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| A Good Man Is Hard To Find
Posted: 7/28/2005 7:50:21 PM | Lauren, if you have a good man, you love him, care about one another then don't listen to the knuckleheads who tell you to keep searching...All that gets you is losing a good man and ending up searching again...Age be damned..If you care about each other and love one another and believe you are both ready then go for it..
As far as to whether a good man is hard to find, that all depends on what you consider a good man..We all have our own ideas of what a good man or woman is..To me a good man is one who is honest, someone you can trust and whose word means something..One who isn't out chasing other women, but is content and happy with what he has waiting..Those men are hard to find..
Good Luck and enjoy ... | |
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| A Good Man Is Hard To Find
Posted: 7/28/2005 8:29:09 PM | | Sorry guys...I'm a little skeptical...my sister's even commented...why is it that I always end up with terrible guys...which is one of the reasons why I'm still single..however, my best friends...I must say...they're pretty damn AWESOME...so I guess there are some decent guys out there :) The last really good guy I dated was 11 years ago...he set the standard and no ones been able to compare...but it was good b/ it showed me how I should be treated and not to settle for anything less :) | |
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DKD15
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| A Good Man Is Hard To Find
Posted: 7/28/2005 8:58:43 PM | | Why is it that all the sweet, nice, kind guys are all in their early-mid twenties...most of the good guys that I have come across are so young....like they haven't been jaded by life's experiences...so there's no bitterness, rudeness, player attitudes, games. | |
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| A Good Man Is Hard To Find
Posted: 7/28/2005 11:10:47 PM | mauii..........age will not determine if you are jaded...........
there are many of us in our late 30's & early 40's who are fun....
just as there are melancholic 20 somethings........ | |
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| A Good Man Is Hard To Find
Posted: 7/28/2005 11:19:47 PM | Hmmmm..........lots of good advice from here guys. Let's see if I got this right? Women want movie star guys, like the pictures I used to stick on my walls as a teen?
So why would I date the guy who asked with the spare tire, receding hairline, gray hair and pec's a little soft? Perhaps it was the quirky conversation, twinkle in the eye, awesome sense of humour, the 'trust me I am not a player' I do want a long time relationship and have packed my baggage...... Three months later his eye spotted another and.... well he needed to date a bit more, just to be sure. maybe he wasn't quite ready for long term after all.
Maybe the next 6 or was it 7 guys who looked like normal 40's, promised the nice guy routine. Honest, Truthful. Lived by their integrity. Meet my family. And then.... you are a sweetheart, we had a great time, when I am ready to settle down again I hope I can meet someone exactly like you are but well, I guess I just need time to think.
Or perhaps the last one. A year to test and question and make sure this was not a joke and he was for real. A year and a half later the committment thing again and...... the running again. Oh right.he wasn't running, married young, had a nasty divorce (not that anyone else, especially a woman would understand that), sons decided to introduce him to their friends Moms......funny.......the lines started again'Just need time', 'not ready yet', 'if you would just give me space to think (month wasn't long enough....how dare I phone to see if he was ok)....
No guys we don't all want perfect but we do want the honesty, integrity and if you aren't ready for a relationship as in putting out a hand to help it, don't go looking for one. Problem is, each honest, trust me guy leaves a bit of distrust for the next guy to try and erase.(not one was the typical bad boy that women go for...my circle tends to go for the upfront, nice guy next door type who has been hurt and taken advantage of by his ex.)
So just like women are supposedly doing a number on guys.....so guys....but there are just as many of your gender who are using reasons and excuses to get away with doing the same to women. So what do we do?
Keep fishing until we finally find 'one' who is still risking all for the illusive treasure. Someone who just wants to be loved, laughed with and adored for the rest of our life. I seriously need new bait..........need to catch one of the bad guys or the players for a bit.... | |
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