOO," as if you were asking either/or. As if anybody would choose a pain in the arse they happened to love. Maybe if you had used the ordinary idiom, settling, fewer people would type about nothing.
But what am I saying?
My take on your question is that no one can say what love is. We can only say when we think we have it, and we are often wrong. Even when we get a bead on it, we still can't say when it will start, with whom, how long it will be good enough, or when we might wake up to find it gone, like a dead fish on the pillow.
But, you know what? The very same things are true of congenial company. The person who always makes us sour and pissy can one day suddenly be a rock and an anchor, or the bright spot in our day. Our most comfortable and storied friendship can run out of story and grow awkward and silent.
I don't say nothing lasts, because I have seen love last, and companionship, too. Maybe I'm only pointing out that burnin' love can fade into dull, comfortable companionship, just as pals can, without warning, build up steam for one another. So, you know, even if someone tries to answer your question, even if s/he tries to live by that answer, none of us ever know what we're going to get. Choosing ain't even half of it! Me? I try to enjoy the changes right along side the unchanging. I like surprises!
Cheers!
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 7:05:19 PM | I think that meeting someone who meets criteria and such is the first step and the love comes after... but everybody calls that feeling something esle because that feeling is different for everyone and I think that what you want, what you look for should be what is right for you and not what everyone else is saying is the right or wrong way to do things.
Trust yourself. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/7/2008 7:20:41 PM | I believe in love, however compatibility does have it's place in relationships.
i define love as being unconditional, no matter the circumstance or situation.
how do you recognize it? simple, you don't.. when it happens, you just know.. it's like you've been struck by lightning.. romantically of course.
Over the years, I've found that the harder i tried searching for love, the harder it was to find.
when you search for love, you build up too many expectations about this person you want to meet, and that in itself is totally WRONG. you know what i mean- she/he HAS to be this or that, she/he HAS to like this or that, etc.
sure looks do matter, but again, love should be unconditional.. after all, we all fall in love with the person on the inside right?
this is why i have stopped searching for love a long time ago, and instead let love find me. | |
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