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| So many young divorces
Posted: 6/19/2008 12:20:51 AM |
In today's disposable society, it is just easier to walk away than to take the steps and measures to work on it. People just walk away from it like yesterday's newspaper and move on too quickly when they can't find the "quick fix" for all their problems.
WOW!! such as powerful post you made right there. I agree COMPLETELY with everything you said in your post I might add. What I just quoted right there has hit the nail on the head. People today just aren't willing to "work" and face "adversity" in relationships today..as soon as there is a "simple" problem..they blow it up wayyyyyyy out of context and make a hash of it..AMAZING! They just dont seem to have any patience,a nd like you said its so "easy" to walk away from a marriage/relationship, especially since women are now more independent..they just have this "whatever" attitude.. "I dont need you" type of attitude..
seriously, how do people expect a relationship to work if they just "give up easily", the minute they face a couple adversity?..From what i've seen in my lifetime..this seems to be the MAIN problem causing splittsville in a relationship today. | |
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| So many young divorces
Posted: 6/19/2008 12:58:01 AM |
No one ever tells young women what marriage is really like
I'm gonna have to disagree with that though. Young girls in a lot of ases are given advice about marriage and so forth, yet they decist form listening to some of teh older heads with experience..people who "have been there done that"..kinda thing..a lot of them just refuse to listen, for reasons like you said in your post..that they "are marrying a prince charming"..they just dont like taking heed from people | |
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| So many young divorces
Posted: 6/19/2008 4:13:32 AM | Are you a woman? have you ever walked in the shoes of a young woman... No, well let me tell you from my stand point and those of the other young women I know...
No one COMPLETELY tells you what to expect once getting married...
We don't "not listen" when it comes to things about marriage... Sorry to tell you but from about 12 years old all girls think about it getting married... Most girls anyhow...
No one ever tells you that when you get of of school unless you're born into privilege or have a good job lined up... You'll be broke most of the damn time, bounce from job to job or place to place... and continue living off your mom and dad. Trust me I never heard those things; had I heard them my life would be different...
So don't tell me that you know what girls hear because you don't... Trust me you don't
Furthermore; yes young women expect the Perfect Man to come along some day... Well he doesn't exist, because inside all "Prince Charming's" lies a big fat jack arse and inside all Dip S H I T's lies a little remnant of Prince Charming...
Most young w omen go into their adult hood thinking that they will find their happy ending in life... Without realizing that that happy ending is only achieved through falling down many many times and earning it... Nothing is ever handed to you...
Also many young women think if their new spouse or even boyfriend hits them, that it's okay... He still loves her... EHHHH Wrong... When they do realize it; most are embarrassed to get a divorce if they've went as far as marriage because well let's face it being 20 years old and divorced for a year already! Well people do make their remarks...
But like I also said better now then when I'm 40 years old with most of my life wasted...
I think you need to talk to more young women, because your opinion varies far from what we know is a fact... | |
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| So many young divorces
Posted: 6/19/2008 7:31:04 AM | | Kitten, thats just ridiculous..there you go like most young girls youre age, you never want to take the blame for anything...the point is that a lot of young girls think they know "what's best" for them and that they know how t make "decisions" on their own..but whatever.. | |
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| So many young divorces
Posted: 6/19/2008 1:55:00 PM | Pardon me but I do NOT claim to know anything, and I'm not removing the blame from myself... Where was there any blame to be pointed?
I happen to be a divorced young woman myself, and as a young woman; your opinion clashed with what I know to be true...
I do know how to make my own decisions, and the ones I do not well that is why my mother is my best friend...
Considering I have been on my own for 3 years, and have been down and out, and I was in an abusive marriage. I knew enough to get out. I have two jobs and pay for everything on my own in my life. I am in college for the second time. I do know what is best for me in my own life. I have made plenty of mistakes, even more mistakes than say my mother or my aunt(s) and even my dad.
You can't say that all young women don't know how to provide for themselves in their own best interest. You don't know all young women.
I never sloshed off the blame for anything. I admit that I didn't TRY to make my marriage work and there are some things yes as a teen I didn't listen to the adults who tried to warn me. But I didn't HAVE to make my abusive marriage work when I was the abused spouse. I take blame for not listenin when people told me certain things about life. However, had I listened then I wouldn't have learned the valuable lesson I had from making that mistake and falling flat on my face...
You sir should try sitting down with a group of women from ages 12 to 21... I guarantee you will learn things about us you thought you knew that you were SO wrong about...
I am not naive and I am certainly not an immature young woman... You do not know me, so don't assume things. Because when you assume, you make an a s s out of you and me.
I simply was reposting to your comment because it honestly was obtrusive to say that all young women disregard the statements made by older persons. Well if that is true then the very same thing can be said for males. As a woman, as a young woman; and as a young woman who has grown up in the generation that knows WAY too much than what they should know at their own ages and are doing things and have dones things they really shouldn't be doing at the ages they are being done; I was simply telling you the fact at hand that I personally know and personally have been told by other women my age...
There are things about life that those whom we seek advice from do not disclose... Not that we would nor would not listen; but that they simply are not disclosed. Whether a portion is disclosed or it isn't at all... Complete disclosure is often not given on things like marriages, life, work, finances, children, and even general relationships... These things are not things that someone else could ever tell you about anyhow... These things must ALL be learned through trial and error... Without making mistakes and without honestly being arrogant in some way about those mistakes. We would never learn anything and would fail to advance in society... | |
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