| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 6/18/2008 7:04:19 AM | There could be a number of reasons why he isn't, the two you listed are two possibilities but to think those are the only two is kind of naive. Sometimes it's the first reason for me, sometimes it's just that I'm pretty happy with how the rest of the relationship is going that sex really isn't a factor in the beginning so I don't think about it really. Others have reasons like they want to wait till marriage and/or serious commitment. Some guys have security and trust issues so they're too timid to bring those kind of things up, let alone pressure the girl.
If you want my honest answer from my own experiences it's a combination of me wanting to wait until there is some kind of commitment in place and the fact I'd like to consider myself a gentlemen about it and find trying to pressure a girl into sex to be kinda rude. | |
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 6/18/2008 9:40:53 AM | Stupid point here... why as a society have we got to the point where by x amount of dates we need to have sex? Why can't it just happen in a passionate moment when both people feel the urge that they like this other person so much that they want to let them have something they they deny to 99.9999% of the world population?
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 6/18/2008 4:17:57 PM | | I don't ever put pressure for sex. If she wants it and is giving signals, and I want it too, then it will just happen. If she is the kind of girl that is waiting for me to put pressure in order to make it happen (which is actually a lot of you girls!), then it probably doesn't happen and maybe she is wondering the same thing you are wondering right now. ha ha... | |
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 6/18/2008 8:30:52 PM |
let them have something they they deny to 99.9999% of the world population?
What a slut!!! The world population is over 6 billion. Assume half of them are women, that is 3 billion. Let's say 1/4 is within your wider age range. That is 750 million. Only denying it to 99.9999% of that population is screwing 0.0001% of that number. I don't want someone who had 750 partners... | |
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 6/20/2008 4:20:45 PM | | It's because I don't know for sure if she's going to be secretly flattered by it or think I'm a pervert and give me a slap. Also, I'm a bit slow with women. I usually get the hint when she's kneeling naked on the bed screaming "come and get it big boy!", waving a condom in the air like a flag. | |
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 6/20/2008 7:09:29 PM |
Ya know, there "is" the odd guy that doesnt have sex at the top of his list - absurd I know, but it happens.
I agree with you, Ruby. It was a general question inspired by a thread in Ask A Girl, not my personal opinion. | |
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 6/23/2008 10:59:26 AM | Thereason.. :
If I walked on water, you would say it's because I can't swim.
If I could walk on water and someone said it was becuase I couldn't swim, I would say I've never had to.
Think about that one ....
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 6/23/2008 11:34:45 AM | I can't speak for other men but I dont jump in bed with any woman. I dont want a woman that has had a lot of hands on her and I also want to make sure its going somewhere.
Many men I'm sure want that. Again, its per person. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 12:40:36 PM | Some people have different values and morals. I for one never force myself onto a woman. I wait until its her idea to start a sexual relationship, unless she's the shy type and she's been hinting towards it or something of that nature.
Just because he's not trying to get some, doesn't mean he's got some on the side.
I probably shouldn't even admit this, but when i was younger i dated 3 women for about 2 months. I was still a gentleman to each one. At first i thought it was great, but i quickly learned that anything more than 1 is to much. None were my girlfriend though, was just dating and stuff. | |
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 6/23/2008 3:22:12 PM |
When you're dating a woman and not putting pressure on her for sex, is it because you're being a gentleman or because you're getting it somewhere else?
I see no reason to pressure a woman in to doing anything, sex included,, at my age I would think a woman is mature enough to know what she wants, sex included,, and with who she wants sex from.. Therefore it's a mutual discussion ,, because that discussion would come up knowing me and who I am.. If It were her who initiated sex,, still a discussion would have to happen,, it may be a shot one,, but everyone needs to be on the same page,, and take responsibility,, if one person feels a little stronger about the other,, no assumptions will ever be made by me. By communication each others intents,, I know dam well you won't be reading about me in the forum,, he used me for sex,, ... I don't think it has anything to do with being a gentlemen,, just communication..
As for getting sex else where,, that could happen,, because you never mentioned,, a exclusive relationship.. therefore sex else where is always an option.. as a note, dating to me does not mean commitment,, exclusive,, means commitment to me,, with a very good possibility of long term... | |
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 6/23/2008 5:11:54 PM | OP: I don't jump a girls bones because I find it more rewarding not to.
Drives her nuts, "why isn't he", "is it me?", "do I have BO?".
Building sexual tension and teasing can be fun, and ensures that when it comes to sex, that I'm not just handing it over for her to control.
Besides, when you pressure, it just goes to show you're like "every other guy" out-there.
You know, a guy just can't win. If you try to have sex and be all frisky, then you are a perv. If you don't try to have sex, and don't try to be all frisky you must be getting it somewhere else. I swear to God, I will NEVER figure out women, even if I live to be 100.
Hehe, I understand what you're thinking. bro. | |
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 6/24/2008 7:44:17 PM | I beleive in getting to know someone properly before taking things further. Some women think it is because I am seeing someone else and some seem fine with it | |
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 6/26/2008 4:33:07 PM | | If a gentleman means that not having sex with a woman I am dating until there is something of a relationship going, I am a gentleman. | |
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 7/16/2008 10:54:09 AM | ''You know, a guy just can't win. If you try to have sex and be all frisky, then you are a perv. If you don't try to have sex, and don't try to be all frisky you must be getting it somewhere else. I swear to God, I will NEVER figure out women, even if I live to be 100.'''
This is soooo true! I'm a gentleman and would never even think about pushing a woman into sex.
Don't try to have sex: the women thinks your gay!
Try to have sex: your a Sexual deviant!
If i can work out you ladies then i'll be a very rich man indeed!
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 7/16/2008 10:56:18 AM | There are so many answers to this question. It depends on the guy, it depends on the woman, it depends on the chemistry, it depends on their previous relationships.
For instance, I don't put pressure on the woman to have sex, yet in most relationships that I've been, we had sex by the third date. | |
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 7/16/2008 10:58:59 AM | | every so often i meet a girl that gets me to feel a certain way. That feeling causes me to not care if i get laid or not period. I just genuinely enjoy her company, and that in itself is more than satisfying. | |
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 7/16/2008 11:47:29 AM | When you're dating a woman and not putting pressure on her for sex, is it because you're being a gentleman or because you're getting it somewhere else?
The former, but if you're taking a poll I'm guessing the latter will win. No I haven't read the whole thread.
I guess it's strange but I've had women put more pressure on me for sex when dating than vice versa. It's actually quite irritating.  | |
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Posted: 7/16/2008 1:25:50 PM | | It's part of walking the line. Some people walk it better than others, and some stray in the safe zone more than others. I might not pressure because I sure as hell don't wanna **** this up and feel that putting my hand down her pants on the 5th date just might screw me over figuratively instead of literally. Not all guys are masters are this, so we err on the side of being super cautious. | |
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 7/16/2008 2:55:21 PM | Assuming you are talking about the 1st , 2nd or taking along shot 3rd date, only reason I would "hesitate" would be because I found the woman of my dreams (externally and internally) and did not want to chance throwing it all away directly out of the gate.
That is not saying i didn't want to jump in the ole sack a roonie though. | |
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 7/16/2008 3:14:29 PM | I wouldn't consider NOT pressuing a woman for sex ("Please, Please, Please, Please...") is something that qualifies being a standard gentleman. I would say that's just part of the fundamental basics of not looking pathetic.
If you're wondering why a guy is too shy when it comes to 'rounding the bases', it could be a multitude of things, which you'll have to judge by other means. He could have a girlfriend/ex-girlfriend that he's juggling, and he wants to chill, so he sees taking it up with a woman who takes things slow is a good bet. However, there is such a thing as a SHY GUY, if he reads that you're the kind of woman who isn't ready for it and say "HELLLL NO!". Some guys, not even born-shy ones will want you to open up before briskly rounding bases. | |
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| When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants
Posted: 7/16/2008 6:28:08 PM | You're over 40. You're in an age group where, generally speaking, women want sex more than the men. The gap will widen until you get to about age 60.
One of my old friends is a physician who does a lot of counseling. He told me that men not making the move is pretty much the number one complaint women over 40 who are dating.
Viagra and Cialis artificially enhance the ability to have sex, but as we get older our desires go down and we are better able to control them.
It is what women always wanted us to do, and we are finally able to do it: appreciate them for their personalities and minds, not their bodies. | |
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