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Posted: 6/21/2008 1:37:13 PM | Lot of no-brainer questions being asked. She's either f##king with you, or you need to get away fast. If any woman I was with told me oral was no more, she'd be the same status. Why should I forgo a pleasure that causes 0 harm to the person providing it?
All that said, if she was honest with you, I appreciate her honesty. It makes her a good person, but a $#!tty sex partner. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 8:36:42 PM | | Dude. If a woman does not want to "bob-the-knob", then the men shouldn't be obligated to "mow some patch". But for christ sakes, if she is not interested in sex at all...you are going to have a man to hand relationship, if you commit to this woman. Keep the conversation just as it is and either move on or explore her logic. She can be just playing you, so see where your heart really lies. Use reverse psychology, on her and see where it goes. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 6:39:50 AM | OP, you have "my kids" listed as your first interest and your two girls look like sweethearts. If I had two young girls, I am guessing they are 10 and 12 years old, I would be looking for a regular woman who could be a good role model for them.
"Sex is mostly for making babies" is not an emotionally healthy attitude and for sure
"Don't ever touch yourself" borders on major repression.
I would not want her around my kids.
We all have the right to live how we want, but she would impress her views on your kids. Do you want that?
Besides, you are only 40!!! OMG!!! | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 6:42:38 AM | 1) I am assuming she feels you should not touch yourself.
2) "she would be just as happy with an impotent man" Trust me, you commit to her, you will feel impotent. She will destroy that part of your identity. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 7:29:17 AM | aw no . My ex-girlfreind to this day YET . will not do that , have a mind blown ramp . or for that matter a " out of body orgasm " . she will be 49 next year . yeah , I know something messed up big time . I had a one nihgter once . that woman gave me and showed me WHAT i MISSING .   | |
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| could you live without a BJ for the rest of your life
Posted: 6/22/2008 8:12:01 AM |
Ive been chatting with someone here for several weeks,and just recently the conversation turned to sex.1st let me say she is one nice lady but wow thats when the issues came out.
As your name says.. Keep it cool, pop...
You state "chatting only a few weeks", but no mention if you have actually met the lady. There can be many things/reasons from emotional past experiences, to hormonal variences (even physical) that can create that / those effect(s).
Her statements may indeed be factual, or a test of your sincerity BUT to make a decision solely based on recent comments online is, in my view, premature and without truly knowing the person and your one to one compatibilities. **She is definately informing you that there is fear associated with intimacy and not to expect a quick romp after meeting. Depending on the leading conversations, she might be both frightened and wish to "back-paddle" a bit ** But that is not to say the other factors of past / physiological/ hormonal are not also in play.
Myself in that situation, would decide the pros of knowing the person. To meet and sense compatibility / chemistry.. and if you find both have a DEEP RESPECT and feel that special bond, then the rest is perhaps possibly treatable (provided you have patience/ understanding, and do not view her body as a possession / object for your pleasure)
Don't get me wrong... I am a passionate person and understand the differences between Lust or being intimate. Once you have experienced the deepest emotional trust and connection , patience grows easy...from your note, you have not fully reached that stage as of yet.
Would I give up regular sex for a special bond of the soul?
-Yes - without hesitation, because that is not giving up intimacy which is truly mind and soul felt.
Do you have patience to determine the bond if any? | |
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| could you live without a BJ for the rest of your life
Posted: 6/22/2008 6:46:30 PM | | (was In response to a person confused between sex & Intimacy) My previous post shows my stand as being more than physical.. Like minds, holding, trusting, understanding...a lifestyle... Sex is an action. not a goal. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 3:09:17 PM | I have only ever received 2 BJ's in my life so far, the 1st she only put the head of my Penis in her mouth, and spit, so does that really Count ? the 2nd was with my latest girl, but she will only give me head if im wearing a flavoured condom ! so there again does this really count ? she again only she only put the head of my Penis in her mouth,
so I have missed out for so long now so yea maybe i will have to live the rest of my life without one   have i really missed out ?
I love giving oral but it seems the women I have been with dont love giving it
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Posted: 7/1/2008 3:12:37 PM | | OMG run like the wind - even an impotent man wants sexual stimulation by giving and/or receiving - the feeling doesn't go away just b/c the hardon's are gone. She's a bit nutty and wants a companion not a partner. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 3:38:09 PM |
My previous post shows my stand as being more than physical.. Like minds, holding, trusting, understanding...a lifestyle... Sex is an action. not a goal.
Sorry quinte but a "soulmate" without sex is called a best friend not a husband or wife.
OP - I am more concerned that she doesn't like orgasms... It is clear she has issues and it's up to you if you want to work through them with her. Personally, statements that she has made would put her firmly in the friend category for me. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 6:24:31 PM | coolpop, this sounds abnormal to me. Maybe she was sexually molested as a child or she's asexual. Either way, I pity her and hope that maybe some day she can get some help, unless she's fine being the way she is. I'm not into oral sex myself (giving or receiving) and it's amazing the amount of disbelief and even hostility one encounters because of this.
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Goodness, that is one stuffed-shirted lady. Wow ~ I wonder how come she's single. 
