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Posted: 6/13/2008 10:31:37 PM | Your scope of conversation has a lot to do with the scope of your life and experiences. The larger the scope of your life, the larger the scope of your conversations. With that, conversations are a good indication of your lives.
My point is that if someone's life is only sports and work then that is most likely the scope of their conversations. But if someone can speak to that plus things like politics, arts, current events, etc then you will have a better chance of having a better quality conversation and better quality times with that person.
If you feel you have to constantly talk about a limited amount of topics or do a limited amount of things with someone then that may not be a good match. The key for me at least is if they are limited, will they continue to be so or are they willing and able to expand. That way as the topic says, I don't have to feel anyone has to jump through any hoops. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 5:12:21 PM | Hmmm
Don't know what kind of girls you're talking to but I'm sure that there will be someone who's willing to talk to you about your interests. I believe that there's a political forum here...perhaps a visit to peek inside would be in order?
Oh...and the other guy who was winging on about liberal women spewing...whatever it was you said that was a generalization (and quite frankly sounded rude--I didn't even bother to quote him)...seriously? Just by saying that will get you into the POF'er hall of shame (they should really have one) for saying silly/offensive/non-sensical things about the opposite sex. If men and women would stop generalizing about the other we might actually manage to have a good relationship with someone out here...isn't that what you're here for anyway (well most of us)??? | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 10:51:14 AM | Well its not that complicated..women like talking about themselves, so ..open with that... compliment her on the way she smells , how pretty her dress is, and other compliments. She may think youre full of it, but its all just ice breakers... you don't have to put on an act ..just be yourself.
If shes really interested in you she won't even remember what was said. That happened with my ex. she talked my ear off for two hours, but at the time , I was so unbelieving that she was interested, that I still can't recall what was said. All I remember was looking into her eyes and getting lost in the depths. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 1:23:11 PM | | I never put much weight into those fancy magazine articles and books that stereotype both men and women. The problem is people don't let conversations happen naturally anymore. Women by nature are more expressive then men so I find it easier to start of a conversation with a question like how was your day? or did you hear about? what do you think about? and let her start talking which will lead into other topics. | |
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Joined: 4/28/2008
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Posted: 6/17/2008 6:04:11 PM | uhh, generalizations, always important, never right. I usually try to hold back talking about religion or politics, unless someone else brings it up.
If you go on a date, maybe opt for more activities, like mini golf, rather then sitting down and talking and things will evolve naturally. ( So i've been told.)
I agree, Iraq's 1990 annexation of Kuwait may not be on everyone's top ten list, but if they listen to that, you may have found a keeper. Either really interested or really polite or really likes you. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 9:41:29 PM | Hey triple,
Your list is freaking me out man! My girl and I talk about everything on your list, we don't always agree.....but the banter is unequaled!! Maybe it's just me, but intelligence can be a real turn on. And a heated debate........may turn into Hot Monkey Love! | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 4:51:59 PM | | I have found there is a catch to that top 10 list... women dislike someone else talking about them, but it is okay for them to bring it up :-) See! Just wait for them to mention it. I know all my female friends bring those topics up... except maybe History and Politics. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 7:33:29 AM | Want to see the one we get for men?
Men’s Top Ten Favorite Conversation Topics
1. Sex
2. Romantic fantasies
3. Hobbies/interests in general
4. Hopes and aspirations
5. Music
6. Dreams
7. Movies
8. Entertainment
9. Vacations
10. Travel
Men’s Top Ten Least Favorite Conversation Topics
1. Past relationships
2. Other dates
3. Celebrities
4. Religion
5. Politics
6. Antiques
7. Money
8. Fashion
9. Gardening
10. Marriage
Surprise! Politics and Religion are on your list too!
Feel stereotyped? | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 10:13:10 AM | I stopped jumping thru hoops when I left the circus!
As Popeye used to say, "I yam what I yam", and people can either take that or leave it. I personally think it would be incredibly boring (and probably obnoxious too!) to meet someone who had nothing but all the same interests as me, and vice versa. OK, so I like science fiction (and science fact too, but that's another discussion), but I carefully reassure a woman I'm interested in that I own neither a StarFleet uniform nor a pair of pointy ears. 
I welcome the opportunity to get to know someone with a different viewpoint than my own, as long as they can participate in a rational, reasonable conversation, no matter how controversial the subject, without getting bent out of shape. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 11:29:46 AM | 1. Politics: Hard to take this nonsense seriously. Government is just another big business, powered by the hard work of the people. This is because most people are taught to comply and obey, when they should question and react.
2. Other dates : Yawn
3. Past relationships: Yawn
4. Science fiction : My life feels like science fiction
5. Religion : Too old for fairy tales. Started to control the ignorant.
6. Celebrities : Never have been star struck.
7. Science : More advance then they let us know. Great control of the masses.
8. Antiques : I am one.
9. Money : Don't have enough to talk about it.
10. History: Yawn, repeats itself again and again. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 3:47:50 PM | | I don't want to hear about 2, 3 or 9, but then no one consulted me about this list. The rest are totally fine. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 5:55:25 PM | Wow, I missed something and am going to have to revamp my entire profile to find decent people to chat with!
1. Politics -I talked cursorily about my military service
2, 3, 5. Other dates and Past relationships History -I talked about other dates I had with past relationshiops.
4, 7. Science and Science fiction -I didn't touch on this one, thank gawd; the aliens were watching out for me after all....
5. Religion -I selected Christian -other in my profile. I should change that immediately to non-religious.
6. Celebrities -Whew! Does adding The Boondock Saints get me kicked?
8. Antiques -My age? I'm a classic.
9. Money -Saved!
I am really a semi-mechanic disguised as a curly-haired femme... | |
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Posted: 9/12/2008 3:42:30 PM | I just want to find someone who loves Boy George as much as I do! | |
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