| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 3:04:12 PM | | The demanding part was NOT an exaggeration on my part...when someone sayts to me,,CALL ME BY 5:30 or I am going to find someone else to date...what would you take that as?? He had other things to say..but I am not going into it...I was married to a control freak...not going there anymore...like I said..I know I am no raving beauty,,just your average country gal..but i do deserve respect and consideration,everyone does.. | |
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 3:15:21 PM | | I did not say all guys do this...and we have not even been together for me to dump him..I can however dump his dumbarse for even thinking I would do this..i simply asked the question to find out if anyonme else has had this problem...I do thank you formyour input!! Have a nice day! | |
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 3:16:20 PM | Mark hit the nail on the head.....
A MAN with CLASS would never suggest a lady meet him at his house on first meet....
I have to ask why would any woman with 1/2 a brain would even entertain the idea given the medium in which we are here..... jj | |
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 3:35:28 PM | I've had this request as well and I refused. These men didn't bother to talk to me again so I was better off.
In my opinion if a guy is interested enough he will drive part way or all the way to meet somewhere public for the first couple of times. | |
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 7:04:27 PM | I have conversed with him by phone.and email..I had been talking to him one day and was going down the road and all of a sudden my braked went out,of course i said a few unlady like words,hew asked what was wrong..I told him and he said..I will come get get you and fix your brake sat no charge
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That was not one of the choices I listed for how men and women meet for a date. If you want our advice, please read them.
(((Thank you for the compliment...I still do not undrtsnad why people do this..it has fgot to be all about beong a power freak)))
You haven't read a single thing we have written have you. No one mentioned power freak, he sounds like a normal dumb guy ITS YOU WE ARE CONCERNED ABOUT. Read the answers people gave you... | |
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 7:16:17 PM | Anyone can ask anyone to do anything.... be they male or female. They then have the choice to do it or to not do it. This scenario would suggest to me that there's a pretty significant gulf between what was offered and what was expected -- so logically one would seek to find a better match.....
The idea of meeting a stranger for the very first time in one's own home would seem to be me to be unacceptably risky for either a man or a woman to do it. | |
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 7:29:23 PM | hay,
just take a look at your profile on the first date part.
you talk about taking off your shoes!!
well,,, you know how one thing leads to another,,,
you tease!!!
smile dammit!
pokey | |
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 7:41:22 PM | You know, I was about to ask the same question! I've been having the same situations coming up on my end as well. The last guy I met for coffee had me drive 45 minuets away from my place so that he could work out at the gym in the same shopping strip as Starbucks. He even pushed back our date til 8pm and didn't show up til 8:30 pm and Starbucks closed at 8:30pm! I then found out that he lived a block away from where we met and when I asked him why he did that his reply was, "Then I wouldn't have met you because I had to get my workout in. " Nice. The sad part, the last three guys that I've met it's always been near or on their home court.
I did have one guy out of all the gentlemen that I've met actually come by my place, pick me up and we went out. It was awesome! I totally respected him and it has left me with a huge positive impression. But, I gotta say, I think I'm going to pull back from this idea guys. I've learned my lesson. Either Half way or No way.
Cheers. | |
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 7:42:09 PM | Yes You need to wonder there is no reason he could'nt drive then maybe he don't have a car. Or maybe don't have a license Don't get me wrong he should go to you first gives you the home court. but after a while you could go to him. But if he always wants you to go to him somethings up. Good luck | |
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 7:50:57 PM |
Old fashioned??
M dear in this age of equality you have no business being old fashioned no matter how you peersonally feel.
There's nothing at all wrong with being old fashioned, and it can actually be quite romantic, as long as that's what both people want. | |
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 7:57:22 PM | The neutral site for a meeting is great for both men and women. It makes sure that both are comfortable and is a spot that either man or woman can use for comfort and safety...let's face it, the internet is great, but you don't really KNow a person until you can meet them and get to know them.
Women especially are vulnerable on this front, but men also. So I am all for the neutral site arrangement. Gives you both a safety net and doesn't let either of you be compromised later down the road. | |
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 8:07:20 PM | A couple of suggestions:
First, do what you feel is right for you. If you don't think it's right to drive somewhere demanded by the guy, don't do it. If he isn't willing to meet you at least half way, he may not respect you or understand the issues hanging over on-line dating.
As for the...
I know I am not a raving beauty or Miss America here.. .
neither are some other 2.5 billion women on this planet. The bigger issue here is that these "titles" are bestowed by others (usually those with the sensitivity fashion geeks). One thing I would say to anyone out there is that the only person who must respect you is ... YOU. After that, anybody else's negative opinion is absurd.
And one other thing: nobody has any RIGHT to demand anything at any time in this context.
Stop beating yourself up and start raising the bar for yourself. | |
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 8:26:21 PM |
CALL ME BY 5:30 or I am going to find someone else to date
I imagine you rushed right to the phone. How could you possibly resist such charm?
Some people think rather highly of themselves. In fact, they think so highly of themselves that they completely forget to develop a personality and manners. | |
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 8:40:49 PM | | That phone is still sitting there,,thank goodnes for caller ID..I am not rushing to his phone calls for nothing..and yes I am reading and taking in all this advice believe me...thank you again... | |
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 8:42:56 PM | | No, those kind of men or women have no consideration for their dates unless they had no other form of transportation or was handicapped or other reasons similar to that. For example being me,I would be hesitant going to a complete strangers house or someone that I barely knew for my own safety. Going to someone's house is not going out on a date. He or she should be asking you what you like to do or what you had in mind for the first few meets. Or Both persons could choose and negotiate where they want to meet until they come to an agreement that makes them both happy if that be the situation. | |
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 8:46:25 PM | | personally, i would not demand or ask a woman to drive out to meet me. whats happened to thoughtfulness and concern for safety. for me a meeting at public attraction like the sf museum of modern art would be a start. if we hit it off if it because theres interest. we could grab coffee, sushi or a great vietnamese sandwich in the tenderloin district. id leave the date at that. no thought of going to bed and having sex. how would you even know if you have that kind connection? | |
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 9:13:00 PM | I would step back big time.
No way would I even consider asking or making such an arrogant statement/ request.
Heck no! you should not go! Sounds like a Nightmare in waiting.
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| What is Going On These days With MEN???
Posted: 6/12/2008 9:22:13 PM | my first thought about this was, could he possibly be on house arrest n' can't leave because he has one of those ankle monitors on him ? i'm from illinois, where john wayne gacey (serial killer) invited 30 something young men into his home n' they never seen daylight again. well respected man about town, mind you. fools rush in ; where angel's fear to tread........  | |
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