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| Transformed by love or break-up
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:28:14 AM | I know that this post makes one think deeply and perhaps have to really pinpoint transformation from pivotal points in one's life... but this posting is like poetry, it flows and every so often the lines that reveal themselves are like following a river that narrows to streams to tributaries, that join from hairline streams around rocks, an old boot, a broken racquet to a lost silver earing... then back to the central stream that widens and becomes part of the whole...
We meet people and significant others, they stay they leave they return... we change, we grow, we rejoin others with all these different shades and depths that have been shaped from within and outside... | |
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| Transformed by love or break-up
Posted: 7/19/2008 8:48:07 AM | My breakup got me back into the gym with a trainer and I have lost a great deal of weight both physically and emotionally.
I think this time around I'm happy just living life as it is, no rush to get into anything and if someone does come into my life, they will have to realize that it is going to take a while before I get myself really involved. | |
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| Transformed by love or break-up
Posted: 7/19/2008 7:48:25 PM |
Ordinarily my change is mental or emtional while when I split with my x-husband, I literally had a gray spot in my hair about the size of a pencil eraser, that had sort of appeared overnight it seemed five years before and within a year of his leaving, it is now just a couple of strands
I get that completely.....or, at least, I used to get it. Anymore, I'm the same girl I was at 12 yrs old .....trusting and expecting the best of people. I'm that way, as is my brother, as were my mother and father, so I naturally assume other people are just as decent. The few I've encountered who aren't, I assume are an anomaly. | |
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| Transformed by love or break-up
Posted: 7/19/2008 8:31:19 PM | dear sphinx fire
on whether love or break up..and..and which transformed you the most
If you were morphed from the deepest or most significant transformation which one left you the wiser?
All of life experiences plus time have made me wiser....(or, hopefully, I would like to believe that is the case. )  Amongst the degrees between falling in love..and breaking up, there is so much of life to measure. Childhood, travels, marriage, having children, watching them grow, work, occupation, living, seeing, believing....all is experience...experience plus paying attention makes one wiser, i believe.
What leaves the deepest scars - profound break-up heartache from unrequited love, or cruelty, and/or cold indifference from ex-lovers?
unrequited love is a cutting that we do to ourselves, only we can control the depth of the cut..... indifference/cruelty from anyone...including ex lovers toward us, is beyond our control , although we can still control how deeply we allow the cut. All things heal.... some prefer to pick at the scab longer than others.
Did you see an ex. after a period apart, of no contact and take stock of their transformation to discover from them or those qualified to advise you that your ex. was transformed by your breakup with them?
This curiosity serves no right purpose...there is no discovery there for me. For anyone. Everyone is on their own journey. I will at times pray for the safety and good health of my ex...(wife,} in this case...for she is the mother of my dear sons, and I honor the love we once had... But, it is not my business about how she conducts her life, or transformations. this applies to all X loves in life.
Do you welcome love again into your life, and hope it is exciting, or would you prefer it to be a calmer journey?
I do. Yes, more than exciting, actually. And..calm is good. but not a prerequisite.
good questions...thanks
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| Transformed by love or break-up
Posted: 7/19/2008 8:55:54 PM | | I was dumped Sept 07. I had no great feeling for her but it changed me greatly. I liked her and we had a lot of good times, but I became a different person when we had THE TALK. It made me a better (stronger) person. Since then, I have met the most wonderful people. I owe her much thanks.... | |
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