| second chances
Posted: 6/24/2008 10:34:23 AM | I totally agree with this 100%
It all depends on why you split in the 1st place, and also on the individuals. No set of rules can be applied to everyone.
Second chances can work for some, but not for others. I have given second chances, but trust issues were involved and that didnt work for me, i couldnt forget what my ex had done but it didnt mean i loved him any less, but in the end it just didnt work. However, we now get on great as mates  | |
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| second chances
Posted: 6/24/2008 10:45:35 AM | | Nope. I don't give second chances anymore. We break up, that's it. I had a shot at a second chance fairly recently, and turned her down. This was last September. Pleasant as it was being with her, I wasn't about to let that get in the way of the memory of our breakup. Some things you just don't do as a matter of principle, and giving second chances is (for me) one of them. The last second chance I ever gave ended in divorce. That answer the question? | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 11:54:04 AM | if i should have a relatioship with some one and that person not honest and start's the games ect out the door u go there's no comming back.
I have done it befor i will do it again im not in to games to old for it .
life's to short as it is why waste it on bs when you can injoy life. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 1:39:49 PM | | It depends on what used up the first "chance". Would I give someone a second chance to pick their wet towel up off the carpet or take their dirty socks off of the table? Of course. Would I give them more than one chance to cheat on me, hit me, gamble the rent money away or spend the rent money on drugs? Absolutely not. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 3:02:45 PM | I've had the opportunity of being with an "ex" for the second time around. I would have to say that it was wonderful being able to be with him once again. Due to the circumstances of many, many, many years ago, we lost touch. However, we never forgot about one another over the years that we had been apart. He was always in the back of my mind.
With that being said, I can honestly say that the second chance happening was right for me, but not for him at the time. He was looking to fill a void in his life and I ended being that void.
Do I regret it....HELL NO!!!
Before you ask...no we are not together anymore. But we have remained friends and talk all of the time. Who knows, maybe one day we will have the opportunity of go at it for the third time around | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 5:18:00 PM | It really does depend in the circumstances. I have had the chance to get back in touch with an "Ex" from 14 years ago. He has never been out of my thoughts ---maybe just buried a bit. And given a chance we are going to try and get together to see if something is still there. Could be tricky as he is in Windsor and I am in Barrie -- we both work different hours -- but we are really trying to figure something out.
Would I get back together with him? Absolutely, we broke up because we were young & stupid. It was over him moving back to his parents -- at the time it seemed like a big deal. Do I think that we could make it work t his time? I do. And have all the interest in trying. | |
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| second chances
Posted: 6/24/2008 6:12:58 PM | | Hmmmm, I think it would be Ok, I mean you go into it with eyes wide open. Right? But that said I don't know the circumstances of which you broke up. Just go slowly and keep a good watch and talk it over with a close friend to get another perspective. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 2:05:20 AM | I started thinking about something the other day,and if in some way some of you take this as an offense,I apologize.I started thinking about why I received so many negative responses and/or why I didn't get the answers I was looking for,all of the people that has given second chances and are happy with there decisions to give a second chance aren't looking at this website and reading what I've written and asked.They have decided to move on one way or another.
If a person is not the person they say they are,then who are they?My situation follows that question in a way.I can garuntee you that the person that was in that past relationship wasn't the person sitting here writing this to all who read it.The relationship wasn't even a relationship,after thinking about that subject,it was something totally different than what we think is a relationship.All we did was meet,eat,and have sex,It's all it was,everyday same thing over and over.All we were were f@#k buddies and that not what I wanted no matter what I may feel and/or may have felt. | |
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