| Remember when dating was simple!
Posted: 6/29/2008 11:00:07 AM | Oh sweetheart(exciting1),
I was trying to say that at 43 with a Master's Degree and being a Christian who attends church regularly......it doesn't come off as the best for you to keep switching your hair color, willing to date a guy who doesn't care for church or has long hair or is 10 years younger than her, and willing to relocate for him to see what that attracts.
Sorry, but there's not much concreteness there and guy's love a concrete, goal oriented woman especially one who is open to having her first child. Stick to what you've been building on for 43 years so a good man knows he's got a good woman that he can build a good life with too.
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Posted: 6/29/2008 11:25:07 AM | | oh puhhhhleeeeeze:( I've tried to date "church" guys but #1 there are fewer of them. #2 you obviously don't know many/any of them because they have treated me worse then the ones who do not attend church for the most part, as described on here for example. Since when did the hair color become unstable???????????? whew!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i don't know the exact % of america who does that, but it's a very high percentage of women who color their hair. maybe you take everything you see on the street as real, but, surprise!!!!!! those women are not born with that hair, eyebrows, nails, other things. no, they went to the salon or walmart to get it. LOL. maybe you just haven't known women who go to salons. And by the way, I didn't even start doing the haircolor change until last fall. So during all the other years men assumed I was "stable" and "worthy" of marriage???? [oh yes, that's right; they just forgot to tell me.] As for the age of a guy I want, I was fine with a guy who is +5, 10 or minus 5, or even 10. But those guys are requiring girls half their ages and models. So I'm expanding my options, and sometimes I get contacted by younger ones. So I'm willing to go a little bit younger than me, but not as much as these guys are doing. That is not "unstable" on myyy part. duhhhhhh.. It's okay for men to do this but not me????? Of course I'd be willing to relocate. Even back in the 20th century, people were moving around geographically. I came here for a job and I'd leave for a job, or the right guy elsewhere. If my opportunities are not where I am now, I'm willing to move. How is that "unstable"??????? That is being sensible. I'd be a fool if I put all the restrictions that some other people do like "he has to be this certain age, money, address, etc." Well, you're only limiting your choices by doing that. You may not even be compatible with the ones you happen to live close to. So that means you would have no options if you were not willing to be flexible. duhhhhhh. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 11:51:56 AM | No, it's DUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHRRRRRRRRRRR 
Hon....you've got more going on for you than you give yourself credit for and it's easy to see! Beauty is just the outside, it's the insides that count .
So what a church guy treats you that way, dump him. I find it 50:1 the amount of non-religious women compared to Catholics or Christians on here who are in my area and they're not true. Shytfire, it's hilarious when they'd rather chat to know than meet at church then get lunch afterwards. Faith and grounding means alot in a relationship.
Men can always spot a woman who has changed her hair color and wonder why??....most often it's because they can't attract a good man with their personality.
Same as she wanting a much younger man....just for the sex because the maturity and experience level isn't going to match or rarely does.
A true man would never date long distance nor want a woman who isn't grounded where she lives. You move to him and it doesn't work, back to square one at 44! | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 11:56:01 AM | oh yes, I see the derogatory comment about guys who have long hair. Since when did hair length indicate a man is "good" or "bad"???? Man, people are sooooo prejudiced even still today:(:(:( For the record, yes, long hair on a guy can be sexy. I like hair, beards, etc. . Last year I was delivering pizza as a part-time job, and the best tips came from these hippie guys out in the country instead of the big mansions in the fancy areas. Now is that because the hippies are "bad"??? Yes, I'll consider a hippie, with or without a drum or guitar, onstage or offstage, any day of the week. Over a guy who makes false assumptions based on hair, length, color or age or anything else. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 12:00:22 PM | | Money means alot in a relationship otherwise what's the use in geting a Master's degree. A good house, car, truck, kids, boat, vacations, taxes, benefits, savings, retirement, college education, another car and another car, kid's weddings, grandkids, etc. is easily over 2M. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 12:04:06 PM | wow, why is this guy even on fish??? u can choose to not date long distance, but dont sit and insult the rest of us on here who do. lots of people on here are doing exactly that. same for all the women AND men who choose to change hair color. it's more because you look at the tv and magazines and ideas to look different ways. so all these people in america/elsewhere who color their hair cannot get dates based on their personalities. hmph.  HELP!!!!!!!!!!!! maybe the hair product companies could inform you a little bit better on why people use their products. well, i'm sure i could have some good sex with a guy my age even older, but they choose to restrict themselves to these younger women and/or model type barbie dolls. so i'm choosing from what is available to me. THEN i can make a judgement on if their maturity and experience is close to mine or not. wow, just because a person does not have extended family ties where they currently live and are more free to relocate has nothing to do with how "grounded" they are in their lives. I've had the same job since college 13 years now. pretty d____ stable. same church over half that long. again pretty d_________ stable. And even if a guy elsewhere moved here for me, we could get married and it might not work out. And, surprise!!!!!!!!!!! i could marry a local guy and still get divorced!! [oh wait, that can't happen] | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 12:05:49 PM | | also ROFL no men can NOT aways spot haircolor:):):) i had to clarify that one to one last night. i likewise had to explain that alot of these colors you see on the street came either from a salon or a store, not natural. haha. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 12:08:10 PM | Dating simple?
Dating has never been simple... I was 6'1" at 15... most boys were at my elbow... I did not go to the prom. I always tell my sister that the only reason I did not get married out of high school was cause I was so tall... saved me from a divorce though...
Dating has never been simple it is a struggle and untill mind readers perfect their craft we will all just question and second guess our dates. Read into things and make mistakes...
Sigh... but on the other hand it makes for very good forum questions...
~Charmed~ | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 12:08:14 PM | | money means different things to different people. if you don't know the person, you can't know what they think about money or anything else. wow, you can't possibly know the reasons people get college degrees or not, or anything else without knowing the person. i got mine only because the profession required it. not a money issue. my bachelors would not have been enough to do the same profession without it. i was in the profession because i wanted to be in it, but the requirements changed to a masters degree. wow. and no, i dont get paid extra for it. it's just a basic requirement. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 12:19:57 PM | Hon...it's your life and choice.
The educated ones make the $$$ and accept only clean cut. Of course the hippies are gonna give the best tips, they fall behind on rent and want a new piece of ayss. Papa Johns and Pizza Hut charge $2 for delivery that the driver never sees or gets maybe 30%. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 12:28:51 PM | yes, and so is your life and your choices, but don't insult the rest of the people who are more flexible. "the educated ones" are the females who accept only clean cut men???? no....I'm very well educated and I accept both clean cut and "hippies". I play music; I like music; and alot of musicians in that industry have long hair and it is sexy.
i'm really tired of you insulting "hippies" based on hair length. that's ridiculous. you don't know that these people didn't own their places etc. and they asked nothing from me but pizza, thank you very much. I was the one who was there?????? I've been hit on lots of other places though by non-hippies too. When I did it, Papa Johns charged $1.50 and drivers got $1. Which was helpful if you received no tip. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 1:01:38 PM | OK....now I'm understanding a little bit better. You get stoodup all the time so scared as hell of either never getting married or staying married to a good man (possibly 2nd time) so don't know what to do.
I can understand where you are coming from and I'm sorry but this is beyond the scope of online with me since I don't want you to go more in depth detail and thus get more frustrated or angry online like you are. Somebody who is close to you and can be with you 'personally' will be of alot better help for you hon!
Again, I'm sorry. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 1:38:57 PM | #1. No I said I've been stood up about the past 6 times.
#2. I did not say "scared as hell of either never getting married or staying married to a good man (possibly 2nd time) so don't know what to do. " As for the never getting married, that may very well happen and I haven't dug a hole in the ground and crawled in it, nor have I accepted some jerk. If you had read my page, you would see that yes I do say divorced; that implies a former marriage. Nothing about how long I "stayed married" or if he was "a good man." puhleeze:(
#3. No you don't understand what I'm saying, because you took little pieces of superficial things like haircolor, hairlength, and made all these false (nice word here) assumptions, and insulted me and everyone here the entire site who chooses to use haircolor or date long-distance.
#4. Well, wouldn't it be nice to find someone local where everything will work out, but that has not happened at this time. It might or it might not happen like that. Therefore, I choose to look elsewhere. However, if you want to limit yourself to only people who use no hair products, no soap, no toothpaste, no blue dresses, live on your block, only one age, all you have to do is type that on your page. But don't insult the rest of us who are more flexible and make various assumptions about things that you know nothing about. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 9:38:28 PM | We've all been stoodup 6 times and more, no big deal considering the harsh nature of the internet! Hell, I'd prefer to be stoodup than meet a flake or player and have more headaches or heartaches.
It's OK that you've never been married as I've never been married either and there are lots who haven't or would have preferred to not have married the ayss or bytch as well.
There's 69K people online who are in the same boat as you so your bitterass isn't going to help as you've lost faith in yourself and need to re-gain it, think of it this way.....being the educated, professional, and Christian woman that you are, would you hire a long-haired, non-religious, diploma-educated man to be your next salesman or higher position? If no, then you'd be a fool to trust him with your home, kids, and finances if you were away for 6 months!
I do limit myself because I have a son to make a future for and more than a little flexibility tends to stray in those who play or are better off being friends since won't match up no matter what.
BTW.....I always tipped the pizza drivers $2 for 20.99 Papa Johns 3 loaded mediums because Papa shafted you but have since got the groceries pizzas for a year cause tired of making up for corporate BS . | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 9:48:52 PM | | You want class, just like the rest, then show it instead of being a blonde "brat" showing off your ugly, smelly foot | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 6:01:51 PM | | YOU are the most ridiculous I've encountered on this site, in the forums or messages or in person. YOU don't even read what I write. This site does not exist for you to type insults about the majority of people on here. Someday someone will boot you off here for that. And hopefully really soon, for everyone's sake. Oh, when did you even smell my foot??? | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 12:05:54 AM | | Ok Klopper & exciting1 would you two luv birds mind taking your arguement to your e-mail boxes Please!!!! No disrespect intended but you kinda getting way of subject here....... | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 12:11:49 AM |
Dating has never been simple it is a struggle and untill mind readers perfect their craft we will all just question and second guess our dates. Read into things and make mistakes...
Mind reading now theres a new approach, LOL!!!
Seriously though secound guessing and reading into things, Such a slippery slope and we all do it... | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 12:13:05 AM | | Ok Klopper & exciting1 would you two luv birds mind taking your arguement to your e-mail boxes Please!!!! No disrespect intended but your kinda getting way of subject here....... | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 4:20:43 PM | | I have already told him. There is no reason for him to come on and insult everyone here on the site. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 4:38:33 PM | Oh yeah dating in high school was simple, cause people had nothing else to compare it to and no conflicts to get in the way. No real job, no aspirations that you could drop everything and go do like travel Europe, no bars out there to meet other people.
As for the profiles you respond to not posting what they are actually looking for... on another site I had no profile, due to lack of time, I got far more interest than when I did have a profile. Mystery attracts people. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 8:23:51 PM | Wow... I was so touched reading this... it is SO true... I give kudos for you putting yourself out there and expressing how you feel. It's awesome!
In all honesty - I miss the good ol' days of school dating.. those were the best times of our innocent lives... this internet thing is for the fish... | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 10:40:13 PM | | Oh geez (exciting1) get off your high horse....FO too....How can you expect me or anybody else to take you serious when you've got a foot up for a thumbail as if saying "don't like it, stick it" | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 2:44:37 PM | ok, so you are apparently blind as well as illiterate. the only foot that shows in a pic is covered in a tennis shoe in front of a campfire. all my other pics are headshots, at least one to my hips. unless my page has been hacked and it did not appear to have been hacked into. i've now checked the page, and no the only foot is the one in the campfire pic. you have to look really hard to see the foot on the back side of the fire though. try getting some glasses to help your vision.
TROLL, GO AWAY!!!!!!!!!! There is nothing for you on here. You've insulted everybody on this site who is here for fishing as well as other things. You're obviously not here for dates and you've been derogatory about everyone else who is. Any other site and you would have been booted off. And for the FO too. We're all impressed with you. Nice net etiquette. You'll always find an unlimited number of things that you know nothing about to insult people because there are so many things that you know nothing about. So, go somewhere else to do that. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2008 11:15:19 AM | Sorry....I thought you were standing up or sitting in a high chair with your leg raised up on top of the vanity to show off your foot. It is flesh toned on my screen but I guess maybe it's a towel then cause I do see what appears to be a big O ring holder to the right of you. My apologies to you exciting1.
You asked for my opinion on why you might be having trouble so I gave it....I don't see how I insulted you and haven't insulted anybody else either. Good luck to you in your endeavor, hope you find love.
BTW, FO means foot order......yeah, I thought you would mistake that so threw it in there for a giggle:). | |
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