| novel ways to deal with your feelings
Posted: 6/7/2008 8:05:59 AM |
But loud music is the best, really really fvcking loud music... blocks out all the feelings and gets me off my arse and doing something.
Hehe . . I reckon there's something in this. My theory is the volume control can be used to balance the external negative pressure of those bad feelings.
To this end, I acquired a big amplifier recently and can attest that it seems to work. Maybe I should delete that from my 'interests' now.  | |
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| novel ways to deal with your feelings
Posted: 6/7/2008 9:09:29 AM | well after 4 yrs of on off seperation i found it rather hard , i (just like most would have) went through a stage of depression. i could not see the light at the end of the tunnel. one of my mates would not accecpt my answer to go out and drink with him so i went and behold to my surprise that night there was 4 of us out there sinking rumbos by the gallon and all with 3 things incommon. 1st was relationship breakdowns (never to be repeated ones) 2nd was 4wding 3rd was we are all in the same social circle and this all happened within the one week.
for me (and the others) it was posibily the best cure to our problems, we all knew each other , we each knew each others pain, but best of all while drinking that night we all became closer mates for we knew more than we should have about each other.
since this night we have all helped each other out on all levels (except for sexual for those that my find that an interesting path to follow)
i set myself goals to reach things that others may find trivial but to me they are the start of a new life. first goal was my form of retail theropy. get the deposit needed to buy new bike (completed that today 7-6-08) next 2 will be done in conjunction give up smoking and loose weight to get to my desired body shape.
and just to throw a bit of spice into things i have (through this site) found someone that wants to know the real me , not the hermit me that i was up untill recent but the real me as i was before break downs etc.
as for those that are still going through the pain sometimes you just need your friends to give you a push in the right direction and make the most of now . life is to short to hide in the corner and wollow in your own feels of sadness and loss, like most i have been there done that and am starting to take big steeps foward.
remember "dont stop smiling as you dont know whos falling in love with your smile". "every minute we wollow in our own selfpitty is a minute waisted that can never be replaced"
be good and keep safe
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| novel ways to deal with your feelings
Posted: 6/7/2008 9:25:59 AM |
My theory is the volume control can be used to balance the external negative pressure of those bad feelings. 
So what do the other knobs and buttons do?
Perhaps the balance control is to balance our yin and yan, and the graphic equalizer is to aline our chakras, the bass control is obviously to keep those base emotions like fear in check, and the treble??... hmmm maybe that just helps with our betting odds down at the TAB. | |
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| novel ways to deal with your feelings
Posted: 6/7/2008 5:53:51 PM | I can't stand Sinead O'Conner cos my ex used to listen to her constantly around the time of our break up, bit of a shame really as she has a great voice.
yep.. i lost sinead in the break up also....
and i bet i know the song... nothing compares to you?.... well i played that so many times... i thought my son woulda hated it... .. but many moons later im on the back of his motorbike.. riding the back dirt roads and hes having heart to hearts with me.. he tells me he wants that at his funeral... i said ok me too. but as you will outlive me.. i get it first...
i can listen to sinead now.... many years later...(cause now i think of that convo with my son.. and when i hear it i pray/meditate protection to him on his life)
Ironically the blues makes me happy
actually the blues soothe the soul... actually heals the soul.. imo... if you dont like the blues youve got no pulse...your dead....(it takes a real alive soul to love the blues)
i didnt know any blues besides athretha.... back then and ohh yer RESPECT. is a great empowering breakup song.... actually blues probably helped me get through the canuck... country thingy...
much better than sappy energy draining.. emotional love songs...
blues empower woman... like
Im a woman by koko.... or saffire bytch with a bad attitude... but although i hear those lyrics im just thank ful i dont ever think/feel that way.. as in the song... but its a great song... id be really freaking though if i ever met a woman with that attitude..(as in the first part/lyrics)
ohh the blues... excellent
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| novel ways to deal with your feelings
Posted: 6/8/2008 3:44:47 AM | Ok when I split with my ex and we began the arguing over settlement, I discovered a massive treestump in the backyard. Over the course of a few months I was able to chop it up and dig out every root by hand. Great therapy and excellent arm and hand exercise.
Have to be honest the music side is incredibly loud Country and Western. Not to mention I do find I end up sitting on the beach alot or out in the horse paddock on a blanket in the sun. | |
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| novel ways to deal with your feelings
Posted: 6/8/2008 1:49:17 PM | In cases like this, the advice I give is to squeeze your rage into a bitter little ball and release it at an appropriate time, like when I hit that referee with the whiskey bottle!! | |
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| novel ways to deal with your feelings
Posted: 6/8/2008 7:27:33 PM |
I told her not to let the door hit her ar*e on the way out and then went and set her up with her next boyfriend.Ummmm,seemed like the thing to do at the time.
I totally get this. To me its like: Here you made your bed now lie in it, and i'll even pull the blankets down for you.
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| novel ways to deal with your feelings
Posted: 6/9/2008 12:47:01 AM |
In cases like this, the advice I give is to squeeze your rage into a bitter little ball and release it at an appropriate time, like when I hit that referee with the whiskey bottle!!
That's the way Dark... just 'bottle' it up | |
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| novel ways to deal with your feelings
Posted: 6/9/2008 2:02:33 AM | I guess we could all write a novel about our feelings.
All kinds of feelings, happy ones, sad ones, feelings of jealousy and hatred, feelings of mis trust and even feelings of new love.
Could be a good read really. | |
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| novel ways to deal with your feelings
Posted: 6/9/2008 2:36:36 AM |
so i went and behold to my surprise that night there was 4 of us out there sinking rumbos by the gallon and all with 3 things incommon. 1st was relationship breakdowns (never to be repeated ones) 2nd was 4wding 3rd was we are all in the same social circle and this all happened within the one week.
for me (and the others) it was posibily the best cure to our problems, we all knew each other , we each knew each others pain, but best of all while drinking that night we all became closer mates for we knew more than we should have about each other.
I guess that's always the best cure, finding someone else that's in the same situation that can understand and share your thoughts and feelings. People who arn't in the same boat, as much as they try, are often only paying lip service.
I remember once after break up, I started chatting to an aquaintence and discovered that his wife had just left him as well, I felt a bit guilty cos I couldn't hide the happiness I was feeling for finding someone to share the journey with....Quickly turned him from an aquaintence to a good friend via a few late nights and bottles of port. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 3:44:43 AM | My ex hubby made me so mad I changed the locks and put all his stuff on the front yard....................... So angry I carrried solid wooden bedsides and chest of drawers y myself. I later found cleaning the house and making it 'my' home helped.
Thumping music is hard to beat if I'm angry, when upset / sad I play. | |
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| novel ways to deal with your feelings
Posted: 6/9/2008 3:47:59 AM | I find not dealing with them is quite effective.
If you wrap them well and bury them deeply enough, then cover them with big rocks they take ages to come back and bite you in the ass!
Trust me.....im an expert at it | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 4:35:31 AM | When I left finace number 1 my mates came over (the ones I hadn't seen for year cos of the ex) and we had a big bonfire and burnt what was left of his stuff.
Now that was fun!! | |
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| novel ways to deal with your feelings
Posted: 6/9/2008 4:48:57 AM |
If you wrap them well and bury them deeply enough, then cover them with big rocks they take ages to come back and bite you in the ass!
Are you talking about your feelings or your ex husband.
burn things, namely their photos...
Great idea maybe we could have a POF bonfire night sometime. | |
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| novel ways to deal with your feelings
Posted: 6/9/2008 5:42:06 AM | Terrible thought: If you burn the nerve endings in your fingers do you lose all feeling?
When I'm a bit melancholy I sit in a corner with my old guitar and tinker away with an ear down against the guitar body. Funny how a slow finger-plucked version of 'House of the rising sun' resonates in your head. Actually any sad song with a few Am's will do.
When angry at the world I go and expend some energy to get that knot outa my stomach. Dig, cycle, swim, saw some limbs off a tree.. although yelling at some inanimate object can often be therapeutic. | |
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| novel ways to deal with your feelings
Posted: 6/12/2008 4:58:09 PM | Yeah, Burn baby Burn!
For my last break-up, I wanted to get over the feeling of how much I'd been duped, and how much I duped myself so...
I drew a picture of him on a 3x5 card.
Then I took a series of photos of my hands and scissors operating on the card, amputating an arm here, a leg there, until I finally got to the cruellest cut.
Then I posted them all, and the story behind them on the web on a private page for my eyes only. It's down now. I only needed it for a week.
And I burned the scraps of card.
This bizarre creative ritual was a very effective way to cut him out of my thoughts. Each time he tried to weave me back into his life, I remembered the card image of him as an armless, legless trunk with an overblown head.
One thing that really helped me lots was to visualise what I wanted, say for example buying a new car, new furniture, a dream job and other plans. I still don't have them but whenever I visualise them it makes me happy and look forward but the trick is to remember doing it whenever I am down.
Excellent technique Goddess of Dreams.
My other trick this time was to actualise my dream of buying a 4x4 ute. He's never seen it, never driven in it; it's mine all MINE! BWHAAAA | |
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