Transformed by love or break-up... which do you feel or believed changed you the most?
Breakups, hands down. Since wife #2, I've been less tolerant of terminally miserable people, mendacity, and in general, women who profess love for me but secretly hate everything about me.
How were you transformed? was it a physical change, a mental change or an emotional one.
Both, I think. Married, I weighed about 175 lbs. Today I barely break 160. In terms of attitude in general, I've found that even in the worst possible situations I have an excellent sense of humor, and note the moments of happiness amidst all of the mounds horse sh**. Of course, I had to work for happiness, especially during the time between us deciding our marriage was over and up to the time she finally left.
Do you feel jaded by your memories? Would you go through it again if the situation presented itself or are you searching for yourself and trying to find who you were before, because it was a more joyous time?
uh. no. Next!!!
What leaves the deepest scars - profound break-up heartache from unrequited love, or cruelty, and/or cold indifference from ex-lovers?
Of the 3, I found unrequited love to be more of a childhood issue. Cold indifference is more of a disappointment than anything else, and I'd hardly call it scar material. Profound breakups, although painful, simply suggest that I missed something in getting to know her, or we wouldn't have gotten together in the first place.
Are you in love and finding yourself changing and developing such that you are self-aware and can feel it inside yourself and finding it magical as it happens to you?
Loving someone comes in many forms. Lately I've been in emotional conflict over one woman and until recently could find things that would keep us from moving forward. Lately, the only overriding thoughts have had to do with placing her happiness and the happiness of her kids above my own selfish thoughts/feelings, but it's obviously had an affect on me. Being on 3 dating sites, it seems odd to me that virtually no one on any of the sites sparks any kind of flame. So yea, I can feel it.
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