| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/13/2008 7:33:42 PM | The longer term relationships happened when I had the strength to control myself a little longer than I actually wanted to! However I never felt any regret in having given it up too soon - it was right for me at the time I choose to do so! For the guy that got it the quickest - the sex was good - the relationship just wasn't.  | |
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/13/2008 7:34:32 PM | I agree with Plumb -- wine can help a girl make a decision a little faster... and TO I don't think (I hope not anyway) that Plumb was meaning she was going to be pass out drunk...
But that is the exact reason I don't drink while dating early on in a new dating scene... | |
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/13/2008 8:00:20 PM | | I believe it should depend on how serious you are about the guy and what you want. if you want a relationship and you are very serious about this one, then make all attempts to hold off as long as possible. I believe that you can screw things up by screwing too soon. If you are just looking for fun and so is he, then have as much fun as consenting adults can! | |
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/13/2008 8:16:03 PM | | Would you believe i have waited for over a year? It's true. I don't think i'm waiting much longer... dang i must be selfish.. | |
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/13/2008 9:36:03 PM | | Re getting her drunk to smooth the way, I am remembering graffiti at a local university some years back, "'No' means give her more beer" or words to that effect. That wasn't particularly funny either, given the high rate of acquaintance rape. Sorry, Plumb, we are not amused. | |
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/14/2008 3:53:59 AM | Plumb5150's cpmment was in jest, maybe BAD jest, but I am sure jest none the less.
Women wait however long the moment dictates to their soul. If she is drinking, especially more than on eor two, I think it is safe for a man to assume she will be more wiloing. Let's face it... a handsome man, good conversation, good chemistry... hopefully your inner voice will say "slow down girl and remember what you really want!". If all she really wants is to get bopped by a gorgeous man she is gonna do it. And, I DO NOT condone in ANY WAY , SHAPE or FORM any oerson forcing sex on a person who says NO. MY NO IS NO. Flip side, "ya can't rape the willing". Yes I am a woman - sorry if you are apalled a woman would quote that remark... but it IS the truth. | |
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/14/2008 4:01:27 AM | I don't believe there is a usual time. It varies from person to person, relationship to relationship, circumstances and the connection one has with each person.
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/14/2008 5:31:36 AM | OP, Your Pof moniker is about the "usual(ly) wait" that I've known for women wise enough not to hesitate and usually 'be lost' for one very good way to know someone better via an activity that comes too naturally for us all, but these women proved incapable of having the intercourse, w/o the sexual, for my idea of a potentially successful LTR. Oh, I've known a few 'women' who opted to wait, like good girls are raised to do ...and I'd the patience to 'play along' till I was 'tall enough to ride their ride', but I grew no more respect for them in the process that is theirs to control, even if most think that 'losing it' is is the way to proceed.
Patience is a virtue that I'm doing my best to instill in my six y/o son, and fortunately sex is not yet one aspect for life and living well w/ others that he's needing to learn for such ...even if he's had his moments when others might think that he's purely sexual in nature.
Just waiting for his turn in a far more innocent game is still a struggle for him at times, and perhaps some women apply likewise, as a test of their choosing for such, for the men of their choosing to treat sex in a like light. I'm sure that sex will be one more lesson ...or more for my son to eventually learn for the 'whys not' of premarital sex being the best tie to bind ...and I will do my best for passing along what I know for the futile irony that too many women choose to project for their virtue of waiting. "W/o courage, there is no virtue" is a truth that I've learned too well for the lacking in previous self and others, but I do believe that after 50-some years of my making my best effort w/ all involved, I've finally met someone who's done likewise in her own right, and who's also beyond ready to want/need for sex not being all that we have in common and care to do together. I've waited 30+ years for THE right one to 'arrive'. | |
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/14/2008 5:50:41 AM | | I don't really have a "rule of thumb" anymore. I just wait until we've gotten to know each other...until I'm sure he's someone I really like...until I'm completely comfortable...until I'm feeling it...until I can't wait any longer...until I just know. | |
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/14/2008 7:30:01 AM | A ring and a wedding license? ****sake.. talk about paying for sex. 
It's a damned shame that society has programmed us to believe that sex must equal love and commitment.. kinda takes all the fun out of it, dontcha think?
In my opinion women who do the "hold out til it's really serious" thing have NOOOO idea what sexual pleasure is all about and are completely missing the point of sexual intimacy. It's supposed to be about pleasure and satisfaction, NOT something meted out with extreme prejudice only after formal declarations of intent to support are notarized and filed with the local magistrate.
My guess is that most of the women who fall into this category are the spinster types who sit alone at night with three cats on their lap watching re-runs of Crossing Jordan shaking their fist at God wondering why he has chosen them for a life of loneliness and solitude.. my advise to them is buy a vibrator, remember (or find out) what an orgasm feels like and then set out to find a man (or men) willing to help them have many, many more.. the relationship stuff will follow along behind that once you find someone you share great chemistry with.. AND as long as the orgasms keep coming (pun intended) on a regular and frequent basis, that relationship will last. | |
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/14/2008 8:01:12 AM | | I've waited between a few hours and a few months. I think ideally though, if I liked a guy, I'd at least wait until I know that the guy is clean (STD free), and when I can be in okay with whatever follows. Whether it be a relationship, or a one night thing. | |
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/14/2008 12:26:36 PM | | it doesn't matter how long THEY wait, I'm still gonna have them when I go to bed with my lotion ... except they will be dressed as a naughty, naughty nurse! | |
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/14/2008 12:27:55 PM | | i agree with Kandi, But their have been those night where too many beers and shots were involved and regrets the next morning and now a days you gotta be to careful | |
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/14/2008 12:31:50 PM | [QUOTE]the majority of girls give it out like candy on halloween[/QUOTE]
O, really? Who are these chicks, and where can I stalk...I mean locate them.
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/14/2008 12:33:11 PM | | I think when you have sex too soon it does ruin the potential relationship. Having said that when men find out that I haven't had sex in two years and want to get to know them better they bail out. They say that they are looking for a long term relationship and want to be friends first but in reality a lot of them are looking for potential sex partners. They start off by asking for more pics of you and then do you have any that show off your figure. What kind of BS is that. If all they are interested in is sex they should be honest and say that's what they want. | |
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/14/2008 1:56:03 PM | Well I was physically and mentally attracted to someone on the first date and ended up sleeping with him, something I had nt planned, there is that old stigma of being easy.......something I dont consider myself to be....therefore I guess however long it takes, what ever will be will be.....
however.....I am no longer with this person and I often wonder if I had let him wait...things may have been different.
What is the ideal time??? When you ve met their mum...possibly..who knows....
Good luck in your quest, let me know if you find out...so I wont make the same mistake | |
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/14/2008 8:23:51 PM | | It depends on the woman like most have said. Personally with the select few men I have been with - it has varied from the 3rd date, to two weeks and the longest being a few months after we started dating...it really depends... | |
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:20:26 PM | If you're just horny and looking for affirmation that you are desirable... sex on date #1
If you're looking for a man who will call you for more than one date... sex on date #2
If you want a relationship that will last for a couple of months... talk about sex from date #2 and learn to really LIKE each other first!
But... if you want a mate for long term , don't worry about the sex part at all... it will happen when you both feel ready for it - but will only be really, really good when it becomes MAKING LOVE.
Sounds old fashioned, but it works! | |
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| How long do woman usually wait?!?
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:34:45 PM | ~OT~ I wait until there is no doubt it's monogamous and the test results are in. There is no given ~ but I have a tendency to put sex as a last priority. The substance and emotional status needs to be firmly intact before I go that far into something. But that's just me. I think everyone is different and I've probably missed out on a couple of great guys because of my "Nope, not happening yet...." stance. Oh well!! JMO  | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 1:28:57 PM | | well i think i no the man u are on about, if is the one u wrote a testomonial about and he deleted!! i met up with hima few times, then when HE felt like it, he wud text 2 come round for one thing!! i soon wised up and told him were to go, hes only after one thing with a few on the go, so wise up like i did and tell him were 2 go as hes a serial s****** | |
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