| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/15/2008 2:54:08 PM | "A bit harsh - don't you think? Wrong, right or indifferent it hurts like hell - yes, I knew it would not end living happily ever after but I blocked out the bad and enjoyed the good."
Try to think of someone else besides yourself. Sure it hurts for his wife and kids. You knew what you were getting into. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/15/2008 2:57:08 PM |
I didn't tell anyone I was secretly dating a married man until after we broke up. I thought I would get sympathy but instead I got disappointment. "What were you thinking" "What about his kids" "The poor guy probably thinks you'll tell his wife" blah blah blah. The way I look at it he gets to go home to his family and pretend like nothing happened.
Why does the female get crucified and not the married man?
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This is the most selfish post I've ever read. Wow; you are a very selfish and self absorbed person. You potentially try to break up a marriage and a family and a legal and sacred bond but all you can think about is your feelings. No wonder you dated a married man.
Your friends should have raked you through the coals. No wonder people cheat so much. They have no conscious just like you.
The man IS being crucified. Stop acting like some victim. He's a scumbag for doing it. Good for your friends that they had character.
And you are so dumb do to that. OF COURSE he goes to his wife like nothing happened. In the end you thought you were so smart but you were used and you hate that.
Again, cheaters are scum IMHO. Cheaters that try to break up relationships are worse. The world doesn't revolve around you. Its hard for me to read your post or control my anger at how self absorbed you are. You screw a married man and then want sympathy. I really have heard it all. | |
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zeeba
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Joined: 3/27/2008
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/15/2008 3:07:26 PM | Gamblin Gal,
I'd like to know a bit more about your situation. No, I don't expect you would get much sympathy from family and friends; did you know he was married before you became involved? Did you become involved and then learn he was married?
If it was the former, then I don't think sympathy is much warranted. If it was the latter, you have a little more reason for sympathy...but not a lot if you continued anyway after learning the truth. My unsolicited advice is to look within yourself, see this as a learning experience, and consider your emotional vulnerability to these situations.
I've said it before: I do not understand married men or women who choose to seek comfort elsewhere rather than dealing with the situation at hand. One or both partners can look for counselors, pastors, or other trained professionals for therapy with marital problems. If children are involved, they must be the priority. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/15/2008 4:55:55 PM | Well this is simple.... Do you not have any self respect?
As well, as what an insult to single women when a married man wants her and is still committed to his wife!!!! Basically he is saying to you.. I only want you for one thing, and I never have to commit to you because I have my wife who gives me everything else ~ that's why they NEVER leave them~~ They want their cake and eat it too....
I have no RESPECT for either party on this subject!! | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/15/2008 7:42:02 PM | 1. the guy's not on here for us to tell him he's a jerk
2. you were dating the guy knowing he's married and you said in your earlier post you were waiting and hoping he would leave his wife still
3.you were on here looking for a relationship at the same time, knowing you would cheat on anyone if the married guy even looked your way
we're all lining right up to fall in love with you
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/16/2008 1:12:35 PM | well he lived 100 miles from me but worked in London near to me. He spent 4 nights a week with me and just enough weekends for me not to suspect. He spoke to me all the time at the weekends but said he did not have a land line, we went out together and even had a "couple" profile on line, we had pics on face book together and he was nearly always reachable. The guy was brazen, i think he wanted to get caught in a perverse way, maybe so his wife would dump him and he could walk away without feeling like he had left her.
Believe me, when a married cheat is on girlfriend number 3 or 4, he has it down to a fine art! | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/16/2008 6:09:46 PM |
Why does the female get crucified and not the married man?
Oh, don't worry, the lawyers and the divorce courts will take care of the latter more than sufficiently.
Seriously, though, the married man does indeed gets crucified, too. Either way, regardless of whether he gets berated for what he did, it doesn't change the fact that you were stupid. | |
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Dia623
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Joined: 5/13/2008
Msg: 58 | |
| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:43:00 PM | I wish I knew you the husband and wife I would tell the wife on both of you!
I DONT mince words and DONT care if I get booted or if you cry and complain...
You are an ugly human being for doing this! and KARMA will **** slap you like there is no tomorrow and I cannot wait for it because then you will be REALLY wanting "sympathy" and no one will care...you get what you deserve.....
I hope you are happily married some day and the same happens to you....WAHHHHHH!!!!! I want sympathy WAHHHH!!!!
I screwed a married guy and he doesnt wuv me anymore! wahhhhh...get a life...    | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/17/2008 9:03:03 PM | Hi GamblinGal,
Unlike most of the posters on here and society in general, I empathize with you. I don't understand why
people must be so judgmental. Instead everyone wants to see it as a black or white situation when it is not, and
I also don't understand why the single female always seems to get so much of the blame. Most of the time in these
situations, the guy is only thinking with his little head and tells several lies to get in the girl's pants (He's separated, he's not
married, blah, blah, blah). I would guess that there may be several married guys here on POF fit that describe themselves
as separated, etc in their profiles , so be careful when you are fishing on here! The guy typically reels her in emotionally
and then the bomb is dropped when she finds out the truth. Unfortunately, by then she may be so emotionally involved
that letting go is not such an easy thing...the damage is done. Then the guy goes back to his other half and acts like nothing
happens. The wife is left clueless and the single woman that society so readily wants to label as some kind of skank seems
to get all the blame. To me the guy is even more to blame because he was not honest in the beginning. So please don't be so
hard on yourself. Your only mistake was meeting up with this low life and trusting him. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/17/2008 9:39:29 PM | Hey clt, no offence, but she knew he was married...There is no black and white...They were both wrong...PERIOD. She deserves no sympathy what so ever. The fact that she is complaining about everyone jumping down her throat is a joke. And if the guy was on here, he would be getting it worse, believe me. And Im not trying to sound like an ass by any means, I just have no respect for cheaters and even though she wasnt doing the cheating, she knew what she was doing was wrong. People who cheat deserve nothing but heartache because if they didnt care about the other persons feelings, why should anyone care about thiers..If your a cheater, your a VERY sad and pathetic person | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/17/2008 10:12:39 PM | | I say serves yourself right . That is the no 1 rule girly "you don't Mess with someones man ".Oh I know he was as much to blame ,but you went in with your eyes wide opened honey. I hope when you finally grow up and settle down noone does it to you . | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/17/2008 10:23:01 PM | I have no intention of being rude but you should not expect sympathy. You clearly do not have any respect for the boundaries of marriage nor does this man who willingly chose to betray his wife. What a horrible thing to do.
You have chosen the behavior, therefore you have chosen the consequences that follow. | |
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Dia623
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Joined: 5/13/2008
Msg: 65 | |
| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/18/2008 4:18:39 AM | "Your only mistake was meeting up with this low life and trusting him"
Hey CLT??? WTF?????
Talk about double standards!!! He is a low life but she isnt?????
LMAO!
I'm sorry, I am just a little confused....is this HER story we are talking about or YOURS?
Do you have the "inside scoop" that the REST of us here havent heard or something?
Uhhhhhhh the GUY IS MARRIED!!!!!!!!!! SHE DIDNT CARE!!!!!!!
NOW WANTS SYMPATHY FOR THE BREAKUP! End of story!
She was NOT kidknapped and made to date the evil married masked man......she did it KNOWING what was going on....PUHLEASE...she was by no means a "victim" AND she knows this...
Gimme a break .... | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/18/2008 4:57:58 AM | If you read her earlier posts you might see that the guy told her he was separated...DUH....isn't that a bit like lying. But like everyone else I guess you are too quick to judge. Why are you so defensive of the married guy? Do you have the inside scoop of something we don't know about.
Opinions are like ***holes; everyone has one....this is the great thing about forums. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/18/2008 7:29:13 AM | Ummmm CLT, the FIRST line of the OP goes something like this
I didn't tell anyone I was secretly dating a married man until after we broke up
When nobody here gave her sympathy, did she throw that in there. Instead of US reading her posts, maybe you should go back to the OP and reread it. To my knowledge of reading all the posts, no one even remotely defended the married guy. IMO, and yes, I AM being an ass, the person that cheated and the person they cheated with should suffer more then just grieving alone.
I too, have no sympathy what so ever for the OP, she made her bed, now she should lie in it. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/18/2008 7:43:19 AM | You're a slut...
and he's a douchebag...
No sympathy whatsoever.
You need to stay away from married guys,
an he needs to stay away from other women until he gets a divorce.
Those are the rules in my book.
Thank you..  | |
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Dia623
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Joined: 5/13/2008
Msg: 69 | |
| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/18/2008 8:02:18 AM | f you read her earlier posts you might see that the guy told her he was separated...DUH....isn't that a bit like lying. But like everyone else I guess you are too quick to judge. Why are you so defensive of the married guy? Do you have the inside scoop of something we don't know about.
Opinions are like ***holes; everyone has one....this is the great thing about forums.
I DID read her earlier posts. And I am sorry but did you just "Duh" me???? Wow...goes to show the level of inteligence we are dealing with here people!
Sweetheart...If YOU read the thread here...no one is taking sides with married guy...not me, not anyone! I was merely pointing out that YOU seemed more angry at married guy then at the OP.....DUH?....Right back at ya babe.
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/18/2008 1:33:02 PM | | I may have no sympathy for this, but caller her a slut was a little uncalled for. There is no reason for calling her that. Just because she made a bad choice in what she was doing, it doesnt classify her as a slut. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/18/2008 10:50:43 PM | ^^^^ Well, not really, what do you call a person like this?
slut.... an immoral woman, among other things, but that's what a slut is defined as in the dictionary. Look it up.
There you are offering her sympathy. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/18/2008 11:14:12 PM | I have never been one to sympathize with a self inflicted injury...
life is a lot of cause/effect...
play with fire.... you are bound to get burned at some point...
married means taken... means not free to become a relationship.. means ouch gonna flippin hurt in the end....
there have on rare occasions been exceptions to this.... lotto odds.... lol....
I was cheated on... or she was... still not sure.. dated a guy for 8 months... went to his home... saw him 4 or more days a week... talked to him daily... turned out he was seeing someone else too... her schedule was completely opposite of mine... I am off on weekends... she works weekends... he had it made... in the end... when I found out.. he was eliminated... she kept him because she "loves" him.... but I have talked to her... she is always looking over her shoulder... wondering who he is talking to... where he is when he isn't with her... why he doesn't answer his phone.... she thought she won the prize... but really.... she is the one who lost.... I think she hurts more than I did... and she is perpetuating that pain being with him and not trusting him.... | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/18/2008 11:50:54 PM | I knew a girl not long ago who decided to turn down a relationship opportunity with me for a relationship with a married man.
She lost most of my respect there and all of my friends' respect. I never liked the guy in the first place but even less so after finding out he's a married man with 3 kids.
I don't care who does it, IMO it's wrong. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/20/2008 5:09:42 PM | I cant even believe you would want sympathy for being dumped by a
married man.. Especially since you knew he was married.. Play
with fire you get burned, and not to mention what karma will do when
she catches up! | |
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