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Posted: 6/15/2008 4:26:05 PM | | OP~ you were right to feel insulted by his comments. It sounds like he was looking for a submissive woman that he could control and abuse and his comments were designed to find out which type of woman you were. I don't even believe he was really trying to be funny. I've been on dates with guys who made racially insulting comments but they were just stupid. The guy you went out with--I don't think he's stupid. He was communicating like that with you for a reason. And yes, he's an arse. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 4:05:19 PM | my friends and i tease each other without mercy but we've known each other for years. that sort of humor is a matter of timing and trust - and he had neither
the poor dunderhead might have intended to be funny rather than tacky but he sure did miss the mark | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 12:22:54 AM | I had to laugh out loud at your retorts about his overalls, not bein' toothless, and inbreeding. I wouldn't have been able to come up with those!
Your comeback would have ESPECIALLY caught him mid-chew because I consider mid-west to be Iowa, Minnesota, or Nebraska, and them thar' other characteristics are indiginous of Appalachia (or Pennsylvania, if I think back on Deliverance)--so your mixed metaphor had to hit him up like a dope slap! Brava! | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 2:59:12 PM | He wasn't/isn't funny. He was/is an insecure bigot. He can only feel good by making others feel bad. I can see why he is alone.
I have encountered guys like this and I leave them to their hands. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 3:06:35 PM | Well, this guy was a grade A jerk, but I have made inappropriate jokes too. I had this client who was interested in me and he was from Kentucky. I thought I knew he pretty well and I made the joke, "so you only have one set of grandparents?" As soon as I said it, I knew it was a bomb. I did send him baked goods and an apology for it. I also reminded him Abraham Lincoln was born in Kentucky.
By the way, Chelsea Handler makes a lot of sly racist jokes. I do not know if she does them to prove a point or not. She obviously thinks they are funny or should would not say them on her show so often. I think she is funny, but those jokes are a bit of a pain. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 3:12:09 PM | What a nerd lol. Yes this guy was being mean, intentionally im not sure. Especially if he dished his 'charm' to his ex. Maybe that's why she is his ex lol...good for you in putting him in his place.  | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 3:20:09 PM | | That wasnt even close to humor.....it was pure sarcasm not just at your expense but a whole culture of people, and someone like that isnt even worth getting offended over.........He deserves not even 5 more seconds of thought in your mind...........The "man" is a tosser.........move on............ | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 3:38:59 PM | A lot of standup comedians have made fortunes with "put-down" and "locker room" humor.
The problem with people who claim to have a sense of humor is that they rarely define what type of thing they find humorous. I disliked Don Rickles because it was nothing but put-downs. That guy who does The Mind of Mancia show claims to be a Mexican, and every show he puts down Mexicans in the worst way. Chris Rock is another. The way he talks about caucasians is disgusting. I won't even go into the ones who do locker room stuff. I don't think hearing F*** every other word is funny.
When people tell me they have a great sense of humor, I ask them to describe the kind of thing they think is funny. It saves a lot of time and hurt feelings. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 3:42:04 PM | | OMG he sounded like a complete TOOL !!!! I'm Canadian, eh, and get teased all the time for the "abooot" and whatnot, but no one assumes because I'm Canadian my relatives are poor - that's just an idiot talking, pay him no more thought! | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 6:46:44 PM | | There was no humour whatsoever in what he said and how he conducted himself. But kudos to you for your comebacks... now THAT had me laughing! Good for you!!! | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 8:10:31 PM | You hung in there way longer than I would have been able to !
This guy was inappropriate time and time again and I'm embarrassed for him and I don't even know him.
As for your co-worker setting you up ... hmmm .... she need to get him off her matchmaker list.
Last but not least ..... Standing ovation for your closing remarks!
I'm proud of you. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 8:23:36 PM |  humor is one thing,insults are another,i will make sure from your experiance to make sure i am laughing before i go onTHE DATE  | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 8:28:05 PM | I talked to my co-worker after the "incident" I don't even want to call it "date".
I told her he was a nightmare and I apreaciated her trying to set me up with someone who seemed to be nice but now that we know what he is about , it wouldn't be a good idea to set him up with anybody else she knows.
I don't blame her because she really didn't know what a jackass this guy is.
She said he told her I wasn't "playful" like all the other latinas he had met and I was way too serious and sensitive. He claims hispanic people love him.
I said if that was truth , where are they??? Nobody of all those latino fans are sticking around to hear his nonsense are they? Not even the one who needed the green card stayed.
Good idea to ask what kind of humor people think is funny from now on, thanks pazoozo.
Thanks Fab-mom!
Thanks all for your comments and suggestions and for commiserating too.
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Posted: 6/26/2008 8:42:38 PM | I think you can make jokes about accents and similar stuff. Close friends of mine pick on how i say certain words but we know and see each on a regular basis so it doesn't bother me, they give me hell and I give right back and everyone has fun.
I think this dude just totally doesn't get the idea of warming up to someone. Obviously this isn't your cup of tea and he totally missed that. Would it have bothered you as much if you had known him for a long time, he included you in the joke instead of making you the joke, and you had some friendly fire to launch back at him?
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Posted: 6/26/2008 8:45:15 PM | Insensitive but illustrated his stupidity more than anything else. I will do a put down occasionally but only with people that I know well enough that they will recognize how difficult it is to pass up a good setup; they also know I don't remotely think badly of them. You made it fairly clear twice without drawing him a map that his behavior was not welcome and common courtesy outside of good taste would dictate that one change tack. If he wanted to see you again he should have recognized the hole he was digging.
Be thankful you wasted less than an hour of your life on the twit. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 8:48:03 PM | | Not that it makes it ok, but some people really don't realize that they ARE being insensitive. Someone who is raised in a racist home probably doesn't even realize that there's anything wrong with it. It doesn't EXCUSE it, but it might explain it at least. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 9:24:51 PM | If steak is so good, why does someone smother it with A-1? If A-1's that yummy, why don't people just drink it from the bottle?
Yeah I know, I don't waste many brain cells pondering that stuff either.
Sense o' humor is kinda like steak (without the A-1) it's a matter of taste.  | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 12:44:05 AM | IMHO this post is waaaay too long.
I think in todays world being sarcastic is supposed to be cool and funny. Very few people are funny I think. I met one girl from the south and she wouldnt' shut up. She said such offensive and off the wall things that were not funny and just constantly laughed. It was amazing that she actually thought she was real funny.
Stop making excuses for this guy. I wouldn't have put up with it. He wasn't funny and it was borderline offensive. Sarcasm may be "in" but it sure is abrasive at times. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 12:54:03 AM | | There are very few long posts in the forums that I can read from beginning to end. This was the exception, due to the OP's writing skills and her retorts to the hole she went on the date with . He wasn't a borderline hole, he was the complete version. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 1:17:31 AM | I agree!
not funny !
you are either fun or not fun ` he was pertending to be funny, an actor that needs to keep the day job.
big difference
He knew nothing about Mexican culture or her peoples and
I somehow feel obliged to apolige for.
Dance | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 2:43:04 AM | | I did not finish reading the OPs post because if I were in a situation similar I would have just said it wasn't going to click, excused myelf, paid the bill and left. If someone is that full of themselves to keep making insults about other people, why even waste a few more hours on them? | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 5:11:49 AM | | humor is a quirky thing for sure. whats acceptable and funny to one person is punishable by death to another person. sometimes we forget that humor looses its funny bone when used without knowing the persons in the firing line well enough to know where to draw the line and shut up. it doesnt always travel well across cultural divides as well. so the question is was he funny, or just not taking into consideration that not knowing you very well would make his jokes flop and came across as mean. the true test would be to go out a few more times and see if any thing changes... | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 1:52:18 PM |
He tells her he would like to be with someone who appreciates his great sense of humor. He seems to have great admiration for his sense of humor. I hope that PhD is not in psychology, because he is obviously delusional.
I think the truest gauge of your sense of humor is how well you take humor that is directed at you, as opposed to how you direct it at others. | |
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