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Posted: 6/16/2008 2:45:25 PM | There was a Halloween in college when me and some buddies all bought women's dresses from the Good Will and wore them out drinking and acting like fools. It was all in good fun.
But for a man to seriously walk around dressed like a woman trying to feel "desirable", that's just weird.
I can't imagine anything more unattractive, and just plain bizarre, than a man dressed up like a woman trying to look sexy. And they have that look on their face which is pathetically asking, "Do you think I'm sexy?"
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Posted: 6/16/2008 8:58:02 PM | Unfortunately, most men don't look that great as a cross-dresser. Most of them need serious coaching from women willing to teach them not only how to dress, but effective mannerisms as well. But I've found it's fairly common - probably 1/4 of the men I have known have expressed either an attraction to transvestites, or a desire to dress at least partially in women's clothes.....
One of the most difficult situations for a cross-dresser to master is how to dress in a feminine manner (showing off some skin) that is not covered in bushy man-hair. That's a deal-killer. If the guy is naturally fairly hairless and well turned-out, it can be quite interesting and provocative. I'm not sure I'd advise a guy to shave his body - no good can come of it (unless you're an Olympic swimmer or Mr. Universe contestant of course!) Equally bad would be trying on my own clothes or using my makeup!
Glad to hear your wife encourages your fun......Enjoy!......... | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 9:45:34 PM | The movies,
Precilla, Queen of the Nile.
The cross dresser was Mr. Smith in the Matrix.
The director liked to cross dress and that's how he noticed the actor in the first movie.
Go figure! | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 9:56:40 PM | | I am amazed at your wife, actively encouraging you to look on this site for walks in the wood.....as for the crossdressing thing, well, everyone to their own .... | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 10:37:12 PM | | I lived with one - he was a drag queen too. I have several friends who are male and straight and enjoy dressing as women. We joke and they call themselves lesbians (they dubbed themselves that), so yeah, it's more common than you'd think. Go to alt dot com, you'd be surprised at how many T-girls or crossdressers there are. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 12:31:27 AM |
Unfortunately, most men don't look that great as a cross-dresser. Most of them need serious coaching from women willing to teach them not only how to dress, but effective mannerisms as well.
See, I think that's part of the problem. As much as we'd like to, for most of us, our build and bone structure prevents us from looking as nice as we'd like to, not to mention availability of nice clothing in our sizes. And no matter how you wear it, or how you behave, a beautiful gown isn't going to ever look as good on a 'Danny Devito' type body as it will on a 'Heidi Klum' body. And of course, we move differently too, again, because our bodies are proportioned differently. And when lot of guys try to emulate the mannerisms of the opposite sex, and go overboard doing it, they wind up becoming caricatures of what they're trying be. As much as I feel like I'm supposed to be pretty and feminine, I also know that it's just not going to happen, no matter what I wear. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 7:59:36 AM | Cheshire...great response. i am one of those you mention....too hairy and too big to be a passable crossdresser so i don't bother to go out but we do have lots of fun at home with it. Mistress/wife has shaved me, waxed me and "Nair-ed" me...all three have led to some interesting situations (ask me about the "Great Balls of Fire" episode). By the way, i took the time to read all of your profile....very interesting.
As for some of the guys here thinking it a weird, rare and perverted thing, i think a trip through some of their friend's closets would be a very enlightening adventure. i know some very macho crossdressers...carpenters, ironworkers, truckers, bikers...you name it, they come from all walks of life. Don't be so eager to dump on another persons kink because deep down inside, you probably have one or two of your own. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 10:12:18 AM | plumb5150. He's a crossdresser. That doesn't make him a lesbian in a males body, or a female in a man's body. Those are completely separate identities. The transgendered community is not usually included with cross dressers. From what I understand, crossdressers are considered the annoying little sisters of the trans and queer community. Just because a man chooses to wear women's clothing does not make him gay, either.
Usually, there is sexual appeal in dressing as a woman. While these men still identify as male, they become womanly in the female's clothing. They may change their manneurisms, speech, and behaviour to feel more womanly, but they still identify their gender as male, thus, they are not confused about their bodies or their gender identities, simply exploring feminine ways. There is absolutely nothing wrong with cross dressing. It is perfectly natural in some men.
Unfortunately, a lot of cross dressers crossdress in secret. They do not tell their wives or family, they don't tell their parents and they rarely go out in public. Not many women can handle this secret when its revealed. My advice is to be open about it with yourself and your world as soon as you're aware of it. Gender benders should not be ashamed. Our world needs to accept that not everyone fits into the two straight and narrow gender categories of 'male = man' and 'female=woman'. If you're honest with yourself, then you'll be able to find a partner who already knows this about when you first start dating and will accept it. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 9:36:17 PM | its Priscilla, Queen of the desert
sorry for correcting you | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 9:58:12 PM | | If my guy wants to get into my panties, I hope I'm still in em..... | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 5:39:27 AM |
crossdressers are considered the annoying little sisters of the trans and queer community
Not to everyone; few people understand all the various ways of expressing gender. Many gays I've known tell me I'm really gay but don't know it, they don't understand it either. Some accept what I explain to them, some don't. Like anything else, you get a full spectrum of responses when you tell someone you cross dress.
Usually, there is sexual appeal in dressing as a woman.
No, that's transvestism, crossdressing for sexual excitement. And if he's still 'exploring feminine ways', he's still kind of 'in stage one'. After a while, we know what we are feeling when we dress up.
Unfortunately, a lot of cross dressers crossdress in secret.... Our world needs to accept that not everyone fits into the two straight and narrow gender categories of 'male = man' and 'female=woman'. If you're honest with yourself, then you'll be able to find a partner who already knows this about when you first start dating and will accept it.
Easy to say, difficult to do. society is still far away from accepting crossdressing as even remotely normal. For those of us who do it, the chances of finding a woman who is attracted to us is also remote. I've been alone now for ten years; when AOL first started their match making, I had an ad up. Lots of responses. I later changed the ad, only to add at the end that I was a cross dresser. Zero responses other than one prostitute and some guys. None. Zip. And that was when they had over 20 million members. It's been pretty much the same since; I've been on match, loveaccess, true, date, all sorts of mating sites including the alternative sites. Other than professional sex workers and guys looking for crossdressers, I'm not getting many bites. Basically, we're fighting human nature. Women are generally attracted to typical alpha male behavior and traits, and repulsed by the opposite. Guys who don female attire are embracing feminine traits, which turns off the attraction. Sure, there will always be a few who go against the grain, but that's all there are, a few. Not nearly enough to go around for the 2.5 percent of all males who crossdress.
My advice is to be open about it with yourself and your world as soon as you're aware of it.
Sure as long as you're willing to live a life being ridiculed behind your back as well as in front of it. There's still a huge stigma to cross dressing. Not to mention the loonies that try to trap us and kill us (which you will find in the news periodically). The world isn't ready, or accepting of people who aren't what they consider 'normal'. Gay people know this too, but at least they can find a mate. There are no straight girl-crossdresser bars, clubs, or websites. No where for us to go. And it's real hard fighting the good fight, when you're always all alone. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 8:19:44 AM | | Hi...nightKiss..I would love to apply for the postion avaible...if its still open...id love to chat with you some time....I would just love to cross dress for you. xxx The Lobster | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 12:17:15 PM | | I am a crossdresser anyone interested message me | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 12:25:23 PM | | I don't like for my man to crossdress and I don't crossdress for him. I like for him to remain in his man clothes or nothing at all. I prefer to remain in my woman clothes or nothing at all. He prefers it that way also. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 12:45:42 PM | ~OP~ Hang on to that amazing woman. I think you'll find that very few understand the concept and that makes it yicky. Open-minds are few and far between....at least here in the States. Personally ~ I have my own list of "out of the norm" scenerios (kinks by some standards) therefor, I don't judge anyone on who they are or what they choose to do. JMO  | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 12:54:18 PM | | Think I would have some problem with that. I wouldn´t want to risk him stealing my clothes! | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 3:10:03 PM | How brave of you to be open about cross dressing and multiple partners here!
I do like a man in a skirt or with eyeliner but not the whole dress up for some reason.
My ex gfs husband was a cross dresser, I never saw him all done up though, just in a cute crop top and hot pants  | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 3:19:48 PM | Just don't ask to borrow my bra. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 3:36:20 PM | I'm done just blindly accepting things because society tells me I'm supposed to. Political correctness be damned.
Call me whatever you want. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 5:05:16 PM | I have a very dear friend who is a man and a cross-dresser. The fact that he dresses up in women's clothes will never make me care for him as a friend any less. In fact, I tell him many times I would be happy to go shopping with him. That way, if something makes him look hippy or makes his butt look too big I can tell him so .
He is a straight guy, and believe me, if we were more compatible on other issues of life, I would snatch him up in a New York minute.
Anyway, just my 2 cents. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 6:04:23 PM |
I often get cross when I am dressing if I am late getting up.
I often get cross when I am dressing if I am late getting up.
I often get cross when I am dressing if I am late getting up.
I often get cross when I am dressing if I am late getting up.
I often get cross when I am dressing if I am late getting up.
I often get cross when I am dressing if I am late getting up.
I often get cross when I am dressing if I am late getting up.
I often get cross when I am dressing if I am late getting up.
Keep practicing your English,repetition can only help you and annoy all others! | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 6:06:05 PM | | So far all of the cross dressers that spent years learning how to use the slot on your "tighty whiteys" you are willing to throw all that practice away? | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 7:47:49 PM | I encourage a live & let live attitude. How does it affect me (or affect you) is some other guy wants to dress as a woman? It doesn't. Do your thing, I'll be over here doing my thing.
Having said that, a girlfriend did suggest dressing me up as a girl, and I experienced actual physical revulsion to the idea. Not just because I'd be the world's least passable cross-dresser, but because I found the idea to be the exact opposite of sexy. Again, that's my personal response to it... I don't care if some other guy is into it. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 11:14:41 PM | Nah, you wouldn't be the world's least passable crossdresser. Just stop over by dateacrossdresser dot com and see for yourself; and, despite the name, there's not a single female over there (where are all these women that will date us, anyway???).
Hey, I look like a fullback in a halter top and skirt. The only way I pass is if you hike me the ball. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 4:09:38 AM | The OP has no idea how lucky he is. But I do wonder...Does his wife know and approve of his bisexual activities? That was not made clear unless I missed it.
If not, then the OP is risking losing something so rare... an understanding wife. She may accept his cross dressing, she may even enjoy it some, she is at least accommodating his need to cross dress, but IF he is cheating on her with the bi thing, he is perhaps setting his wife up for pain or worse. STD's come to mind.
Would the OP be so understanding if his wife had a need to have other male sex partners on the sly?
Cross dressing is not the issue here.
Being bisexual is not the issue here.
The cheating is, if in fact his wife is clueless to this part of her beloved husband.
Maybe the OP wants to clear this up. Does your wife approve of the sex with men? | |
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