| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 5:04:19 PM | Well it would be a date, and I haven't been too lucky fishing, plus if it was after I work all night and my bones and back are hurting, sounds like a plan to me...
What is this guy's nick?? 
Skunk, That bubbly would work too! ... But Level soap... I will bring my OilOfOlay liquid and make bubbles. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 6:09:02 PM | | My god no way. too much too fast. This leaves little to the imagination. It would mean more once you were comfortable with that person | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 6:30:21 PM | Fishies you do not use soap in a hot tub. If you do, you have to clean out the filter and replace the element unless you want a "head" on your tub like a glass of draft. Unless you are very gauche, you shower and shampoo first to keep it clean.
Now I suppose that if a lady invited me to watch the sunset from the hot tub by her pool I would probably go.  Wine is not a great because the heat puts the alcohol in your blood a lot faster and it all puts quite a strain on your heart. OMG as a surprise on a first date? Gee Mrs. Robinson, not for me. A first meeting is for conversation, the kind that involves the spoken word.  | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 7:06:07 PM | | Hot tub? I don't think so. A splash in the ocean after a bit of conversation? Maybe. As for naked bodies .. bodies are bodies. If things connect, you're going to get naked sooner or later. A swim suit isn't that big a deal. But .. the conversation would have to have been promising for it to end up as a swim. Sounds like a fun start of a beautiful friendship. (still, 'No' to the hot tub) | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 9:14:49 PM |
Does anyone think this is a romantic date?
Sounds like the women so far wouldn't go for it the first time. So you sorta wonder whom he's trying to reach by broadcasting this in public, to strangers. Maybe he's working on the principle of spam: nothing to lose, lots of fish in the sea, the bait is free, and maybe with that and a stick of dynamite, he might catch one sucker. Perhaps we'll hear from one of those. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/8/2008 6:11:09 PM | Ugh, so BORING!!! Oh, and talk about way too hot (heat wise), and it dries up your skin. Yummy  Nope, it ain't gonna happen on the first date, and probably not the 20th date either. I'm not a big hot tub fan.
I had one moron that he wanted to do a nudist colony on the first date. Go figure. I know we're all born naked, but on the first date? That goes way beyond baring your soul - if you know what I mean | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/8/2008 9:00:15 PM | I have a hot tub in my back yard; I use it quite regularly. However, the idea of using it as a first date is a bit forward. I have a rule that people using my hot tub must take a quick shower, first.
With that being said, I guess the question, in my case, would be:
Shower, then hot tub on first date - would you?
Answer: Only if she were a tramp and promised to make breakfast.
Edit: For those who know me, I rarely date let alone waste my time dating a tramp. So.... I guess the honest answer would be NO. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/8/2008 11:18:24 PM | | All that brings to mind the movie "About Schmidt"....the scene with Kathy Bates...wonder if the guys saw it and it 'turned him on'...HA! | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/9/2008 5:17:26 AM | What do you get when you mix one part "flirty" maiden with one part "horny" prince? Throw in a sprinkle of roses, a dash of candlelight, a cup of alcohol and mix together into a huge bowl of NEKKID ( or near naked ) in a hot tub on a first date?
Although, it sounds like a romantic date when in an established relationship, for a first date it sounds like he's looking for an "intimate encounter".
Answer: Only if she were a tramp and promised to make breakfast. Edit: For those who know me, I rarely date let alone waste my time dating a tramp. So....I guess the honest answer would be NO.
HaHa! Sometimes true statements are said in jest. No matter how liberated a society we think we live in ladies, the cold hard truth is that getting in a hot tub with a strange man on a first date is not going to garner any respect from him.
Sex and love are two different things and the only thing that will link the two is RESPECT.
And that's not coming our way if we drop our knickers by having a couple of wobbly-pops in a hot tub and heaven forbid have sex with him to boot. Having sex with him (too soon) makes him think we're an easy lay or a tramp ( because we were) and we think the same about him (because he was)
He might call again, but not likely. But, if he does there's a good chance it won't be for anything but a roll in the sack or a dip in the hot tub.
A dog will always come back for a free steak. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/9/2008 6:58:02 AM |
A dog will always come back for a free steak
Wow! We males certainly appear to be scuzz bags! Anything for a piece of ass, is, I gather, the general form of our behaviour.
I mean, who could imagine that if a man crawls into bed with a woman that he would even like her! What a concept!
On the hot tub thing, what is the limit? I have invited women who I knew only casually to go sailing with me from time to time, and since I sail a dingy, it pretty well means a swimming suit, and most have shown up in some pretty appealing attire. Inevitably, we end up in the lake, which is something like a big hot tub, especially in the summer. If later I take her for dinner, enjoy a bottle of wine, and, heaven forbid, a mutual reaction occurs, do I lack respect for her?
Does the fact that the hot tub is smaller than the lake imply I am a scuzz bag with no respect for her?
In my view, if you don't have respect for your sexual partners, you don't have respect for yourself, either. While I suppose there are those out there who are still running around banging everything in site, I think they must be few and far between. I am way to choosey for that kind of thing, and any woman who gets me int a hot tub would have to have already connected pretty strongly with me. To get me into bed she would have to generate a lot of respect from me. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/9/2008 7:59:05 AM | Mr. RG. Just setting the record straight.
I did not imply in my post that ALL males are scuzz bags.
I did not imply in my post that ALL males will do anything for a piece of ass.
I did NOT generalize that it is a "general form of behaviour" by ALL males.
What I did was, respond to the OP's original post, give my opinion that the profiler was looking for an intimate encounter. I also answered My I and his post by pointing out that women who are promiscuous on a first date, hot tub or otherwise, are considered tramps, at least by My I and perhaps, other men.
And, there are SOME, those few males and females, who will always come back for a free steak.
If the shoe does not fit you, don't take it so personally. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/9/2008 8:08:57 AM | tradurGurl said
" If a man suggestd that to me ont the first date -- it would definately give me the Wrong Idea!
Check Please!!!!"
This is exactly why I suggest this regularly. Right at the end of a very expensive meal.
As soon as the lady calls for the check I get up and leave.
I don't get very lucky, hardly any second dates, but I eat well.
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:03:52 AM | harviej on 6/9/2008 4:08:57 PM
Subject: Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Message: tradurGurl said
" If a man suggestd that to me ont the first date -- it would definately give me the Wrong Idea!
Check Please!!!!"
This is exactly why I suggest this regularly. Right at the end of a very expensive meal.
As soon as the lady calls for the check I get up and leave.
I don't get very lucky, hardly any second dates, but I eat well.
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Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr its men like you that give the nice guys a bad name, why dont you go halves? There are too many men who do this these days Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr
SORRY THIS IS OFF TOPIC BUT HE WROTE IT AND I AM REPLYING TO IT. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:04:17 AM |
I also answered My I and his post by pointing out that women who are promiscuous on a first date, hot tub or otherwise, are considered tramps, at least by My I and perhaps, other men.
I think you are jumping to wrong conclusions. The topic was about hot tubs on a first date... where you get the "otherwise" assumption is beyond me. I have female friends who would get in the hot tub with me and we would spend our time together as we please. I certainly do not label my friends as tramps.
If I were in a bar and a total stranger was willing to leave the bar with me and use the hot tub with the premise of having sex, then yes... that is a tramp. It wouldn't excuse my behaviour. That would make me a tramp as well. Fvcking total strangers is being a tramp (both genders).
Some people establish tense relationships on-line. Unleashing that passion when they finally meet is not trampy, offensive and/or disrespectful. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:10:37 AM | ^^^Well I just wanna know MI?
Where in tarnation was that hot tub last Sat nite eh? Could surely have used it...and nope, not fer sex...I am asexual these days! | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:18:55 AM |
yeah - guys think "Hugh Hefner can do it, why not me?" ..... and the Hefner empire just gets richer and richer
I agree with the above response. I honestly believe a lot of guys in this age group - 45 plus - grew up on 'Playboy' magazine and the likes AND now that they are free from the binds of marriage/relationships, they feel they can attain that same status/fantasy as Hugh baby.
It's actually sad to read some of the profiles and expectations these dudes have. Sad indeed. Especially when one looks at their photos... yet they emphasize they want a trim/slim adventurous/sensual woman... and their gut is hanging over their belts to their kneecaps, etc. Sorry I feel the need to say that. It's just soooo many of them on these sites. No sense of Reality.
No hot tubbin' for me.. on a first date or second for that matter...regardless if he was a hunk or not. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:37:12 AM |
I think you are jumping to wrong conclusions. The topic was about hot tubs on a first date...where you get the "otherwise" assumption is beyond me.
Well, I used the word "otherwise" in reference to rearguard's post " that a lake is like a big hot tub, especially in the summer months." The "lake" was the otherwise in my post.
And, I referenced msg. 33 with the word "tramp" because of what was posted:
Shower, then hot tub on first date - would you? Answer: Only if she were a tramp and promised to make breakfast.
Then you go on to post:
Some people establish tense relationships on-line. Unleashing that passion when they finally meet is not trampy, offensive and/or disrespectful.
Aren't people, who are having an online relationship, strangers to each other, until they meet?
So, which is it? I'm scratchin' my head here.
If a woman has a first date with a man in a hot tub, is she a tramp or not? Or, is it only if she has sex with him and stays to make breaky? | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:53:34 AM | Aren't people, who are having an online relationship, strangers to each other, until they meet?
So, which is it? I'm scratchin' my head here
Trim your nails and don't scratch too hard... you'll bleed.
Two people who are sincere and honest with each other on-line do get a sense of the person's ways, lifestyle and intimate thoughts/feelings towards each other.... they establish a rapport.... they may even exchange phone conversation. Once they meet and all things are as they appeared to be on-line, there should be no reason they should be labelled for acting on their intuitions, emotions, desires and previous exchanges.
Tramps don't care about much more than getting laid with whomever is available.... and has something of little value to offer to her (vise versa). Hence, the reason I joked about breakfast - they usually don't hang around that long unless they are too drunk to drive.
^^^Well I just wanna know MI?
Where in tarnation was that hot tub last Sat nite eh? Could surely have used it...and nope, not fer sex...I am asexual these days!
Hmmmm....,. I think you were doing well without the hot tub.... you got that dance floor pretty hot - I enjoyed it!
**bump, grind**
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/9/2008 10:51:45 AM | Trim your nails and don't scratch too hard....you'll bleed.
No need to get sarcastic. Obviously, my post (msg. 35 ) was not popular with a couple of fellows. Oh well................ | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/9/2008 12:22:49 PM | hmmmmm.......new and human stew???? ummmm....no thanks!
but if both are comfortable with it (nekkid or otherwise).....i say: to each their own.
p.s.
MyI does have trampy friends and we are proud of it dammit!
tabbs is somewhere saying "here, here, well said kitch!"
LOL
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/9/2008 1:08:17 PM | Why are people ascribing pejorative labels to people who are just doing what they want to do to feel happy and get some enjoyment out of life? I mean, if you can't enjoy life now, when do you get to enjoy it? The over 80 gang?
BTW, having sex in the hot tub just clogs up the filters. Anybody with any responsibilities for maintaining a tub will not let it happen. The cleanup is just too much work. Ladies, your honor is a lot safer in my hot tub than it would be in a public park, lying on the grass, gazing at the majesty of the cosmos, on a warm summer's night...... | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/9/2008 1:34:57 PM | Oh gosh! Now there is a phrase that I have not heard in simply ages!
"I will protect your honour"! Hmmm...should I be worried that I haven't?
I think it all depends on the type of relationship that has been formed PRIOR to the meeting. As has been mentioned, sometimes there has been sufficient chat over a period of time, and then, once having met, a certain comfor level is established. Tis good for some, while not for others. Guess that is what makes the world go round. Viva la difference! | |
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