| Well Women Don't leave lasting Impressions Either
Posted: 6/15/2008 12:43:50 PM | Pardon? A single guy has been focusing oh himself, and that is why he doesn't have kids? Sorry, but that is a bit off base.
Did it occur to you that possibly a guy has no kids because he has had bad experiences in dating? Maybe a decent guy isnt out there having sex with every woman trying to procreate. There are some of us who actually want to wait for a decent lady to come along first before kids enter the picture. | |
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| Meeting Men Is Hard
Posted: 6/15/2008 12:49:23 PM | | I have a hard time believing a man would show up on a date dressed like a bum. I don't know what happened to good old fashioned manners and class. I guess it is just too much trouble to put out any effort for another human being. My pet peeve is getting stood up. You make a date, and on the appointed evening, no date, no call, no nothing. So if a woman makes the effort to show up for me, the least I can do is put on some nice shoes and slacks, and a fashionable shirt for her. | |
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Posted: 9/5/2008 2:30:12 PM | | Extremely interesting comments...I've had the opportunity to go on multiple dates,not one bummer in the bunch! If your a good listner,and come open -minded,success always (At least for Me) has prevailed....I've dated women 40-60,the last four wanted to either marry or live together...I guess that's when things go south...I value My independence..As far as dress codes,or physical appearence,well I've dated,BBw's,Athletic,Average,etc..They all glowed on the inside..and as I write this We all remain close friends...I guess you could say I always give more then I take...In and out of the bedroom....Amen | |
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Posted: 9/5/2008 7:01:53 PM | | Tressie...didn't you get the memo...sloppiness,laziness and little effort is in...you were supposed to accept him for who he was and not be "judgemental"...i agree with you 100% and would have never showed up for a date like that,he did you a favor though | |
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| Meeting Men Is Hard
Posted: 9/5/2008 7:17:11 PM | | the web site has nothing to do with it...if your grandmother introduced you two would you say you would never see your grandmother again..of course not...wake up..people !!! | |
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| Meeting Men Is Hard
Posted: 9/5/2008 7:27:35 PM | Hon
I was wondering did he know where you were taking him, did you tell him it was casual or business casual. some don't know the difference. One reason I'm scared as hell to date, dress codes can sure mess up an evening. | |
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| Meeting Men Is Hard
Posted: 9/5/2008 7:40:45 PM | Well - I’ve never meet anyone from POF but - I use to be on a local (Kansas City) site and .....
Of the 4 or 5 gals I meet from it - all were just like they portrayed themselves to be. They all looked just like their pictures and were all normal gals.
That site got sold to some zillion sites company and went to the dogs. | |
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| Meeting Men Is Hard
Posted: 9/5/2008 7:47:55 PM | | At least you have been on a few dates,I can't even get that far. Meeting woman is even harder trust me. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2008 6:03:11 AM | OP, you say 'Meeting Men Is Hard'
you should try it from the other side of the fence, meeting a lady is a lot harder, at least you have had FOUR dates from here. Just out of curiosity, why did those dates end, was it your choice or theirs not to continue seeing each other? | |
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Posted: 9/6/2008 6:24:50 AM | As noted before, I have no expectations of meeting anyone from this site; I just like the forums and the give-and-take of the responses! So, I just don't even think about it to begin with.
In real life? Sure. It's more of a challenge in our generation to meet both men and women who are:
--Single (as in, never married, divorced, widowed AND no longer attached to the past)
--Normal (as in, happy and positive rather than wallowing in bitterness or anger)
--Attractive (as in, taking care of oneself and having pride in one's external appearance)
--Ready (as in, open for a myriad of possibilities)
--Balanced (as in, not freaking out completely if the personalities don't click)
Whew! Think those qualities are too much to hope for these days?  I hope not, but sometimes I wonder...! | |
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| Meeting Men Is Hard
Posted: 9/6/2008 6:53:16 AM | Whenever some says they don't care about __________ (fill in the subject) -- it usually means they most certainly do care.
<div class='quote'>I do not judge people by their weight or clothes, but he could have tried a little!
If people didn't why would there be billion dollar diet and fashion industries....?
There's always a balance between being someone you are not, for a meeting --or not really trying....
If you make yourself into an image of fashion and style that's really not you at all -- the meeting is phony and you are yet to see the "real" person... But if you just walk out of the house the way you were dressed for an evening in front of the TV -- then the impression of just not giving a damn would be easily created. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2008 6:56:10 AM | | Hey, You r exactly right meeting men is so very hard for women as well as for men meeting women.I myself haven't had much luck on this site either I've met three men on site actually met two in person They where okay whenever we first met but after that it was as if they didn't have time for me.I can't keep sitting around waiting on love I know everything in life takes time but my god how long does one have to really wait in order to find true love , soulmate whatever.I basically was just curious about site a girlfriend met a man on site they have gotten married seems like she found a good one so i just thought that i would try my luck.not so lucky if u know what i mean.All i can say is keep looking they say that there is someone for everyone maybe this site isn't the one for u or me.Anyhow Goodluck.keep searching and maybe try other free sites....... | |
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| Well Women Don't leave lasting Impressions Either
Posted: 9/6/2008 9:34:51 AM | I think as I always say communication is KEY !!! especially in your case ... Let me say if I had been your date I wouldve been impressed..and equally so with how you handled the situation.. remove the tie.. cuff your sleeves open your shirt.. and walla!!! less casual...
I love men who dress nice.... shows pride and confidence....
whats discouraging to me these days in the dating world...is that its either young young ones or much older gentlemen.... I would love someone my own age... who hasnt been jaded with past relationships.. we all have had our share b ut again its how we learn from them and move foward.... Life to me is fatoo short and its discouraging now that it seems time is going by far too fast... .Id rather share it with someone ...being alone is doable... but why settle for that.. or settle for anyone just so we arent alone?? I refuse to do that..but hey come on... its time many people on these sites take them seriously make an effort ....  | |
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Posted: 9/6/2008 9:37:38 AM | wow I read these posts that people have actually met and gone on dates.... do you know for whatever reason I barely get a email back....
also I dont know of any other free sites.. and i refuse to PAY to find love LOL... i like this medium because as i stated in my earlier post it facilitates communicating from the get go..... you do hear all the stories about people finding love online.. well dang whats the secret?????????????????????? Patience is not a strong suit of mine lol | |
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| Meeting Men Is Hard
Posted: 9/6/2008 9:51:29 AM | I had a meeting set up for yesterday, 09/05/08, with a man from here. We talked on the phone all week but all he kept wanting to know is what I was wearing at the time. Then the day of the meeting, I called to confirm. He said he would be here around 4 pm and wanted to know if I was going to wear a mini skirt and heels. I said I wasn't sure what I was going to wear yet since it was only 11 am at the time. Evidently, I didn't answer the way he wanted me to with a big, "Yes", and he never showed up. That's about par for the course on this and most sites. I have only met two men from here in person. Both went well but didn't work out. The rest who set up meetings never showed up. I'm of the mind that most of these guys are either so afraid of rejection that they find it hard to actually meet in person or they're the phone/cyber sex type who want to get their kicks, behind the scene, by fantasizing about what we're wearing.
I wish everyone on this site, who is seriously looking for a partner, all the luck in the world. | |
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| Meeting Men Is Hard
Posted: 9/6/2008 10:02:05 AM | Dating on here is hard. It is hard anywhere. This is where pictures can help a lot. It gives the life style a person likes or is in. Nothing personal to anyone. Really look at those pictures first. Not to assume wardorbe is the end all to a good man.
I ask if it is causal or what. I state, I am comimg from work or lets go casual or business casual... say what are you wearing. I am wearing jeans, shorts, etc. .
My clue to you would be that most of the time we put our best foot forward.  When the first foot it not so good, what will the second foot be like?
Hang in there as you may have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince. | |
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| Meeting Men Is Hard
Posted: 9/6/2008 12:05:33 PM | There are lots of men on dating sites and no doubt I have chatted with many but only have met two face to face.and they were well dressed { One flew a 5 seater into my little air port in this small town.
So with that said email and talk on phone longer and you can gage whether just "Men" or if you have met a M A N
A man to me is """"He is sure of his manhood""" and can afford to be sweet, kind and gentle, and have manners and treat you with respect. Only a Punk shows up like your date...so good Luck. and hope you meet a nice man. | |
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| Meeting Men Is Hard
Posted: 9/6/2008 12:18:00 PM | It is easier for women to meet men than vice versa.
Still the interenet is not easy. Plenty of Fish Events are much better... as you get to meet aqbout 20 people at once....
Do not expect to find "the one" even so at your first event. Expect to spend some time and to find your "one in a thousand" person after about a year of going to events.
the good news is the POF events are social occasions... and are held in relatively inexpensive venues. You will almost certainly make some good friends before you find a lover.
Have patience. It might well be a while before a keeper comes along. But I believe there is someone out there for everybody. | |
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| Meeting Men Is Hard
Posted: 9/6/2008 12:18:27 PM | | Well, if YOU women weren't so Goddamn picky, ...it WOULDN'T be so hard now, would it? | |
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Posted: 9/6/2008 12:28:33 PM | Tressee, I'm totally with you on this one. The last internet date I had came for the weekend and was dressed like a street person and she didn't bring anything she could go out in. I have no idea what she had on her mind. She was MUCH younger than me and I just chalked it up to a different fashion sense in that generation.
However, I will say that all others came dressed to impress even when they were casual. As the site name says, there are plenty of fish in the sea and you have to kiss a lot of toads. | |
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| Meeting Men Is Hard
Posted: 9/6/2008 12:55:47 PM |
Assuming you have talkted on the phone to the person you are going out with, wouldn't it be simple enough to ask, how are we dressing for this occasion? Not if one of your requirements is the man's a mind reader. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2008 1:18:32 PM | | That's what you get for not having the dress code talk, before the date, over the telephone. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2008 1:46:00 PM | | Meeting people isn't hard for anyone. The hard part is meeting our fantasy people. We have all these stipulations involved that should guarantee us our perfect mate. Most of that is on looks on men AND women's part. Some of us are the ones who cause this behavior while others are "victims" like the OP. Learning how to talk to one another, meeting for dates and maintaining a relationship are features we do not respect anymore. In our tolerant society, we do what we want. That come with a price. Sometimes your greatest gifts are not gonna come in the prettiest or similar packages. But I will say this; if someone shows up or talks like something you can't deal with, leave them alone. They should have more respect for you to look at least decent. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2008 1:46:09 PM | | hi.. yes it is not easy, but there is no excuse for bad maners, and lack of respect, if a man cant make a bit of an efert to turn up tidy , makes uthink just how he lives uff, well good luck all u hunters hahahaha, regards peter. | |
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