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Posted: 6/14/2008 11:25:40 AM | Possible he has placed this add BEFORE you came on the scene and forgot to cancel it. But it happend to me that I met somebody on a serious datingside, then found out he was on a sex side too (which he forgot to mention to me about). He told me he will get out of both sides after starting to date me, but turned out to be addicted to it already. So we called it quits and we are still friends, but no more!
Good luck to you what ever you do, but you need to confront him and find out the truth!The truth shall set you free, one way or the other! | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 11:30:08 AM | Well OP, MsFrenchie.
Reading the advice and responses to your situation and then reading your responses to those..............the question seems to be who is more addicted here: Your b/f to porn and 3-way dreams or Frenchie to a non-existent relationship where there is little communication, fear of communication, behind- the- back sneaking around, and mis-trust between two "roommates"???? You apparently are another female victim who enjoys being one and lacks the resolve to end the situation. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 11:35:19 AM | Honey, before I met my ex husband face to face, I created a 2 profiles with pics of these women with different geographics both wanting him. "This was during the time that he was starting to L O V E me." Well, at that point I decided to date and gave him these profiles letting him know that they were me checking up on his integrity. I let him know that I was disappointed that he was playing me.
Why don't you be someone else, hott and bothered, really cute, wanting to cum for him because he is just a hottie???? GROWL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Does he want to nibble your neck?
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Posted: 6/14/2008 12:20:39 PM | | ms, Not sure that anyone other than your partner can explain himself ...or might care to honestly to you for what he's 'planning ahead' for y'all. My suggestion might be to run an ad(d) on the same site ISO who you'd prefer to move ahead w/ for your plans. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 2:41:31 PM | | I've been there and he was dumped pretty fast after being confronted about the matter. A guy who is a porn addict has serious issues and needs a good shrink in my opinion. A male who chooses porn over his gf or wife deserves to be tossed aside for good. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 1:47:05 PM |
...how do I approach him? By changing your phone number and the locks on the front door?
Auf wieder sehen, baby!
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Posted: 6/19/2008 1:55:51 PM | OMG - this is one of the main reasons I ended my last ltr of four years!!! Honey who cares how you approach him except with his bags in hand at the door and onto the lawn!!!
First of all you can NOT fix it... noone can get an alcoholic to sober up or an addict to get clean if they don't want to. And he's obviously not honest with you.
Maybe he already has another girl and seeking the third and you aren't even invited to the party!!!!
Cut your losses and run. The house isn't enough reason to put up with this unless you are willing to be used this way. And as some have already posted, this is an addiction that will only get worse, who knows what else he is into. Where there is smoke there is fire. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 2:41:44 PM | Reminds me of that Pina Coloda song where the man places a personal ad (the song was before the convenience of the internet) in the newspaper and someone replies. When they meet, lo and behold, its his wife.
Maybe you should do the same, set up an account and answer his ad. See how he explains the situation to the "two" of you and if and when you meet, you can bust his a$$.
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Posted: 6/19/2008 3:07:32 PM | MsFrenchie,
Another question has entered my mind here.
You say that "trust" is a very important issue to you. Can you explain to us how it was that you found out about your lover's ad on the sex site? You must've had some notion that this guy was untrustworthy in order for you to have gone where you went to find his ad. Why were you on that site? Seems to me that your "trust" radar might be out-of-order or something.
In all seriousness--and I mean no disrespect here--you may find a mental health therapist useful in gaining self-insight and understanding about trust in relationships, including signs that another person is likely not worth trusting.
I'm sorry that you've made material/financial commitment to being in this situation. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 3:28:04 PM | First question is 'How did you find out?'
Seems you had reason to check into it for some reason.
Answer to your question would be to be honest.. something like 'Hey honey, I found out you are looking to swing and would like to know why you didn't ask me if I wanted to.'
Kind of simple actually. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 3:34:10 PM | | i would cheat on him if i was u i mean why does he want 2 **** other females 4 he sound like a loser look i interested in hooknup with u 4 funtimes | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 7:03:07 PM | trust is a very powerful word darling. It takes much time to gain. But only a second to lose. Once lost it will never come back. I really and truly hate to tell you this for i have come to love and respect you as your friend. A dear and close friend. But as time goes on i may want more. But i will remain your friend no matter what, I will risk broken heart for this. Your worth it. Jack  | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 7:16:16 PM | | You mention that you can't leave because of your financial obligations. You're not married. Kick him out. Do whatever it takes. He betrayed you. I know a couple who got a divorce over the exact same situation. The difference was that her husband was posting explicit pictures of her with his adds. Or is that the case with you too? Are you sure? | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 7:42:04 PM | At least you were included in there somewhere. It was found over 900 requests for sex by anyone except men. I am and was broken hearted. He continues to go on every dating site he can even though we plan to live together and share a business. I discovered this after surgery and completly had a fit drugs and all. He was out with my daughter getting me some pain meds and the paticular girl I WAS reading at the time was only 1 year older than my own daughter he was with. I was never invited because I cant fathom the thought. I discovered he really has problems that I CANNOT CONTROLL. It gets better, he is impotent with me!! | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 7:51:01 PM | | Just get rid of him, he's not worth it. Or advertise for a threesome yourself (with 2 men) and don't include him. The man's a pig. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 7:51:26 PM | | OP - 2 words - bye bye. I get what you're saying- it's not about him wanting the 3some, it's about the deception. What else is he being deceptive about? When there's no trust, there's nothing to build on on or fix. Cut your losses and go... | |
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