| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/18/2008 10:50:43 PM | ^^^^ Well, not really, what do you call a person like this?
slut.... an immoral woman, among other things, but that's what a slut is defined as in the dictionary. Look it up.
There you are offering her sympathy. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/18/2008 11:14:12 PM | I have never been one to sympathize with a self inflicted injury...
life is a lot of cause/effect...
play with fire.... you are bound to get burned at some point...
married means taken... means not free to become a relationship.. means ouch gonna flippin hurt in the end....
there have on rare occasions been exceptions to this.... lotto odds.... lol....
I was cheated on... or she was... still not sure.. dated a guy for 8 months... went to his home... saw him 4 or more days a week... talked to him daily... turned out he was seeing someone else too... her schedule was completely opposite of mine... I am off on weekends... she works weekends... he had it made... in the end... when I found out.. he was eliminated... she kept him because she "loves" him.... but I have talked to her... she is always looking over her shoulder... wondering who he is talking to... where he is when he isn't with her... why he doesn't answer his phone.... she thought she won the prize... but really.... she is the one who lost.... I think she hurts more than I did... and she is perpetuating that pain being with him and not trusting him.... | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/18/2008 11:50:54 PM | I knew a girl not long ago who decided to turn down a relationship opportunity with me for a relationship with a married man.
She lost most of my respect there and all of my friends' respect. I never liked the guy in the first place but even less so after finding out he's a married man with 3 kids.
I don't care who does it, IMO it's wrong. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/20/2008 5:09:42 PM | I cant even believe you would want sympathy for being dumped by a
married man.. Especially since you knew he was married.. Play
with fire you get burned, and not to mention what karma will do when
she catches up! | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/20/2008 5:16:41 PM | Not everyone out there is perfect, and not everyone is always telling the truth, so sometimes you can get caught up in a situation before you really know the whole truth.
Dont be so easy to judge, and I agree its always the other person that gets crucified for seeing a married person, not the married person themselves. Thats not right! | |
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Dia623
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Joined: 5/13/2008
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/20/2008 5:41:00 PM | | You get my sympathy, and I am quite surprised to see so many folks in here claiming to be on the moral high ground. As for the comment re: alienation of affection, I find that one particularly amusing. If a single woman has an affair with a married man, why is SHE the culprit?? What vows and promises did SHE break? Why not try blaming and filing suit against the guy who made the vows in the first place!! Also, if a married man strays, it is his decision to do so. It's not like anybody forced him to do it. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/22/2008 10:58:00 AM | | Bad things happen in relationships both sanctioned and unsanctioned by our ridculous moral codes. Your a closed minded bible thumping jack-ass. Like you have never broken a rule or a law...give me a break | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/22/2008 2:24:56 PM | | You should have never EVER dated a married man. I know you hurt, but you really brought this upon yourself. You should have STOPPED when you knew "MARRIED"... That word should have made a red alert go off inside of your head which triggers your brain and then your brain says "STOP!"; It's that simple. ALSO, if he would cheat on his wife with you... well why the heck would you NOT think he would do the same thing to you? You might think you're "different" but you're not. My dad cheated on my mom my whole life. You have no idea how it hurts the family. The family may not know about your guys affair now, but one day he will get what he deserves. Somehow, someway it will happen. YOU ALWAYS REAP WHAT YOU SOW. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/22/2008 2:28:02 PM | | Okay... that was the most ignorant statement I have EVER heard. Yeah; people break rules. You know.. Sometimes I may cut in line in front of someone at the supermarket or maybe I do 65 miles per hour, in a 55 zone. But I MEAN DATING A MARRIED MAN? That has NOTHING to do with the Bible or anything, that is just being RESPETFUL to others and most of all yourself! | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/22/2008 2:32:41 PM | | I always felt the man has more to lose than the female. My friend found out her boyfriend was married and told his father-in-law. We never did hear from him again. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/23/2008 8:32:59 PM | I thought I would get sympathy but instead I got disappointment. I see she's now gone from here, but I'm wondering: Why was she thinking she's entitled to sympathy?
Why does the female get crucified and not the married man? If he was trying to find sympathy: he likely wouldn't find it either.
The only ones entitled to sympathy are the unsuspecting wife and children. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/24/2008 11:53:26 AM | OP - I hope you have learned at least something here.
I had an affair with a married woman, got married to a different woman but continued the affair for another year before she broke it off. I did love her and till this day, no one knows of the affair.
Without laws, rules, code, belief, whatever to guide ones life, most people cannot function. Actually, society cannot function. No matter what the circumstances are, and how much love there was, people will not understand because these things are well established and we are going against the very foundation of a society. We are left to deal with these things alone.
I did not tell anyone, there was or is no point. It only puts turmoil in the friends you are telling or you are hurting someone you onced loved. There is not a good end or any comfort. The best thing you can do is remember the good time you had, manage the pain and move on with life with it as a learning experience that has made you wiser. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/24/2008 8:52:28 PM | Both get crucified in my book. The woman for just not being very smart thinking he'll leave, and also for being sleazy for trying to break up a home.
The man is a scumbag in a situation like this for obvious reasons. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/24/2008 11:42:54 PM | I pesonally believe dating a married guy is wrong no matter how ya look at it.
Myself~~~I'd never date a married guy...because I would have to put myself in the "wifes" shoes and how it would feel to me if my husband were cheating. In the end it hurts all parties involved ~~~not just the other woman.
But I will say this....it takes TWO to cheat & the married guy is as much to blame here. Maybe worse since he decided to play around on his wife. Plus, only a small percentage of married men will actually leave their spouse for the other woman~~I think it's somewhere around 10%.
If one of my gal pals were having an affair with a married guy, I'd of course tell her that it was wrong and that I didn't approve, but knowing she probably wouldn't heed my advice or opinion...I'd try to be there for her when it was finally over and tell her to PLEASE learn from this and DON"T DO IT again!!
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/24/2008 11:46:21 PM |
I suspect if the married man were whining to people about his stupidity and lack of moral character he too would be lambasted for his selfish behavior
Amen there sister! I have absolutely NO sympathetic feelings what so ever for a cheater or the ones they are cheating with. The way I see it karma will get them both in the end and whomever ends up in pain, well they got what they deserved! I detest cheaters, they are some of the most cruel, selfish cold people out there and care less about the ones that will get hurt in the interim, so if in the end both parties in the cheating get burnt or hurt-FINE, good! Once a cheater always a cheater, so boo hoo. All the whining and crying in the world is going to fall on my deaf ears. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/25/2008 4:45:44 AM | Ok Ok Ok are everyone of us here perfect? - NO!
Have we never done anything wrong in our lives? - YES! So what the hell gives us the right to judge???
At the end of the day it takes 2 to tango. You were wrong honey to get involved with a married man but he was equally wrong! Dont worry about what anyone else thinks, just learn by your mistake. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/26/2008 10:44:45 AM |
Dont worry about what anyone else thinks, just learn by your mistake.
Yes, very kind words spoken by someone that has obviously never been cheated on, that tune will change should it happen to her.
YES! So what the hell gives us the right to judge
Has anyone judged her? NO, we have all spoked and given our OPINION as to the damage she has done getting involved with and remaining involved with a married man. No judgements here, just our thoughts and opinions! | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/26/2008 1:26:02 PM | Alright, seriously...Shes not even registered anymore guys..Let it die already...except for maxer...Your an idiot to say u feel for her...There is no excuse to do what she did...Not that lame "no strings attactched crap" I saw earlier on this thread is an excuse either. Which by the way, before I forget..The couple women who said they date married people for that because there is no commitment or strings attatched..They are idiots...The family that might be ruined because You would rather sleep with a married person instead of having any sence of morals. Male or female, all it is is you being selfish and just wanting to get laid instead of thinking what damage it might cause. Thats heartless and I for on think any heartbreak you get in the future is well deserved | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/26/2008 6:56:08 PM | | Because... ahhh good question and we all know the answer. He has a prior commitment to someone else but even though he said I do and had children and made a conscious decision to cheat on his wife and even though all his alliance should be with his family. He chose to go out and look for some one else to use and fool around with and.....That... makes it your fault! Does it make sense now? My ex went out on me. I blame him. He said I do not her. By the way stop winning you got off easy. Broken hearts mend. That poor woman is going to find out sooner or later who her real husband is and she is in for real misery she is the one who deserves your pity. | |
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Celia2
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Joined: 1/15/2008
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/26/2008 7:10:48 PM | | What goes around comes around......some day when you're secure in your little world perhaps someone will shit on you.....and you deserve it....you knew what you were getting into....leave married men alone.......there is more involved in this whole equation than just "your feelings"......let's get some moral ground back here.........marriage is supposed to be a sacred thing. And many lives can be torn apart......and children are precious.........learn from your mistakes. | |
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| No sympathy for breaking up over a married guy
Posted: 6/26/2008 7:48:12 PM | My huh hum husband's wife "he is wearing a wedding ring in Canada and living with some whore" while I am still waiting for the divorce to be final. Didn't want the reponsibility of our kids and a wife. So he abandoned a woman who basically just gave birth and our daughter was one year old. I had spoken to this person in Canada and she told him to pretend that Kristeena and all of us are dead and that she will kill his love for me. Now he is mentally ill and was not taking his meds. My husband has major problems. She contolled him completely because he is a total mess without his meds plus he is drinking and gambling~she works at a casino.
So there went a family that was headed on a Christian track. He was taking meds and willing to get some sort of help. Now does wicka crap drinks and gambles. I am taking parental rights of my daughter. His name is off the birth certificate.
During the time that I was willing to forgive his cheating, lying, abuse to save a family.
It took alot out of me, but I was faithful. Couldn't the man divorce me first then date?
Why did he have to do it on purpose to hurt me? I did not cheat. I did not revenge cheat. When I knew in my heart that I can never take him back or trust any part of him, that is when I opened my options to pushing for the divorce and getting him out of my life.
So other woman, I know that someone like me is probally boring or you have heard it before. But your selfish attitude and him just being a smuck and an arsehole destroys families and childrens lives. My kids ask for "who is dad"??? I ignore them. They are 2 and 5. | |
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