| Death in the Family!
Posted: 6/16/2008 10:49:38 PM | Hey Spudster ... one thing I did after my dad passed away was to write a letter to him saying all the things I wished I could say to him or wished I had said to him. I tucked it into the inside pocket of his jacket when I went over to his casket to kiss his forehead before they closed the lid. That helped me a great deal, so if there's anything you wish you could say to him right now, that's one way of doing it. My prayers will be with you & your family tomorrow.
BIG hugs 
T.
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| Death in the Family!
Posted: 6/17/2008 9:36:38 PM | | ^ very nice. Everything people/posters has written is very supportive. | |
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| Death in the Family!
Posted: 6/17/2008 9:49:19 PM | Hay Spud;
Remember that tomorrow we will all be with you. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 8:12:46 AM | Awww Spud, I didn't even know until this morning. I'm so very sorry about losing your dad.
It may seem like it's over now, the day after, but truly, it will never be over. There will be a hole in your heart forever. Let those memories of him wash over you when they happen. The tears and anger will lessen as time goes by. You'll never be the same, but one day you'll realize that you didn't cry yesterday. A whole day and you made it through without tears! Eventually a day becomes two or three days, then a week, then you reaize that you can even smile sometimes.
Until then though, cry, grieve, scream, be angry. Whatever. Just don't forget that you have lots of friends that love you and are here if you feel the need.  | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 2:15:59 PM | Hey Spud .. real sorry to hear about your loss too :( ..
One thing I can't claim is dealing with loss with grace! I bawl, get mad, wish I'd done something different .. allll the grieving process. Just feel the feelings.
The One thing that I've found most helpful to me, is to write the person a letter. I did this when dealing with the loss of my mother(many years after the fact) .. I just wrote a letter expressing my True feelings and then found a deserted piece of shoreline where I built a little fire and as I read each page I put it into the fire. It was an incredibly healing exercise for me.
Anyway .. all that aside, truelly sorry for your loss.
All the best.
A.S.is
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| Death in the Family!
Posted: 6/18/2008 7:38:11 PM | I just wanted to say briefly that the response to this thread has been: Great/Open/Informative/Insightful/ amoung so much more. Last, but not least you all have no idea just how much it means to me that you would/could not only open up in this way, but the support has been overwelming in very positive way.
And for that, I am forever thankful
Spud | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 8:06:54 PM | Oh sweetheart.... you know you are amongst friends here...and we are here to share the good times, the bad times...the oh so sad times.
I am so very very sorry for your loss and your sadness.... find strength in knowing so many are here to support you even if we are a distance apart....we are here for you.
((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))) holding you tight. J. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 11:48:35 PM | | embrace the fact that they are NO longer in pain .. that they are now in piece that they can just be .. rest in peace MOM and DAD ... i love you !!!! | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 2:02:57 AM | I couldn't agree with you anymore then that. So true!
I also took advantage (at the last second) the oppertunity to go out to Mosquito Creek this evening and now that I'm back home again, I know now that it was just what I needed. And the support from fellow fish was just amazeing! | |
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Posted: 9/6/2008 11:41:51 PM | Well, since that first week when I went to wings night and followed that up with Clancy's in New Westminster I haven't been out to any POF events. I just don't know if I can right now. Even with all the support that I have continued to get from everyone, I just have more bad days then good still. I'm looking for or expecting that some day soon that thing will all of a sudden seem easy, but I just thought that I'd have a better handle on the raw emotions that I find myself going through every day.
I am functional, and working when ever I can get work, but have found myself indoors more then outdoors over the last several weeks. I know/feel that its not a good thing to be doing, but alas I still find myself doing it anyways.
On a bit of a positive spin on the negative that I seem to be writing right now, I am off to Ireland/England/ and abroad. Thanks to an invite from many of my relatives on my fathers side. All expenses paid. So regardless of how I'm feeling these days, I'd be dumb not take advantage, right?!
I have a week to get myself together and try and enjoy this trip to the best of my ability. I know that it'll be emotional, But I'm gonna do my best to be up beat on this trip as it'll be my first time there since I was about 5yrs old. So in a sense, it'll be my first time. Going for 4 weeks. Wish me luck, k!?
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Posted: 9/7/2008 1:12:52 AM | Thanks O.R. I do plan on taking a camcorder with me as well as a camera So I should have a good variety of pics to show ya'll when I get back. For now its just a waiting game, packing, and scrounging up a little spending money for when I'm there.
Going for wheels here and there should prove to be interesting because the sidewalks in most areas outside of London are trick to say that least. But I'm used to road wheeling, and as long as I'm bright and can be seen, I should be ok.
Chat again soon.
Spud.
May even drop a line in on you all from over othe other side of the pond while I'm there. We'll see.
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Posted: 9/7/2008 9:22:32 AM | Working the PNE again this year, as you've mentioned before, should provide for that spending money. Wow, how fortunate to receive an all expense paid trip to Ireland! You certainly have some great relatives!
Have fun!! | |
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Posted: 9/7/2008 4:33:35 PM | | My Dad died back when I was a teen,( unlike a lot of fortunate folk my dads life was cut short) so the loss was profound he was 42.....to this day when I listen to country music or eat a particulary good piece of fish I enjoy it for both of us. My Dad is with me in spirit cheering my successes and comforting me through my losses by the warmth of his love.I do not see him with my eyes any longer but...I feel him within my heart...... | |
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