| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 6/14/2005 9:18:49 AM | One of my favorite books is....
************Healing ADD By Daniel G. Amen MD ****************
I enjoy this book because of the brain SPECs. Actual picture of brain activity relating to a specific ADD or cas.e
ACCORDING to Dr. Amen there are six types. There are different takes on this though.
We do Omeaga 3,6,9 but am really unsure if it has made a difference.
I do feel the Amino acids help.
* Writingstar--------ADD And ADHD are not entirely different. You ought to goggle it.
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Posted: 6/14/2005 10:02:52 AM | Another really good book is called "Smart, But Feeling Dumb". Sorry I have forgotten who the author is, as I read it quite a few years ago. I enjoyed it because it helped me to veiw things from my son point....How their brain actually processes information etc...
Maybe your local library or book store can find it for you. Again, good luck. 
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 6/14/2005 10:03:37 PM | | My oldest son has Tourette's Syndrome. With Tourette's, symptoms very similar to ADHD can be present. I have to agree with most of the posts here...the best thing for my son is a regular, structured routine...and when things are crazy, just get out the door...to a park or playground...some kind of activity to unload all that high energy. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2005 12:48:22 PM | | Hey, having a son with ADHD &BiPolar, and a daughter with ADHD, it can be very trying at times. We have tried the medication, therapy, etc. What i found that works is spending time with them playing sports, relives much of their energy, and helps them to focus on something fun. When they cant concentrate i relate what their doing to the sport they like the best. It has made it much esaier for them to focus for the most part, as well as taking some of their energy away, so they can relax in a quiet atmosphere. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2005 5:21:00 PM | Tigger,
I thought your list on page 1 was right on target!
My son was diagnosed at age 7 with ADHD after 1 doctor and 1 pediatrician said,
"He's just bad,spank him!" no word of a lie!
I searched and demanded a referral to the best pediatrician in the area.
Tha hardest part for him was in school.He was in a behavioural resouces class,
with absolutely wonderful teachers,but the so-called normal children could be so brutal in
their teasing!
Oddly enough,after medication was adjusted and he started showing improvement,
the school began their annual provincial testing for grade point averages ,and he scored through the roof!Top 2% in the province!The next year, he was enrolled part-time in classes
for gifted students,graduated his grade 8 class with top marks in math and science!
He's now almost 19,the ADHD has pretty much beengrown out of and he's going into his second year of university,studying for his B.A. honours in Philosophy.
It's a tough road when they're young,but lots of love ,patience and understanding is the best
"medication" your child willever recieve! | |
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Posted: 6/20/2005 7:25:33 PM | | Thanks for the info I will try that as well. The medication scares me. I see my nephew and he used to look like a zombie. I don't want that for my daughter. She is extremely hyper and a huge handful. Being a single parent is a killer. When she goes to her dad's all he does is complain butnot try to help. | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 6/20/2005 11:17:14 PM | I have one with ODD. But the good news is....most grow out of it by age 8 (mine included)
but if your not right on the ball...could turn into a conduct disorder....and once they hit puberty...watch out.
having 2 parents on the same page is the key, but, unfortunately, isnt always reality.
Different parenting style between mom and dad = trouble.
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Posted: 6/22/2005 12:39:45 AM | The book I posted about on page one "Transforming the difficult child" is SUPER!! I strongly advise it for anyone with a wild or troubled child on their hands. I have been through a lot of soul searching, books, mental health centers in search of the support/ behavior therapy this book offers.
This approach has turned around youth with conduct disorder.
My son is doing better than he has in two years.   | |
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Posted: 6/23/2005 12:12:46 AM | | my son has ADHD and he is a hand ful i love him to death but if i give himone on one time he is better and there is programes out there to help my son dose not get to much candy and i watch what he eats to the is a big help | |
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Posted: 6/23/2005 11:23:30 PM | My son just finished second grade with all A's and one B. The three things that helped him do a complete turn-around were:
1. Finding out ahead of time about the teachers at his grade level, and requesting one who is experienced with ADHD kids, and stern but caring enough to pay attention to his academics and social interactions.
2. Finding the right medication at the right dose. There were a lot of medications that helped control the hyperness, but one in particular (Focalin) that helped him with the paying attention, listening to and following instructions, staying on task, etc. The right medication is different for each child!
3. Major changes in his diet: more organic-based than anything. Read those labels, spend the extra money to buy natural foods. Eliminating anything with artificial colors and flavors and high fructrose corn syrup made the biggest difference. Some kids also have food allergies that can make the ADHD worse. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2005 4:16:45 AM | | hi my son is now 11 ,he was diagnosed with adhd at 6, i knew from the terrible two stage some thing (temper wise)was getting out of control.i read up on add and adhd and had self diagnosed before i even got him to see his peadiatricion. I how ever knew i had not caused this but knew for an easy life did not parent as wel as i should .ie if he was really bad , id say rite no this no that , but hed cry n say he was sorry hed never do it again which put me on a guilt trip , and id give in . eventually after years of this , i split with his dad and had to live with his behaviour alone.I woke up one day and tackled his behaviour head on . He is a very intelligent boy as are all adhd children. And they will use this intelligence to barter with you. My advise is NEVER give in not even for a second its really hard work but it pays off. I f you say no and issue an ultimatum follow it through.And even if your exhausted and feel guilty hearing your children cry n beg for forgivness, you must tell them once y you are doing what your doing .ie , im doing this because if i let you continue to behave in this way you will end up with out friends, respect, etc explain explain explain all the time why you are doing this way of behavior management. After all you are the parent and they dont have to like what you think is rite , you are doing what you believe is a good way to help this child . A nd for no other reason.I found when i removed my self from his tantrums hed watch me to see my reaction . As an example he once picked up broken paving slabs and threw them into the housec . if i chased him to get him in the house hed scream all kinds to get attention so i left him out side i didnt chase him but closed the door and let him scream with the neighbours curtains twitching. two hours later and soaking wet he came in and apologised . I said thankyou for apologising but i wont accept this behaviour so you can go to your room for half an hour every time you do this again , so by the time you decide to come in you have wasted hours screaming and in your room while im relaxing watching tv. HE stopped this after the 2nd time. its really hard work but my lil boy is worth the hard work and i owe it to my son to let him know what behaviour is acceptable in life and what isnt. jamie is now a happy workable lil boy who at one stage would scream and spit throw things swear at any one who looked at him .one of those horrible spoilt kids you hear sreaming i wants in super markets to a loving well balanced lovable little boy with loads of friends. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2005 1:55:56 PM | | Patience!!!! My son was diagnosed at the age of 4 with ADHD ODD and Hyperactive Impulse Disorder. He was tried on numerous medications-they are NOT always the answer. And pediatiricians DO NOT have the answers. They arent skilled in this. You have to have a good psychiatrist. I eventually had to take my son off all ADHD medications and now he is no different than he was on them. We are currently going to another psych doctor because the old one decided that maybe the only problem was that my son had PTSD. It takes alot of time and patience to deal with this. Just dont stick with medications if there is a chance that there may be an underlying problem. AND-these children are some of the brightest kids!!! There is something that they will be really good at-my sons is sports. He isnt big or fast but he can play and put his whole heart into it. Nothing else grabs his attention like T-Ball and it is the only thing I cant pull him away from until it is over. Just hang in there-you will make mistakes but that is how we learn!! | |
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Posted: 6/24/2005 2:04:37 PM | | That is awesome! I worry some too about the school thing-glad to hear a success story with the ADHD. And totally agree that medication isnt always the answer!! | |
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Posted: 6/24/2005 2:57:29 PM | | Hello, me and my ex have a 14 year old son. He is Bi-polar, ADHD, ODD, and IED. she has him most of the time but we live a few miles away and i see him alot. Its funny I saw this today its his birthday so he is at my house and he is out of meds :( He is HYPER. If you want to talk message me and I'll give you my MSN or E-mail. I have been through alot with him over the last 7 years. I adopted him three and a half years ago. So I understand the ups and downs of raising a special child. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2005 8:19:16 PM | Schools can be a major problem. The first thing they want to do is medicate kids so that they're not disrupting the classroom. I've fought with my son's school since he started pre-school. I might have been more tolerant if it hadn't been a SPECIAL NEEDS preschool...but they STILL kept insisting I put him on Ritalin. I didn't do it because he's not ADD. He started having seizures at 7 mos. and because he spent so much time doped up on the meds or passed out from the seizures, he was severely emotionally delayed. (thank God he's doing Wonderful now and has made tremendous progress this year)
For some kids, meds can work miracles, for others, they only exacerbate the problem. Sometimes a child can be so borderline between ADHD and bi-polar that the only way to know if the meds are going to work is to try them. If the meds don't work, there's no law that says the child has to keep taking them (just be sure that you know the side effects of the meds and if it's a type that you have to wean the child off slowly. Going cold turkey on something like depakote can cause serious seizures).
Behavior therapy can work, if done properly but it's not a cure all...just as the meds aren't.
Structure, structure and MORE structure is crucial. You have to be amazingly consistent and calm...especially during the temper tantrums. My oldest daughter is autistic so I've seen some pretty severe temper tantrums. With her and my son both, I had to learn to stay calm. If I escalated, they escalated. This often meant that I had to walk away when I just wanted to smack one of them, but if I gave them time to calm down and came back and talked to them rationally later (reforced by restricting tv or video game time) I saw much better results.
Anticipating outbursts becomes a way of life and you learn to head off the explosions before they happen. You can't stop all of them, but you can learn to diminish most of them.
One of the books that helped me understand my son the best was "The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children" By Ross W. Greene | |
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Posted: 6/24/2005 10:19:32 PM | | Why is it we live is such a conditioning society that every kid in school now has to have a lable attached to them.--I think more than most of it is BS---they are kids! There is something very wrong with showing a kid that something is very wrong with them--and we wonder why we have self exteem problems. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2005 10:15:44 PM | My buddies kid at around age 10, his teacher at school suggested the kid get checked out for add. So my buddy went to the doctor with him explained what's going on at home at school his grades everything. Doctor said yup ADD. Wanted to start him on ritalin. Anyhow my buddy didn't like the thought of meds. His son was out of control at school. So he tried reducing sugar and such in his diet. After a month or so of trying different things to help out. We found out what the problem was. Boredom at and a lack of a creative interactive social structure at school. Another kid almost popped on meds for nothing. Heck I was one of those kids myself. Here take this pill it will make life great for you. Heh ya right pills wasn't the solution to say the least. Same with my brother when he was young oh you have this and that wrong with your brain take these pills. He never needed them either. Problem was the enviroment we were in. Not our brains.
A chemical imbalance in the brain is a theory. I looked it up in the DSM-IV journal. There is no proof behind it at all.
When I did take pills my condition got worse. Now only life sucked but, there is something wrong with me and I'm not normal either. I believe in some cases pills are needed. But not as often as the Doc says. I know this I'm living proof. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2005 8:36:57 PM | Yes, I would also have to agree,Tourette's is in most cases the final conclusion of everything else. Adhd,add, conduct disorder and so on. My second oldest has Tourette's and yes structure is very important. But as a single parnet this sometime is very hard to keep up. Yes the high energy needs to worked off. If my son was not on medication some days he would never sleep. While other days it is like a light switch and he is asking to go to bed ... lol. But this is the same with his emotions and again with his attention span. Some days good and some days not.
But, in the end I have seen everything you are all talking about. Been to class's at the Glenrose, to the support groups and learned alot. Not only about my child but better yet about myself and how to help me. For if we as parents are down, what good are we to our children.
Have an awesome night.
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Posted: 6/30/2005 1:43:57 AM | A great book to help you out is, "The ADD Answer" by Frank something. It's late I can't think of his last name. I have read it and followed a lot of his advice. I too have a child with ADD/ADHD. READ THE BOOK! I also recommend going on Dr. Phil's web site too!  | |
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Posted: 6/30/2005 2:06:01 PM | "For if we as parents are down, what good are we to our children."
Too true, singledad. It's hard to be "on" all the time when dealing with kids, but having special needs of any kind just adds to that.
Connecting with the community that serves special needs kids in your area can be a great help. In Ohio, we have parent advocates in each county (sometimes each school, depending on population). The parent advocate can be a great source of information and resources. I'm sure other states have similar agencies and I know a lot of other countries do too. It's just a matter of finding the right person to talk to in your community. | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 7/17/2005 5:35:21 PM | Right on guy
I have been diagnosed with adult ADD/ADHD, but I look back and realize I've always had the symptoms
After MANY conflicting reading on the Topic I've been led to conclude that SO many people have ADHD, it's not whether you have it or not it's what the severity is. I know that I can now pick out people with obvious signs of it, now that I can recognize symptoms.
PARENTS, you all sound like your children have fatal disease.
While it can be a curse you all have to understand it's a blessing as well. 90% of the time people with ADHD are smarter than the norm. We have the ability to think faster but DO lack some proper 'sorting' skils'.
If you can utilize this in a positive way, it proves to be quite benficial to a person in today's high paced society!
Having been on Ritalin, I can honestly say it CAN turn someone into a zombie until the proper dosage has been found.
I have used a tranquilizer to help me sleep and slow me down which has been the only successful drug to date.
I am not a huge fan of meds but it's like diabetes or any other health related problem, the wiring in the child's head is different and may need support.
I will be trying a non-stimulant med called Straterra soon and have high hopes that it will not keep me awake at night but enable me to focus.
REMEMBER parents, this may take some time to get under control but is not a BAD thing! In the dark ages we were successful renaissance people. There's theories that many geniuses have battled with some form or another of ADD/ADHD
These are all my personal opinions, I have concluded for myself by myself through multiple reading sources.
I have no medical training, lol! | |
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Posted: 7/17/2005 8:10:20 PM | My son is ADHD and ODD. I have been having a hell of a time trying to contorl it. He is only 4. I think the main problem is our living arrangements. I am currently single and i live with my parents. I am pretty much doing this on my own.. long story but father is not in the picture.
My son is extremely smart. he is doing things he shouldn't be doing at his age. I am proud of him. It is a very difficult situation. I have him in all oif these programs and they seem to be helping. The main thing is structure. I have also kept him mostly away from the food coloring in different drinks and treat. (red 40, yellow 5, etc) I didnt think that it worked until one day i bought him an ice cream from the ice cream truck, this child did a complete turn aroiund. So i limit his intake on those foods.
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