| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 7/7/2008 11:39:46 PM |
Ive been there..drugs and shots do not work for severely allergic cases..please be more sympathetic
And all the women looking for "6-foot or taller" guys with full heads of hair, they should be "more sympathetic" to short balding guys, right? I mean, after all, its a "genetic" thing, much like an allergy, not anything they can do about it... how *dare* you not date them because of something they have no control over!
Lets face it, I'm sympathetic - I feel sorry that you can't have pets. But reality is, that it being a *choice* - you can choose not to date someone who is a pet-lover, and they can choose not to date you. One can be sympathetic, and still have preferences. Nobody is trying to judge, its just my *preference* to date women who are pet-people, just as it can be yours *not* to judge people who are. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 7/8/2008 2:29:34 AM | | This is what happened to me. I was liveing in Md. And met this great lady from upstate new york. She came to live with me for a year, We were planing to get married and build a new home in NY. I Quit my job and moved. Then out of the blue she did not like the cat. My cat that has been with me threw thick and thin. Well needless to say say I told her to hit the road. I build my new house and me and my cat are doing just fine. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 7/8/2008 2:39:27 AM | | I'd rather cut off a hand or a foot with a spoon than lose a cherished pet due to someone's allergies. I am allergic to dogs and have been to the allergist in the past so as not to disrupt a gals home life. I agree with Leara (except the last sentence - the cat would stay independent of marital prospects - something could be worked out) | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 3:04:34 AM | To reply to one of the first posters...
A soulmate is someone who appreciates what you do, who you are, and who is involved in your life, including your pets.
I am an ER veterinary technician. Several of my veterinarians, including my critical care specialist, are allergic to animals. That specific doctor has 11 cats living with her in her multimillion dollar home, even when she is quite allergic. I personally would never seperate myself from my animals for anything- if someone truly loves me, they will love my kids as well. At least my kids do not require child support or court dates- the most they will require is some sort of antihistamine sitting around the house. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:01:25 AM | Shocking and sad, I would NEVER give my Cats away for No Relationship, it is my cats and moi, or nothing...
Like someones kids, my pets are Numero Uno, in my life.. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:42:33 AM | 6sense
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Posted: 6/10/2008 3 15 PM
Prehaps..if you knew the history of this relationship (they always argue) so far I think you would be inclined to agree with me......Just so you know I have been happy and supportive of her.....thats why she calls me......I did comfort her and remind her that she found a great home for kitty which made her happier.
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Posted: 6/10/2008 3 18 PM
Leara....I think it's been about 8 months but they only just recently moved in together.
6Sense you must know 8 months together and they are moving in together already is a little fast don't you think plus they always argue you said also. This is going to be an abuse relationship as you probably can see also that is what I would tell her. That is why I don't feel sorry for alot of woman that have a abuse relationship, because they can break up or leave it's not hard at all. Woman say I can't leave yes you can when he works you get ready ahead of time but renting a moving truck etc etc and you move plain and simple as that and you put a restraining order on the guy also if your so scared. Alot of woman just blame the guy it's the womans fault also for staying there and being stupid and not just leaving. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 11:18:46 AM | | Well ladies sorry to say my pet,. My dog Misty is the most special thing in my life ever. I was in a coma and she was brought to Mass General and put on my shoulder and i came out of a 6 month coma so you see She saved my life and i worship her........John | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 7/8/2008 11:50:00 AM | | I could never give up my cat,he's family.That would be a sign to me that the relationship was not to be. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 12:04:22 PM | | My cat is so important to me that asking about the potential date's views on pets is one of the first topics I bring up (and I state my views quite obviously in my profile). I find out how they feel about pets, if they have pets, if they grew up with pets, if they're allergic - you've got to ask these questions if this is something important to you! If they are not compatible with me in this area, then I will not go out with them - I don't even let it get to that point. I don't think there is anything wrong with this - my cat is a big part of my life and I will not compromise on that for a man. To me this is no different than finding out other views on the other person where you differ greatly, especially if those things are are a dealbreaker to you. You have to know what you want and ask about it before you even take that first step to get involved. That is KEY. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 12:12:25 PM | | I love animals, I love my pets, but if I fell in love with someone, I would choose the human. Human relationships have become very important to me. People that work outside of their home and didn't experience some of the isolation I have probably can't understand what it can be like. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 12:31:13 PM | Pet! I wouldn't give up my sweat pea for the world! His unconditional love and stubborn personality cannot be replaced! If I found the human love of my life, he wouldn't ask me to give my dog up, we're a package deal! I'm deathly allergic to Cats, but if my mate had one, I'd suck it up, take the allergy pills, throw my allergy eye-drops in my bag and he'd come over to my house more often. But I'd never ask a guy to give up his cat for me! If we were going to live together, then I'd see the allergy Dr. about shots or go to my friends Acupuncturist (it worked for him - severe nickel allergy) do whatever it takes...no ultimatums.
I hope your friends boyfriend isn't just being a manipulative, controlling, power play type of person...that could be bad.
Take care, and I hope everything works out for your friend. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 1:14:30 PM | I'm allergic to animals too. but, once I moved in with a girl, who had 2 dogs and 2 cats.
I know of other people who have done the same.... it can be done.
so its not a one sided question..............
"if you love me you'll get rid of the dog"................
"if you love me you'll see a doctor and live with me and the dog"............... | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 9:39:26 PM | | If a guy (or anyone for that matter) were to touch a hair on my pets' heads, I deball him!!!!!!!!!!!!! Actually, to be serious, I'd never date someone who dislikes animals, so it's a moot point here. Reagrding allergies, I'm allergic to my pets, but I'd never give them up. Anyone who would suggest it is inhumane, in my opinion. There are always ways to mitigate allergies. It disgusts me the way some people treat their pets as though they're somehow disposable. A pet is a lifelong commitment...period. If you can't make that commitment, don't get the pet. Once you have it, there's no getting rid of it any more than you would get rid of a child. Nothing but pure irresponsibility to do otherwise. Pet peeve (pun intended). | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 10:20:49 PM | | I wouldnt. because I would not be very happy having no animals. For a short time, say if one passes away, but I could not be happy with no animals permanently | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 10:28:11 PM | | my pet, she didn't choose to be my pet i choose her. if he made me choose he wouldn't be worth it since everyone knows my dog is my baby haha | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 6:12:08 AM | | I have had pets but i had my wife for 35 years and i would give up all my pets just to have my wife back with me, hopefully you people that think your pet is the most important aniaml in your life will find the one person that you really derserve. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 10:05:02 AM | I belong to a dog rescue orginization, I see and hear some pretty bad things that happen to animals, you took on the responsibility of that animal when you got it, the animal loves you unconditionally and you just give it away like an old pair of shoes,
I get so sick of hearing the words It's just a dog, or cat or whatever.
Like the old saying, Not for Love nor Money, I would never give up my dog for anything or anyone, she's part of me, a package deal, you have to take it all. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 10:13:24 AM | | My dog is my child I lound never give her up. I would do it only for the safty of my children. I would not get envoled with a person that could not be around dogs. there are alergie shots he could taken them. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 10:31:18 AM | | My cat and I are a package deal, just like single parents and their kids. He's my baby and I'm never giving him up. If someone can't deal with my "child," that person is obviously not someone I'm meant to be with, anyway. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2008 5:04:13 PM | Like I said in a previous post, I do feel it selfish to ask someone to get rid of their pet. I love my pets. They are no disposable. They have rights.
I met a man I was crazy about but he wanted me to move to the city which meant I would not be able to keep the horses and secondly, he wanted dogs outside at all times. Well, I will miss him! LOL.
I have this lifestyle already and I enjoy myself. Im not going to let a man bully me into getting rid of pets or moving to the city. I'd rather be alone than that. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 7/12/2008 1:23:46 PM | Having just lost my two older boys (the oldest just died thursday, still grieving over that) in the past month, I visited the local shelter today while I was out and filled out an application...
They told me with all the foreclosures lately, they're overloaded with abandoned pets - I'm thinking maybe getting a slightly older "brother" for my two new ones (just turned 1y/o) - maybe 4-7 y/o. Not quite ready today, I'm burying my Beauregard this weekend, but...
Its unfathomable to me that someone could toss aside/abandon a pet as easily as an inanimate object - let the bank repo the house, walk away, and abandon a living/breathing creature with it? Even taking them to a local shelter for adoption would be more acceptable to me than just abandoning them... at least its making an attempt to ensure their well-being. I don't think I could ever date someone who thought just abandoning their pet was "acceptable". | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 7:52:24 PM | | Not only is it horrible to abandon an animal, it's illegal. Those people need to be in jail! | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 8:19:58 PM |
Could you give up your pet for a mate?
Personally, I would NEVER give up my dogs for a relationship. Unfortunately, I don't really have to worry because my chihuahua passed away a month ago at 14. But if someone said to me "Your dog, or me" I'd have to pick my dog. Animals are like family to me, and it's just wrong to abandon friends or family just because your significant other doesn't like'em.
If it was a matter of being allergic, I wouldn't outright give up the animal. I'd see if I could give it to my mom, probably, since she loves animals, as well and very kind to'em. You know, try to keep the pet within the family so I can see it regularly, but keep it out of my house to accomodate others. | |
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