| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/15/2008 7:55:30 PM | When I asked him his secret he said, that he usually dated at least two women at a time, and because he was sleeping with one, he never put pressure on the other woman for sex. By not putting pressure on woman number two, eventually she would make the first move. So I can't help but wonder if you are dating a guy and he doesn't put pressure on you for sex, do you think he's a gentlemen or getting it elsewhere? ... Because of this, I would think a woman might want a guy to show a desire for her, even if she has no intention of sleeping with him anytime soon.
My preference is to date men who are only dating me. ... You have reinforced my opinion about that.
I usually give men the benefit of the doubt. If a man is behaving as a gentleman, I assume he is one. On the other hand, I do not change my values for any man, gentleman or not.
I would not make the first move, nor would I want a man to "show desire for me" in a physical way before our relationship has progressed to a point in which both of us are ready to take such a significant step. For me, that takes long enough that I would know whether I am the only woman in his life. Given enough time and opportunity, men always tip their hand about such things. Women who are observant notice the clues and respond accordingly. | |
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NYinNM
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| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/15/2008 7:59:30 PM | If even one woman found this information helpful then I'll take all the "pfffttt's" anyone want's to throw my way. I will not apologize for trying to inform those who didn't know about such men. And if people don't need that information, good for them.
Good night ladies. 
clasact, I'm glad to see you seem to know all about us men. You should write a book for all the women to read. When I said his "secret" it was just the way I choose to word it, you read more into it than was meant. Like my ex wife, when I asked a friend to burn me a CD. One of the song's I wanted burned was called "why you treat me so bad". For the rest of the day she was upset until we talked and she said she thought my song choice was about us. It was not, just a song I liked. Don't try to read between the lines with me, you will just misinterpret what I meant. | |
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| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/15/2008 8:03:18 PM | I think OP really, truly thinks he was doing us a favor. ~snickers~
Like we hadn't heard that one before, 'eh? ~wink~ most commonly referred to in Girl Manual (I forget the code citing) as "One on the side and one on the "slide", aka "backup plan B". ~still trying to keep a straight face~
I KNEW I heard chocolate mentioned whilst I was over on the other thread!
*digs in, shoots whipped cream, chases with Doritos" | |
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| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/15/2008 8:32:26 PM | | After reading OP's initial post and then his attempt to remove himself from it by blaming it all on his friend, I have finished a pint of ice cream....now on to the the fresh strawberries mixed with homemade whipped cream.......Ahhhhhh the choices of sweet things we have to enjoy instead of helping you justifiy whether a woman prefers to be used for sex over cheated on........ a guy who can't figure this out by himself (that we don't want either) will never even be considered a choice over these delicious goodies. | |
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| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/15/2008 8:57:28 PM | OP, and gals...
Ok, first, if there's any chocolate left...send it my way. Keep the ice cream, I'm on a diet....just send the whipped cream instead.
If a guy doesn't try he's called a friend. The longer he behaves, the more frustrated I become, the more I wonder if his viagra prescription ran out. Maybe he's suffering from depression and he's ummm..."it's deflated and can't get back up". Or a closet gay.
Eventually, the REAL reason shows up. In which case I am ever so grateful I restrained myself and didn't tackle him down, tie him up and pulled out the whips and whipped cream.
That would have been embarrassing!
LOL...
But, I hate to say this, it has happened to me (being well behaved). Ironically, my understanding is that she stole his wallet along with his pride.
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wolftx
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Joined: 5/29/2008
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| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/15/2008 10:13:32 PM |
And NO I don't think he's cool, if I did I wouldn't have told his secrets, I would just use them myself.
I think your pal gave you that story to shut you up because he's tired of hearing your stories of being desperate to get laid. Very likely that half of his stories about women he meets are fabricated, because the OP is a very gullible and willing to let his friend play BMOC by telling fanciful tales.
This topic is built on 100% bluster. Ladies, ignore the so-called "truth" it purports to tell. | |
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| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/15/2008 10:38:50 PM | | I would believe what your friend says to be the truth OP. After my last experience especially. If the opportunity is there they will take it. If they can get away with it they will. It has been my experience...several times. From men I talk to, and from men I have been with...or who have wanted to be with me. | |
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| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:17:07 AM | NYinNm, you really made laugh 
It absolutely true, the truth need to be told. I’ve done it and my friends are doing it too. It’s easier that way; you wouldn’t want to put pressure on the girl especially in the get to know her phase.
Most guys would do it too if they get a choice – it’s a genetic thing.
Women too, someone women would date two guys at the same time and eventually go for the one who they would think is suitable for them. Probably sex wouldn’t be first in their list, however it’s paramount nonetheless. | |
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| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/16/2008 7:51:15 AM | | omg you evil wicked woman classy lol but a very interesting thread on both parties. You gals have your icecream wif whipped cream and all the toppings........myself I'm gonna go to my thinking chair and sleep on it, watch nasscar,boxing,football,womens beach vollyball,the playboy channel, or what ever else that women hate!! | |
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| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/16/2008 7:58:54 AM | Let's face it, while initially dating a lot of people are already getting it elsewhere, I doubt most people are purposely going without sex. I never thought otherwise...I always assume a guy I like and want to get to know has had a life before he met me.
As long as they are being safe and responsible about it and don't overlap it into a relationship once it becomes serious - and you do the same, what's the issue?
I don't assume anything if he's not trying to get into my pants but that he's allowing me to go there in my own time out of respect. He might as well, since that's how it happens anyway. | |
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| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/16/2008 9:22:52 AM |
Thanks, y'all. I learned one thing from this thread. Put a pint of ice cream on the bed, and they will surely come...
Wolf.....If you want them to come/cum, its going to take more than one pint! Now if you just want one to come/cum, a pint should be sufficient.
OMG....I missed the ice cream party!....Crap-any chips left anywhere?
OP......I for one thank you for your effort....Something else to think about. Though it has crossed my mind before I'm sure it will do so more now.
I agree with DJChickie too in so far that I'd assume they were probably getting sex at some point before me. Before I'm intimate with someone, I've taken the time to get a pretty good idea of what he's about. The thing is, once I'm intimate with someone, I don't like them being intimate with others-I don't share well.
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wolftx
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Joined: 5/29/2008
Msg: 41 | |
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| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:57:36 PM | Hand me the chocolate syrup gals; forget the ice cream, I'm going straight for the good stuff.
I believe your "friend" is what we euphemistically call a "player" .
He uses women for sex....and has no conscience about it. I would hope that at 63 years old I would be able to spot his scam fairly quickly.
LOL....I'm wondering why you wondered. | |
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| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/16/2008 1:16:12 PM | ^^^OP was a troll....lol
Probably in here to test the waters to see just how many of us knew this EVEN exsisted so he could be comfortable playing his game. Then he could take notes as to what the majority of us thought. LOL.
I truly loved the "ex wife" comment...........hmmm, perhaps a slip of the typing fingers for OP......wifey know something we didn't about OP? Methinks soooo.
*And there's some Dorito crumbs, no chocolate and some whipped cream left when I went to bed last night.......uh, unless Libra took it back home with her.......waaayyyy too much chocolate for me last night.....hands rebel and belle what's left.* | |
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| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/16/2008 3:01:10 PM | | This topic is so relevant at the mo to me i'm 27 been dating a woman who i thought was great and still do to an extent loads in common etc proper stuff same wavelength too, i've been the perfect gent held hands been respectful cuddled and kissed but no more, however i've since found out shes been dating elsewhere instead, and almost moaned at me for being respectful and not forced myself at her and been patient and done things proper a rarity obviously here in uk? | |
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NYinNM
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Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 47 | |
| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/16/2008 4:38:15 PM | Msg 37, admits to doing this type of thing yet some think what I said wasn't true.
Msg 35, also thinks there is truth in what I said based on her own experiences.
Msg 29, says she knows that some men do this and that women already know. So why do some women still fall for these guy's, could it be that not "all" women know this?
Me thinks soo.
So what why all the hater's? It only takes one person doing something to make it a reality. Even if it's a rarity. I didn't make it up, I just put it in a forum. At the time I really thought it might be helpful to some to know this. I really didn't expect all the insults for saying something I know to be true. I don't think most men do it, I think most men are true gentlemen. But it only takes one guy like that to screw up a ladies day. A few women emailed me to say thanks and a few said that it "has" happened to them. Maybe just maybe it will help a few others, that all I was trying to do was help. No lies, games or ulteria motives. To bad some don't see that.
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| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/16/2008 8:45:14 PM | | There's nothing wrong with dating multiple women, unless your in a commited realtionship with one of them, then that would be cheating. I date multiple women and not commited to any of them. The reason being is this what if you keep your attention on one woman at a time and then you become attached to her and she isnt attached to you, well then your in trouble bc all your going to want is to be with her and no one else. But if you date multiple women then if one says well we should be friends or something then there you go who cares replace her with a new one, and when you find the one you like and she likes you back well then start a relationship with her. | |
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| Ladies if a guy doesn't try to get into your pants
Posted: 6/16/2008 11:56:13 PM | OK, I thought the new school of thought was women should date more than one man at a time (not sleep with more than one)...I would expect him to show desire or an interest even if he isn't gonna get it(like an atraction), otherwise I would think he is gay.
I wouldn't have a problem with him dating someone else if we hadn't progressed to the point of being exclusive and as long as he is forthcoming about the other women (or I at least know where I stand with him).
I think the problem comes in when he becomes intimate with all the women involved and they don't know where they stand. Hence, why women and men are often on different pages...All you had to do was let me know about the OTHER woman....!LOL! Maybe we could have had a threesome (that's another thread)... Naw, it wasn't gonna happen or workout anyway. | |
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