| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 12/18/2008 8:06:03 AM | | The chances of finding a virgin over the age of 18 these days is pretty rare in general. | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 12/18/2008 8:38:30 AM | | I've been seeing someone lately (a 20 year old) with almost no sexual experience, whereas I have plenty. It's caused some jokes at my expense among my friends, but I've really enjoyed exposing him to new things and maybe teaching him a thing or two. The look of awe on his face is absolutely worth it - he's kind of a sensitive guy, too, so he's very much willing to please and learn. That's what makes him a good lover, not his prior experiences....I think that goes for most people in general. | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 12/18/2008 2:15:29 PM | I love dating virgins. You know why? 'Cause I'm a virgin myself. No kidding. With a virgin, I don't have to worry about getting pressured for sex. A pure guy is a major turn-on for me. Virgins are sexy!!
I've dated non-experienced virgins in my days. They were okay. I had to teach them a few tricks. How ironic is that? I actually prefer experienced virgins since I'm an experienced virgin myself. And I gotta tell you, a few of these experienced virgins were much better lovers than experienced non-virgins. | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 12/18/2008 2:19:02 PM | I couldn't date a virgin. I'm too much of a horn dog.
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 12/18/2008 2:30:20 PM | shannalee,
You are assuming a virgin wouldn't want to have sex? I find that an odd assumption...
"The chances of finding a virgin over the age of 18 these days is pretty rare in general."
I actually don't think it's that rare. I think people just tend to stay quiet about it because there's such a social taboo these days around being virgin.
I feel like if you didn't lose it in high school and other people you knew did, from that point on people are embarassed about it and may even shy away from dating as a result. I think if people were more okay with admitting to being virgins, then all the virgins would realize they're not alone and would probably be able to lose it sooner, ironically... | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 12/18/2008 2:41:04 PM | ^^Not that they wouldn't want to have sex, but wouldn't be good at it...
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Posted: 12/18/2008 3:21:28 PM | But, I mean, everyone has to LEARN at some point, right?
Man, I do think it kinda sucks how we've now got this culture where men and women BOTH think sex is supposed to be what they care about far more than anything else...
I think it causes so many problems, at some point or another. | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 12/18/2008 5:28:16 PM | hell im a virgin, im 22 years old and like some of the others here i just havn't found someone im comfortable with yet, i just dont want a one night stand sure i've been offered sex by some close female friends but i dont want just a one night stand if i did id just get really drunk and go to the bar and let some girl take me home but anyways being a virgin is not always a bad thing well i dont find it is anyways i still have alot of fun, with my female friends you dont have to hace sex to have a good relationship but im sure sex is a healthy part of a relationship and if two people are into one another then yeah go for it but untill i find someone im comfortable with then i guess ill remain a virgin, and no i dont have to love her and we dont gotta date forever, i just dont want a one night stand never talk to her again, id like to at least remain friends,
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 12/18/2008 5:58:16 PM | ^^Not that they wouldn't want to have sex, but wouldn't be good at it...
That's one thing I don't get. Women saying they don't want a virgin, they want an experienced guy. Yet the only way to get experience is to have sex. Yet they don't wanna do it with you. Are virgins suppose to get experience by having sex with their pillow or something?
I mean, i'd have experience if they would just let me have sex with them. 
It might even get good at it. -_- | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 6/20/2009 4:22:02 AM | Actually a guys first time dosent always suck ive read stuff on other forums that claim nerves can delay ejaculation especially if your used to masterbation as the feelings are different.In fact men can learn delaying techniques from reading a good sex manual such as a tantric read one tecnique is to press on the perineum the area between your testcules and your anus and hold down.Stops it in its tracks u can also stregthen your pc muscles and end up with porn star control.
I recomend read up on some things also form sex therapists.Cos a woman gets her best orgams from manual stimulation. | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 6/24/2009 7:59:20 AM | | i have to agree with her, as long as the guy is careing and wants to learn, then he should be good, but on the other hand, this guy also has to lucky and get someone willing to teach him. kinda like where i am right now. not much experience, technically not a virgin. and having a hard time getting a girl for hang out, dating, a fling, anything... it just all depends on how shy the guy might be. if he has some confidence, then no problem. | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 6/24/2009 8:02:21 AM |
Actually a guys first time dosent always suck ive read stuff on other forums that claim nerves can delay ejaculation
Actually it's more likely to make it impossible for you to maintain an erection. Which is bad for sex, I've heard. | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 6/24/2009 8:42:02 AM | Seeing women belittle men for being virgins is just as bad to me as seeing men belittle women for being promiscuous. Both are pitiful, negative and hateful mentalities based entirely on sexism, stereotypes and ignorance.
I really don't understand how you can have women complain about how men only want sex but then refuse guys who are virgins because they aren't just looking for sex.
Being a male virgin doesn't mean that you will be bad at it (inexperience is temporary, being selfish isn't), it doesn't mean that you don't want it and it doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you. There are many legitimate reasons for guys to still be virgins at a late age. | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 6/28/2009 6:46:41 PM |
That's one thing I don't get. Women saying they don't want a virgin, they want an experienced guy. Yet the only way to get experience is to have sex. Yet they don't wanna do it with you. Are virgins suppose to get experience by having sex with their pillow or something?
I mean, i'd have experience if they would just let me have sex with them.
It might even get good at it. -_-
I noticed this was bumped not too long ago......so I just wanna add that I think my post holds true.
How can you get experience when you can't find someone who wants to give you an experience? | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 7/1/2009 8:52:15 PM |
Actually it's more likely to make it impossible for you to maintain an erection.
Yeah, that was me... Couldn't even get the silly thing in the first time. I was so darned nervous and frustrated that it just wouldn't get hard, which only made me even more nervous and frustrated.
But, as has been mentioned already, inexperience is only a temporary problem. And, fortunately for me, my girlfriend is a very patient, understanding sort, and it ended up not taking very long before I had no trouble whatsoever not only getting, but maintaining an erection.
And from what she tells me, she enjoys it immensely now. So do I. | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 7/9/2009 11:30:06 PM | | Honestly, why should a guy say anything at all about being a virgin? Unless asked point blank, in which case she probably already knows. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 12:26:51 AM | | When I was younger and idealistic I would have said yes. Now that I realize the extent of my own baggage, I don't think I'd be good at 'teaching' someone. I'm just not nurturing enough. UNLESS I was really in love with him. Then it wouldn't matter at all. Also if he was otherwise mature ie. a young virgin, and not necessarily someone who has issues with being a virgin at an older age. | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 7/10/2009 1:08:08 AM | I made that mistake once, and he became the shadow I never wanted. A barnacle could not of held tighter than he did.  | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 7/10/2009 2:12:08 AM | | Well as someone who has taken a Guys Virginity who was just out of med school so I guess he never really had a chance to be with a girl. This was a while ago but Yes I took his virginity and let me tell you IT was just WEIRD. I have no patience for a man NOT to know what to do. LOL So No would i date a Virgin Now NO WAY! LOL | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 7/10/2009 3:48:18 AM | | most middle easterners are virgins until they marry i dont have a problem with dating a virgin simply because i dont do sex out of marriage, well normally...if im going to live with someone i think i would sleep with him its the norm right? but you have alot to think about dating a virgin if he is good in bed and what if he's crap...what he actually knows about sex but then you are the more experienced one so yoou can learn him and that could be fun! train him up..:0 i wouldnt chose to date a virgin simply becaus ei prefer an experienced guy but well i guess you never know what can happen and who u meet | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 7/10/2009 7:43:05 AM | Is it really that weird?
I'd be willing to listen and do what she wanted. I would just need the opportunity to do it.
You can't do it unless someone lets you. And if they think it's weird...then how is it gonna happen?
Not every guy can be experienced. | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 7/10/2009 9:13:55 PM | Each person has to be judged on their individual merits. It's easy (even easier online than IRL) to make blanket judgments about older virgins... or multiple-divorcees, or people who have plenty of sex but no LTRs. It's called stereotyping. Stereotypes may exist because there is some truth to them, but only in aggregate--not on an individual level.
OK, this will get long. I may ramble. I may not even post it in the end. But WTF, it's therapy.
I am "The 43 Year Old Virgin". I saw a lot of similarities between myself and Steve Carell in "The 40 Year Old Virgin"... except I don't have a half-million dollars worth of action figures, unfortunately. Man, I wish I'd kept that Oscar Goldman doll now!
Of course there are middle-aged virgins with issues. For some, the social phobias they have are debilitating, and need to be addressed before the sexual ones. There are non-virgins with the same issues, too. But other virgins are completely "normal" in almost every other sense.
I am a stable individual, with a great job, I'm well-liked, have plenty of friends, no problems socially. I suppose I am considered good-looking, because I have had more than my fair share of women asking *me* out over the last 25 years (which, according to POF, seems to be a rarity). In fact, that most recent time was a few months ago, and the woman was absolutely hot for me. We did some heavy smooching on the first date, so I obviously didn't give off any creepy virgin-vibes. She actually cried in the restaurant on our second date when I said I didn't think we clicked and declined to take her home that evening. So why would I sabotage myself so?
Much like the movie, it goes back to a couple of bad incidents. My first real shot at sex was a double-date set up in HS. Unfortunately, it was with a girl I wasn't really attracted to, I was dog-tired after a 10-hour workday, and my buddy was in the next room with his girl. All that led to a "failure to function". Of course, then how could I know that was not an uncommon reaction? Performance anxiety killed me. I got a bit gun-shy about getting far enough along in a relationship to have sex. In college I had another opportunity and again, no joy. It quickly became easier to just avoid the situation than face embarrassment again.
In every other way, I grew up into a normal adult. But once distanced from relationships, it turned into the norm. I didn't seek them out, they'd inevitably lead to disappointment, right? Every time I'd meet someone, I would break things off after a few dates so the moment of truth never arrived.
As for a middle-aged virgin (either sex) being as emotionally unstable as an 18-year old? NOT. How many of you are the same emotionally as you were then? All but the most sociopathic of us necessarily pick up skills in dealing with people over the years. Assuming you can hold a job, keep friends, deal with a roommate, and function in the world, you will learn. Sure, a LTR is a bit different in some aspects. But IMO someone middle-aged who has emotional issues would likely have them whether they were a virgin or not. H3ll, that virgin just might be a better people person 1-on-1 than that 5-time divorcee. Hmmmmm.
Okay, rant over. Thanks for reading. I think I will actually post this. My therapist will be proud.  | |
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| Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 7/10/2009 11:48:34 PM | I'm the "V" word
I guess I just dont wanna throw it away. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 12:01:58 AM | To all the women that wouldn't date a guy that's a virgin,
So are you saying that if you met the PERFECT, I mean everything about him is everything your looking for, you'd still throw him back in the water? I mean jeez just because you haven't had sex yet doesn't make you undateable.
Some people have respect for their body and don't go around f***ing everything they see. Sure a good sex life is healthy but it's not the basis of a good relationship in my opinion.
Plus as an added bonus at least you know he's not lying when he says he's clean. And not everyone is terrible their first time... if there is an emotion connection then there will be some sort of pleasure. | |
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