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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/7/2005 9:42:10 AM | RE: You need to play harder to get.
Hmmmm, thanx... You make it sound like I'm easy or something!
I can see that. Sorry about that, that wasn't my intention. If you were 'easy' then you wouldn't be here wondering why you can't be more than friends with the guys you meet.
Let me see if I can rephrase that. You need to be less accessible. Guy find it too easy to be friends with you and ultimately they fall into the friends only trap on their own. They might be thinking, "Gee, she is so friendly, I don't see how anything more might develop." And you're left wondering what you did wrong. Mind you, this is all theory only. So, don't be a****but do limit the time you spend with a guy. Then maybe he will want to spend more time with you and will want to try to make you his girlfriend so he can have you around more and enjoy your genuine, friendly personality. | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/7/2005 10:00:36 AM | Alot of guys probably are intimidated by you. So if you see one you really like, help him out a give him a hint.
Women want equal rights: it is equally your right to tell a guy "I like/love/want (whatvere it is) you.
You might need to separate yourself from that role. I know I make it clear when I'm interested and not interested in being a shoulder to cry on. | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/7/2005 10:02:30 AM | Punk......it might be a thing with Aussie guys. I chat a few Aussie girls as friends. They seem to have the same problem that you have.
I have the same problem you have. Girls like me as friend or big brother. It's been like that most of my life. I just keep fishing until I find one that wants more than friendship with me. It is frustrating but we must have some special quality that the other sex can trust us with their secrets. I think it means we are SPECIAL. lol
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/7/2005 11:04:16 AM | Chances are if you are not seeking a boyfriend they sense it. But they probably like your company so they open up to you.
I'm always surprised with a beautiful woman like you is single also. Something we are use to seeing I guess.
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/7/2005 11:35:11 AM | I've been in the same situation a few times. Lately, I took the liberty to
find the reason why. I found the following difference between me and
the other woman:
I am hot, she is cold,
I am kind and loving,
she is selfish and indifferent,
I am giving,
she is taking and receiving,
I have only a bike,
she has a nice, expensive car,
I rent my house,
she has bought hers,
I run to him when I see him,
she turns her back to him.
Can I ever be like the OTHER WOMAN in order to catch guys?
NEVER. I'll be always me, even if I'll always be the "best friend", perfer
that than being a " b i t c h " !!!!
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/7/2005 2:01:09 PM | | You put that so nicely Mindreader! Yeah, I'd rather be the best friend than the b!tch... but it would be nice to be the best friend who's also the girlfriend once in a while! Or at least for a guy to show some interest rather than getting straight into talking to me 'bout other girls! Hahaha, I sound so whiney! I'm not complaining, just confused! | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/7/2005 4:54:56 PM | Have you tried to expand your horizons? Move outside your usual band of friends. You have been the best friend for so long that is how they see you. Show yourself to some new guys. Give them a little flirt BEFORE they can turn you into their best friend. Good luck.
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/7/2005 5:01:57 PM | ^If you do that, be ready to see some of the most unhappy or jealous sulks on your "friends" faces my dear.
I bet they love you dearly...like..very..very..dearly ya know.
(and try to make sure the new bloke you introduce doesn't get beat up too k?) You will, likely, see just HOW much your "ffriends" really care.
*shrugs* Could turn out great for all involved OR one of your friends will decide that he is NOT going to lose your attentions to some other..."yuck and grrr"...a guy.
It happened in my group of friends at that age.
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/7/2005 5:08:31 PM | RE: [Have you tried to expand your horizons? Move outside your usual band of friends. You have been the best friend for so long that is how they see you. Show yourself to some new guys]
That's sorta the problem and why I'm here asking for advice and opinions! It's not my usual band of friends I'm talking about, it's every new guy I meet and even every guy I chat to on the internet! I haven't been their best friend for too long... I just meet them and I am all flirty and happy, but give it about an hour and I'm guaranteed to be the best buddy and they're talking about other girls! Puzzling... | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/8/2005 1:27:08 PM | Have you run an EEG on the guys you meet? They might be brain dead?? Or have them submit a blood test for testosterone level. lol
If you liked older guys I would be glad to chat you and not about another girl. Good luck.
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/8/2005 3:32:39 PM | @ Robert, thanks for the offer! I just may take you up on it! As for the guys I meet, I think I WILL start making them have brain scans and blood tests before I invest my time in any of them!
Thanks everyone for your advice. You rock! | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/10/2005 3:43:26 AM | Your probably not sexually aggressive enough... or your a western feminazi(Butchy conservative personality), men with balls don't like that stuff either!
Are you fat? That could be it. Have you ever had sex? maybe your a prude... | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/10/2005 5:33:10 AM | | @ BrazilLuver You made me laugh!!! You have me so wrong that it's just hilarious! I'm definitely not a western feminazi, not butchy at all! I'm not at all fat (did you look at my other pic?) but I resent you belittling bigger women like that, saying they may not be the girlfriend cuz they're fat as if there's something wrong with that! And as far as my sexual appetite and aggression goes... if you knew me, you so would not call me a prude! Oh well, thanks for your suggestions anyway! | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/10/2005 4:15:25 PM | @punkdchick
Hey it's nice to see I'm not the only one getting stuck with the friend card. I know how fraustrating it gets after awhile. Especially since it's girl after girl, you get to the point where you don't want to get to close anymore just incase you get stuck with the friend card again.
All I can say is that you look amazing and wish I lived in Australia. I sure as hell wouldn't stick you with the friend card | |
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