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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:01:04 PM | Because most men are just stooges who don't have a clue how much
they are being used!
And I always notice that people that throw around terms like petty
or cheap, are never the ones who have to pay!
I have NO problem paying for a date and don't begrudge this
at all, especially if I know the woman doesn't have much money!
But, I resent any woman not being appreciative of this or not
having respect for my money!
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:06:34 PM | i agree with you completely OP. if she's so old fashioned, ask her if she'd like to give up her job & personal income, become a dutiful 50's style housewife, depend on an "allowance" doled out by her husband, and also give up the vote while she's at it. women who think that a man is obligated to pay for them for no other reason than based on gender are totally backwards and bent. we live in an equal society. women earn a paycheque, and thus are entirely capable of paying their own tab, and *gasp* maybe they could even treat their guy now and again (what a radical concept!).
to all the princesses out there: this equality thing is a b*tch isn't it?
*shakes head* i really don't understand the logic of some members of my own gender. | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:06:41 PM | I think her attitude is really wrong to be honest.
And yes I am and always have been a round buyer.
I'm also happy to pay for a meal or split the cost, I don't ever expect a guy to pay for the lot. | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:13:13 PM | I think they are both wrong. She feels entitled and he is combative. End the freakin' date already.
I wouldnt date a man who has the victim mentality. If you're so used and abused then it's just not going to work.
Because most men are just stooges who don't have a clue how much
they are being used!
I think you could make your point without making disparaging remarks about other men.
What is your point anyway? That you are so much better than most men? | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:16:10 PM |
I think they are both wrong. She feels entitled and he is combative. End the freakin' date already
Exactly! 
A third round of drinks was offered. If her unwillingness to even to pitch in bothered the OP so much, he should've bought that round and ended the date, not engaged in an argument about it.
Krys | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:17:32 PM | | I can't believe there are so many women left who believe the man should do all the paying! We're all adults, what is the issue? If you expect to be regarded as an equal, act like it. | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:20:23 PM | You can argue about something without it degenerating into a 'fight'. Life would be boring if everyone agreed with everyone else. It sounded like the lady the OP was talking about was receptive to another date, as long as she wasn't going to pay for any of it. I don't think this guy has a 'victim mentality' at all, sounds like you have classic fundamental attribution error though...  | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:23:30 PM |
I don't think this guy has a 'victim mentality' at all, sounds like you have classic fundamental attribution error though...
Oh? Which 'guy' are we talking about here? Who have I attributed behaviors to?
The 'guy' I wouldnt date is hypothetical. Spare me your freshman psych. | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:26:22 PM | The "first" date...well, I don't even call them that. They're simply "meets" to me. 1 beer, 1 cup of coffee should be enough time to see if you're compatible or have some connection! The second date is a whole nother thread ;)
I have offered to pay many times, most say no, some say let's split it. I have no problem with that. People are weird about money and it seems that everyone has they're own "rules" for the first date.
Why set up a big dinner with someone you are meeting for the first time anyhoo?
What if you aren't intersted and you know this in the first 5 minutes? | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:26:24 PM | Am I better then most men. No! Just more aware it would seem!
When this subject comes up, you'd almost think some women
were in a union and were being threatened with having one
of their benefits being taken away! Not something that they
deserve or work for, just something that they always got
and many will fight tooth and nail to keep these benefits!
Few subjects get people so riled up as this one!
Thread will surly get deleted anyway! | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:26:28 PM | I buy drinks often ...I like to see how stoopid they get...how honest they get...if I can drink them under the table...stuff like that.
But then I was a bartender so long I rarely buy my own drinks. I would buy you a drink  maybe even dinner. It is just money. | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:27:21 PM | I don't think a woman "should" , but it sounds like if a woman doesn't ever offer when she's with you then she's not your type .
Have one on me in the meantime :  | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:27:45 PM | The "first" date...well, I don't even call them that. They're simply "meets" to me. 1 beer, 1 cup of coffee should be enough time to see if you're compatible or have some connection! The second date is a whole nother thread ;)
I have offered to pay many times, most say no, some say let's split it. I have no problem with that. People are weird about money and it seems that everyone has their own "rules" for the first date.
Why set up a big dinner with someone you are meeting for the first time anyhoo?
What if you aren't intersted and you know this in the first 5 minutes? | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:28:16 PM | | I agree with your comments.I have been on a few dates and only once did the woman offer to get a drink in.I think that a lot of women think it is still a mans "role" to get the drinks in,when really in this day and age of equality its not.Hey we all have bills to pay.. | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:30:59 PM | dont know how you know that??
Tell you what you get the drinks in everytime you go on a date and see if you feel the same.. | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:33:53 PM | You are SO missing the point.
It's not about 'equality' its about 'sexual attraction'.
You go right ahead and date for equality, I'll keep dating men I find attractive.
I have a friend that I go out with on a semi-regular basis. He never has a dime to spend on going out but I enjoy his company and don't mind treating him.
He will never be more than a friend because he doesnt have the qualities I find sexually attractive. He just isn't independent enough for me. | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:35:05 PM | "Her argument being that she was old fashioned & that's the way she had been brought up."
Well if she's old fashioned like that invite her for dinner at your house buy the groceries and tell her to cook you 2 a nice meal and when she's done she can do the dishes... | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:35:29 PM | Geez I thought it was all about getting her drunk and taking advantage of her while her inhibitions were down? What ?
If she was truly old fashioned why would she have three drinks on the first meet anyway? Red flag red flag. | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:37:23 PM | "Geez I thought it was all about getting her drunk and taking advantage of her while her inhibitions were down? "
Your right quit ****ing about getting her drunk it's for your benifit......
At least your on the ball indigo | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:39:09 PM |
If she was truly old fashioned why would she have three drinks on the first meet anyway? Red flag red flag.
I have to agree with that statement, though. First dates/meets aren't about getting snockered.
Krys | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:46:50 PM | I enjoy my equal rights with men, and it annoys me when some female stuck in the 1950`s tries to spoil it for us more liberated ladies. Of course I want to pay my own way and I will go the bar like for like on a date, just like I do when out with mates. On dating sites its not like you get "asked out"....you arrange to meet up like adults do. So I dont get all this, well you asked me out so its up to you to pay nonsense?? I would think nothing of asking a man if he wanted to meet up, I hope that wouldnt mean I had to buy all the drinks all night???
I understand some men are old fashioned and would like to get the bill all night (not happened yet folks!) but that makes me wonder how old fashioned he was in other areas of his life too and would he be expecting me to pick his socks up after him and lay his clothes out in the morning!! (and I dont mean after the first date hahah) | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:50:46 PM | Maybe its a regional thing. I can't even imagine some of the men I've dated giving this issue a second thought. It is assumed that we are both independent individuals.
Then again, I tend to be attracted to men with some dignity. Whining about the bar tab would never happen. | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 3:00:04 PM | Wow! I can really feel the love here! Lol!
I am very old fashioned when it comes to dating! Even on this site if I am interested in a man I just put him on my favorites and wait for him to contact me first. I also have a hard time letting anyone pay my way for anything but I have been told a thousand times (by many people men & women alike) that the man should be paying for dates - especially the first one! Yet, still, I sit there when the check comes feeling very uneasy, sometimes I offer to pay or to help pay. So I am just the opposite - but still it is possible to be indpendent in your career but old fashioned in the waysd of love - why would you people think that the 2 are related!? That is just absurd! I can carry my own weight anywhere but that doesnt mean I dont wanted to be treated like a lady!
I guess that I have been fortunate though that all of my dates so far have not been like most of you men on this thread. They have been absolute gentlemen and wont even hear of me paying. If we end up doing something else I will usually find a way to slip some money in even if it is just the tip but I do try. Men...based on what others tell me and what I think most women expect, I think that ou should expect to pay for about the first 3 dates until you can get to a point where you can talk about it with ease and without arguments, but ALWAYS expect to pay for the first date (THE WHOLE NIGHT OF THE DATE!) unless you have pre-discussed it and come with some other arrangement.
What I think you guys are missing is that IT ISN'T ABOUT THE MONEY!!! Get a Clue! Maybe if you concentrated a little more on romancing her than arguing over a round of drinks you might find a girl worthwhile...IN FACT I AM WILLING TO BET THAT IF YOU WERE HEAD OVER HEELS FOR THAT WOMAN THIS WOULD NEVER EVEN BEEN AN ISSUE!!!
GL 2 All!!!
**Disclaimer....There are exceptions - I know there are some no good gold diggers out there - but this is not all women!!!**** | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/16/2008 3:00:44 PM | After being stiffed by a woman and her girl friends for $150 in drinks dinner that will be my last time.
I've had women in classy clubs say "buy me a drink"which draws big red flags, and then over hear them talking to their girlfriends bragging about how much they have taken guys for that night.
Most women who are nurses,teachers government worker and yes UPS drivers can buy their own rounds and drinks.
This old fashion talk is crap ,either they are stuck in the middle ages or just plain users .
If I want to be nice and keep her attention for an hr or so I may spring for a drink but never rounds. | |
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