| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 7/11/2008 6:33:49 PM | I wouldent be thrilled - my fatherly instinct would be to find and harm the guy involved...lol...
BUT, I would have to admit respect for her, for being smart enough to use birth control. | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 7/21/2008 11:41:24 AM | | id say she was being careful. my daughter is 15 and i knw she has condoms in her room and i havnt asked her about its her private business | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 7/21/2008 11:48:50 AM | | if i was the parent of a 15 year old daughter i'd rather find an open box of condoms with a few missing than an empty pregnancy test box. at least i'd know she had some common sense. | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 7/21/2008 12:54:28 PM | | You should thank God shes not going to contract cervical cancer, AIDS, syphillis, gonnorrhea, chlamydia, trichinosis, mycoplasma, hepatitis C or the rest! | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 7/21/2008 1:09:10 PM | | Well as someone who has a niece 4 years younger than I due to my sister having a baby at 14 (yes, having a baby, not getting pregnant, having) I think I'd be somewhat happy that she's at least using protection. After that I'd probably invite him and her to dinner together and have a nice long talk about the birds and the bees (maybe some videos, a few graphic delivery slides, the usual) just to make sure they are well aware of what happens. | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 7/21/2008 1:29:12 PM | | No good answer. Friend of mine took daughter in to doc, got her on the pill, condoms, lecture, she still got pregnant in high school... forgot to take her pills, didn't use the condoms. Other friend tried to reason, threaten, ect. daughter into not having sex, same result. What's the problem? TV, movies, pop culture in general... all give the message of "don't wait... donate!" and the knowledge that they won't really disgrace their family by doing it because there is no such thing as disgrace for a family anymore. | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 7/21/2008 2:31:01 PM | | I am sorry but condoms don't protect you emotionally or from HPV or from Herpes, and if not used properly, they can break so having a condom missing does not mean that the girl is protected, we don't even know if she used said condom, just that one was missing. Abstinence is the best protection...I f-in wish I knew better back then...what a stupid girl I was! So teach your girls the right way, show them to women who have gotten STD's or pregnant by using a condom...I got pregnant by using a condom at the tender age of 18...think I was ready...nope | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 7/21/2008 2:42:41 PM | I think it would be "snooping" if it wasn't in my home. 15 years old is still against the law as well. I have the right at any time to search her property at this age.
I would ask her about it in private, respecting her privacy first. I'd first off tell her that I love her and that even condoms are not 100% and if she think's she is ready for sex,whether protected or unprotected, there are always results, and sometimes those results will change your life and take away some of her dreams. Maybe 100 years ago back in the old west, but seriously, 15 year olds male or female are neither phyically or mentally ready in todays day and age to be parents.
I would also purchase a shotgun to clean when any young man came into my home. | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 7/21/2008 7:03:21 PM | | My son is 15 and I have found condoms and as much as I hate to admit that my baby is growing up and that kids these days are going to be having sex at a younger age, I am glad that he is well educated on the STD's out there.... Still dont like it and am dreading when my daughter gets to that age. Is it terrible to say that with a girl, you just worry more?????? | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 9/29/2008 7:21:51 PM | I would hope that at 15 she has already been made aware of the risks of having sex-protected or unprotected.
It is unfortunate that she is having sex so young, and would I be happy about it?
Hell no!
But, the reality of it, she is. And, forbidding her from seeing the guy is of no use, they will find a way.
I would sit her down and have a heart to heart talk with her, and first apologize for "snooping", which, although she is entitled to her privacy, it is still your home.
I would commend her on using condoms, but at the same time, I would get her into the doc for a pap smear, and get her on another form of birth control. Condoms can, and do break, and I'm sure that most of us at some point in time have been caught up in the heat of the moment when there was no condom available, or just experimenting to see what it was like without one.
At this point, making sure she is aware of all the risks involved is important, including the emotional ones.
And, I'd try to find out if she made the choice on her own, not because of being pressured into it, and deal with any of those issues, if there are any.
Make sure she knows that while you aren't happy about it, that she can come to you with anything.
Good luck! | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 9/29/2008 7:35:45 PM | Don't say shit, if anything you are gonna set her off to get angry drunk unprotected sex!
But seriously it's none of your business as long as it isn't something like her teacher or w\e. She is using protection so shut up. | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 10/1/2008 12:47:42 PM | I'd be proud that she is being so responsible and I'd tell her that with every swing of the basball bat I'd be using to beat the guy that touched my precious daughter... | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 10/1/2008 1:30:59 PM |
you were technically in the wrong for snooping
What the hell!?!?
Haven't any of you parents ever heard of Parental Wiretap Authority? The Parental Surveillance Act of 1802??? Article Seventeen, Paragraph Three clearly states that there is no such thing as "snooping" on a minor living under my roof and eating my food. Hell the only reason for them to even have a door to their room is so you can lock 'em up in it! ***sigh***.....Parents today...I'm gonna teach a class... | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 10/1/2008 1:46:55 PM | | I think the problem today is we give our kids too many freedoms. We pat our kids on the back for doing the wrong thing the right. It doesn't matter if see used condoms or the pill or some other method, A 15 year old having sex is wrong. Boy or girl. We (people as a whole) let our kids have sex. Then we it them down in a very nice a calm way and tell them they may not be ready. Then when the talk is over there like that wasn't bad, no repercusions. Then they go out and get pregnent and then they have it hard the rest of their lives because of having a baby too soon. They can also leave the responablity for the grandparents. All because we don't want to upset our children by being harsh with them. | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 10/1/2008 1:56:19 PM | This is one of the reasons I don't have kids. I never have to go through any of this awkward talks. I do realize kids are growing up a lot faster but it doesn't mean they are a lot smarter. It is up to the parents to give them information to keep them safe. I say, if you are a parent and found condoms then confront it right off the back. If your kids think they are old enough to have sex, then they should be old enough to discuss sex.
There is actually a show on mtv called "Sex with mom and dad". It's teens and parents talking openly about each others sex lives. It kind of made me uncomfortable that this one kid that was I think 19, living at home bringing home different girls every weekend with his grandma sleeping in the next bedroom. Also, Dr Drew told the mother and son to show each other where they each had sex. He went behind a dumpster and rooftops. This kid had no respect for his mother or females in general...and that I blame on the mother.
What I want to know is how do little douchbags like that even get girls to have sex with them? Are women that in need of attention they just don't care? To be used and abused? I just don't get it. Please teach your daughters to respect themselves more. | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 10/1/2008 4:59:11 PM | | I would have a talk with her about them. I'd want to know that she was being safe if she was using them (I bought a box of condoms on a dare with a friend when I was 11 or 12. I was almost 19 when I lost my virginity). I'd want her to know she could come to me with questions or birth control needs. That regardless of my thoughts on whether she was ready for sex, I would respect that it was her decision to make, not mine, and that I didn't want her having sex in dangerous places because she felt the need to hide it (i.e., I'd rather her have sex safely at home than in a car on a deserted road somewhere). I'd want to make sure she was properly educated on the risks of sex and how to avoid them (though I can't imagine not having discussed that with a child years before she reached 15 anyway). I might also want to have another adult she could talk to about sexual matter if she felt embarrassed or weird coming to me with them. | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 10/1/2008 7:40:49 PM | Folks......listen up.
I started this back in June mid-month and it has ran its course.It is old and stale and needs to be left to die now[like many other threads that seem to have revived too often].LET IT DIE>>>>>>nothing else can be said constructive or humorous! | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 10/1/2008 9:01:23 PM | Yeah, my daughter is 13 - we've already had the 'talk', and it's an ongoing process. Finding a box of condoms? Depends on if they were "Magnums" or not - (a girl should have standards, you know!)
Seriously, though, I know that it's likely to happen eventually, and I'd be a fool to think that she's going to save herself for marriage or something. Darn right she'd better be using condoms!
My policy is that she can't be having sex with her boyfriend in my house, they'll have to sneak around just like I did when I was a teenager... but they'd better be using condoms (I'll buy them if she needs them)
As for snooping through her stuff?
- I do it because I care, not because I expect to find anything. | |
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 10/14/2008 9:22:22 AM | Well Op, the sex talk needs to happen if it hasnt already. Id rather have a 15 yr old girl using condoms or on the pull than pregnant. Best to talk it uot in detail and make known the risks with it. Then show her how to use one right. Teen are going to have sex. Might as well prepare them for it...
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| 15 year old daughter and condoms.
Posted: 10/19/2008 6:46:23 PM | at 15 i gave birth 2 my beautiful baby boy i would never want my boy 2 go newre but if i had a chance 2 make sum better decisions wen i was younger i would, i only had my solo dad and he wasnt da best at those sex tlkz, at school or at hme itz flat out sed no sex but wat happenz wen u do? no1 botherz 2 giv da info bout wat if,i never want another young women 2 go thru wat i did but the truth of the matter is that unfortunatly it does happen we need mre info about teen sex and pregz. it should no longer swept under the carpet wit the only wordz spoken is 2 not do it, wat people r doing now is not gud enuff something needs 2 b done b4 these young women ruin their livez, but no1 tlkz 2 da guyz either i hope all u tough stud boyz like payn childsupport but wat r u doing rooting a child in the 1st place easy game? it certanly dosnt make u a hero makez u a cradle snatcher buddy | |
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