| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/21/2008 4:52:30 PM | I find if I put too many questions in a message then they are not answered !
And I always put my name at the end.
One cheeky woman replied to quite a long emessage with "OK"
Come on ! I put the effort in and she couldnt be bothered to give a proper reply..... | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 12:43:21 AM |
My point is this: You have to WRITE a letter to GET a letter.
I'll extend you an invitation. Write me a letter---about ANYTHING, and we can practice Q/A or just discussion. Heck, I'll extend that invitation to any woman on this topic (excluding any that may be currently blocked). :)
Letter count = 000
Why do women ask so few questions? | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 5:35:37 AM | OK...
I tried an experiment, I send back a reply to a fellow who I was having a real problem getting him to communicate with me.
I gave some friendly advice. Like: inviting me to your house so quickly is an issue... you probably don't want to be with a woman that would come to the house of a stranger so fast.
Also... giving me your phone number right away is a bit "off" too. Most would see it as too much too soon.
Also... It is hard to keep up communication with you when I feel I am the only one carrying the conversation.
WELL....
What I got back was rude and snotty!! then... READ/DELETE.
So... now I know. When the other person isn't putting in the effort to keep the communication open...just let it die. No point to taking the steps to continue... | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:06:35 AM | Men ask questions.....we sure do. The difference is that when we ask we expect an answer and not a question....lol. Women ask the same basic question until they get the response they want to hear and not the answer.
Men that know how to play this game with women are mainly false but have a lot of success. Players....yes that is the name. All of us relatively direct shoot from the hip men pay the price for this even though it isn't our fault. This is called life...lol.
Soooo....listen and accept the answers you get instead of getting the response you want. This is similiar to the myth that women don't want to change their man....BS | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:08:59 AM |
Conversation is a two way street, if you're a person not happy with the number of responses you're getting, maybe making sure you're asking a question or two is a good place to start
Exactly..it seems to me that women usually just expect that its the guy that should ask them questions, because he is the "pursuer" *rool eyes*..i dont understand women sometimes when it comes to dating..it's like going on a date with a guy, then at the end of the day they complain that the guy was quiet.when they themselves are just as quiet..ladies..dating is a "two way street"..you can't always expect the guy to be calling you, and asking you questions, and doing this and that..etc.. ya'll need to do be a part of it.. | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:11:51 AM |
As much as they seem like nice people, I just don't have any motivation to get to know them better if they aren't providing some sort of spark.
see..there you go again..why don't you provide a "spark"?..why doe sit have to be teh guy who does that?..why don't you making it interesting?..and it doesnt really matter if it is the guy who contacted you first..the point is that you can't just expect the guy to be the one "making things interesting".. | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:15:17 AM |
One way to inspire someone to ask questions is to be interesting, yourself
Exactly!..it's not just about the guy making the conversation interesting..its like a woman who wants a "funny guy"..when she herself is the most boring person on the planet..LOL | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:24:02 AM |
But you really have no clue as to what kind of man that is or is not. Are you really judging a man first and foremost on his letter writing etiquette skills?
Thats what i dont understand either..how can you know what type of man he is or if he is your type just by his initial message?..Thats the problem with a lot of women when it comes to dating..even in real life..if they meet a guy or go out on a date..if the first date doesnt go well..whatever that means..they automatically think.."well we have nothing in common" or there was "no spark"..well maybe the reason for that was because you were boring as hell..women just dont seem to have a lot of patience when it comes to dating.. | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:31:31 AM |
This is the number one reason I stop talking to men. They have nothing to say, nothing to ask, and want the woman to do all the work in getting to know them
LOL..really?..umm..i think you got it twisted hun..its the other way around..please dont try and contort it this! Its teh woman who usually wnat the guy to do all the work..just because they are supposedly the "pursuer"..besides..pursuing should not be a one way streeth either..dating is a two player game..not a one palyer | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:43:44 AM |
I don't try to force a connection either. But most of the time, it's up to the Man to make something happen
That's what i'm saying..most women will call a man "boring" and "shy' if he does not talk a lot or asks questions..women usually wait on the guy to "make things interesting"..she wants to be the one who get to laugh at jokes..while she doesnt seem to try and make the guy laugh too and so forth....she just acts like an "audience"... | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:46:12 AM | I've noticed that women do that also....they just e-mail with a general statement... What is that... lol. There is plenty on my profile to come up with at least one question. Maybe it's a lack of conversational skills?? Even if the woman is gorgeous.... a read/delete! I'm interested in people that can be expressive and have substance in their communication ability. But then....no questions could very well mean the person is just not interested either, so the read/delete works there too!  Xo~D'Lo! | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:51:25 AM | I ask plenty of questions especially of what's written in the profiles I viewed and it doesn't work. It doesn't matter because women need that initial spark that no matter how many questions are asked or how much thought is put into them, if it isn't there then they won't reply. Period.
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 8:11:53 AM | I've noticed that women do that also....they just e-mail with a general statement... What is that... lol. There is plenty on my profile to come up with at least one question. Maybe it's a lack of conversational skills?? Even if the woman is gorgeous.... a read/delete! I'm interested in people that can be expressive and have substance in their communication ability.
When I read some of the profiles it seems like they aren't looking for a 50/50 relationship. It's what can the men do to please them to get their attention and that's bullshit.
The women don't feel as if they have to put any effort into it and it's all about the numbers game. More men than women will do things like that. One profile I read stated if you're quiet move along because it's too much work and crap like that. Some of the stuff I've read has literally made me wanna puke. | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 8:38:36 PM |
Thats what i dont understand either..how can you know what type of man he is or if he is your type just by his initial message?..Thats the problem with a lot of women when it comes to dating..even in real life..if they meet a guy or go out on a date..if the first date doesnt go well..whatever that means..they automatically think.."well we have nothing in common" or there was "no spark"..well maybe the reason for that was because you were boring as hell..women just dont seem to have a lot of patience when it comes to dating..
Let's add lack of adequate listening/comprehension skills to the list of reasons a woman might not be interested in a potential suitor.
So, to repeat myself for the sake answering a question I *already* answered . . . there is no reason to spend time *trying* to be interested in someone who is frankly *not* interesting when there are plenty of men out there who *do* put forth effort, *do* write intriguing first e-mails, *do* behave in a polite and respectful manner, and *do not* think I am "boring as hell." No one said it's the man's job to get a relationship started. All I'm saying is that if you contact me first and you'd like me to take an interest in you, BE INTERESTING. Likewise, if I contact someone first, it is my job to be interesting so he has some incentive to respond. This isn't some quirky 21st Century female behavior--this is the Law of Attraction.
It does not concern me in the slightest if a man who doesn't not interest me is not interested *in* me. What kind of world are you living in if you think people should work on being interested in people they are not interested in when there are enough people they *are* interested in?
As I said before . . . if you personally do not want to have to provide a "spark" in a conversation you have started . . . if you do not want to show a woman what you believe you and she have in common . . . if you do not want to leave your name or take responsibility for getting something started with someone, THEN DON'T. You assume that a woman who does not explore the possibilities of a relationship with a man who comes off as rude, boring, disrespectful, or defensive is somehow hurting herself. This is the epitome if irrational thinking. What makes sense is that if a man is unappealing to me in his first contact, I take care of myself by thanking him for the contact and moving on. My time is much better spent on the men who *are* appealing. | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 9:14:27 PM | women do the same thing. this is the internet, so I'm sure there will be lots of bad communications.
Have noticed that when men write emails they very rarely ask any questions to the woman they're writing to. This makes it awkward writing back as you have no questions to answer and have to come up with something completely original to say.
Men often don't bother to sign their name at the bottom either so you know who you are talking to.
I think asking questions is vital to keep up the dialogue before going on a date. Is this maybe why women lose interest in guys and don't write back. Do guys think it might be a good idea to include more questions in emails to get to know someone? | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 9:22:05 PM | Few questions... A few reasons.
1) I learn through normal conversation, not question and answer.
2) Before I stopped participating, I was too busy answering questions as so many women have a job interview style...
3) When I ask a question, they aren't answered or answered in as few words as possible. Asking just becomes pointless. | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 9:26:10 PM | It seems to me that it is the women who want to know all about the guy and they never reciprocate when it comes to information.
I make it a habit of telling as little about myself as possible--I call it preemptive retaliation. In fact I find it best to tell women I'm an ax-murdered, serial rapist, and tell one outrageous lie after another--that is the only way they will know I'm not.
The more I try not to meet women, the more success I have. It is the truth. I tried the nice guy routine, and I was treated like crap and never wanted to meet me. But when I tell women I have no time for them, that I don't want to date right now, and that I'd rather spend my money on my boat, that is when they want to meet me.
Women don't want to be treated with respect, they love to be treated like crap. Things like backhanded compliments work better than flattery. My feeling is the want someone to over analyze, so it is mistake to let them read you like a book. They want frankness, bluntness and nonsense. Give a woman flattery and flower, and treat a gal nice and she will look for someone more challenging. | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 11:19:39 PM |
But if they don't ask me for a date or a phone number then I can't ever go out with them....
Do yourself a favor... if the emails you get aren't particularly intriguing (they don't do anything to really catch your eye), then don't reply to them. | |
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| Why do men ask so few questions?
Posted: 6/22/2008 11:25:19 PM | | If a guy aks me how I am , I reply "Fine" and I ask him about himself. I get a one or 2 line reply. I normally think he is not interested. | |
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