| Ughhh....I really want to know why
Posted: 6/16/2008 10:07:49 AM | | If you have a partner that is disinterested in satisfying you in the bedroom - there are more than likely other areas of the relationship where they are lacking as well! There is usually an overall disrepect about your needs! Why allow someone to make you unhappy - leaving you feeling empty? Often times it is hard to move on from someone that you love in other aspects - but over time those good things will fade - when you are not getting what you really desire. Moving on is usually for the best! | |
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| Ughhh....I really want to know why
Posted: 6/16/2008 10:12:02 AM | Does this guy make an attempt to satisfy you and fail or just not give a fcuk? How much foreplay are you getting? I've been with girls who are very hard to make cum and being lazy I'd give up after 15 minutes or so of foreplay and stick it in lol
The girls that are hard to get off, I usually guide their hand down to their clitand let them do D.I.Y and make love slowly until she's satisfied.
It's quite intresting how different girls vary in what pleases them, some girls you cant touch their clit due to sensitivity whilst others you could smash it with a hammer and they probably wont feel it! | |
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| Ughhh....I really want to know why
Posted: 6/16/2008 11:05:58 AM | | ^^^^This is actually an interesting example because while some people might perceive that as your expecting her to do herself, you ARE concerned with her satisfaction while this man is obviously not with the OP. | |
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| Ughhh....I really want to know why
Posted: 6/16/2008 11:35:42 AM | "I've been with girls who are very hard to make cum and being lazy I'd give up after 15 minutes or so of foreplay and stick it in lol"
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That sort of attitude I quoted above....the laughing and being lazy and thinking that giving up on making her feel good is no biggie to the girl so he'll just "stick it in"....I find that disturbing.
I'll never be able to wrap my head around attitudes such as this. | |
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| Ughhh....I really want to know why
Posted: 6/16/2008 11:59:53 AM | | ok...I was seeing a man like that, I hung in there for many many frustrating months till I just couldn't take it anymore so I went off with an old lover, he was so hurt by that, didn't want to even be my friend anymore (I didn't blame him) & after 5 months, I missed his company so much I contacted him. It took some apologizing, but we see each other a couple times a month now & he's willing to 'experiment' just a little bit more & that little bit more is all I needed. I don't know where things will take us, but I'll be happy if he stays my friend forever. You just never know what will happen. | |
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| Ughhh....I really want to know why
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:20:48 PM | | OP, is this the only problem you have with this guy, or is it just a more disturbing aspect of his overall attitude? If this is a singular issue, could you add me to your favs or change your distance restriction as I have a suggestion if you are contemplating keeping this one. | |
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| Ughhh....I really want to know why
Posted: 6/16/2008 1:19:53 PM |
And of course, people like him won't just help us all out and not waste our time by being so self-aware and considerate as to say to us from the get-go "Hey, I don't plan on giving to you very much while we see each other...especially sexually....and I plan to insinuate that you're to blame. Is that cool?"
Oh that'd be cool... we all need a warning label printed on us somewhere.... I've been given verbal warnings before but never actually SEEN a label...
.... I know what my next tattoo wil be....
My last gf's husband was like that, including blaming it on her. And she had no difficulty reaching orgasm.... a lot...
Malignant narcisist... or something like that... Can't accept anything even resembling blame for anything... everything is in some way somebody elses fault... it's aaaaallll about them... he even blamed his alcoholism and being passed over for promotion on her.
But she turned out to be a passive/aggressive manipulating, guilt trip throwing little she-devil.... so he might have a point on the alcoholism....
I'd be sayin' don't let the door hit your ass on the way out bud!!
You tell her Hon! And smack him on the back of the head with a shoe too! | |
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| Ughhh....I really want to know why
Posted: 6/16/2008 1:36:36 PM |
That sort of attitude I quoted above....the laughing and being lazy and thinking that giving up on making her feel good is no biggie to the girl so he'll just "stick it in"....I find that disturbing.
I'll never be able to wrap my head around attitudes such as this
What attitude? The fact that I try to please her???
Maybe you believe its up to the man to do everything but it does take 2 to tango. As I said, I TRY to please her the best I can, and always try to give her an orgasm, but at the end of the day if she can achieve in 5 minutes what will take me an hour (and lots of frustration) then why not?
Its not just my responsibility... Maybe you expect the guy to do everything, but I prefer a joint effort. | |
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| Ughhh....I really want to know why
Posted: 6/22/2008 6:38:31 AM | | Its possible that he really doesnt know what he's doing and doesnt want to admit it Tigger...its so much BS that he has had partners before that didnt need 'help'...its not help, its caring, affection and downright fun! I have always recieved my satisfaction from making sure my partner recieves hers, its an ego boost for a start and it is just something you do when you truly care about someone...so he may very well be either inexperienced or been indoctrinated that women dont 'need' sexual satisfaction - I knew a guy once whose Dad had told him that all this crap about women orgasming was a myth ! I dunno.... | |
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