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Posted: 6/17/2008 12:07:50 AM | No chastity belt, just a garter belt and a corset. 
I have no use for a man who will let me lead him around by the nose. | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:14:12 AM | Sorry, but maybe this is an Aussie thing or perhaps just me, but if I go out on a date or with mates & despite who suggested going out, I pay for 'rounds', so if someone buys 1st 'round' I pay 2nd, they pay 3rd & so on. I normally will pay for 1st 'round' then the guy I'm on a date with understands that I'm not expecting him to pay for the whole night. If a guy then pays for the rest of the night, it's his choice, but I will always offer & be prepared to pay.
To expect someone to pay is just RUDE! We are all trying to meet an EQUAL, how can you expect that but then want someone to pay your way? If you cant afford to go on dates......................................DONT! Women that behave that way give us all a bad rep.
Having said that if you are asked out on a date & say that you cant afford it this week, month, year, lifetime & they offer to pay, fine, but for christs sake you cant EXPECT it!
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:20:17 AM | | No nor me actually Iconoclast but its nice to have balance. Ive been both mum and dad to my kids for years, in charge all the time, so its nice to have a man take charge in my private life every now and then, I like men who are confident in themselves, especially a quiet confidence... confident enough for us to be equals and let the tide turn when the time is right, and that extends to taking turns to get the bill. | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:24:11 AM | P.S The whole 'dating' thing is about going out, having a laugh & hopefully good conversation & perhaps meeting someone you can be friends with or a potential relationship. FAR OUT isn't life hard enough without making people feel like they 'owe' you before they even know you?
I just went out with 3 guys I'm studying with for beers, we all paid our own way & bought 'rounds' why would it be different if one of them had a romantic interest in me?!
I have wasted lots of money going out on dates with guys & finding out I'm not interested in them, SO WHAT? my choice, didnt work out.......next! If you dont want to pay your way when out, stay home & chat via the internet......or should they guy pay for that too? | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:27:18 AM | If I have to explain it to you, you will never understand anyway.
You obviously didn't read my previous posts. I have no interest in repeating myself.
You went out with three men and none of them are interested in you? Hm. I can't really relate to that. | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:39:28 AM | Hi folks,
I am surprised that this issue hasn't come up. I can certainly afford to buy my own drinks, and have taken my dates out on very nice (read expensive) dinners.... however, on a first date, if his picking up the tab for the evening is an issue, I wouldn't see him again. AND, here's my point. If I was NOT interested in getting together again, I would want to pay my share, so I can walk away and feel good about it. If the guy is someone that I want to continue seeing, them I am happy to have him pick up the tab, as it will all balance out in the end - whether I am cooking dinner, inviting him out, or perhaps giving him a massage....
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:40:51 AM | GOD YES! what is this 1950? would she wait at home a be a 'good little woman' ready with your pipe and slippers when you returned home from work?
women today want everything! and yet most don't know what they want.
they want to be independant yet taken care of, they want a real man but someone who is 'caring and sensitive', they demand we look good then critise us for buying 'products' and complain were vain!
don't get me wrong, i'm only young (26)but have an 'old school attitude', (holding doors open etc) which some women think is condescending. why?
but you think not paying for drinks is bad? I WAS ASKED OUT BY A WOMEN a couple of years back, she was beautiful and inteligent and so i jumped at the chance, we meet in a fancy chiniese resturant and when the bill came we both sat in silence for about two minutes until i said 'are we going dutch then?' 'NO, your paying, i don't carry money with me ' was the response, i wouldn't generally mind but SHE ASKED ME OUT AND SHE CHOOSE THE RESTURANT! (i had about 40 quid on me and the bill was over 120 quid! LUCKILY I HAD MY CEDIT CARD ON ME and put it on that)
yet at other times i've nearly ruined dates because the women wants to pay, why??
BECAUSE SOME WOMEN THINK IF YOU PAY FOR DINNER, DRINKS ETC you must be demanding something in return. (you know  )
MY ADVICE: talk it over before you go out otherwise you might end up washing dishes all night! | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:49:22 AM | | Iconoclast Im not confusing "dating" with committed relationships I was just agreeing how I dont want a man who I could lead around ALL the time either. I think you can suss out on the first few meets if its going to be an meeting of equals if you were to go on to have a relationship or if its to be one leading the other, tis all I was saying.... | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 12:51:28 AM | | I dont really give a flyin' hoot about 'equality' in my bedroom. I am yearning to meet a man who understands leadership. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 12:59:57 AM | Eddie.......Why did you let the bill creep up to 120 quid if you knew you only had 40 quid on you?? Did you think the lady would pay the 80 quid, thats not fair is it? Hopefully you werent thinking because she "asked you out" as you put it, then she would get the whole bill?
If someone suggests meeting up I dont expect them to pay all night. I have agreed to meet them. They didnt twist my arm.... Its a meeting of 2 people who probably both wanted to meet the other anyway, its just that one person did the asking before the other did....and if it was a case that Im not that interested but he is, he wouldnt get to meet me anyway, I dont go out for freebies for the sake of it.
Oh and by the way Iconoclast I wasnt talking about the bedroom when I mentioned my private life. I meant personal life sorry. However if you want to pick up smelly socks and live a subserviant life with your leader thats your perogative lol.... | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/17/2008 1:25:52 AM | Why's that, so you can steal some more?
That does tie into my response, because, if you're going to lead a man into what he should be, he's not exactly leading anything.... | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 1:26:54 AM |
I dont really give a flyin' hoot about 'equality' in my bedroom. I am yearning to meet a man who understands leadership.
Presumably a man who's happy to be led around by the.... ? Icon lol
It would be almost worth it to look into those beautiful eyes! | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 1:29:32 AM | If you had READ my post icon whatever you would see I'm STUDYING with them, my ego isn't so fragile that I need every man I have beers with to be interested in me.
The majority of my mates are male & no not because I'm insecure around females, because most (certainly not all) Aussie men aren't full of bullshit, unlike a lot of females. Thank Christ I'm not one of them! | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 1:30:57 AM | ^^^Whatever. You bore me.
Ah Sydney, you flatter me too much, what am I going to do?
Will the last real man on Earth please raise his hand? | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/17/2008 1:37:37 AM |
Ah Sydney, you flatter me too much, what am I going to do?
Will the last real man on Earth please raise his hand?
Well you know Icon, some people like their flattery heaped on with a trowel!
As far as real men are concerned, that means different things to different people, for my part, I can only be what I am, with all my flaws and imperfections.
I might not be God's gift, but I'm counting at least one gorgeous woman out there will like me just fine the way I am. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 1:40:19 AM | Sydney, I don't mean that about you. Your decency shines.
OMG Do you wear a chastity belt too!?
Why's that, so you can steal some more?
I find it highly amusing that I get accused of being a chastity belt wearing 50s throwback and a ballbuster in the same thread.
Some of you are terribly confused. Which is it?
I know exactly what kind of man it takes to satisfy me, no confusion on my end. | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:04:28 AM | i have no problems whatsoever in buying drinks, paying for dinner, and contributing to anything else "we" do as a couple.
if a guy asks me out for dinner, I will always go prepared with cash in my p0cket to either pay for half or at the very least buy a bottle of wine, coffee or desert. if during the course of the evening (or prior) he insists that he is "taking me out" and will be paying I graciously accept this. but i DO NOT expect it.
if i am lucky enough to get a second date, then definitely I am prepared to pay for part of it.
however, had one date where he insisted that he was taking me out and paying for dinner. fine, thank you. i ordered just a main course. he order entree, main course and desert, again fine afterall he was paying. when it came time to leave and pay the bill i still did offer to pay and ended up paying for my meal as well as most of his. I tipped in $50.00 (my meal was $20) and he scooped up the $50 and then put that in his wallet and paid for the rest with a credit card. talk about ripped off - it was actually a deal breaker in the end for me.
i have no problem ever with contributing towards a meal, drinks or otherwise.
why is this always an issue with men - thinking that women are just takers and never givers? | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 2:12:01 AM |
why is this always an issue with men - thinking that women are just takers and never givers?
Wasn't your whole post about paying your share? i swear i read you mention how you have no problem with paying your share, all the way through it... I didn't really read the part where you give a guy anything with out being pissed off about it though...
I don't think your question was even semi called for. | |
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| Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:21:47 AM | I think she should if she is the one "asking" for drinks and whatnot...
If you are the one offering, then you should pay for them, very simple.
Afterall we all know why you wanted to give her more drinks... to get her drunk and eventually have it lead to your bed... and you dont even want a pay for that?
you also want her to pay for condoms perhaps? LOL | |
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