| Do women avoid contacting married men?
Posted: 6/15/2008 7:49:59 PM | | OP, If you were truly looking for 'just friends' you would not be on this dating site. Instead, you would be on places like www.meetup.com or myspace.com where there are groups for literally every kind of hobby or interest (not just cars or 'guy stuff.) I have my email filter set to "Must not be married" and it will stay that way. | |
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| Do women avoid contacting married men?
Posted: 6/15/2008 7:53:06 PM | Oh boy, oh boy, I love these ones! (Rubs hands together in glee...)
I love a thread where the OP asks a question, gets honest answers and reacts with pouting/anger/annoyance...whatever.
OP: Did you really need to start a thread to find out that a lot of people don't like cheaters? Yeah, yeah, I know, you're only looking for friends...whether that's true or not doesn't matter because only YOU know the real answer...well, you, God and the baby Jesus (that's right...little baby Jesus KNOWS what you are really up to...).
The fact is, you could be Jesus himself, but even if HE asked this question, he'd get honest answers from many.
Come on, isn't lying a sin? Would you rather we all sinned and lied to you?
You're flabbergasted that people have "judged" you...tough ti tty...suck it up and move on.
PS: A poster before me had a great response for you...how about "Not single/not looking" rather than "married"? This will, right off the bat, let the "good" women know you're taken, and the "bad" women who go for married guys will still give you a chance, too. It's up to you then to decide which type you have more respect for. | |
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| Do women avoid contacting married men?
Posted: 6/15/2008 7:59:58 PM |
But seriously, if people can't handle the humor, then I'm not offended by it.
Fair enough. I have no problem with using inuendos, randomness, and play on words for humour. I was just trying to point out that it is a little overdone in your profile. Also, although inuendos are funny putting them on your "I'm married, looking for talk/email friends" makes it look like you are lying. Just trying to point out the obvious that maybe you couldn't see. | |
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| Do women avoid contacting married men?
Posted: 6/15/2008 8:05:17 PM | 99% of women have zero interest in being an ego prop or secret lay for some married idiot. Seriously what do you think you have to offer a single woman? Why would she waste her time sitting on the computer conversing with some married guy on a DATING site? Get a clue.
Your profile is full of unappealing, gross and suggestive language. It's clear you aren't simply looking for talk. And frankly I doubt you'll attract even that.
Maybe you should go to the gym or read a book instead to occupy and improve yourself/your life. | |
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| Do women avoid contacting married men?
Posted: 6/15/2008 8:36:14 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^ LOL..............one of the funniest responses ive read ..
Cant stop laughing coz thoroughly agree with EVERYTHING you've said.
Dude,drop the comedy act.
You're NOT Leslie Neilson.
And,you're not funny. | |
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| Do women avoid contacting married men?
Posted: 6/15/2008 8:40:10 PM |
No, ofcourse they didn't!
When you spend a little more time here, you will learn what a real personal attack is.
There was no blood this time around, so chill.
"I have ZERO interest in talking to married people.
Yes, I do look down on them. I think that they are cheaters and I do not like cheaters."
Hey, wasn't that last one posted by you? So...you didn't attack me, but just accused me of being a cheater? No, that was a totally non-invasive comment! 
Yep, posted by me.
And, no it was not personal.
It was a general observation.
A married person on a dating website is MOST LIKELY here for other purposes than to discuss NY Times crossword or war in Iraq.
And, if they are here to discuss war in Iraq, they do it in forums. They do not wonder why do women avoid contact with married men.
In my first message, I have posted a link to many sites where people who have similar interests connect. Non dating websites. But, somehow it seems that those sites are not of interest to you. Couple of other people suggested the same idea, and yet you never responded to those comments. Let me ask again: If all you want is to meet some new friends, to chit chat and email with, why are you looking for them on a dating site and not on any other web site that has different purposes?
It has little to do with the answer, but the message behind the answer. But that's a no-brainer!
Of course, it's a no-brainer.
Most of the people presented their message in a very clear manner: This is a dating site, they are looking for partners and are not interested in married people.
If you were to think about it for a second, it kind of makes sense.
I would imagine that there are quite a few folks here whose marriages fell apart because of the cheating spouses. Do you honestly think that they will applaude your quest for "friendship" here?
In message 48, the boy analyzed your attempts to joke. I am not going to repeat what he already said, but I will say that each and every attempt sounded, to me, like a light sexual innuendo: I'am easy, I am hard, massage me... etc. Not exactly the kind of jokes that a person interested solely in platonic friendships would put in their profile.
As for my personal opinion, every single married guy who contacted me here eventually wanted more than just email/friendship. Some of them said it right away, some took time to get there. So, in my experience all the married guys that I have met here (does not mean that I have met them all) were cheaters and were looking for "lil sumtin'" at the side. And, I do not want to be "lil sumtin'", so based on my experience - now I do discriminate against them.
I have never cheated on anyone in my life.
As far as I know, no one cheated on me.
To the best of my knowledge, I have never been with someone already involved with another person.
Yet, I reserve the right to be a judgemental b1tch, and not communicate with married guys.
If you don't like that, ask Big Fish to refund your membership fee.
Totally agree with ya. But that doesn't mean that a white person who won't speak to a black person isn't racist. I'm sure you can figure it out
So, what does that make ME? Feel free to come out in the open and say it.
And... Phleeeaaaase... leave the race card out of it.
Color of one's skin does not say anything about their character (IMO).
Being married and on a dating web site says plenty about one's character (IMO).
So, let me repeat myself, because I stand behind my words:
I have ZERO interest in talking to married people.
Yes, I do look down on them. I think that they are cheaters and I do not like cheaters.
This is a big site, there are plenty of women who do not have same moral standards as I, I am sure that you will meet each others eventually.
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| Do women avoid contacting married men?
Posted: 6/15/2008 10:18:53 PM | Oh you mean people! The poor married OP who was ONLY HERE to make FRIENDS has...has deleted his profile. I'm sure you're all just as shocked as I.  | |
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| Do women avoid contacting married men?
Posted: 6/15/2008 10:42:06 PM | I think we caught him...or maybe he thought about the baby Jesus watching him surfing the net for an affair?
Meh, he'll be back. | |
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| Do women avoid contacting married men?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:58:55 PM | | i always avoided married men. there unavailable and i dont share . have had some hit on me before. asking for no strings, if i was looking for no strings, i could find a single guy like that just the same. no intrest in getting in the middle of some other womens marriage. | |
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| Do women avoid contacting married men?
Posted: 6/16/2008 5:54:09 PM | | If you are looking for email/chat buddies than I assume you would be contacting women who are looking for the same? If not that's probably why they are not responding. If I was seriously looking to date or for a LTR I would not spend time chatting with someone who is not available for that. I would skip right over those profiles once I see they are married. | |
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| Do women avoid contacting married men?
Posted: 6/16/2008 5:57:46 PM | I guess it's one thing married people who want to come on this site to find IE etc....but it's quite another when they materialize here asking if women (single ones too) avoid contacting married men for a relationship. DESPITE what the OP's indication of talk/email category was. (yeah, right) IMO~shakes head~
To those who didn't get to see his profile..........I wish I had that little pukie icon.
Well, I don't know if that was some kinda record or not......but he's here 6 days and gone. I guess OP thought we were too harsh. I guess he wasn't here long enough to "see" harsh. IMHO. | |
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| Do women avoid contacting married men?
Posted: 6/16/2008 6:26:30 PM | Quote... from the OP formerly known as OP.
But at any rate, you are right. This really is "your" site. But I'll keep up my profile (because I think it's funny, and the second I start worrying about what other people think is the second I lose myself). I'll even keep posting here. And no, not as a troll. I have contributed to many forums over the internet positively, and I can do that here, regardless of what people think of me. I'm just very disappointed in the shallow human spirit displayed here
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Do women avoid contacting married men?
Because they're usually trolling for sex. | |
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| Do women avoid contacting married men?
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:17:15 AM | | I would never contact a married man. I think married people that sweats after other people should get a divorce, it´s f-cking gross. | |
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| Do women avoid contacting married men?
Posted: 6/18/2008 3:11:13 PM | I do not contact married men. why would I do that? I dont want to date a married man. he already has a woman in his life. I am far too special to play second to any other woman is how I look at it.
Why are married men even on here? | |
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| Do women avoid contacting married men?
Posted: 6/18/2008 6:24:02 PM | Yes, why would anyone contact you if they're a single woman on a dating site?
I've heard the whole story about "looking for friends" and "my wife knows all about it" but the fact is, if a guy is looking, he is looking. (Sometimes married guys hold this fact back until you contact them, to better their chances of initial contact). In my experience a married guy on a dating site, or hanging out perpetually in bars without his wife either 1.) has an open marriage, but is choosing not to disclose that or 2.) he is kidding himself and doesn't really know he's looking for a girlfriend, yet, he is.
And in the RARE event that neither of these scenerios is true, there is still nothing to be gained from contacting a married guy, unless you are also in a relationship and looking for bridge partners.
It makes no sense to seek out and invest time in a platonic "friendship" that's only going to blow up in your face. In two instances when I had a married guy friend who I met at law school or work, after years of knowing each other socially, they came to the conclusion that they HAD to have me, and of course, I was completely to blame in their opinion. The fact that they were married, yet chose to spend time with me, made their time that much more precious in their mind, so I was obliged to sleep with them, right? pfffff.
Why bother with a cry-baby nuissance of this type when there are lots of single guys on POF that arent getting enough attention? | |
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| Do women avoid contacting married men?
Posted: 6/18/2008 6:37:02 PM | or in other words...
99% of women have zero interest in being an ego prop or secret lay for some married idiot. Seriously what do you think you have to offer a single woman?
(I'm embarrased that Snakecharmer summed it up so much better.) | |
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