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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 7/18/2005 12:06:44 AM | | i have a son who has adhd , hes had it since last yr, i know it is not easy, but as long as you keep them busy and theyre mind going, then its not so bad | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 7/18/2005 1:06:57 AM | My oldest daughter is ADHD, my exhusband is ADD and I am also ADHD. I found that the best thing for myself is a combation of behaviour modification and a "brain supplement" like Learning Factors or AD-FX. My daughter won't take it as she says things are "overwhelming" when she is not scattered....
I personally LIKE being ADHD.....am an excellent multitasker and have enough energy for 3 teenagers . | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 7/18/2005 11:41:51 AM | My 8 1/2 yr old daughter has ADHD as well as anxiety/control issues. My 4 yr old son seems to have been spared though.
I monitor her diet very closely...which is hard because nobody else seems to see the importance of it or the results of giving my kid an ice cream cone or a freeze, she gets all sugar free products and has a low carb diet as well for the most part, because I follow low carb. I have sugar free cookies, ice cream, chocolate, freezies and now they even have sugar free slurpee's at 7-11! :) It's very easy to live a sugar free lifestyle these days.
She is also on medication and has been since halfway through kindergarten...
Her father has ADD as well. | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 7/18/2005 1:03:29 PM | | Hey there....just remember ADHD and ODD kids are just kids whose brains are going a mile a minute....My son is also both...its all about the parenting, routine and consistency. I dont let my son use that as an excuse...there is a time and a place for his behaviour....school and being in public are not one of them....its strict but you just gotta be firm that they need to pull it together for so many hours a day, then at home you need to let them be them for a bit, its easier at home because you love them no matter what....thats what i do and it works....my son knows he has issues but he knows that he has to make it through his day too he cant use it as a crutch....and as a parent when those incidents happen in public or at a friends place they cant use it as a crutch either....kids are master manipulators and if they hear mom saying oh its cuz he is ....... then they dont need to listen mom will continue to make excuses....positive reinforcement also works really well.....i use a weekly reward system.....a whole week of no time outs at school warrants a new xbox game......good luck | |
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Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 55 | |
| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 7/18/2005 3:52:11 PM | Ironically enough; I passed along this thread a few times, and keep getting distracted by other stuff, lol.
I have a terrible case of ADHD, it really affected my schooling, and it affects my work.
I lose track of what I'm saying in the middle of sentences all the time, and rarely finish a conversation. I also can never seem to get to my point, which has been a problem in relationships, lol.
Anyway, I control it to a degree by cutting starch out of my diet, sugar and caffeine are also no-nos. I increase the amount of bananas in my diet...I eat like four or five a day.
REASON for eating so many bananas: The folate in bananas helps concentration and memory function, and the magnesium they provide helps people recover from fatigue. They also provide tryptophan, a type of protein the body converts into serotonin, which is a chemical known for making you relax, improving your mood, and helping people to overcome depression. (Not saying people with ADHD are always depressed, mind you)
Considering the amount of recipes that use bananas, like milkshakes...mmm, milkshakes...and the price of bananas, it's the perfect drug for me. They're cheap, taste good, and are one of the most healthy foods you can eat. They even stave off ulcers and hernias somehow...
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Joined: 7/29/2005
Msg: 56 | |
| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/26/2005 5:48:06 AM | | i have a daughter who was diagnosed with adhd-odd when she was 4, the ped. that i seen, i hated him..he didnt seem to have the interest in helpin other then just uping her meds(personally i think he might have needed meds himself) but she was 45 lbs at 6 yrs old cause of the meds she was on(ritalin) and she was on 40 mg of it..plus she was on clonidine for sleep deprivation..her behaviours got worse over time, i was wrapping myself around her little body to keep her from hurting herself and her baby brother at time..then she was suicidal..imagin that, at 6 she asked if a razer at her wrist would hurt her..i freaked, i dropped outta college the stress was just to high..her father who was oblivious to the problems was no help..so i took her off all meds and became the major **** for well i still am to am extent and shes 11 now.Now we are dealing with entirely different problems concerning both kids, and my ex is still half in the bag cause he thinks its our fault and well hes the type who can do no wrong its everyone else whos wrong...anyways i am gettin off topic a little but i can see how outsiders think us parents are messin up the kids, but so are us as parents and its leaves us to questions our own parental abilitiles.. crap id like to finish but gotta run..i have a fight goin on herewith kids..bye for now | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/26/2005 10:04:46 AM | My 12 yr old son has ADHD, OCD, ODD. He's quite the handful. I personally couldn't have him live with me, all be the first to admit I couldn't deal with it. When I was with his dad it was hard enough, now my youngest is having behaviour problems but I don't think he has the same thing. I'm doing fine as a single parent. Children with ADHD need constant supervision and a structured environment. I've took my son to many specialist and they all say they same thing. Consistancy will help you along with your son. If you change the way you run things he will run you.
Kudos to the parents that are living with their child. | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/26/2005 11:08:47 AM | my son has ADHD my daughter does not. She his a had full because she is a stubborn teenager period and wants to do her own thing... so no matter what i have got my hands full with both of them, being a single parent. He is 11 and was sexually assualted by a guy FRIEND of mine (exfriend) back when he was 7 and that does not help anything of coarse- I think we all are doing pretty good with what we have and what I can do... my son has a heart of gold, but boy o boy is he an angry little man..... uggggggggggh ((deep sigh...)) They are in counseling, so its a work in process, can only do the best u can, and keep trying and working together... I do love them with all my heart!!!
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Joined: 7/21/2005
Msg: 59 | |
| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/26/2005 6:36:28 PM | Juslilme- Good luck hun...my son who is 4 yrs old was diagnosed with ADHD, he is a handful and a half. I have tried modification, they suggested me sending him to some sort of camp for 3 months, which I QUICKLY REFUSED!!! I can't see being away from my child that long without contact (via what they told me). He is currently medicated with adderall...although it doesn't stop everything 100% I find that it eases his tantrums and it helps him concentrate better. The best thing I have found that works with him are LOTS of activities. My son is extremely bright for his age and tends to get bored easily. We do alot of crafts, nature walks, outtings to the park and so forth. I currently work 2 jobs, so we have 1 day a week that we call our RUN AWAY DAY. The kids, my son and my 6 yr old daughter, pick a spot and we run away to it and stay gone, just spending time with one another. I find that the more I keep him busy, the easier he is to manage and the happier he is. I'm not saying that every thing is wonderful, we have our hard times and when he has an episode we sit down and talk about what went on and why. I found that it really doesn't do any good to punish him (time out and so forth) because it just gives him a break, but when I make him sit down and talk about his action, he seems to understand more. And if it gets to the point where I'm at the end of my rope, I run away.......I find that a night out after the kids are put down and the sitter arrives is a great way just to get out and relieve stress so that you can deal with things with a clear head.
Best wishes hun, I hope you find a way to make life tolerable for all!!! | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/26/2005 9:09:35 PM | GARF: Agree with you,.. IF your children like them, FEED them bananas! Check into your children's diets,. it makes a world of difference ( what we all affectionately call food allergies aren't really true allergies they are sensitivities and can build up in the body causing the problems,....and may also be outgrown YEAH!!)
My son after many years of misdiagnoses has Tourette's. Finally we can make sense of all the OTHER labels tossed incorrectly at him. He's a wonderful mix of HYPERactivity, tics, and OCD. This came across as rudeness, fidgits and boredom in school not a child who actually needed more to do. ( He is an honour student and very musically inclined,... keep those fingers busy) HE needed to find an outlet that encompassed all his characteristics,... engines were our answer. Precise, mathematical, PUZZLING ,( to me anyhow hahaha) , challenging and pride and satisfaction upon making them work and run properly.
Interestingly enough though I wonder how many other children are labeled as ADHD when they may have mild Tourette's ( which is the center circle of ADHD, tics, learning disorders and OCD) and are going "nuts" because they are being fed a stimulant instead of the opposite. Hormones kicking in aren't usually a catalyst for more problems but the settling of many. Best wishes to all of your children,... hang in there with them and NEVER stop questioning health professionals. ( I know I am one) | |
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Joined: 8/24/2005
Msg: 63 | |
| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/27/2005 5:42:01 AM | This is my area, finally a topic i can relate too. Okay im 24 and all my life i have been ADHD/Bi-polor. It has been rough and not a fun road. I was a hand full to my folks,teachers and any friends i did have. Most ppl gave up on me and walked away, it was easier then fighting what they could never win. One thing i wished as a child when i was mad or frustrated was that someone who just hold me, let me cry and hold me. Im telling you it would have made a diffence in my mood in second. My folks refused to do that because of some parenting rules they had, to give kids what they want. In situtations like this sometime u just have to hold them to calm them down, its better then things being thrown, punches and screaming for hours. The best advice i can give you is "DONT GIVE UP ON THEM, EVER!" always tell them your there for them, always have a tight bond and do what u can to make their life easier. It wont be easy on you, but in time it will be worth all the heartache and trouble to see them grow and become a great person. Now at my age the ADHD has worn off a bit, but now that im grown up no one notices it much, it when ur a kid its the hardest. Good luck and if you need and other advice i'd be willing to try to help | |
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Joined: 8/24/2005
Msg: 64 | |
| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/27/2005 5:43:54 AM | Forgot to mention something, i was on pills for it...worst thing ever. I kept taking myself off i wanted to do it on my own, i did. The pills are just another thing, everything is possible without drugs, they wont make that big a diffrence belive me. Ritalin was what i was on, worst drugs ever(now teens snort it to get high, good lord) It should be taken off the market. Get this:
age 11-85 pounds
height=5'6
reason=the med's
side effects= zombie,stoned,and out of it drug
The drug is horrible, i wouldnt eat, i was seclude myself from anyone around me and became even more cranky then i already was, and i just dont reccomend this drug to anyone! | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/27/2005 7:30:23 AM | Has anyone tried the support groups put on by the city? I went a few times but I found it emotionally draining. Some parents have it alot harder then others. My son is 12 now so I think he is starting to be able to deal with it. It's not easy that's for sure. Also the darn doc's tried to use my son as an experiment, until I put my foot down. The schools in Durham wont take my son unless he's medicated. Sad eh?
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Joined: 8/24/2005
Msg: 66 | |
| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/27/2005 10:27:30 AM | | thats not sick, its F-en sick and F-en cruel, $hit like that makes me so mad, its terrible. Im lucky enuf that my parents faught for me to have an eduction | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/27/2005 2:15:06 PM | Just an addendum to my thoughts,... only because I plea for people to make sure that ADHD/ADD/OCD aren't the only issues their children are struggling with and that it isn't just a 'factor" .
More than half of the children who have Tourette's Syndrome also have a pattern of inattentiveness, hyperactivity and impulsiveness (suddenly doing things without thinking about the consequences or dangers). If severe, this is the same pattern that is called ADHD in other children. It is quite likely that it has the same basis as ordinary ADHD but it doesn't mean that ADHD is the 'real' diagnosis. ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder too, as is Tourette's Syndrome and it is common for an individual to have more than one neurodevelopmental condition.
As in ADHD, inattention in children with Tourette's Syndrome means that they appear not to have heard what has been said to them, do not finish what they start, hate doing things that require concentration, and are easily distracted. Typically they are restless, fidgety and do not stay in their seat when they should. They do stupid or dangerous things without thought for the consequences, cannot wait patiently and interrupt conversations.
The treatment of ADHD, whether it exists on its own or with Tourette's, is psychological in the first place. The aim is to help parents, teachers and the child manage life and learning. Medication is not always needed for ADHD but IF it is required it is very effective. Unfortunately, the most powerful medication, so-called stimulant drugs such as methylphenidate and dexamphetamine, usually makes tics worse. Low-dose Clonidine (Dixarit) is actually helpful for both tics and ADHD symptoms. Ask your pediatrician. Look into it , it saved my sons sanity. ( ok mine, the teachers and general publics too!)  | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/27/2005 11:57:44 PM | I had my son tested in grade 5, he has ADD/ADHD and ODD.
I find I deal ok with the ADD/ADHD, I keep him busy and try to keep him focused on the task at hand. Luckily he has had awesome teachers the last couple of years who seem to have some understanding and patience. The recommendation at the beginning of grade 6 was to modify his classes and prepare him for an IOP program once he started junior high. I was adamant that he remain in the regular class stream.
Computers are a passion for him, lucky for him, and me, the jr high he is at now has a special computer "class" in addition to regular classroom settings. His class is smaller and they have palm pilots. I am soooo proud of him!!
Successes I find when he has a passion for something and we just continue on with it.
I've also found that taekwondo has helped tons!!! Can't say enough good things and the benefits we have reaped from it.
Now the ODD, I could live without, I'm having such a hard time dealing with it, add to that he's hit the hormonal teenage years....I figure I'm doomed!! One minute he's fine, next he's in a blind rage about the littlest thing, seems like the most inconsequential thing on a grand scale...when he's in one of these "moods" I can't reach him, it's almost like he's deaf and blind and of course NOTHING is ever his fault...frustrating to say the least.
What I also find difficult is he does get some leeway in discipline, some of it really isn't his fault....problem is my daughter is a bit younger (no medical issues) and tries to get away with the same attitude crap!! Not fun!!
Here is a website that shows a ton of books available...
http://www.add411.com
and the book Putting on the Brakes is supposed to be very good for you and your child (and anyone else is contact regularly with your child) I haven't read it yet but I've heard nothing but rave reviews. It apparently helps you understand better what happening in their heads. | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/28/2005 8:52:02 AM | My son has ADHD and he is 11 now but i delt with it for many of years and i know it is hard and even thoe i wanna bang your head off the walls, it pays off in the long run when they give you hug or tell you they LOVE u! There is light at the end of the tunnel just to let you know! I was hard on my son and wouldn't give in to anything but now to this day he loves me even more for being so stren with him! Thanx Leigh | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/28/2005 2:52:18 PM | | im a mother to 3 kiddies 2 of whom have adhd and one of those is autistic both my boys are on medication they are extremly hard work unfortunatly i have to play the role of a single parent as my husband is of hardly any support . kids with adhd need routine n lots of attention the thing is they will do anything to get it including be naughty so best to ignore the bad behaviour n reward the good behaviour . ya need a good support im lucky i have a good friend that helps me dowen n when i break down in tears when i feel so worn down she picks me up . the worse thing for me is lack of sleep as my boys dont sleep they go off about half 2 in morning n little girl wakes up about 7 n inbetween i am supposed to make my husband feel special well hey we dont have time so the marriage suffers too x | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/28/2005 7:11:58 PM | | how can you say i give you no support babe i love the lewis and jorden the same as demi when you house sat instead of you taking the kids with you i had them why are you painting a very very dark picture of me do i really deserve it babe. | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/29/2005 8:16:24 PM | | Thanks for the encouragement Frrosty! My son is quite a handful & he is extremely intelligent & magnificent! He hasn't been diagnosed yet, we don't see the pediatrician until Dec. 6th. I was wondering if I could get any pointers, especially wit school starting up again? He's starting a new school & I just got custody. Help! | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/29/2005 10:13:34 PM | I am the mom of a 12 year old that has been diagnosed with ADHD since he was seven. Its important to first recognize that in young children, this is a difficult illness to diagnose. Sleep disorders, dyslexia and many other conditions may share behaviors actually associated with ADHD and lead to innappropriate diagnosis. Always have young children checked for sleep disorders and vision problems before giving in to teachers or family members who think ADHD is the only condition that causes hyperactivity. Full blood panels should also be done to rule out endocrinology disorders.
My son is brilliantly intelligent, absolutely loving, and Denis the menace x 100! His energy and
personality are what make my little man irresistible. Yes he drives me up walls and around bends, but he is the life of every place he visits, he'll always make u laugh. Its important with children who have such a hard time of it, to be constantly reminded of how wonderful they are, to always hear them when it is time to make decisions about meds, or any treatment. Help them by giving them some control, and remind them that this isn't their fault, no more than if the child had diabetes or any other medical condition. They require absolutes in their lives, discipline must be consistent so the child always knows what to expect. There isn't any use in yelling, it helps no one, but when you can say to a child..."did you know the consequence of this behavior would be this" and the child says yes, then there is nothing to argue about! And consequences are more easily accepted and behaviours change because the child wants them to change too!
My son had no friends until he started on meds, he was physically overwhelming to other children his age. Meds became an option the minute my child said to me, "no one wants to play with me cuz they're scared i'll hurt them". When a childs life is so interupted, what parent wouldn't try everything to help them. You wouldn't withold medication if the diagnosis were diabetes or seizures, why would you because its ADHD! Certainly all avenues should be trialed, but meds changed my son's life. He no longer has physical behaviours because his meds gave him the time to learn appropriate behavior...he has lots of friends now who see him much as I do! A bright light who will always try to make u laugh especially if your sad! Give your child a chance to shine with whatever treatment they need to get them through the day! And love them every second they are in your life...especially when they're driving you bonkers! | |
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| ADHD children anyone?
Posted: 8/29/2005 10:16:44 PM | My son has Tourettes syndrome.
When my son first started school the teachers (who think they have a medical degree) really began to get on my case about my sons behavoir at school . They told me he has ADD ADHD. Well took him to a Dr. And she prescibed my son Rititlin.Well after awhile I did not like the fact he was like a zombie. So after summer I took him off. Well he was able to sit and focus on anything. Just he was hyper in school. When he turned 12 BAM the twitches jerks barks started.
I did not know what it was it was so bizarre. After 1 years of tests , brain scans a Dr diagnosed him with Tuorettes. Put him on the right meds and wow what a difference. Since then I have learned much. Tourettes and ADD and ADHD are very close cousins when it comes to disorders.
The ritilin that they pumped in him accualy made the tourettes worse. There are many kids out there who are misdiagnosed with having ADD or ADHD when in fact they have Tourettes. Before you put your kids on that ritilin CRAP make sure your child does not have tourettes.The thing comes out at about the age of 12. When it does it is bizarre.
The med that is workin for him is Colonidine. He does cut down during the summer but during the school years he takes it at 8 he is out like a light by 9.30 | |
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