| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/12/2008 2:30:46 PM | Attraction that leads to chemistry is the beginning of compatibility......
I gave up on looking for love long ago, and now search for that chemistry, compatibility, and mental meshing that follows along the same lines as similar desire, education, and financial stability.
If you can fit as many of the puzzle pieces together, the end result will be a much clearer picture of what that puzzle was to start with, and love may or may not follow as the picture develops.
At our mature stage of life, living, and romance........I am with "Tina" on this one......"What's Love got to do with it?"....... 
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/12/2008 3:20:14 PM |
Real lasting love is a very wonderful thing and has nothing to do with glamor or romance. Its about caring, protecting, understanding, and feeling totally secure in the eyes of your loved one.its about knowing that you are the most important person in their life It takes work and commitment and it doesn't just happen but its the most worthwhile thing in the world.
Truer words have never spoken more, you see the whole enchilada and not just the bright lights[aka ego] because even they go out at some time and then theres just me and you and then what? Love is the ribbon and all the rest lies inside the box.
Wants come and go and needs are something most people look for but because of our
personal condition or past experiences, the things that should mean the most are out of reach and or keep at a arms distance. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/13/2008 3:31:37 PM | Love exists... but not in the one true person ideal.
"one true love" is just a fairy tale and a myth of fate.
Love is about what you put into it, and how happy you are with the person. It is definitly possible to be in love after the 1-2 year mark and bring joy to one another. But its not a gimme, and it doesn't come if you don't do anything. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/13/2008 4:30:00 PM | Not only do I believe in love I believe in all of the magic associated.
I define it as when you look forward to that persons presense in your life either as a freind or more. Instead of wondering about the what ifs you wonder about the what ares. Never thinking "what am I doing " just knowing from my perspective it is right. I have a ton more but am in a hurry.
It is not specfically recognized like a good job, nice house, right shirt. The spirit is felt.
I have had this happen one time. Her dilemmas were to great. I hope to love again. She allowed my unconditional venerability.*tear | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/14/2008 4:09:03 AM |
Do you believe in and are you waiting for the true love to make commitment decisions, such as an exclusive relationship or a marriage, or are you just looking for someone who meets your certain criteria without any love expectations?
I'd prefer both. I don't have a lot of specific criteria set beyond a few major things that I hope will keep me safer in life.
If you believe in love, how do you define and recognize it?
I've never tried to define it, but when I'm dating someone and I actually want to be with them I take that as a good start. I can only think of one person I've ever dated who I can fit put into that category. I pursued the rest for a while, but eventually lost interest for one reason or another. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/14/2008 4:28:32 AM | If you believe in love, how do you define and recognize it?
If your truely in love you wont have to ask how to recognize it. You will feel like the world circles around this person. He/she will become the air u breathe, the food you eat, the light that lights ur way, he/she will consume ur daily and nightly thoughts. when its real there is no mistaking it. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/14/2008 6:32:22 AM | i dont think that you can just be happy with someone you are compatable with, there has to be love involved otherwise down the line one or both peopele will want out!
Exactly. Without love you got nothing. you got a firend to do things with and nothing else. You can be compatible with half the world. there must be chemistry. chemistry and compatible are two diff things. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/19/2008 10:13:52 AM | well, im not going to fall in love with someone im not compatible with
no one said u had to. but compatibility does not mean same thing as love. you can be compatible with hunderds of people but without the love to go with it ...you got nothing more than a friend to do things with. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 6/27/2008 10:24:14 PM | I honestly think its more about finding peace of mind....about finding that person you can be yourself with and not who everyone wants or thinks you should be. If you can ever do that then your on your way .... unless somone changes the rules on you then you simply change the record, and play another song. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 7/27/2008 2:08:30 PM | I believe in both.
It's possible to live with a compatible person without feeling burning love and it is possible to love somebody you are not compatible with ( but it won't last as a live-in/marriage situation).
This question has been phrased very poorly, in my opinion.
Personally, I can love everybody, but I cannot live with somebody unless the relationship makes me stronger: this might have or might not have anything to do with love; however, it has a lot to do with compatibility.
It would be easier for me to live and have a marriage with somebody I am compatible with, without burning love ( which just turns you into ashes, how great-) than living with somebody I have a burning love for but I am not compatible with ( example: my ex husband).
Paradoxically, those that I love the most, are also those I cannot have a relationship with. | |
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| Do you Believe in Love or is it Just About Finding a Compatible Person?
Posted: 7/29/2008 7:50:14 PM | | Sometimes it may seem hard to find...but I really believe you can find love and compatibility. You just really need to be true to yourself and hopefully be able to have a great relationship based on open communication (and lots of passion!). First, you need to know yourself well so you can identify those qualities in a person that you gotta have (the potential deal-breakers). I've been in enough truly loving relationships where we've been crazy about each other but being younger back then with more time to "play" with...there wasn't too much worry about compatibility stuff since oh well, if it doesn't work out...onto the next one! I've still got a lot of love to give to my future sweetie, just because I like to do things to make him happy, to see a smile on his face (and hopefully, he'll know me well enough to know what makes me happy). I just know my heart is still open. But compatibility is something that's been more on my mind these days. I know what kind of love I'm capable of from looking back at my past two 5 yr. long term relationships, so this time around...I'm willing to wait a little longer for my match. My ex from 2 relationships ago still reminds me that I'm still a great catch so I try to keep that in mind and tell myself to be patient :) You shouldn't just "settle" for compatibility...that would just be safe and boring! | |
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