| Is it possible to meet a man on POF and fall in love, long distance?
Posted: 6/11/2008 2:55:58 PM | Give it a whirl, honey. You'll never know if you don't try, and don't live your life being afraid of relationships not working...you'll miss out on too many good experiences.
Any relationship can happen and work if both parties are in it to win it. | |
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| Is it possible to meet a man on POF and fall in love, long distance?
Posted: 6/11/2008 3:18:43 PM | from experience i recommend to be caution dont get involved emotionally yet till u will be sure that he is the right person. u have to go and visit him there meet his friend and even try to give him surprise visit.
i was dating a girl that i meet on line but not from POF we were talking in the phone for hours every day for 3 month i try to go to see her but she come up with excuse every time. i did loved her because i felt big connection between us. the she come visit me for 5 days i even loved her more and i was sure she is in love too. then she left and come again and stays for 3 month where i decide to get engaged to her and i bought her 2 kt diamond ring with very surprising romantic dinner. any after 3 month i start feeling that something wrong because any time i ask her to go spend a weekend in new york where she is from she come up again with some excuse.
then i hired an investigator to look for information about her, and guess what i was right every things she told me was a lie from school to her family to her friend. so i got her a ticket back and got my ring and i told her when she was in NEW YORK THAT I WANT A PROOVE of evry thing u told me then we may get back together. she still doesn't want to admit that she was lying. and she was not with me for a money for sure. because she was home by her self and all my accounts r there. ( yes now i canceled every account)
any way my point be careful and if you r jealous it will not work for sure. because u will constantly thinking about what he is doing and the same for him.
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| Is it possible to meet a man on POF and fall in love, long distance?
Posted: 6/11/2008 6:33:54 PM | From personal experience, I can tell you it is possible, and that it can work, if both parties work at it. I fell in love with a fellow forum poster who lives in the Midwest US, many, many hours drive away from me. Our relationship consisted of phone calls and time spent on Yahoo, and was a growing period for us both. We never did reach the stage where we actually met face to face, but did talk about doing so this spring, if all had gone as we'd hoped. Though we are no longer involved, we are close friends and often tease each other back and forth in the forums. Hugs and smiles to my favorite Missouri man.
I strongly advise against 2 things mentioned either in your OP or by other posters. I would not recommend having a man you have never met stay in your home, nor would I recommend a lengthy visit. As someone else has already suggested, a 3 or 4 day visit should be enough to reveal whether the two of you have relationship potential.
Good luck. | |
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| Is it possible to meet a man on POF and fall in love, long distance?
Posted: 6/11/2008 6:47:49 PM | ANYTHING is possible. Let me first say that I wish you all the luck in the world in finding happiness, I wish that for everyone on this site as well as any other.
As for me.. I shy away from long distance relationships. I tried them and they didn't work for me, but that's just me, it sounds like this is working for you so far so I say GO FOR IT ! :)
Again, best of luck ! | |
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| Is it possible to meet a man on POF and fall in love, long distance?
Posted: 6/11/2008 7:28:43 PM | I could fall in love with a woman LD. But would probably not be a good position to be in. It would be similar to unrequited love. When you finally meet and you don't click, you'd heal almost instantly, but if you did click, you'd probably end up doing foolish things people do when in love. You know... like move!
What are the odds both would flip? Wow... scary and exciting all in one package.
It's so safe to sit in our own backyards, waiting for our dream boat to sail in.....
But we're all too mobile now.... no one's sitting in their backyards anymore....
Ships have sailed..... so why NOT look elsewhere?
If a person meets someone from another state or country and one has the ability to move and
start fresh, why not try it? At some point the fear of jumping in has to be negated by the
possibility of finding a soul mate!
I don't think letting the guy come and stay with you for 10 days is wise.... not for a first meet.
But a nice long weekend, with him in a hotel might work Opie..... and then take that experience
and see where it moves ya.....
Jump in... but start in the shallow end hon..... or you might find yourself treading in dangerous waters alone.... or worse, not! | |
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| Is it possible to meet a man on POF and fall in love, long distance?
Posted: 7/5/2008 3:28:07 AM |
If a person cannot attract local (within a province or state)people, that should be a red flag.
Not necessarily. I live in a small town and there is no-one that I have seen or met that interested me. I am sure that is someone in this town that I could be compatible with but we have not met. I have been to the churches, singles functions and other places of interest and no one. I have met someone on-line and things are clicking and I plan to drive to his state-4 hours away over the labor day weekend. The other end of my state is 6 hours away and a hundred miles further.
I don't think anyone sane can fall in love on the phone or via email. Penpals in WWII did it and stayed together for decades. Mail order brides and done it in the early years of this country. Granted some did not work and some today are only in it for the greencard. But love is where you find it.
This long distance interest of mine may fall apart when we meet but I would always have wondered what if, if I did not check it out. | |
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| Is it possible to meet a man on POF and fall in love, long distance?
Posted: 7/5/2008 7:44:12 AM | I think it's possible to meet someone on POF and feel an attraction, and I think it's possible to spend time talking to someone and begin to feel a connection, and then to meet someone face to face and feel "chemistry", and then to spend more time with them (face to face, online, on the phone) and to begin to realize that you've fallen head over heels in love with this person, and can't begin to imagine how you ever lived and breathed without them in your life.
Long distance relationships can be very difficult, and can be very lonely. For a lot of reasons. You need to realize that up front. Because of the distance, I was reluctant to meet a man I met on POF face to face, even though there was attraction and connection and a sense of "I've been waiting for you all my life". But there was this feeling of "What if you don't meet him? What if he is the one and you let distance keep you from taking the chance? You'll never know." I'm very glad I took the chance and I'd do it again.
But you might want to rethink the 10 days....that's a long time and people can be quite different in person than they are online and on the phone. And I guess I'd suggest he should stay in a hotel. Too much pressure for a first meet.....you can always change your plans and the arrangements... if you're able to think and talk after you lay eyes on him (I wasn't able to put a coherent thought together until hours after he headed home).
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| Is it possible to meet a man on POF and fall in love, long distance?
Posted: 7/5/2008 10:07:34 AM |
Is it possible to meet a man on POF and fall in love, long distance?
It's certainly possible.
Not very likely, however.
You can fall in "like" , but love requires two people to be face to face. You can't fight evolution, no matter how much you try. As much as I am a romantic and idealistic person, that's overridden by a strong sense of realism. 
That's the way I see it, anyway.
I've talked to several women that are firm believers in it, but I've always disagreed with them over it's potential. I do know ONE person that it's worked out for. I know a couple of others that have gone through the cycle a few times, and continue to do so. 
It's hard enough to be in a relationship, especially one that's starting, without having to totally change one's life at the same time. Moving , changing jobs, and essentially your entire life , while doing so ?
Let's just say it's not conducive to success.
I've been talking to a great guy for 4 weeks now and he lives out of town. He has planned a trip to visit me and stay for 10 days. Is it possible that this could work out?
Again, it's certainly possible. The odds are against it.
Where should he stay while he is here?
Anywhere he can find a place, except in your apartment/house. | |
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| Is it possible to meet a man on POF and fall in love, long distance?
Posted: 7/5/2008 10:11:34 AM | | hey you can i did i feel in love with this girl i meet from aberdeen scottland and i was liveing in london at the time and i was with here 4 2 years and she mist here fam and lots more and whent back i understand tho but yer go 4 what ya haert tells you and im sure you will be right best wishes | |
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| Is it possible to meet a man on POF and fall in love, long distance?
Posted: 7/24/2008 8:48:52 PM | | Sure long distance can work. People do it successfully all the time. But it's hard work and not for the faint of heart. And as many a poster has already said, 10 days seems like a v. long time for a first meet. I once had a date with a fellow who traveled an hour or so by bus. The mere fact that he was putting in two hours travel round trip from another city made me feel immense pressure to spend the entire day with him even though I was done from the moment we actually met in person. While I doubt I'd be ready to travel a distance for anyone in four weeks that's just me--maybe I just haven't met the guy who'll motivate me that quickly yet. But I can see the upside of meeting really soon too if that's what works for you. And yeah, if he can stay somewhere besides your place that'd be ideal. You just want as many helpful safety valves in place as possible so that you can just enjoy being with this fellow instead of worrying about the fact that you can't fart for 10 days in your own house. | |
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| Is it possible to meet a man on POF and fall in love, long distance?
Posted: 7/26/2008 12:14:32 AM | I wouldn't suggest looking for someone long distance, the odds are so much against it, and testing the attraction means buying an airfare. It is too expensive for the number of people most of us go through to find "the one".
But if you come across someone like that, why not?
I suggest he stay in a hotel. Preferably a hotel from which he can do touristy things if you decide to break off with him.
(Don't say it to him, you don't want to create the expectation, but, if, after a few days, you are both inclined, he can cancel the hotel room.) | |
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| Is it possible to meet a man on POF and fall in love, long distance?
Posted: 7/26/2008 1:42:52 AM | To answer the question posed in the subject line about whether it's possible to fall in love, I'd say, yes and it's probably relatively easy to do for some people because any facet of the other person you don't know about from empirical evidence can simply be filled in via your mind's desire.
Non-the-less, I still wish you the best of luck and hope things work out for you. | |
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