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| Any suggestions for getting rid of stalkers of your profile?
Posted: 6/14/2008 8:29:10 PM | nope, don't need any meds...totally coherent...Of course I would rather know.....why are you not surprised he has not been caught?
I'm still not sure why you have been bashing me when all I was doing was presenting what a real stalker is in comparison to somebody viewing a profile. I really do not care whether you, with a somewhat profile, believes me or not....your opinion is irrelevant to me. You have not lived through it...but if you want to talk to my daughter or neighbours who did...or the police who patrolled the neighbourhood...feel free. like i said there was more that went on than what i let known here.
I call bullshit on your profile that has been up for all of four days | |
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| Any suggestions for getting rid of stalkers of your profile?
Posted: 6/14/2008 8:42:46 PM | Wow.... I can't believe people are making fun of stalkers!
I broke up with an ex and went on to do my own thing. One night, about 3 months after we split up, I hooked up with a friend I'd not seen in years, and we went out and spent the whole night out. We got back to my place at like 3 am. We'd both been drinking all night, so I told him he had to stay, and gave him the spare room (we were only friends, nothing more).
Within 1/2 hour of us coming back to my place, there was a pounding at the back door. I looked thru the blinds, and it was my ex. Obviously he was watching my house (3 months later??). I ignored it, and he persisted. I ended up having to call the cops as he was being really loud, and at that time of night, no doubt disturbing all my neighbors.
Cops came and took him home.. turned out he was drunk. Cops told me he was pissed that I came home with "another man", which tells me he was watching my house. The next morning my friend went out to his car, which was parked beside mine, and it was all keyed to shit. It was his grandmas car (an old karman ghia) and he totally wrecked the paint job. The cops were called again, but seeing as how we couldn't PROVE it was him. Nothing was done.
Don't ask me why, but in the following weeks, we got back together (yeah, sometimes I can be a dumbass, I admit it). From that time, till the time we split up for good (earlier this year) was a complete waste of time. We'd grown apart, yet he constantly kept tabs on me. It was awful. So controlling. I found out recently (after we'd had a fight and i'd not spoken to him in a couple of weeks) that he somehow got onto my computer, in MY house and was frequenting forums I visit on a regular basis (not this one. I only came back here after I decided he could go f*ck himself and we were totally done). One of the mods from another forum I've frequented for a long time confirmed it for me, via IP addys.
Since then, I've seen him all over the place. Seeing as how we used to live together, he knows my routines, he knows everything about me. I take a certain way home from work. A few weeks back, I was stuck in traffic, and who do I see in the oncoming traffic??? him.... He just shows up in places he knows I'll be in, at the times he knows I'll be there at... Last week, I was having lunch across the street from where I work with friends and I see his truck drive by... I look at my watch, and it was 12:45, exactly the time he knows I usually go down for a smoke before I start my afternoon.
It's REALLY unnerving guys, and to make fun of stuff like this is just sick IMO. He's not doing anything illegal, but it's got me on edge, as I know he can be violent. The sightings sicken me, and I've now got cans of bear spray hidden in my house, just in case, one never knows what a person this obsessed is capable of, and I KNOW he's capable of a lot... It could be 6 months down the road, and if I bring anyone home, I totally suspect he'll cause a scene... again.
How does one live with this? day to day, that's how... It is freakin' scary, and it is really upsetting, knowing that you are done with someone, yet they continue to hang on. I only hope he makes a scene at my house one more time, because then I CAN call the cops and have something done about him, given our extensive police history (his abuse). All I need is once, and I can get a peace bond slapped on him and be done with the ass once and for all.
Please don't joke about stalkers... those of us who have to live with this, it is very real, and it is very frightening. Nothing to joke about at all. | |
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| Any suggestions for getting rid of stalkers of your profile?
Posted: 6/14/2008 8:52:50 PM |
Don't ask me why, but in the following weeks, we got back together
got back together with your "stalker?"
It was awful. So controlling. I found out recently (after we'd had a fight and i'd not spoken to him in a couple of weeks)
You fight and normally speak to your stalker??
because then I CAN call the cops and have something done about him, given our extensive police history (his abuse). All I need is once, and I can get a peace bond slapped on him and be done with the ass once and for all.
Just don't let the police know you take him back sometimes and talk to him sometimes-except when you have an argument with him and are mad....they have no patience for those little games people play. | |
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| Any suggestions for getting rid of stalkers of your profile?
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:13:32 PM |
got back together with your "stalker?"
Unfortunately, yes. At the time I didn't realize what was going on. These guys are manipulative as all hell... he showed up with flowers, saying he loved me, bla bla bla.... we had years of history together, so I thought it was a fluke that he showed up at the house the night my friend and I came home....I know better now.
You fight and normally speak to your stalker??
Ummm... yeah, when it's disguised as an almost 10 year relationship! For the most part, things were good when we were together, we had our problems, like any other couple, but I certainly did not see 'stalker' qualities in him until I tried to leave him.
Just don't let the police know you take him back sometimes and talk to him sometimes-except when you have an argument with him and are mad....they have no patience for those little games people play.
Oh please, get your head out of your ass. Do you not know anything about people involved in abusive relationships and how sometimes it takes them awhile to leave???
My relationship was abusive at times, and I DO have police documentation to back it up, going back a few years now. Not so easy to leave when everything you have is tied up in a house you own together and he refuses to sell. Perhaps you should understand abuse a bit more before you beak off. Oftentimes, people in abusive relationships CAN'T leave at the drop of the hat.
We finally sold our house, I now own my own house and have for a number of months now. I have not seen or spoken to him in months, so there is no taking him back, or speaking to him thank you very much, I am done and have moved on. Now that I'm in the safety of my own place, there is really no reason for us to even exchange a simple hello, which has not happened in months now, despite me seeing him all over the place.
The police are well aware of our situation, as is my work (because of events that have happened a few months ago). My boss has all his contact info, in case anything happened to me. She knew something was wrong because I was not myself so she made me tell her. Once I did, she made me give her his contact info, just in case. There is no more f*cking around. I AM DONE...
Unfortunately, at times it seems, he is NOT.
BTW, how did I turn out to be the "bad guy" here? I was in an abusive relationship that took me awhile to get out of, but somehow you're holding me to blame?? Seriously?
Do you blame me for him staking out my house and following me around?? Because if you do, then I suspect YOU have some problems....
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| Any suggestions for getting rid of stalkers of your profile?
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:15:15 PM |
I call bullshit on your profile that has been up for all of four days
Now see that makes sense out of everything...
you think my profile doesn't exist
but your stalker does exist...
No wonder the cops can't find him--bet they could find my profile
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| Any suggestions for getting rid of stalkers of your profile?
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:21:10 PM | BTW, how did I turn out to be the "bad guy" here? I was in an abusive relationship that took me awhile to get out of, but somehow you're holding me to blame?? Seriously?
Do you blame me for him staking out my house and following me around?? Because if you do, then I suspect YOU have some problems....
I am just blunt---you can't say someone is stalking you when you are FUKING him and talking to him...SERIOUSLY... You needed to make up your mind to get out of an abusive relationship--he wasn't your stalker.
come here - go away- come here - go away....you will lose your credibility real fast with the police doing that. Hope THIS TIME you really are done. | |
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| Any suggestions for getting rid of stalkers of your profile?
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:39:01 PM | Honey, the sex stopped OVER a year before I got the nerve to leave him.
He had a peace bond a year before I left him. He was to have NO CONTACT, but seeing as how we shared a house together, nothing I could do to keep him out while I was at work. His name was on the title as well, so changing the locks was ILLEGAL. But him snooping and ransacking the house was totally legal, seeing as how his name was on the title... as long as he did not come into direct contact with me, he was safe.
Sorry, but he was, and IS a stalker in my mind. On mothers day he left a gift on my doorstep, which my son found as he was on his way to go play with friends.. at that point I'd not spoken to him in about 2 months... But he's not a stalker right?
That gift was sent back to him, via courier, unopened.
There is no come here, go away... it is totally GO AWAY, but he's not getting it, and despite what you think, I've got documentation on my side, it all started when he beat the crap out of me and I called the cops. Does not matter what you think, all it takes is one call to the cops, they pull our history, and he's toast (I've got the scars to prove it)
Christ you're a b!tch. You draw half assed judgements solely on what I've posted here, but I can assure you, there is much more to the story then what i've posted in what, 3-4 posts?
Might wanna go look in the mirror and figure out why you're such a judgemental b!tch..... | |
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| Any suggestions for getting rid of stalkers of your profile?
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:42:35 PM | Like I said, I do not care if you believe me....for whatever reason, you don't. I don't care why. I will never say everything that happened in this forum and if that means some jackass doesn't believe me, then so be it.
For what it's worth tho, and unlike the other poster who had an ex follow her and harass her, the most likely person who was doing it to me was not anybody I had been intimate with, but was an acquaintance.
Despite your wanting to dispute our personal accounts here, the topic of this forum was posted by a woman who felt stalked by somebody who was viewing her profile repeatedly. I was merely pointing out the difference between actual stalking and profile viewing....so, there was no need to be arguing my experiences, or anybody else's, for that matter.
To judge a person, make attempts at belittling them, or discounting a serious event in their lives really tells a lot of what you are like as a person. Yes, you are blunt (that is not always a good thing, ya know), but you are also lacking in compassion, understanding, and have the inability to put yourself in another's shoes.
Rather than cut others down, why not try to accept that others have had to go through something like this? Give constructive criticism without coming across as discounting other people's bad experiences (I'm sure you've had a few of them yourself), and contribute to the topic of discussion in a mature, open-minded fashion. I have broad shoulders, but don't ever accuse me of being a liar. | |
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| Any suggestions for getting rid of stalkers of your profile?
Posted: 6/14/2008 10:06:46 PM | I was merely pointing out the difference between actual stalking and profile viewing...
And I was merely pointing out that your story didn't make sense and that the other poster shouldn't be having sex with her stalker.
You merely point out what you want and I will merely point out what I want. Thanks.
Might wanna go look in the mirror and figure out why you're such a judgemental b!tch..
Practice what you preach--you are calling the guy you can't stay out of bed with a stalker. | |
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| Any suggestions for getting rid of stalkers of your profile?
Posted: 6/14/2008 10:42:52 PM | Practice what you preach--you are calling the guy you can't stay out of bed with a stalker.
Good lord... it seems not only do you have personality issues, you've got reading comprehension issues as well.
I guess you missed where I wrote I'd not had sex with him for over a year prior to leaving (oh, and prior to the peace bond... funny that. )
I have come to the conclusion that you're a bit whacked... reality doesn't sit well with you and you probably wear a shiny red helmet every time you leave your quarters... that's ok... I don't make fun of the mentally challenged... but on the same token, I don't have a desire to engage with them /you either.
If you can take something as serious as this topic, and make light of it, and blame the victims, then you have some serious problems... I suspect you have a long and lonely life ahead of you... and it looks good on you. You definitely deserve it.
I have nothing further to say to you. You are quite obviously unbalanced and not someone who is in touch with the real world... to each their own, but hey, be sure to say hi to Elvis for me the next time you see him ok?
This will be my last post to you. I don't care what anyone else thinks, but I think you're a troll... totally... (we really do need a 'kiss my snow white ass' icon here!) | |
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| Any suggestions for getting rid of stalkers of your profile?
Posted: 6/15/2008 7:21:49 AM |
I sugguest everyone in this thread should look at her profile, thus pushing his pic out of the recent queue....at least for a day.
Okay, I did my part. Now she'll be stalked by the invisible man, but I don't leave sex messages. And as long as she visits golf tournaments and baseball games, I'll keep my distance. | |
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| Any suggestions for getting rid of stalkers of your profile?
Posted: 6/15/2008 11:51:22 AM | I feel your PAIN-I had a stalkers in my life.Everypalce I seemed to go he was there........he found out all my phone# etc.Not fun at all.
One night he was actually at my parents house "waiting" for me ..how he pulled that one was that he lied to my parents and told them that he was there to pick me up for a date- at their house!!!!!!!!!!
I didn't come home that night to visit my folks and with his CHARM he win over my parents -he had the looks and the charm to go with it!!!!!!!!!!My parents could not believe me when I told them that he was actually stalking me..........It took my brother to go and find him and have a "talk " with him.
From now on I am a proud owner of357. | |
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| Any suggestions for getting rid of stalkers of your profile?
Posted: 6/15/2008 12:15:26 PM | Northernlights...from your profile....
"Prefer not to say" on your profile... What's up with that? Do you not think if you meet someone here they will not figure out soon enough that you smoke, you have kids, are a crack head, drink like a fish or you're married? Prefer not to say only says one thing to me... DISHONEST! At least own your shit, tell it like it is and allow people to make informed decisions!
If your user name is something along the lines of "honestguy", "lonelyman", "letsplay", "realman", or anything else equally ridiculous, and your profile states you're married/attached, bored and looking for fun/'discretion', got 2 words for you... BITE ME (ummm... NO, not literally!). Your name should be LOSER.
Might wanna go look in the mirror and figure out why you're such a judgemental b!tch...
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| Any suggestions for getting rid of stalkers of your profile?
Posted: 6/15/2008 5:08:53 PM | [Sounds like you set him up...fake and duplicate profiles are against the rules here. Sounds kinda 'stalkerish' to me. How do you know he contacts every new female? You were bothered by him, but continued to communicate with him, including sending him a pic. You are right tho, there are creeps here...male and female.]
DUH! I DID set him up! That was the whole point....to find out about him & get rid of the jerk once and for all! THREE years of his crap was enough! This guy contacted me each and every time I put up a new profile. Any profile I've had on ANY site....he was there until I blocked him. I also have a lot of girlfriends on POF and he contacted them as well....until they blocked him! I went as far as I did because he would NOT leave me alone...not just the viewing crap on here (that's just annoying), but he was everywhere else as well. As for the fake profile...it was on my friends computer as she refuses to use online dating...because of the creeps!
As I said: EXTREME action to take..... but Hey, it worked! He's gone from my sight! I don't care really who looks at me (I'm on a dating site!), but that guy, in particular, was REALLY creepy! | |
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| Any suggestions for getting rid of stalkers of your profile?
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:48:54 PM |
Is there anyway we can get back to the original topic which was:
"Any suggestions for getting rid of "stalkers" of your profile?"
Well just go back and read the first 4 posts. I think they covered any possible suggestion.
But just to rehash
1:Delete profile and start over, only to have him probably view your profile again.
2:Don't look at the viewed me page. If he's on the top row that doesn't mean he keeps looking at your profile, it just means he did once and keeps logging into plentyoffish, so the only way to fix that is to delete your profile or for him to stop using plentyoffish.
3:Live with it, I mean it is just your viewed me page right? You've already blocked him so he can't send you any emails anymore. | |
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