| Using giftcards on a date ...
Posted: 6/13/2008 4:54:12 PM | | hmmm, a gift card vs out of pocket cash??? use the gift card! that's not showing that you're being cheap, just thrifty and also allows you to use some of the money that you saved on something else for your date.....maybe taking a walk after dinner and seeing flowers that you'd like to get for her that you didn't feel was appropriate to get for her before the date. | |
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| Using giftcards on a date ...
Posted: 6/13/2008 5:35:41 PM |
What I *would* do ...is if you ask someone out...just say... hey! I was given a gift card for *such and such* restaurant...and its supposed to be a terrific place...wanna check it out with me?
That way...she knows up front...you dont come across as cheap...and include her in the determining whether or not the place is actually good.
Excellent idea. I wouldn't find it tacky at all, especially in an expensive place. I value practicality, actually. What would bother me is a guy taking me to McDonald's for dinner and/or using a gift card there! 
But I would kind of work it into the conversation ahead of time as was just suggested, definitely. | |
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medana
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| Using giftcards on a date ...
Posted: 6/13/2008 6:05:16 PM | vote for KYN also.
although, it wouldn't bother me if he got the gift card out.
u could also explain on the spot, or usually beginning of dinner, 'u know, got this card, wanted to check it out, but not alone'. or 'i love this place, i think my friends actually gave me a car for this for my bday, if am right it's it's in here somewhere' (look in wallet) | |
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Posted: 6/13/2008 6:49:24 PM | It wouldn't bother me in the least. Money is tight for everyone these days, so if you wanted to take a date to a favorite place you enjoy, I don't see why it would matter.
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| Using giftcards on a date ...
Posted: 6/13/2008 10:14:28 PM | It wouldn't bother me a bit. Gift cards can be fabulous things! I do have to agree with the posters who said that $250 for a meal seems quite excessive, though. Major 'eek' factor if you are not already in a serious relationship.
After reading some of the replies I fail to understand how a gift card is cheap. It is still a valued currency, just at that location. Or does the currency used to pay for your dinner have to be applicable to other locations, yea I fail to understand the logic in that.
I don't think paying with a gift card means the person is cheap, but it is different than paying with 'real money' in that the gift card was given to the user by a third party. The only time I would ever have a problem with someone using a gift card is if I thought my date had not put any thought into restaurant selection and only took me to that particular establishment because it meant that he wouldn't have to pay his own money.
Edit: for the people who tend to read 'gold digger' into any and all comments that even touch on financial issues, I will clarify that the the last statement was about the person taking the time (even just a few seconds) to think of what restaurant we might both enjoy. It's not about wanting anyone to "suffer" to pay for my food. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2008 11:55:54 PM | I think it should be fine but if you fear that a girl is goin to trip on it... just say "hey! I'd love to take you to my favorite restaurant! I even have a gift card and I wouldn't think to use it on anyone else."
if that doesnt work... then maybe she's kinda shallow about money.. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 3:13:43 AM | | A giftcard or coupon wouldn't bother me in general, but on the first date it could seem tacky to some. Save it for a second or later date. There is no problem with paying privately anyway, away from the table, so that she doesn't even have to be involved with the paying. That wouldn't bug me either, but there'd be nothing wrong with mentioning the giftcard and paying privately. I probably wouldn't mind an actual giftcard even on the first date (that was an actual gift from someone you know). If it's a coupon that limits the choices of what you're going to eat, or something like that, then it would seem cheap. | |
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| Using giftcards on a date ...
Posted: 6/14/2008 3:24:10 AM | WoW!...
Kyn for President - oh wait, she's Canadian - never mind...
Seems I am now a President and a Canadian!!
*hands everyone a gift certificate for their votes*
ooo...well I wouldnt take a lady to dinner and then kinda just whip it out!
Why? That might distract her from the gift card ...
See OP...you're a smarter man than you're lettin on.
You saved a hundred bucks with the giftcard...and saved another $50 on the dessert.  | |
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| Using giftcards on a date ...
Posted: 6/14/2008 3:56:06 AM | I just don't get the connection between someone using a gift card, credit card or cash to pay for dinner....I would think of this AS a credit card for doesn't it already have "credit" on it?
What we consider traditional credit cards would involve him using someone else's money to pay for dinner and then repaying them later. I would not expect him to "borrow" (using a credit card) to pay for such an expensive date.
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Posted: 6/14/2008 6:23:58 AM | | Hey, if you have a gift card, why not use it? What does it matter how a bill is paid? Why were they (gift cards) made in the first place? DUH! If anyone thinks that it's tacky or cheap to use them.... they're way to stuck up! | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 7:05:09 AM | | I don't have an issue with it. If someone had given you $100 cash as a gift and you had decided to use it on an evening out with someone it would be no different. I would be flattered if someone chose to share a gift they received with me. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 4:51:08 PM | Personally if I have a gift card and I choose to use it and the lady doesnt like it, the hell with her. Then she is no one that I want to be with anyway. If how much I am willing to spend is more important than who I am and what I have to offer as a person, we wont get along anyway.
I actually did that once. I took someone out to eat and used a gift card...that I bought myself and decided to never give to the person it was intended for in the first place....and she got all uppity about it. So I had the waiter split our bill, paid my half of it...and left her there to pay for her half...and looking for a ride home. An hour later I was in the company of a much nicer lady so no skin off my ass. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 6:38:17 PM | | Honestly, if someone is going to take offence to you using a gift card on your date screw them....I wouldnt want to be with someone that shallow. Especially if you are offering to pay for the dinner in the first place! I dont see anything wrong with it all! and infact Im a pretty laidback girl Id kinda be out of my element in a place that runs a 250 dollar tab! how can that be considered cheap? :) goodluck! | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 6:43:52 PM | | totally OK in my book. I'd be flattered that you are choosing to spend your $100 gift certificate on me! | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 6:55:49 PM | I've never personally done this before, but I wouldn't think twice about using a gift card on a first date. Granted, the only restaurant thus far for which I've ever been given a gift card is Hooters, so I don't think if that situation had arisen that it would have been the gift card that caused the problem... (Incidentally, I never even got to use the card -- I lost it when I moved apartments)
But, to be honest, if a woman were to have an issue with me using a gift card on a first date, then it would be a pretty sure sign to me that she's too superficial to be the one for me, anyway. If dinner (or whatever) was my treat, then it is, frankly, none of her business how I choose to pay for it. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 7:57:38 PM | | I know you really don't want advice from the guys but in these times of high as hell gas prices I don't see why there should be a problem using a gift card. If you are worried about her thinking you are cheap there are ways to go about not letting her know that you paid with a gift card. Play it safe and ask her before the date t (already suggested) | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 8:39:29 PM | I, usually would not be put off by a guy using a coupon or a gift card.
However... I did have a man email me on here a while back asking me out. This was his first email to me by the way. In it, he informed me he had a buy one get one free dinner at a local place and he would like to use it on me to show me he "knows how to spoil a lady right".
Sadly... THAT was a turn off. So, I would suggest you not mention the card in your first email.
BUT..... maybe on the second or third, suggest that you have this card to this great place and if she'd be offended. By then, you should have developed a good connection and she may find it actually a compliment that you want to share your gift card with her.
I know I would. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 9:24:08 PM | | Just go up and pay discretely if you are not going dutch...nobody has to know but you, so yes, use your gift certificate, by all means. Act :) | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 11:41:19 PM |
Seems I am now a President and a Canadian!!
I've been misled all this time?!?! WTH is going on?!?! I always thought you were that wise Aussie who built her house upon the rock...hm...suppose I was wrong again. :shrug:
OT: I'd use the giftcard first chance I got, why not? Consider it a gift from you to her. Of course I don't think it'd go over so well if you were going dutch | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 8:18:51 AM | | I think it depends on the woman as to how she perceives it. Personally I would probably be like.. all right way to go... but then it is because I tend to be very frugal and would probably be uncomfortable at the idea that a date was spending so much on dinner in the first place. But then again.. that is my perception. But I think Kyn made a good suggestion because even for me, that would put my mind at ease that he was going to take me somewhere so expensive because I would feel better that he had some help paying. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 9:52:03 AM | | It wouldn't bother me. The actual date should be more important than how the bill is paid. I think it would be a nice gesture to use a $100 gift card on me. He could have easily used it for his friends, relatives, co-workers etc. BTW I wouldn't go to an expensive place for the first few dates. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 10:45:22 AM | I seem to recall this topic coming up as a thread before...
Thing was... so many many women were totally up in arms about it being classless and only something a loser would do.
Do you have ANY idea how hard it is to convince a guy I like (who has been burned before, financially) that I'm not interested in his money, these days? Well.. really really hard.
Anyway, using a coupon/giftcard on a date is a perfect testing mechanism, far as I am concerned. If she's all offended, you've gotten yourself tangled up with at best an easily offended tool and at worst a skeezy gold-digger. Either way... cut your losses. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 7:44:25 PM | | I would not mind at all if a guy used a gift card at a resturant, or for that matter anywhere else, such as a movie theatre for instance. I am a budget consious girl and would think it responsible and resourseful of a man to be the same way. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 10:24:36 PM | I would be happy to see a guy using gift cards or coupons on a date. It shows that he is careful with his money. I would suggest not bragging about how little the date cost or how much regardless of how or how much you paid. | |
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