| We need to talk
Posted: 6/14/2008 7:18:41 PM | Umm, "We need to talk"? I can't relate to that. If I have something to say, I just say it.
The only way I could even conceive of saying something like that is if you did something shocking and disappointing that really made me extremely angry, and for whatever reason I hadn't the time at that moment to unload on you.
Others seem to think it may mean a breakup. If you did something that would cause a breakup, there would be no room for talk. I would simply say "It's over between us" without any mincing of words, and the meaning would be abundantly clear. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 7:24:53 PM | OP say it was texted to her. Text message is not the good way to discuss important matters.
Breaking up that way would be worst. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 7:40:21 PM | | all i want to know is if she's dating someone what is she doing on plenty of fish | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 7:55:38 PM | "all i want to know is if she's dating someone what is she doing on plenty of fish"
How is that relevant? Her profile (if you read it) states clearly not single/not looking. It IS an option. What she's doing here or anyone else is NOYB. Read more threads, there's lots of people involved and in committed relationships that are here, and wanting objective input. If you don't want to give that, then you should have just clicked past.
Not everyone here is "single" and looking for "dating" or "long term". The blah blah it's a dating site...for those browsing, cruising...looking...but there's much more options than that. That may be what you want, and would be best being on another site that doesn't have forums or offer any other options than single/divorced/widowed. This site isn't one of those. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 8:03:36 PM | | I hate sports,hmmm that's an interesting name. . . . . anyway,Why not? She's not here for dating anymore,but, is here for talk/email and seems to respond to the forums regularly. There is also a friends option as well. That's what I like about this site is that it has many options and isn't completely based on dating and sex. Op, I hope that term that your boyfriend used wasn't very serious or negative on your behalf. If you need to talk about it,don't hesitate to talk about it to us immediately. I've had bad experiences with people that have used similar words like that towards me and a lot of times those words have indicated something was wrong. I hope for you though it was something very positive and surprising. Would also like someone here to give us good news as well lol! I wish ya the best of luck | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 8:05:01 PM | Exactly took the words out of my mouth bucsgirl | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 8:33:00 PM |
Is there any chance in hell the " we need to talk " line doesn't mean "I wanna break up with you"?
There is....but it's slim to none.
Any post breakup reply that can save my dignity? :)
Just be grateful that he had the decency to tell you and not pull the disappearing act instead. No need to say anything hurtful or spiteful. That's just going to make you look bad and you certainly won't feel better afterwards when you're thinking with a clearer head.
Good luck to you.
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Posted: 6/14/2008 8:37:30 PM | yep... you can respond with dignity by taking one for the team(if its a break up)...ie at least the guy has enough respect for himself and you to talk to you... (although im still having hope for you.. he just wants to get something off his chest... crossing fingers its not a break up)
so many threads where the guy /gal just disappears..
heres an excellent chance for 2 mature adults to show each other.. having a talk...
dosent have to be an emotional drama etc.. but respect....
thank you for that..
hopefully alot can learn from it... it isnt that bad/hard to... be courteous....
smiles/peace | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 2:05:12 AM | Rejection is hard; there is one way; to not get upset or freak out. Move on and say you are sad and appreciative for what you had but that you will be just fine.
The best dignity is to keep your cool and succeed. In time that will be the greatest dignity. | |
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| We need to talk
Posted: 6/15/2008 2:40:05 AM | Is there any chance in hell the " we need to talk " line doesn't mean "I wanna break up with you"?
ooo...well I hope everything worked out for the OP.
In the meantime...if I said that to a guy...its means Im gonna break up with you if you dont reallllllly listen to what Im gonna talk to you about in the conversation we have.
To be completely honest...
Ive NEVER met a man who's actually discussed breaking up a relationship with ANY women.
They all "behave" their way out of relationships | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 4:35:02 AM |
They all "behave" their way out of relationships Or don't behave?
LOL...well, you haven't met all men, but I appreciate the honesty.
Annudder | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 9:55:07 AM | I think it means he needs to talk to you. Don't speculate.
If he breaks up with you, just say what ever is on your mind. No need to pretend. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 10:11:44 AM | I wouldnt say anything as he might give you a slap if you do !
And you will need all your teeth if you want to attract another man !
I had a woman attack me when I broke it off with her. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 10:20:22 AM | | ...well, whatever the reason is...at least he wants to talk about it. Some classless ones will just send an email or text saying goodbye....poof, gone....which is easy for them. Not a nice last impression to leave on someone though. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 10:38:27 AM | We need to talk might mean...."We need to talk".....or "I've got something important I want to discuss with you"...or "There's something bothering me and I want to get it resolved"....
Always better to communicate/talk when there's a problem. Good communication does wonders in resolving little conflicts and issues before they become big conflicts and big issues.
I wouldn't immediately jump to the conclusion that a break up is about to happen. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 12:41:30 PM | I've used this line in the past when it DIDN'T mean "let's break up". For me, it usually means I've been thinking about something serious that I want to talk to you about and I need you to bring your adult, truthful, calm self so I don't get the angry, childish, uncompromising, reactionary persona to the "meeting"!
If it is the break-up talk, stay as calm and rational as you can so you can hear what's being said as well as what's NOT being said. You can "chew on it" later and figure out if he was right or wrong and if it's something you need to fix before moving on to the next relationship.
I wish you the best! | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 5:31:11 PM | | I have my fingers crossed for you, but I concur with hells angel and soulmate08. If it is the dreaded "talk" wish him well - you will feel better about yourself. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 7:07:49 PM |
If he does break up with you, hold your head high and say...
"Thank God, I thought I was going to have to break up with you"
Oh...that's priceless....I HAVE to save that one for future use. Awesome.  | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 7:20:48 PM | Something about this thread reminded me of this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y8Kyi0WNg40&feature=related
Instead of breaking up with you things could go the complete opposite way:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NpWAlvWNZj0
Just tell him "Shut up. Just shut up. You had me at hello." | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 7:21:24 PM | I dunno about the rest of you but I'm sitting on the edge of my chair with anticipation concerning an update from the OP. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 7:47:17 PM | I vote that it meant he was breaking up with her. I've used that phrase one time, and it was prior to the only time I broke up with a woman.
I'd also guess that if it were nothing, she would have come back and said so. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 10:50:55 PM | Oh feck, when I was married and heard that it either meant we were pregnant or there was some heavy duty sheeit rolling my way that y'all would never believe if I posted it.
Those four little words evoke a feeling of weightlessnes like being on a roller coaster.
Well...we'll be waiting, OP. | |
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| We need to talk
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:58:54 AM | Sorry my dear, but he is most likely breaking up with you.
I have to admit, I've used that one a time or two in the past.
As for saving your dignity, just smile, say, "OK, thanks," and let that be the end of it.
Or, you could always ask for his hot friend's phone number!
Break - ups are no fun... unless the guy is a jerk, of course. So good luck, and I hope you have better luck with the next guy. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 10:24:55 AM | {{hugs}} Those 4 dreaded words...
I'm hoping it's not the breakup. But if it is, more {{hugs}}
Please let us know...
Kaylie | |
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