| How soon do you ask your date how long he/she has been single?
Posted: 6/19/2008 1:58:54 PM |
couldn't you say that it's a good thing she passes you up
I was thinking more along the lines that this erroneous assumption is a small flaw in an otherwise delightful package. However you are probably correct. Good riddance.
In any case this thread has been useful. If sincere answers can be twisted and misinterpreted, there is apparently such a thing as too much honesty. From now on I will give much thought to WHY each question is being asked, and if necessary, lie through my teeth. Ha ha ha. | |
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| How soon do you ask your date how long he/she has been single?
Posted: 6/30/2008 11:36:03 AM | | I usually like to know in the e-mail phase. Or if it was someone I met elsewhere, I'll ask on the first date. I remember being in the rebound phase and have no desire to date anyone right out of a long-term relationship. It has been mentioned that some people do heal more quickly than others. Well, those aren't people I'd like to date either. They may be over their former partner, but I don't want to be with someone who can turn off their feelings so easily either. Plus I'm a firm believer in being on your own for awhile, not jumping from one relationship to another. | |
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| How soon do you ask your date how long he/she has been single?
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:56:54 PM | Why don't people put that on there list of requirements on there profile.
(Maybe some folk do already?)
1. Must not have recently come out of a long term relationship.
2. You need to have been single for (Insert how many months) before I feel comfortable
in dating you.
Could weed out potential rebounders etc...
Just an idea. | |
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| How soon do you ask your date how long he/she has been single?
Posted: 7/2/2008 12:40:27 PM | | You might as well figure it doesn't matter when it comes up. If they have a problem with it, better to find out sooner, rather than later. It's hard, but it's a fact. Think about what you want to know about them and ask. | |
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| How soon do you ask your date how long he/she has been single?
Posted: 7/2/2008 9:06:55 PM | | Adam: I agree completely with your point of view. In my case, my husband and I had been married for seven years, but we had both (in our own ways) come to a place where we knew it was over long before that (meaning years). So, after separating and people asked how long I'd been single, I would have to go into a really long explanation about when I moved out and when I was "through" with the relationship, which were two completely different responses. Some took it well, others saw it as suspicious. Just my experience.... | |
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| How soon do you ask your date how long he/she has been single?
Posted: 7/4/2008 11:07:12 PM | | I want to know before I even go out with them. If they just came out of a long term relationship 2-3 months ago, then they are still in the healing process. There may be drama issues or emotional issues that still haven't been worked through yet. Just clues you in on where they are and where they are going... and if they are ready. | |
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