| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 8:32:19 PM | | In a relationsip, it has to be be..love me, and love my cat! I would never give up my cat(s). They are part of the family. If a man can't accept that you have cats, then he's not worth it. I'd be finding myself another man if they can't love me, and my cat(s). | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 8:36:00 PM | | That's just crazy...haven't either of them heard of allergy medicine? There are many to choose from, over the counter or a prescription from the doctor...ugh..I would never give up my pet. I take allergy med's and have 2 dogs and we all live nicely together :) | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 8:44:31 PM | Ive had my girls 12 & 7 yrs. Got them at only a few weeks old, taught them how to behave, picked up there mess until toilet trained, cuddled them when the big bad thunder comes LOL
They are like my children in a sense. One poster wrote they are incapable of love, I dont know if that is true or not but I love them to bits. My youngest has saved my life. I dont take on a pet with the notion "till a boyfriend do we part".
Only one thing would make me get rid of them and thats if they went mad and hurt a human other than protecting me but then with my care and attention they are never in a position where even an accident could happen. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 8:54:16 PM | | I'll give up my 11 year old dog about the time I'd give up my kids. So, yeah, it's not happening. | |
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| Your Pet or Your Relationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 9:03:34 PM | I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who didn't like dogs. I have a little Maltese who means a great deal to me and I would not give him up. He's family...
If I didn't have an animal when I met someone who became special to me and who disliked dogs, I wouldn't have a dog... But I have one so it's a moot point for me. | |
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| Your Pet or Your Relationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 9:07:01 PM | I have my camel and anyone who doesn't like him can find someone else.....Besides, he's Hawt!!! | |
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| Your Pet or Your Relationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 9:11:14 PM | | My animals were here first. Guys have to deal with them. When I took them in from the pound I made a commitment and I take that seriously. | |
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| Your Pet or Your Relationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 9:18:23 PM | | The cats stay. My grandmother once told me she thought I was single because I needed to get rid of my cats & guinea pigs so I could get a man. I don't think so. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 10:33:44 PM |
Any Trainer will tell you your pet does not love you, they are condition because you feed them. Any Therapist of any sort will tell you "a relationship takes priority", yes even the ones that have pets. They are pets not people.
If you want to spend the rest of your life talking to your dogs/cats /chickens/cows/rabbits so be it. Just think little cute suzy rolls over after a year, meanwhile you just gave up the chance for a beautiful relationship with a PERSON. Lets look at it this way, you have had your dog for 10 yrs, the dog now requires a $6,000 operation, I bet you won't spend the money to save your dog. ( I know some say they have or will) So much for that loving feeling, I know so many people that love their pets but will not spend any money for life saving operations.
And this rant is related to the topic how? | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 10:42:41 PM | I'm sorry but I would NEVER give my pet whom I have invested time, money, love and emotion into for someone who was simply my boyfriend... If he is allergic then take medicine...
I have a Maine Coon... My ex fiance hated her and was abusive towards her... When I discovered it (he did it while I was not home) I left him... I wasn't going to let him abuse this cat who was literally my "watch cat," whom I had spent LOTS of my hard earned money on, and grown very fond of...
He was replaceable... My cat will be with me for 13 to 23 years... Not only that but animals are easily imprinted and often have a difficult time transitioning to a new home...
My cat is the best thing I have ever had happen to me... When I cry she sits on my chest and lets me tears hit her fur... When we go on car rides and we stop at a rest stop she growls at strangers, especially men... Warning them to back off... She will go and wait outside a door for me to make sure I come out... She "kills" her toy mice and shows me what a good cat she is... She talks to me, as Maine Coon's trill constantly... I don't know what I would do without her... Not to mention I love the company...
Anyone who is willing to give up an animal they love because someone who may only be temporary is asking them to, well then they don't really care for you... Because if you love your animal and they love you... then they should love your animal as well... Even if they have allergies... They make medications now that make people able to cope around things they are allergic too... | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 11:02:23 PM | Hey pets will never hurt you, leave you, back talk you, hit you, cuss you out, cheat on you, or cause you to feel pain... They only ask for a nice belly rub and ear scratch and some treats...
I don't know what I would do without the valuable time with my pets I've had and will continue to have and will have in the future...
Boyfriends have come and gone, but nothing compares to the love I have felt and offered to my pets... | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 11:16:48 PM | Ok I have serious allergies. Short story to explain my allergies. I visited a girl that had like 5 cats in her house and who knows how many outside she just had kittens. So within 5 minutes my eyes where bloodshot and itchy. In 10 minutes my eyes where swelling. I had no meds available. I had to get some one to drive me home because I could not see. So if this guy is anything like me I understand.
So I understand this to a extent. I say if the s/o that turns into a ltr and we move in together has a medical condition that makes them "suffer" due to the pet. Sorry as much as I love my kitty. Bye bye kitty. But if its just because they don't "like" my pet then we'd have that "talk"
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 11:39:37 PM | | moved in with my ex now,she wants and is keeping my cats wont let me havim back guess she is using them to keep on seeing me | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/11/2008 12:29:41 AM | I don't think people should give up their pets - the animal has bonded with you and they're dependent on you, like children
If you could just throw away an animal you shouldn't have a pet in the first place
I'm allergic to cats too but I've seen guys with cats before - I just can't live with one. If I were to marry someone with a cat I would take medicine for my allergies - I have to do that anyway | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/11/2008 3:37:24 AM | | I am deathly allergic to cats...i avoid dating women with cats, however i have a dog...a non-allergic dog (poodle). I would never ask someone to give up their pet..there's ways u can work around it (meds and such) altho its not easy depending on the severity of the allergy. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/11/2008 4:15:11 AM | I have huge allergies to cats. And so does my son. I wouldnt expect anyone to give up their pets, but I know that the relationship wouldn't go anywhere.
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/11/2008 4:48:07 AM | Re the Opost
I love pets, especially dogs, but I prefer not to keep one.
Same thing with kids, I love kids, get along with them fine, eg those of my friends, but never wanted any of my own.
An elderly parent with Alzheimer's takes up enough of my energy to have any left for pets or children. I keep whatever energy I have left, since I do not run on nuclear, for a rel with a woman, preferably w/o kids or pets or at least children over 18.
Because the same thing as general "energy" applies to "emotional energy". We cannot over-extend and have real and deep human to human (or living to living) emotions for too many others, we have to manage our emotional energy well as well, not spead it thin!
Maybe I am "jaded": I was once in a rel with a woman that lasted longer than it should have, merely because of her dog. I wanted to leave but that lovely creature, the dog, kept me there for many months longer. When I left, I really wanted to claim the dog, we were really attached to each other and I think that I could have provided more for him than she did and I think he felt the same. But he had no say in the matter. If only animals could talk!
The fact that many people form better emotional bonds with animals than with other humans does speak volumes of the state of humankind nowadays, of course! If only dogs could talk.
That is one of the reason I stay away from women with dogs or cats. What happens if I wind up getting attached to her pet and when we break up I have to go through another pain of the separation (with the pet)??????
The same applies to women with chldren under 18!
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/11/2008 5:07:47 AM | Once I made the decision to take on my pets (2 cats and a dog), it became my responsibility to ensure thier lives are well looked after. I cannot understand giving away a pet for a relationship that has not stood any test of time. 8 months is a drop in the bucket. Still the honeymoon stage!
I just prefer to date men without allergies. If they have allergies, I make it clear that the animals are part of my family, and he can decide if I am worth the trouble of popping pills or whatever he needs to do. I need to be able to spend time at my home, as the animals crave/need human attention....so he would have to learn to accept them. If he cant, he would need to move along.
I take my responsibilities seriously, and will not slag them off for a man that I dont really know. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/11/2008 5:13:44 AM | I'm with mrb and kthyg on this one. If I had the cat before the relationship, I would not give the kitty up, but would say "see ya" to someone with allergies or a dislike of my pet.
In a long ago thread I gave a true example of why I feel so strongly about this topic. I had had several dates with a seemingly nice, and very attractive man. I finally felt comfortable enough to invite him to my home. While I was in the bathroom getting ready for our date, I heard my kitten screech and opened the door to ask why. This guy said, "She got in the way and wouldn't move, so I helped her along," but in much more colorful language. Without any explanation or anger, I grabbed the guy by his collar and shoved him out the door, locking it behind him.
From that point on, whenever I entertained the idea of dating a new man, I would make it clear that if I had to choose between him or my cat, the cat would win!!
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/11/2008 5:23:54 AM | | Why does it always have to be all or nothing? I have allergy pills, and the cat or dog doesn't have to be on my lap 24/7, and I can always go out for fresh air or go home for a few days. | |
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